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What Is All These Bad News Naa.??
Times Are Getting Very Bad.

Pkingman:
HELP! My Wife Is Abnormal

Hello house, Pls I need mature advice on this issue.
I had to create this account as to remain anonymous.

I've been married for 2 years plus, with a son and expecting another.
The problem is that my wife is not proud of me, not proud to be associated with me and does not show excitement concerning me or gifts that I buy for her.. She is just too plain, too emotionless.

It started from our dating days.. We dated for a year plus.. She never wanted people to know about us. Always hiding me. As if the relationship was a secret. She never asked me for a pin.. I was happy she wasn't the demanding type.
When I proposed to her, I expected her to go over the moon, show excitement and flood social media with pictures.. But no way.
She was just mute and calm about it. She didn't even accept the idea of pre-wedding pictures when I suggested it.. Said it wasn't compulsory, she doesn't have time and energy for that..Few weeks later, she uploaded very beautiful studio pictures of herself alone in nice clothing, shoes, accessories on her facebook timeline without any caption about getting married or love.. Nothing about me at all.

Wedding came... She opted for a small quiet wedding.. Although we could afford a big wedding.. I was surprised.. So unfeminine... Women always prefer loud crowded weddings to show off.. She was supposed to be extremely excited as she was getting married esp at over 30 years when a woman is considered by societal standards to be hopeless and too old for marriage but no! She went about the whole festivities like nothing special was happening to her.

After the wedding, she didn't upload our wedding pictures on social media like normal women do. I then uploaded few pictures of us and tagged her. She immediately untagged herself and told me I could post whatever I wanted without necessarily tagging her.
Months after, she uploaded 2 pictures of herself alone in wedding gown and traditional attire.. None of mine till date.
She doesn't have any picture of me or us together on her facebook profile, she doesn't upload any picture of me or us on her whatsapp. It's always her picture alone or with our baby or her parents and siblings.
She hardly even takes pictures with me at social functions. She prefers personal pictures. Sometimes, she will even crop me out of her pictures and post only herself. She just keeps going on as if I don't exist. When I ask her why, she says she doesn't need to display me online to know she is married to me.
On my birthday, she didn't wish me HBD on any social media platform but she uploaded pictures of her 2 male colleagues at work(she is a medical doctor, a surgeon in training and planning to relocate abroad soon) and wished them HBD, wrote nice things about them.
Back home, all I got was a small get together, cake, drinks and gifts but I would have preferred to be acknowledged online as well. On her birthday, I dare not show her off or say anything on social media, she won't find it funny.. She prefers everything we do is private.
The part that breaks my heart is her attitude towards gifts.. When I met her, she was working, earning big, lived alone and had a car.I was happy she wasn't demanding or greedy... But I noticed if I buy her something, she just coldly thanks me and that's all. I am an Architect, working in a firm and also into private jobs.. I recently completed a project and was paid in millions.. I thought I should surprise my wife so I bought her a new car(an SUV).... She acted so plain.. Just said thank you and that was all.. Instead of displaying it all over social media platforms, write lovey dovey epistles about me and celebrate me like other women do.

By all standards, I am handsome, tall, dark, educated, nice guy, well to do, so why is she not proud to show me off?
Why does she not want me to show her off?

In all fairness, she has been a very nice partner so far but why this cold abnormal attitude ?This is not how women ought to behave.
I am getting tired already,i have discussed this with her but she doesn't wish to change.
What could be wrong with her?

So you now want her to transform from her naturally created self into an imaginary feminine woman you have created for yourself inside your head??
If something is wrong between anybody amongst the both of you, you are the one..
You're expecting your wife to become another person..
Is that possible??
Anyway,, you saw all the signs before you entered..
That's just who she is.

TOTAL WASTE

tellwisdom:
Money wey no reach me e drink beer, chop nkwobi ...Are u kidding me??

Wait ooo..
Which money u dey take drink beer??
$5,000USD?? (about N1.8m??)
Ok my brother..
I hear you.

Iamicekid:
Person wey dem suppose don go throw inside jail

I have made a public post on all my social media handles..
Should any video of me (or any member of my family) go viral, and it was videotaped without my permission (or their permission), the person that recorded it and the persons that made it go viral should better remain anonymous, if not, once I get to know who the person/persons (him/she/they) is/are, I'm charging them to court,, whether the viral video tells good or bad of the persons inside it, I don't care, since it was an infringement on the privacy of the persons involved without their permission...

