₦airaland Forum

merieam16:
woow! nice.dividend of startin early

Well,this isn't starting early.
This is called premature.

Is this a hypothetical case?

This swimming trunks no too show body so?

You dated her enough to know her response to matters or were you two just fvckin?
Na now you wan bend person wey stiff?

You're thinking of quitting the marriage without working at it so your child will suffer?You've got to man up.
People may hardly change when they are grown.You need to talk to your wife from time to time and make her see reasons to compromise sometimes.
The best way to encourage someone to give is by showing examples of giving too.Make sure you do this to your wife often - time,attention,help with house chores and money.

I think the most important thing here is your faith.It is your faith that produces results to your prayer.

You could pray at any 'wavelength'.

Maybe she's studying IRK.

So sad.People should learn to look-left-right-and left again before crossing the road.
The driver didn't do well by abandoning her though I understand his fear of being mobbed.

Very ludicrous.

You need exercises and postural retraining.
Try and see a physiotherapist

Just when I thought she was having a good marriage.

Lol @ I didn't have to spend £1000 on a wedding dress.

You have to manage your wife like that and work around her.It's the only way to deal with it.
I can't say if she has OCD but from your story,she's strongly opinionated and has some form of compulsive disorder.

Except she agrees to and receives behavioural therapy, follow Kanwuliaextra's advise.Create your own space and work around it

sisisioge:
Who am I to argue with a doctor!

I thought their behavioral pattern is the major diagnostic factor...ofcourse the distinct facial characteristics is a factor too. I just didn't think they could be detected at birth cos all babies look alike for the first few days of their lives . My bad.

You'll pick them usually even at birth though babies tend to look alike.
They usually have slant eyes,a flat nose and ears sticking out

sisisioge:
Hian! You can't diagnose a new born of down syndrome nau madam. It takes a while into the baby's development to know. Biko take the baby to an orphanage instead of killing her. How could an already married man promise you marriage and you believe

Not true@bolded.
They come with characteristic facies that you can see even on the first day of birth.
Perhaps,you are thinking of cerebral palsy.

When are we having Covid-19 challenge?

Very stupid action.Why didn't you explore other options?

Rickmann:
Wife battery has become a norm in nigeria. I think its time women are given some level of protection by law. Our human right activists shouldnt just exert all their energy on our stupid government but also boil it down to the grassroot, on issues like this...issues that affect you and i directly.. cos without rules, we are savages.

It's the law that is not firm enough and the law enforcement agencies who don't follow up.The police are the most culpable because most times,they say it is a domestic issue that should be settled at home.

Unfortunately,he thinks this is Nigeria where nothing can happen.He will be surprised that there are people who could take it up and he will go through what he won't expect.

Some women sha.How do they choose?Mere looking at his face sef won't make me be his friend as a man not to talk of dating him as a woman.

Sck67:
Thanks for your advice we were staying in his family house with his parents and some of his siblings for good 2 and half years he used to drop feeding money for everybody in the house I or one of his sisters will cook and we eats together and I couldn’t cope with the living arrangements and we moved I paid for the deposits for us to move here and ever since we move out of his family house he don’t give me 1kobo I am managing all alone

He's an immature man.smh.He thinks he should keep living in his family house?Do you have an elder that he can listen to?
He needs counsel.

How far gone is she in her pregnancy?
It's normal what she's experiencing in her pregnancy.It will change as the pregnancy progresses
Just make sure she takes as much fruit and vegetables.Let her eat what is not likely to induce vomiting as much as she can.

You need tact to handle this.I think you are going about it the wrong way.
First of all,get him good shorts he can wear around the house.

Talk to him from time to time about the need to shield himself from his children.You don't need to nag him.

I think the bigger issue here is about the home finances and the need for him to play his part.How did you guys start that he is now not taking responsibility?
Leave some things you could do for him to handle and if he doesn't leave them undone.

This is huge o.

Lamanii22:
Maybe he is one of 'em simps lol.... She might have other great qualities to him... Someone that has pneumonia to is cheating... At the detriment of her own health.. Some women sha...

There have been cases of people on admission in the hospital having sex with their partners or nurses.Some people just allow the urge take over their reasoning.

But why?
The man obviously was emotionally unbalanced and lacked good judgement.

The husband still calls her 'my lovely wife'.smh

Genoa:
That woman is barren for goodness shake.

May we not marry and Abortion specialist IJN.

You should get educated that infertility in a couple is not always the woman's challenge.

Big alligator kwa?That's an Iguana.

Child that should have gone with the monthly period.smh

bukatyne:
I don't understand this post.

Your husband was fine with two girls.

An additional baby (girl) came and he is sad that he has changed at home.

Wasn't he content with two girls? What difference does the third make?

Or is his pain the fact that your finances would be stretched and he is not getting his male child?

Engage him on a tete a tete and make him see reason that it is God that gives children and all your children will be blessed and great whether male or female.

Point out late Dora Akunyili, Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala, Omotola Jalade Ekeinde, Folorunsho Alakija, Ibunkun Awosika etc etc that have done great things and are still doing great things.

Children are like blank canvas, it is what you write/code you get.

Sorry for the pressure on you, sorry to him for the sacrifice he has to go through while not getting his baby boy.

Goodluck.

Obviously@bold.His attitude is that if he has to take on extra expenditure,then the compensation should be a boy.

Op,you have to develop for yourself a strong mental attitude.Going forward may not be a smooth sail.You will have to ignore your husband's tantrums and gain inner peace for your own good.
Talk to him about the blessing of having a new baby irrespective of the sex.Remind him that it is the man that determines the sex of the baby and it is what he deposited.
Most importantly,get on contraceptives that have high reliability if you don't want more babies.

Face your fear.
You're 37yrs old,women should not intimidate you
Forget about the N30,000 you earn.If you see a girl you like,become acquainted with her.You don't have to tell her you want to marry her on a first date.Just become friends first.

These words are not for Nigerian doctors and nurses,are they?
The seem to be vilified in Nigeria.

Preshieben:
this happens once in a
Her parents have anger issues

If her parents have anger issues,she should ignore them.Let her take their words as water off a duck's back.
She should bid her time,she won't be in their house for ever.She should continue to be of good behaviour.