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omonla555:
This is digusting discussing this kind of issue in the open.

The moderators have missed out. Nairaland is sickening and needs urgent repairs.

The earlier Seun realises this the better.

How can one be asking for a dirty advice where there are Physicians all around.

What kind of a person are you?Do you see the picture of a used pad on the thread?
What's dirty about the advice?

chimkaire:
All ye suggesting a visit to the hospital read and understood she is down and out, obviously...God dey oooo
Op, send me your email make I ask my Doctor...if you wish ooooo

She will need to do a test so the causative organism can be identified and the right antibiotics prescribed.There are some things that you can't just grab antibiotics and take for.She already said she took one for two days and stopped.She's self-medicating and encouraging drug resistance.

moca:
@GoldenDr,i hear u. U have spoken well. Thanks dear.

@ thorpido, I agree with @gleatz.
I don't know about others but this lady is exceptional. I just couldn't abandon her.
Even with the attack on my personality, I went back to her and felt so sorry for her.

I guess what was putting guys off was her age and she looks it. U know some folks look older/younger than their age.
She has a relationship(up to 4 yrs)and the guy died. She started another(5 to six yrs) and small misunderstanding, the guy married another lady.
U see how the yrs keep on accumulating meanwhile the bad gals like us don't have problem with suitors and marriage.

If u hv a problem,just go to her for advice or financial support,she must help u.

I had once raised this question. Why r the very good ones left behind?

U guys don't really know what gals who r very matured to marry pass tru.
There r so many of them out there and I tell u, they r well behaved ladies.
I tire o.

Two major problems of women r when u reach the age of Mrs and nobody comes knocking and when u marry no pikin.

I agree with you that at a stage,age becomes a factor and many guys retreat at that time.
The question is what happens at 20-25yrs,26-30yrs?This is where i don't seem to understand.

gleatz:
Naivety I quite agree with you! Some dnt ve the greed factor in them though

One person may not have all the factors i listed but they often have one.
One major one is lust.Girls often get attracted to tall,handsome,dark and broadchested guys.There's nothing wrong with that but if the physical appearance does not allow a lady to pay more attention to his character and personality,she will likely get into trouble.

gleatz:
@Moca
This leads me to the question "why does the so-called ladies and gus fall into the hands of wrong partners?"

Its so sadening seeing this hapenn. What coud just be the reason

Cc: All

Naivety,greed,lust.......and desperation at a stage when age becomes a factor.
To be good does not stop one from having the above.

The works of the devil..........few days to his retirement and birthday.

The wife is a full-time housewife.Women should not sit at home as full-time housewives.Try and do something,even if it is running a business from home.

It must be an infection.You will need to do a test(swab test).
You need to be placed on the right antibiotics to deal with it.

Serenity22:
lol at carrying belle. I'll just avoid him bcs weneva I see him my knees turn to jelly

Just quit.Don't say cos he's your first you can't leave.It might seem hard for you initially but you will get over it.
You will still meet a better guy.Try to socialise a bit more,just make new friends.

Have you seen an E.N.T. specialist?

The wife seems to have issues.It's logical to fix it in the car of the one who is with the baby most of the time.
They can simply get another car seat and fix in both cars as someone said.

Serenity22:
funny tin is he blames everytin on distance. My head says leave he's a flirt but my heart says stay afterall he is truly repentant dats why he came out himself. I am very confused

How long have you been dating and what's the distance between you both?

There's nothing wrong with attending muslim ocassion.It depends on what your roles will be there.
There's nothing wrong with wearing a head covering too if you have to be there.

Herzumpther:
I'm very fine sir.
Good afternoon sir.

Nice.Hope your fears are withering now.

Herzumpther:
That's scary.

How are u Herzie?

Serenity22:
Goodwork you guys are doing here.
Please I need advise.
I was having a conversation with my boyfrd a few weeks ago after a 2months of communication gap. He told me his pastor told him not to marry me if he didn't want to be a widower so he got scared and kind of developed cold feet. But he later changed his mind.
While we were talking he also told me of this girl he was flirting with since last year, I thought he was joking initially but when I checked his texts I saw messages they've been sending to each other about how they couldn't do without themselves. I got really mad at him but he said he's sorry, that he has never even met the girl physically.
I said I couldn't believe him, I wanted to check for myself, after much, he gave me his facebook password.
What I've discovered has shocked me to the bones. I discovered there was another girl he was sleeping with when we just started d relationship though they were not dating cos the girl was engaged. The affair ended when she got married. I also discovered he has been flirting with random girls on facebook. He's been begging that I should forgive him, but I don't know if I can do that or ever trust him tho I still love him. Please what do I do?

You are dating a flirt and i don't think it will change soon.If you are thinking of marriage,then you know the implications.
@bolded.............shows he is unrepentant.

He believes his pastor that you will have a short life?Hmmm

adeoye201:
The way nigerians take marriage issues like it's the end of the world is baffling. Just ontop marriage advice.the page Don reach 79 pages,and almost all the contributors na women.Am sure if na man open tthis page, we go still dey page 3. That's why the white people call us twisted minds

Marriage is perhaps the most important decision an adult makes.You don't think it's worth all the questions?You are probably going to spend 30-50 yrs in the same house with someone and it doesn't matter to you to cross all 't's and dot all 'i's?
What's twisted about marriage questions and answers?The same whites don't bother about it?Have you heard of marriage counsellors/relationship experts who take it as a full time profession?