CiciReally:
Thanks so much, just concerned about safe delivery now, definitely won’t be that wicked to deny him right to see his child just that it hurts so much and am stuck with him for long as the child bind us. Ur answers r relieving

You can guess right.. Once the child is confirmed his, him and all his family will make you a queen overnight.
You will just forget this very treatment they are giving you now..

CiciReally:
Hello every one, am new here, I hope I can get advice and answer to my confusion and challenge

I been dating my man for almost 2 years, Am Nigerian he’s german, he was open to me from beginning about having some infertility issue, he opened up after we had sex unprotected one day and i was worried about him getting a pill because it happened in his country.

He told me not to worry that he can’t father a child 90% so since then we been doing it unprotected and I never missed my period for a day, fast forward to after a year plus I missed my period after we spend my birthday together, being that i never cheated, I msg him asking him on scale of 1 to 100 how sure he is that he can’t father a child, he said 90%, I waited for another week still nothing so i did test and behold am pregnant, he was excited and insisted I must keep it as he never got any woman pregnant and it might be his only chance, I was troubled, always scared of 9 months, I hate hospital and all that challenges that come with pregnant.

I tried to convince him so we get rid of it but he refused and promised to be there for me.

Now 7 months into the pregnancy his behavior changed, from beginning he doesn’t pay for everything i need, hospital bills etc, I do most things on my own cos i felt he’s holding back cos he’s in doubt the baby is his, now flashback to wen i took in he confessed to me how he been going to sm special church in mountain that’s known for helping pple with his issue, prolly God heard his prayer, suddenly he changed, we agreed to get married so my family will get off my neck etc but now he’s giving me conditions, prenup and DNA after baby is born.

I have no issue with any of that but how he always bring it up, I am so hurt, I cry daily cos am � sure baby is his, only asked him to support fully as he promised till baby is born but his family and friends discouraging him, now will it be wicked of me to cut him off have my baby send him a pic, have him do DNA then deny him right to own him?? Cos i don’t think i all ever forget how he treated me the time i needed him most.

Relax my dear..
His only fear is that “he is confused how he got you pregnant with his infertility issues”.. He himself is still doubting if you're pregnant even,, and if yes (of course it is Yes), then 90% it could not be him.. (I guess you know 90% naa)..
So relax, he is seriously fighting an internal battle with himself every time, and only the birth of the child (DNA scan) would give him internal peace..
I understand your worries.. I understand his worries too.

This Governor Ugwuanyi is so busy copying Governor Obiano of Anambra in almost everything..
First, he copied the Willie Is Working mantra, and pasted it in Enugu as Gburugburu Is Working.. (Not knowing that the WIW mantra started from the campaign mantra of WWW= Willie Will Work).
Then he went ahead and copied Willie's Zero Poteholes agenda for Road Maintenance..
Now, he also copied the N20m Community-Project-of-Choice programme..
Habbbaaaa!!

Dottore:
Keep your hustle bro. You are a full time image launderer of Gov. Ugwuanyi but does it not bother you that your threads hardly go more than one page?
Reason: people are not fooled anymore, they know that most of the things you and your colleagues post are just for your hustle. The truth is that Enugu State has never had it this bad. You people even go as far as hiding posts that disagree with your fawning campaigns.

There are several roads that need urgent attention.
Kenyetta Road,
Almost the whole of Achara Layout:
Awkunanaw Street-Ochumba-Etudo
Igbariam Street, Ubaka Street,
Malachy - Unubi- Osumenyi, Vance Streets,
The whole of Idaw River are in a sorry state: Emeka Ebila - Ikiriki - Idaw River - Emeka Ebila
Umuchu - Omachiana - Mount, Akwa Ihedi. Some of the roads there are almost in extinction

Coal Camp areas, Agangwu to mention nut a few,

Many parts of Emene Sooil Plaza Hotel Road
Many places in Abakpa
Many places in Independence Layout, ESBS - Pioneer - Maryland
Sullivan did wonderfully well in constructing Akwatta road in Ogbette market but his successor could have gone father to floor the entrance of Akwatta market if not all to help save the spate of trucks falling. The market is a notable spot for IGR in the state so the traders deserve a good trading environment.

Almost Zero attention is given to rehabilitation or maintenance of Primary and Secondary school structures in Enugu State.

