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tolex29:
Please how do I get registered for this PVC? I didn't vote the last time so I don't think I have my name on any of their systems at all. Can someone please guide me on this process? It's just similar to someone who just turned 18 and wants to register for the first time.

I'll look forward to your help guys

Congrats on turning 18yrs and reaching voting age.
You can't be a part of this election as registration is closed.Just wait till it's open again in 2018/2019 and you can get registered then.

Herzumpther:
Finallllllllllly. Thank you so much you all. Dad has finally given me the go ahead to follow the choice of my heart. Its was a tough time but then you all stood by me with encouraging words and advises. It can only get better from here on. I am so happy. Thank you all. I am so greatful to you all.

For those still on the battle field, don't give up very soon cause victory is near.

Good news.I knew that except it was not the will of God,your dad will eventually give in.He's not the one who will eventually marry you,so he has to bend somehow.
You both should keep doing what you have been doing and work for each other to make things right.

Tell your guy that your brother here says(with my fingers pulling his ear and a straight face) he should not mess up.Let him learn what is expected of in-laws from your side and do them.He should be prepared also to frequently visit your village.

All the best.

Relax.Two weeks is too early to fret.The wound from the CS is not even completely healed.

She needs a renewing of the mind.The mother's death has nothing to do with the wedding.
You said the family fasted and prayed afteral.Was their prayer not effective?
She should settle into her wedding and begin to build her family.
Her mama don do her own.

It doesn't make sense.The men should also wear g-strings and bra.

You need Jesus.

@ichidodo,if you're not a preacher hoping to marry this lady who wants to be a 'preacher's wife',then i guess both of you are not meant for each other.At 26yrs,she's not too young to know what she wants and she seems to have settled with the position of being a man's supporter.
It's obviously not what you want from what you have written.You want a lady that is also career driven.Both of you don't seem to fit each other.

I would say you both have conversations concerning this(i know she's been evasive) and see how it works out.It doesn't need a 4yr plan.You both should have reached a decision in the next couple of weeks.

fumisko:
wetin u wan con do? my dad is a muslim my mum a christain. am sorry o for those who would insult. i grew up learning quran and being forced. to do so many things i did not like. i will be forced to cover my head i dint like that because my friends who were christains were free to stay open. the annoying thin is that its usually hot and brezze cannot blow me because of one God. that was the only reason i said let me even read my mum's bible. so one day that single annoyance made me pick up a bible and quran and for over 6 months i wld compare and contrast. i later made up my mind to for christainity. it was so light, so easy, no burden, i could luv God d way i want. no do this to that to get this. no sickening rules......my dad was crazy. i told him to choose between seeing me happy and free. a weight was lifted from me. indeed the yoke became easy and burden light. to further it after having real life experiences with the holyspirt sometime ago in my life i was convinced. i made my choice sha. another person's own may be different.

Jesus said,My yoke is easy and My burden is light.The truth of God does not put a burden on man.Light uncovers many things.
Keep growing in the true knowledge of God.
Above all,Jesus said,....'be happy that your name is written in the book of life'.

Drugs.Bad for your mind.

I thought they said he is 'indisposed'?

You both should have a talk about this.Find out what made her have that affair and what role by omission or commission you may have played in it.Find forgiveness in your heart and both of you should start afresh.
Don't start an affair as it does no good to your marriage.

Your wife must be willing to cut off from the man she had an affair with and work on your marriage too.
It takes two however and if your wife will not change,you know what next to do.

rittyben:
Our society frown so much at single mothers. People see them as irresponsible girl(s) that "God decided to expose". You introduce your child, the next question is "so you are married", or "thought you are single". You confirm that you are single, the next respond is "oh" or they make one funny face.
But in truth, our only crime was to say NO to ABORTION.

No,unprotected sex when not ready for a baby.
If you've got the baby,make the best of your situation and don't worry about the society.
Don't whine about the society too.

Excited dad to be.
Your thread get as e be sha.I'm not sure u'll get many sharers of preggie here.

He must have been psychotic.Who fools around with such words at this critical times?

E don be for the man.Naija police go make life hard for the man.

Idrismusty97:
This clown should shut his pie hole!

I am also seeing the death of a major pastorprenuer, it doesn't matter how long it takes. It doesn't matter if even old age is the cause of his death, a pastorprenuer would die. If a pastor dies 10-20 years from now just remember i said it, gullibles!

