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He's a heartless guy and will get his reward.
It will hurt you real bad but take solace in the fact that he wasn't the best man for you.

It's not right that he built that house behind your back but it was something he most likely would have done from the beginning.Most African migrants would do this.

I hope you can resolve this with him and let peace reign in your marriage.Divorce should not be your top option but henceforth,you should begin to spend money on your own projects too.

The child has gotten brachial plexus injury and has a condition called Erb's palsy.Take the child to a hospital where you can see a physiotherapist.

She's lucky she trampled upon ball pythons.If it had been cobras,it might have been a different story.

Hands

Over speeding and not being cautious when approaching a bend.
He should thank God for his life.Some are not so lucky.

What do you mean by 'oppression from the big boys'?

He doesn't even need a wife or a maid.He needs to learn to clean up himself.

Odiegwu o.

smile11s:
Is this alcohol or herbal?

Alcoholic herbal.

I think you should find a way to get your mom to LASUTH,Ikeja.
Let her do proper screening.

Is staying in the UK the end of life?

pocohantas:
Rightfully so!!




It happens so fast. One mistake I see women make is, they say they will start weight loss when they are done with childbearing. Like you want to wait to have 2-4 kids before you get on that treadmill? You’re in for a shocker.

Exactly! I had a patient who was pregnant with her fourth child and was big.I asked her why she put on so much weight,she said she wants to be done with this pregnancy and now start shedding all the weight.
By that time most are in their 40s and it's a tough one then.

She tried.Shes healthier this way.
I wonder why a lot of women let go in the first place.

Iyaebe:
I don’t like seeing men do house chores same way I hate women as a provider.Marriage has lost it’s glory and sweetness because of all these equality and 50:50 westernised borrowed ideology and even in the present western world,marriage has become a demonic contract due to this ideology.

Some of us enjoy doing it.

While I do not subscribe to the 50-50 arrangement,a woman in the marriage should take up reasonable percentage of the financial responsibilities in the home while the man should deliberately take on more house chores.
Marriage should be for reasonable people anyway.

You had better clear your surroundings and fumigate.

MossLuv:
both of us didnt want it since she insisted on church wedding there is no way we pass marriage community screening. But she should have tell me the truth and hear what I will say. To be sincere, my plan was that if she's pregnant I would talk to her to change her stance about Wednesday vthen we quickly do the traditional marriage

She had her fears that she probably couldn't communicate to you.You got her pregnant which is the main issue.
You should talk to her and find out why she took the decision she took.

She obviously didn't mature fully for marriage.

How do you know she's his daughter?

Who got her pregnant?Why don't you want to marry her again?
She obviously aborted because she didn't want to keep it and you obviously didn't want it too.

CumOnHer:
Some men are trying to patronize women on this thread but it's all good tho.
Have you considered that a broke man in the midst of a group of broke women would not get angry at being denied some wad of cash much as he would be when denied a 100k in the midst of a group of broke men.
I wouldn't be angry when I am being reminded that I am a man in the midst of women but would scatter the table when you denied me what's meant for me in the midst of my fellow men.

A clearer example is when a coat that is meant for a man, during cold season is passed on to a woman for warmth. During a cold season, when a boy or a man is told that "you're a man", give the coats to the women. No eyebrows is raised. The men suffer the cold to the chest just because they are men while the women hangs the coat around the chest just because they are women.

A man in the midst of women is already at a disadvantage, meanwhile in the midst of his fellow men, it is the survival of the fittest.

Tallesty1:


Say the truth. E no hard

Saying the truth is patronizing?

CumOnHer:
I can understand the complimentary part but the derision part is lost on me.

If you told a child " You're a child", it is complimentary, derision or could be both?
How could " you're a woman" have two sides of a coin?

In what way could,'you're a child' be derision?

What a thread!

Op, it's not about the anatomy, it's about the underlying intent in the conversation.These things are obvious even in our day to day conversations that have nothing to do with gender.

The husband is useless.
How old is the girl?I hope she is underage so the man can be prosecuted.

I no understand sef,who be the fiance or the fiancee?
Anyway, there's nothing wrong with taking the gen,it's for business.If your brother won't understand, that's his business.

Ephetar:
Lol....Yea wifey is on mat leave and MIL is around...The issue is that he cries whenever he wakes up to feed and once I hear that cry I won't sleep again till morning...Nawa o ... please at what age will he revert back to normal sleep cycle? It's really not easy being a father....

You should ignore the cry,your wife will deal with it.
When will he revert to normal sleep cycle?................mooooonths.

Why can't you reconcile with your lady?

You need to go out more.Find something to do outside the house.Pick up a hobby or volunteer somewhere.It's the best you can do to yourself.

Nugesboi:
Thank you guys for listening to me. I am done. I just need the strength and courage to end it right now. I amount to nothing. i can't even leave the house anymore neither call any of my phone contacts because loan sharks had sent defamatory message to them.

I don't know what you mean by end it right now but I hope it isn't suicide.
You just said things get to your wife easily and her BP rises.So will suicide help her situation?
Does your wife work? Can she chip in some money to offset this loans?You will need to talk to her about these situation you're having and find a way to wade through it together.

Also get your butt off the ground and put your hands on the deck.Find something to do no matter how low for now............factory jobs,school teaching or lesson etc.

Lol,welcome to fatherhood and parenthood.
You can't change his sleeping pattern.He will do that as he gets older which is much later.
Babies are more nocturnal when born.

Since you go to work and I believe your wife is on maternity leave and you also spoke about your MIL(is she with you),leave the night nursing for them.
Start sleeping in another room or the sitting room.

He can't change.Get rich or die trying fraudster.

Simply pride..... nothing more.