Let's stop celebrating non performance. The money is not personal funds. It's public funds
This is just Enugu City the places I mentioned affected just partly about 3 local governments in Enugu metropolis, remember I didn't mention anything about the plight of about 14 local governments that are not within the city Centre.

Sycophantic and untuos campaigns won't help us.

note: breadtom ekaette1621 OEPHIUS

Atomic Blaster!!

ezegold4we:
All of you who has been responding to what really happened has a very big comprehension issues,

So you guys don't know that this is what this guy and the wife is skilled at, who's knows how many ladies they must have video taped and collected ransom from,

The people shud charge the couple for kidnapp and assault, I rest my case.

My exact thoughts after reading this...
Immediately I saw the N60,000 Blackmail fee,, I knew that it was business gone wrong...
The confusion on the woman's face while the beating was going on shows that she never knew the man was married.
I just wonder how many unsuspecting facebook victims that had fallen for these devils.

JeffSiberstein:
So I had an abusive girlfriend, who abuses me physically and emotionally. On this platform I have been asking people to stay clear of abusive relationship.

I had to move to another city to avoid her. I failed to take my own advise and had to pay with a scar. I let this girl come to my new place last month after many pleas and promises of how she is a changed person.

She wanted to stay long but after three days I saw she hasn't changed but only got worse. I asked her to leave after arguing back and forth she left. I blocked her phone number.

2 days ago she just showed up on my door pleading, I told her there is nothing to plead about because I non dey do again. She can spend the night but leave the next day. Next day she said she can't leave because of no transport fare that I should give her. I non get....

Another argument, she was eating when I told her to be quick because I wan comot and i can't leave her in my house since I won't be returning till Monday.

Before I could raise my head from the phone I was using na black out. The girl don throw the ceramic plate she was eating with at me. I put my hand for where the plate landed and saw blood, I non fit shout I carry my self go pharmacy, treat myself and before I return I non know how she take leave.

I hope say she non go come again....

I don learn my lesson and I hope you too don learn from my story make u for non experience same thing....

When hopeless kids fall in love, they see the relationship as a gateway for escaping hopelessness.

nosiebaba:
Nigeria needs to have a social or child welfare system that works. If you can't take care of a child take the child to social services to be put up for adoption.

Such places really do exist..
Managed by the church..
(Reverend Sisters)

STINKING LIARS..

This is so based.

Hahahahahahaaaa..
Olodo actress.!!
She thought it was a private video call,, and even up till now, she is still wondering who took the video to instablog..
Mumu..!!
The video call was live and public.
So stop wondering.
She intended to (privately) show Mc-galaxy her bare butts and ease off tension, and then hoped Mc would like it and come for the knacks..
But then, wrong timing occurred..

Enough of this Etinosa whomever!! Better news are out since her news expired.

odumessi:
Oyetola.. because he will head straight to appeal Court, and once a case is in Court, status quo has to be maintained

Adeleke will wait patiently..

Last Last,, DAVIDO is the highest winner here..

9-figures?? Like, hundreds of millions?? #OnnoghenComesToMind..

barbwire2:
So I met this girl in school through a female friend, the friend was my neighbor though. So one night she invited her friend over for a nite and after that night the girl in question started asking me out and she made sure that i cut ties with that my neighbor. We started dating afterwards nd wd both broke up from our current relationshipz then.
But after a month that was when my wahala started, her phone got spoilt some days to her birthday and i gave her mine to use in order to post pictures and invite friends too because she wanted to celebrate it, little did i know dat she was sending nudes and also wanted to go fetch with a politician in town to raise money for the birthday. After i found out she cried and pleaded for forgiveness nd truth is i myself i cried cause I was devastated, but I still forgave her and even sponsored the birthday myself.
After dat three months after i went through her gbwhatsapp and discovered she hid some chats, I was able to decode the password and lo and behold she has been sending nudes to several other men and even traveled on a Sunday to havs unprotected sex with one of them and she was planning on going again, the same Sunday she left my room claiming to go to church. I was shocked in my anus. She cried and begged but I found it hard to forgive her which I eventually did but it took me months to get over it because sometimes i would just chat her up and tell her it's over because I can't harbor the pains anymore, she would plead nd beg and she even involved my friends and my siblings to help her beg. Hmmm. E no easy.
I got over that and warned her that the next time she repeats same I would post her nudes online and tell the world both on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter anx and even here on nairaland. But she assured me she had changed.
Now my greatest fear was that because she was into pageantry and she currently is the face of culture and tourism for one of these pageantry stuffs she would find it difficult to resist this men that will always ask for sex before any sort of sponsorship. Hmmm.
Hmmm. During the ASUU strike we all went home and i was relieved that she would stay clear from these useless men but omo right there at home she still cheated again o. She met her childhood friend and he came to visit her, and whilst they were together in the house alone she threw herself at him and started kissing this dude. And in her chats she was like she couldn't hold herself back anymore, she was soo into him and had to kiss him.. Darn. I was heart broken for the umpteenth time. I called her friend who stays in the same street with her to help me describe the dude and the discription was pathetic. Soo my girlfriend is a LovePeddler and a nympho? I couldn't believe dis. Darn.. I confronted her and all she does is beg, cry, fall sick. Just as usual. Am so done with her cheating ass but she keeps begging. My ex is willing to take me back but this my girlfriend aka olosho is calling and threatening her. See me see case o. Wetin man go do...

