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You make the transition from the 3rd level of consciousness to the 4th level of consciousness when you begin to see that you influence life!

You make the transition to the 4th level of consciousness when you realize that training crushes your personality. You develop unique gifts 

At the 4th level of consciousness you identify with your environment 70% and start focusing more on your unique Spirit, changing who you are
At the fourth level of consciousness you decide what kind of person you want to be regardless of the kind of person you have been or are now.

At fourth level of consciousness you decide what your lifestyle will be, what kind of friends you will have, and what resources you will use.

At fourth level of consciousness you change your thoughts and emotions to match who you want to be: You practice being mindful and attentive.

At the fourth level of consciousness you realize that each second of consciousness counts because every thought you have defines who you are.

At the 4th level of consciousness you systematically examine your own thoughts, emphasizing those that are healthy and eliminating the rest!

 At the 4th level of consciousness you examine your emotions, feeling in full those that give you joy and eliminating those that make you sad.

At the 4th level of consciousness you feel your body, choosing to eat only foods that make you healthy, eliminating the rest from your diet!

At the 4th level of consciousness you look at your daily routines: You keep the routines that make you happy and change routines that don’t!

At 4th level of consciousness you study your habits: Keep habits that are good and remove bad habits from your life to avoid self-judgments!

You make the transition from the 2nd level of consciousness to the 3rd level when you decide to take time to develop your mind and heart now. 

At 3rd level of consciousness you identify with your physical environment 80% and start to feel and think for yourself, creating your heart!
At third level of consciousness you become very sensitive to the energies in your body, your heart and your mind. You start cultivating them.

At 3rd level of consciousness you allow yourself to cry, feel joy, experience pain, entertain strange thoughts, and see all of life’s beauty.

At the third level of consciousness you start developing your artistic sensibilities, your empathy, and your need for spiritual connections!

At the third level of consciousness you begin to put your time and energy into exploring the different sensations of life: You eat and think.

 At the third level of consciousness you start to explore your physical appetites, your sexual energies, your creativity, and your intuitions.

At the 3rd level of consciousness you can sense when people are happy and sad: You can console them and relate to them through communication.

At the 3rd level of consciousness you shift from being merely a colleague at work and a neighbor to being a true friend when people need you.

At 3rd level of consciousness you shift from being a well-trained employee, living in your mind, to being a human being living in the heart!

At the 3rd level of consciousness you stop reacting to people and events around you. Instead you start acting based on your values and ideas.

You make your transition from the 1st level of consciousness to the second level of consciousness when you become disillusioned with reality.

You begin to enter the second level of consciousness when you realize that the physical and social reality you have internalized is not real.

When you enter 2nd level of consciousness you’re surprised by your attraction to being alone so you can think instead of being around people.
At the 2nd level of consciousness you identify with your physical environment 90% and become aware that you have an internal environment too

At 2nd level of consciousness you define yourself by your family, your friends, your job, and your property, but you glimpse your creativity.

At 2nd level of consciousness you are surprised by the fact that money and shopping no longer make you happy but that giving now thrills you.

At 2nd level of consciousness you find yourself attracted to books about people instead of books about things: You want to learn about Self!

 At the second level of consciousness you are shocked to realize that if you lose your job today and the money that goes with it, that is OK!

At the second level of consciousness you find yourself wanting to listen to a greater variety of people than just always talk about your job.

At the second level of consciousness you begin to realize that a big house is just an empty home, lots of awards are just meaningless titles.

At the second level of consciousness you realize that sex is not love, money and power are not influence, your job is not who you REALLY are.

At the second level of consciousness you face a choice: Abandon your temporary physical and social illusions, or transform them from within!

When people reach the 2nd level of consciousness some of them quit their jobs, sell their houses, divorce their spouses, go search for Truth.

When people reach the 2nd level of consciousness, some of them embrace their current physical reality and place it on spiritual foundations!

At the first level of consciousness you identify completely with your environment whether rich or poor, peaceful or warlike, cruel or loving
At the 1st level of consciousness you accept your social and physical environments as they are: You internalize their values and become them.

At 1st level of consciousness if you are wealthy you define yourself in terms of your salary, your net worth, your property and rich friends.

At 1st level of consciousness, if you are poor you accept that you’ll always be poor. You believe all efforts to become successful will fail.

At the 1st level of consciousness, if you live in a peaceful environment you believe that everyone you know lives among peace and prosperity.

At the first level of consciousness, if you live in a war zone, you believe you must constantly fight other people for survival or else die!

At the 1st level of consciousness, if you grow up with parents who physically, sexually, and emotionally abuse you, you in turn abuse others.