What's the relevance of this comment?

You and your wife should agree on a family planning method.She shouldn't deny you sex. At this stage it's been over 5mths post delivery so nothing stops you both having sex.

The question of child spacing should have been something you both should have sorted while dating.

Renaj:
Thank you Aunty. Am mighty proud of all my E-Aunties and Uncles. You 've been wonderful.
ls 6 months now. 3 months before we met and 3 months after we met.

Give it more time.You seem to be in love already but don't commit yourself yet.
If you eventually decide to commit,know that this biz idea could work or it may not.A lot of people want to do business too but it's still a dream.
Finances in marriage is a big thing.

If a career advancement and more money means moving to another state,then why not?
He hasn't gotten the job yet,which may be the reason why he has not discussed it with you.
Usually when a man gets a job in a new location,he has to settle first before he can consider moving the family over so that might explain his silence about that.Moreover,if I may ask,how about your job?How does it affect it?

The trust you have for your hubby and his trustworthiness is all that matters here.

Renaj:
Hello house, please help a sister....
I got the courage to write because of the selfless service y'all are rendering. May God bless you.

I met this guy on Facebook, fell in love and he proposed without us seeing each other(wierd, isn't it?). This all happened within a span of 3 months. Why? This guy who l have never was different from all the guys l' ve met( in a good way). I was reluctant but when we actually met, he was everything he said he is except his age which he lied about. He told me his true age on our first day of meeting, that is, 35 against 30. He said he was scared l may not be real, and that is why he didnt tell me his real age. I will be 23 in June.
On our first day of meeting, we were happy and he insisted on meeting my father with a bottle of wine, which he later did. The next day, l met his mother and she was happy. He introduced me 2 everyone that mattered. Despite all these, l didnt give him a concrete yes!
I am a graduate and just started Msc programme and he is WASC holder. When we just started communication via phone, l knew because of his little errors in written and spoken English, which he does better than most of my course mates in school, but l didnt comment about it. I do correct him and he adjust easily. When we got serious, he told me that he didnt go to the University because of financial constraint. He is exposed though. l told him that l would like him to start an ND program @least and he reluctantly agreed. He is a driver with an oil company in Lagos and barely has time for himself.
Few weeks before we met, he lost his job. He is recently working but the pay isnt much. He has business plans but no capital
He is humble, honest(except the age thing), trustworthy and has a big sense of humor.
I have never been in a relationship. He is my first boyfriend. He lives in Lagos while l live in the east, though we are both from the south east. I have gone to his place and spent 3 days because of a job interview and he never forced me 4 sex,(am a virgin) though we cuddled.
He always seeks for my advice before embarking on anything, and always aims to make me happy. When we started communicating, l was a frustrated applicant on the verge of suicide (lol) but now, though still an applicant, he made me see the whole issue as one of life's hurdles and not a do or die affair.
My fear is that this is my first r/ship. Am scared because l dont know if am being blinded by emotions or not, and him not being financially buoyant. Also a little worried about the age difference. He sometimes hint that l will leave him if l meet a graduate like me or someone richer.
He is a romantic at heart and is planning a romantic proposal in April( l gathered from hints). I am a difficult person, a melancholy and prone to mood changes, but on every occasion, he always have patience and shows maturity in dealing with every issue.
This is new for me, l have no dating experience and don't know if l should say yes with all the differences or date others first. I love him but l need to use my brain too.
Please help!!!
Sorry for the long story.

He's the first guy you are having a relationship with so I will say thread with caution.You're just 23yrs so you've got no reason to rush.Just give yourself time.The age gap between you is huge and though some people have gotten married to people who are much older than them,experience has shown that an age difference of few years works better for couples.It enhances communication and understanding better.You are able to flow better.

His education:you are a graduate and he doesn't have a first degree.What prospects does he have for the future?Even if he starts school at 35yrs,what job offer will he get at 40yrs old?
Romance is good,but romance is not enough when the realities of marriage set in.
Think it through so you don't start resenting him in the future should you decide to settle for him.