I guess you just decided to visit this section from the education section.It's UTME that you are still bothered about.

babyosisi:
This tells you how overbearing his mom is such that a grown man can neglect his own health to please his mom.
That is the fundamental issue here
This girl has a genuine concern
Read the rest of her post
The husband even turns into a different person when he is around them

I read that in her post and that really is the fundamental issue.I don't however think she should be the one to start trying to correct that especially in the presence of the mom/relatives.She should observe and discuss with the hubby in private.
It creates unnecessary friction with the mom which can be avoided.

babyosisi:
And when his tummy starts acting up she will be forced to have a sleepless night abi
I don't blame her o
It will become her problem too after he eats all that amala at night
If it turns to a hospital issue,it will be on her head too

Well,the guy is not a baby.He should know what to eat and what will affect him.If I go to my mum's place and I don't like what is cooked or it will upset me,then I won't eat it and explain why.I wouldn't want my wife to be the one to say i'm not eating the food offered.

Police in Nigeria are just terrible!
You need wisdom and caution in dealing with issues in Nigeria.If an angry man says you should not come to his house again that he never wants to set eyes on you,especially if a daughter is involved,just comply.Find alternate places to meet.

Your husband holds the key.I believe he loves you and wants the best for you.You have to discuss more with him and get him to teach you how best to relate with his mom and his people.

I also think you should talk less whenever you are around them and use the opportunity to learn more.Your hubby is not a baby that he shouldn't know what to eat and what not.In that situation,you shouldn't have said anything.You have to learn to let your hubby handle himself.

She must be an aspiring comedienne.She thinks being fatter is being better.

It is written,promotion comes not from the north,south,east or west but promotion is from the Lord'.

Don't give in.When the time comes,it will be a testimony.

coogar:
did the wayward son actually rapë a 4-year old girl or not? if he did then he's better off in prison. if he didn't, how did the story stïck? i mean - can anyone just look at me and accuse me of räping a minor?

i sympathise with the mother's grief but the law is the law on pedöphilia & rapë. if she had dedicated some of her time to raise her son well then she wouldn't have been a sėx beast in the society.

The girl most likely just used her police connections to get him in the fix.It's Naija police so they know how to get the job done as long as their palms are greased.

^^^^^you've got good advice here.
Hopefully,he will be remorseful and leave waywardness after this.

Give am the styles he wants na.He is your husband@thread title.

The issue here is extramarital affairs with reckless abandon.Abeg carry your load commot before the man give you that big thing.

I think the girl must be a housemaid.

Looks like he was cut by a train.

He's probably going to hate breas.tfeeding and the baby's poo poo too.
He needs to just mature and he will be ripe for marriage then.

Nobody likes seeing it but it's part of the body so you just deal with it.

Interesting some ladies are even using the word 'disgusting'.

pishon:
Thanks for your advice, I was actually very scared of starting a marriage off that way I donteven mind staying ina room apartment with him to avoid stories that touch the heart. But I'm glad the decision he took was his own cause I belivied he is seeing things from that angle too. The wedding date has not been fixed yet.

It doesn't seem this housing project will be completed soon based on his income.It's a nice thing to move into your own house but at 31yrs,i believe your marriage should be in a couple of months.
He has to get an apartment and continue with his house project after marriage.You may not need to renew your rent afterwards if he gets to complete the house then.

You can make plans to marry her if you love her and think she is the right person for you.
The question is,can you wait for her to finish school? There are some girls who got married while in school(200 or 300 level).Perhaps she could get into school and you marry her along the line.Will you be able to support her financially in school if you make that decision?

Some ladies dey carry belle dey go school from marital house.

pishon:
Good morning everyone, have been folloing this thread for a while now but I wanted to finish reading all the pages before I acknowledge the op and everyone that has contributed so far cause have learnt a lot here but I have a pressing issue to attend to now pls I really need your candid advice on this issue. My fiance stays in his parent house but he is dohouse project but I feel he should rent an apartment now since we a planning to get married before the end of the year, he is a low income earner but he has an access to some cash recently and fortunately we are able to get a room and a parlour self contained yesterday for 70k we were about going to see d lanlord for payement when he said I should let him inform his mum first before he pay which I said ok. He called me this morning that his mum said he y can't he wait and finish his house first and move there from there house, the problem I have with her idear is that the money e have is not enough to finish the house and also do the wedding besides my fiance does not have any house appliances he will have to furnish the house as well I don't know what to tell him now and I don't want to be in between mother and son. I will be 31 soon and he is already 34years

If you are both panning to marry before the end of the year and his housing project is not near completion and would still require much funds,then he should get an apartment.
I don't know why your fiance requires your mum's permission for this kind of decision but i hope he is not a mummy's boy.

The so-called gospel of Barnabas is a fraud and a deceitful script of the anti-christ.
This same Barnabas walked and worked with apostle Paul.Why would he have a message different from that of Paul?