Answer this simple question abegg..
DO YOU HAVE A GIRLFRIEND RIGHT NOW??

barbwire2:
Still on this Story. Am going to expose this girl and her Facebook contact and a few of the nudes. Coz am so vexed right now

Now I can see that you still need to grow up first.
Forget everything about women and love and sex for now..
You're not ready for all these yet.

If he gets out of this just like that,, then, he should sue all of them.. Both the FG, EFCC, DSS, all of them..
Welcome to the Billions Justice Onnoghen..

Ratello:
INEC Explains A-Z About Electronic Card Readers

SAN FRANCISCO, March 04, (THEWILL) – The Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC) explains the A-Z about its voting card readers in this question and answer statement below:

Question 1: Why use Card Readers?

Answer: For the first......


https://thewillnigeria.com/news/inec-explains-a-z-about-electronic-card-readers/

The article was published on 5th March 2015..
..
A lot had changed since then..

AnonymousXYZ:
of course I know. I've built in a way that her faithfulness isn't a problem. She's 100 loyal

There is one more lady you need to help by all means..
The lady you met at the eateries..
She need to go for her own check-up too.
She might not know what is happening inside her body right now.
Don't see her as an enemy.
Save her life, and that of her future husband.
Find a way and meet her again, and tell her to go for thorough medical checkup..

I'm still looking for the nonsense Great Body bikokwanu!!
All I see here is butts that came in chambers..
Upper Chamber and Lower Chamber.
#Onukwu!!

Now, this whole thing is sounding like a publicity stunt.
Someone somewhere is going through serious trauma because of this guy, and he is busy advertising..

DonCrack:
Nigerian mom shares the message she got from the wife of a man she wished a happy birthday

According to the lady, she warned her not to call her husband dear, because she didn't like the idea of another woman calling her husband (dear)

See More: https://www.hgsmediaplus.com.ng/2019/03/lady-shares-message-she-got-from-wife.html?m=1

The lady went easy on the wife sef..
If na me, the kind of reply I would give her would make her feel so silly for bumping into my inbox with crap talks

8 Million Naira??
Why??
Was the chair made by Ferrari or Bugatti??

All I see in the photos is Domestic Violence..
The man is deciding everything for the lady, and even make her to think that his evil-intent decisions are the very best decisions for the family.

Simjos:
There is this girl in my area that I'm in love with, i wooed her but she refuse to accept me as her boyfriend but she does come to my house, we play, watch movies together etc. All my friends knows her to a point they are all her friends.
I pretty much close to her family likewise she does with mine family.

Lately I beginning to suspect that she likes one of my friend, each time she comes around she always likes to sit with him, talk more with him, what pain me most is that my friend knows, so, he always make use of the advantage and this has making me feel uncomfortable and pissed but I always act mature at all time.

To cut the story short, yesterday she came around and we were all watching a movie and my friend was lying on a mate and the next minute she lie down with him on the mate. I was so upset but I was calm.

I'm afraid I might lose my temper one day, Guys I need your help what should I do in this situation.

My brother, are you from the North??
Because the way you're sounding here, it's like what you have in mind for him is murder, or serious machete attack.

Wonderful

She returned the money to which “government"??
She just returned the money to the airport officials who would just corner the money.
It won't even reach to the real owners.
So, who is supposed to reward her??