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How much?

vivavik:
are u kidding me? That bad?

Yea it could be that bad in some.

Poor guy,that's a femoral fracture.

Enna96,face your future.Have you finished school?Work towards graduating from school while your mum assists with the baby.
Forget about this guy for now.He is nit even sure of what he wants to do with himself for now.He could grow and come back to you or not.What matters now is you making something out of your life.

vivavik:
She's pretty and I think she wants publicity and got exactly that. I don't believe it's her tummy color, she did somthn to it so pple could get talking.

The pregnancy did.Some women actually have bad colouration of the skin with pregnancy.I however think she was rubbing toning cream on other parts of her body.

amiskurie:
It's not always a free world,especially when you do stupid things in my presence,I might bust your head open.

That mean say you no wan free again be dat#jail

ammyluv2002:
I totally agree with you but, we mustn't reason the same way....maybe, she doesn't see anything wrong with flaunting her tummy so you shouldn't hold it against her.

It's trending and i guess she wants to be a part of it too but she should know she will get negative comments so she shouldn't be offended.

Belated happy birthday madam tearoses.

To those calling you grandma...........they are on the way too.

May you continue to grow in wisdom and peace that passes all understanding.

floragregs:
don't worry, when u get preggy, u'll understand why her tummy turned black! It happens,. God made it so. Some get black necks, some very ugly stretch marks, some get very fat and ugly. So I wonder why people were talking about it as if they have never seen a pregnant woman before. I know because i'v been there. Who nor go nor know!

The problem is not what pregnancy does to the body of a woman.When you decide to share what normally should be covered up on social media,you should expect the flaks..

It's a free world so she's exercising her freedom.Some people just like to hug social media life.They want to be seen everywhere.I guess it gives them the kick.

But wisdom is justified of her children.

Some of these people are psychotic.

IamMissMarvel:
When I look at Tina Knowles after all her surgeries, I understand why Americans on MTO call her hilarious names.

I honestly don't understand why people feel compelled to go through multiple surgeries.

Give your hubby the benefit of doubt.He has apologised so you should let go.
Keep a watch on your friend and try to keep her at arm's length.

halfricanadian:
Bae you are foolish to tink nothing went wrong

U berra focus on ur kids

trust no man abeg

Wrong mindset.
You skipped the part that her friend had a role to play in this and it's possible she may have even initiated it.Why are you not blaming the lady too?

Nkasiobi87:
.Sabbath day is for any body that calls him/her self a child of God.Hebrew 4:1-11.

A Christian does not observe a sabbath day but Sabbath!Sabbath for a Christian is a dispensation-a period,not a day of the week.
If you study the Heb.4:1-11 you quoted very well,you will understand.

biztycoons:
thorpido and flex herbal tanx so much and God bless ... i already told d guy wat u wrote here but he said he is scared that the mother may over-react and he doesnt want to give his mother sleep ness night ... that he is thinking mayb he will tell the mother by march ending mayb when he will tell the mom it happened a month ago mayb her blood will nt be too high.. tho d thing happened yesterday sunday...

by that time she may be 6weeks pregnant.

I think it was photoshopped though pregnancy can lead to partial hyperpigmentation.

But what's the craze for baby bump pictures?

How I wish women can know when to leave and not deceive themselves that the man would change or they have to stay because of the children.

Flexherbal:
He should talk to his mother, about it.

cosign.Tell the mother everything he saw.The mother should know what to do.The girl has no business staying in that house any longer.

Op,your fiancee or female friend kwa?
Both of you should go to a voluntary counselling center and do HIV test.
Your answer is there.

The NMA should look into this.The doctor should be punished for that behaviour.

daretodiffer:
I don't day there were.


Church wedding is a Western practice. A white Christian would put on a white wedding dress for her marriage. The only wedding they are going to have would be in the church.

The couples are African Christians. They will have to do two weddings to satisfy the traditional and Western requirements. It is Western because there is no biblical reference to mandate a wedding in a church. It was passed on to us during colonisation.

However this is Africa. We can adopt some foreign cultures and practices if they are better than ours however when there are indigenous non-harmful alternatives, we should adopt them instead of embarrassing ourselves. We should stop trying to do the same thing twice because we want to satisfy western tradition and foreign traditions.

There is no law or sound logic that would tell me that a pastor cannot officiate a traditional wedding. It doesn't have to be in the church. Look at most islamic weddings, they are the fusion of both. The Imam comes, do his thing and sits. They continue with the occasion.