Bizbee:
I had a talk with him today, but it yielded nothing positive. He kept telling me its my job to bathe and take care of the kids, that i should go and ask my mum. Funny enough, he can cook, and do chores well without stress if he wants to do them, but he is just being lazy or maybe proving a point to me. he said i cant be assigning chores to him, when i only begged him to start bathing our first son and then we do chores together. Hmm mm, it is well o

Your husband is unyielding and I think you shouldn't try to force it.
What you should do now is do as much as you can and take your eyes away from some things.
When it is possible for you to get a help,do that and have some of the work done by your househelp.

For the single ladies,these are the type of things to look out for while dating so your life can be easier.

moca:
No be men!
Forget all the gragra
Study them and u will find out that it all ends in gragra. That is what we all fear.
If u can see beyond gragra,abeg go pour urself a chilled drink.
He must mellow down.

He will soon come for kpekus after the gragra.
Men!

Women should study cleopatra and laws of power.
Unless that man don't find u attractive.

Exposition kwa?

Neyova:
As for the cut-off, I dnt know. Influence? I dnt have, Distance? Its nt a prob, First choice? Am gonna buy the jamb change of institution stuff and put them as my first choice

You need to know the cut-off of the course in the school where you are going.It's important for your admission prospects.Make enquiries.

Neyova:
Boss pls dnt say my own is too much sir! Someone advice me to change my desired institution to Unimaid! That my 235 with a high putme score can still get me medicine. Can you give me such advice? Thanls

The most important thing is the cut-off mark.What is the cut-off in Unimaid?
Do you know someone who can facilitate your admission there?Have you considered the distance too?

You know Unimaid was not your first choice so those who chose the school will get better consideration.Weigh your options.

Neyova:
I dnt think all the schools you listed here offer physiotherapy!! From my info, OAU, UI, BUK and UNIMAID are the schools that offers physio

They all offer physiotherapy.B.U.K is also what I call Ado Bayero University.

Neyova:
Thanks for that, I'll consider physio then... Kindly tell me a school to choose for physio

U.I.
O.A.U.
UNILAG,
U.N.N.
A.B.U.K.

Neyova:
I mean after obtaining my Bsc in physio

Oh ok,u can do that.You will be admitted as a direct entry student i.e.200level.

However,you need to take the number of years into consideration.
Physiotherapy is 5yrs and if you get admitted into medicine,you will spend another 5yrs.

moca:
Badoo my love!
Take this

Lady,pls don't stomach rubbish in d name of bending
A pregnant lady with ur baby?
I will leave those kids o let them miss school o.
As per d food, why will u be waking up to cook for him in d morning?
Can't he help out?
Then let hunger kpeme him if he thinks that cooking is strictly a woman thing.
How heartless(sorry,im using derogatory language but I'm just so pissed off).
I blame u lady. U can't keep on bending when the other party has refused to bend.
At times we apply force.
At times we behave like a mad person
At times we super insist or allow something deliberately go wrong.

U don't start what u can't finish.

Somebody said her husband called her lazy.
A pregnant woman.
Not only will I call him lazy,i will call all his family members lazy and believe u me,will practicalize it.
Any man that fails to treat a pregnant wife as an egg even if she looks and act very strong is an ass*hole.

Come my way,i will teach u a little lesson u will never forget in ur life.
Traditional african man my foot.
Rabbish!

Moca u dey vesss.
In this generation,a man just can't fold his arms around the house.It's not right.

Neyova:
Thanks for your response, I really appreciate it. Will I be able to cross from physiotherapy to medicine when the time comes?

It's difficult nowadays to cross to medicine in most universities.I attended U.I. and I know there is a policy that does not allow crossing from one course to another in the faculty of medicine.

modele2:
Great thread.
Am married with kids. We are currently building our home. The project has fostered a united front and gives us a topic that excites us both. The property is in both our names which I feel is natural
. He however made a statement that I would not have even known he bought land not to talk of having my name on the deed if I was not earning enough to contribute substantially to the project. On another occasion he said his telling me of the projects day to day activities was doing me a great favour. That I should ask all my friends who are housewives if their names all re on their property. Mega Shocked! !!!!
I felt so heartbroken and disappointed. I presently want to withdraw all support from that building financial and otherwise. I feel like if not for my financial ability he would not even regard me or even have married me. I wonder what would become of me if I loose my job or stop working.

Your man has got an ego and his statement was a selfish one.
Have a talk with him and express the things you just wrote here to him.Tell him the exact words.His response will determine what your next course of action will be.