It's possible to have an officiating minister at a traditional marriage so there's no need for wastage of funds conducting two ceremonies.People should consider that and save money.It even erases the question of waiting for weeks before the white wedding.

netizenbuzz:
This is called cultural appropriation. You see even atheists in the US getting priests to bless their marriages. It is a borrowed culture from whites. Before Christianity grew this big in Nigeria about a century ago, we still had traditional marriages that had Christian partners. I think we should draw a line between doctrines and the law. I don't stand against churches having doctrines, where I have a problem is when these doctrines try to revert us back to the days of the law. We should be free as Christians. And I mean freedom in a good way not freedom to sin. In the case of this couple, they didn't commit any sin and yet they are made to feel guilty like sinners. It is little things like this that turn growing Christians away from the church. This is a fundamental issue and it needs to be addressed. Telling people not to wed in church is not the solution. And if they must be punished at all, it should be both participants and not just the bride.

1 Cor. 7:1-2 says it is not good for a man to touch a woman and to prevent fornication,they should get married.You agree the Church can have doctrines which are backed up by biblical references.If the bible says no fornication,is it right then for the church not to join a couple in marriage when the bride is pregnant?
@2nd bolded,you are right that they both should be punished.

dioman:
The church should look beyond pregnancy test, virginity test should be encourage...

That's right.

netizenbuzz:
Traditional marriage is marriage and no scripture stands against it. Educate yourself. I was going to say don't fornicate until I read that they have already done trad. Besides, it takes two to comot fornication.

Traditional marriage is marriage.Why then do people want another ceremony in church since they already have marriage?
I never said traditional marriage wasn't marriage.Why do people want to get into another institution then?

netizenbuzz:
Please let us call a spade a spade. It is not about the church, it is about what is right in the sight of God. Now whose value will you hold on to?

The church(not the building or any denomination)represents God so it is about what is right in the sight of God through the Church.
You can see 1 Corinthians 7:1-2

goodgirl2409:
You talk as though you don't know the pressure the church mounts on their members. If you don't do traditional marriage and don't do church wedding,you are labelled a sinner. This churches have somehow become a part of our daily life and when you are taking a decision like marriage you just can't ignore them. Well,the churches should go easy with their rules.

Belonging to a church is still voluntary.
Churches have become part of our daily life as you say and people should actually have the 'Church' in them as their lifestyle.
If anyone belongs to one,i don't think it's too much to abide by the doctrines of the Church.
Jesus said,'my yoke is easy and my burden is light'.

daretodiffer:
You mean the Western rules of the church. African churches need to be reformed in that aspect.




Lets start from here:

What makes a marriage a holy union before God?
I want biblical references.

There's nothing like western or african churches.The church started in the west as God chose to have it and as long as there is nothing in there to demean africans,I don't have a problem with that.
A marriage is a holy union before God when it is consumated without the bed defiled.
I Corinthians 7:1-2 says Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me:it is good for a man not to touch a woman.Nevertheless,to avoid fornication,let every man have his own wife,and let every woman have her own husband.

virginboy1:
Typical fanatical mindsect...shoor. Moreover how many church weddings do churches sponsor? And yet they wants a teacher collecting 30k as salary to sponsor church wedding.

The church's primary responsibility is not to sponsor weddings.It is the responsibility of those getting married and their families.However,some churches(more especially groups in church)have sponsored weddings.

Guy,if you are a teacher collecting N30k as salary and you plan to wed,I'm interested in you.You can send me a PM and we work together to plan your wedding.

udemzyudex:
You're not making any sense sir, Is church wedding biblical, and what's the benefit of church wedding.

You're trying to say that since they were married traditionally, why bothered about white wedding and like he said treat a problem from the root and not the surface.

The question is why do the people want so much to partake in a program that is of no 'benefit' to them?

priscaoge:
Only sensible comment here! The writer was busy ranting and calling Anglican Anglican Anglican. I have seen a church that called a lady that got pregnant before her wedding to d alter, said all sorts of things and gave her "Back Seat" in d church. Every church has their own doctrine. It has been on for centuries, they didn't see her and make d law. Stop blabbing already.

If in a school, the rules and regulations are against malpractice and it's consequences are clearly written, will she cry fowl when d school punishes her? She knows that pregnancy before wedding is against d doctrine of the church, she should expect d punishment that follows.

Biko "White" wedding is not by force, if u think u can't cope with d Rules, do Ur traditional and make Babies. MyOneKobo

Bless you my sister.

daretodiffer:
Can you blame them? From what I observed, the church will not recognise that marriage unless it is done in the church.

Then it is only right to comply with the rules and instructions of the Church if they desire such recognition.I don't think it is that hard.