At 1st level of consciousness if you grow up with parents/friends who give you love, support, and affection, you give lots of love to others.

At 1st level of consciousness you have no original thoughts or creativity inside you because you are a complete reflection of your community.

At first level of consciousness you cannot adapt to changing environments that operate under different principles. Thus, you become limited!

At first level of consciousness you think dreamers and idealists, advocates and change-makers, are fools who have lost their grip on reality.

North believe in trust.

Using condom means one if you is hiding something or suspecting the other

Nothing wrong there. It is his property. He can bury what he wants

Lagos offered free trade zone meaning no tax.


No other regions has offered that.

budaatum:
Women need to not marry pigs!

A woman cannot marry a man with low sex drive.

Use it for the less previledge first.

Whatever you do for the least of neighbor,you do to God

A prostitute who uses her Body to.make money for the Lord is using it is maximising her talent

In a region where over fifty percent of citizen live in abject poverty,It is not uncommon for one to use any available means to put food on the table. Men use their physical do menial jobs like carrying block, pushing wheel barrow etc. Women resort to trading their punny to put food on the table.


The society is to quick to condemn the later while praising the former. Both group do not like their job. An American based research revealed that about 85 percent of prostitute would leave their job if they were in a better financial situation. The statistics would rise in third world countries. Environment that breed hardship also breed sex workers.

No parent who have children he cannot train would fold his arm and watch the child die of hunger.He would send him out to hawk for himself. Of course that is child labor and the parent ought to be punnished. The child is the victim here. To protect the child from harm, parent provide a framework- a shop close to the house – where the child can assist behind the scene.

https://tobechispeaks./2020/12/03/how-purity-culture-teaches-wrong-sex-education/

You must first die ,to be planted before bearing fruit

It is not a sin at all.

You a human

Sex shouldn’t be termed as bad according to gender, to start with, sex is not even a bad thing! Well maybe according to belief and religion, all religions I know speak against sex that’s not within the bounds of marriage, but yet again,who are we to question people,we should leave all this to God. None of us, neither you nor I, have the right to judge anyone for the choices they’re making, henceforth at no point should women be the only ones answerable for sex on the first date unless it wasn’t consensual.


https://tobechispeaks./2020/11/06/do-ladies-slut-shame-each-other-more/

Jesus practice yoga and meditation

In a region where over fifty percent of citizen live in abject poverty,It is not uncommon for one to use any available means to put food on the table. Men use their physical do menial jobs like carrying block, pushing wheel barrow etc. Women resort to trading their punny to put food on the table.


The society is to quick to condemn the later while praising the former. Both group do not like their job. An American based research revealed that about 85 percent of prostitute would leave their job if they were in a better financial situation. The statistics would rise in third world countries. Environment that breed hardship also breed sex workers.

No parent who have children he cannot train would fold his arm and watch the child die of hunger.He would send him out to hawk for himself. Of course that is child labor and the parent ought to be punnished. The child is the victim here. To protect the child from harm, parent provide a framework- a shop close to the house – where the child can assist behind the scene.


Similarly, financially motivated prostitute are victims of the society and do not deserve to be punnished. Imagine standing semi- naked in the middle of the night exposing ones body to cold not go mention the various incident of non- payment and rape. The job is illegal so they cannot report to anyone. When they do, society turn a deaf ear.


Criminalising prostitution does not help the victim. A law should protect the victim from harm. The prostitute are not harming anyone.

Holland ,one of the few countries go legalize prostitution reports a thirty percent reduction in rape- reported cases. Would plying the route provide a glimpse of hope for the oldest profession in the world?

https://tobechispeaks./2020/11/06/do-ladies-slut-shame-each-other-more/

There should never be blame placed on a woman because her husband isn’t getting all the sex he wants. We’re made to feel like we should woman up and just do it already, but who wants to have sex because they feel they should?

Women want to want to be in the mood, too. And hopefully our partners would rather have us be in the mood than just going through the motions to satisfy them. You know what doesn’t put women in the mood? Constantly being told they aren’t as sexual as they used to be, whining, complaining, and dumbass comments about sexual wants and needs in order to function.

Having kids and a job can squeeze every ounce of sexual desire out of us on some days. Not to mention health issues and medications that can mess with a woman’s libido. Being a mom can change our sex drive drastically, because let’s face it, moms are groped more, asked for more, and required to nurture more. Moms are touched the Bleep out.

No one wants to be in a sexless partnership. But no one should be made to feel like they owe their body to anyone. EVER.

It’s more than okay to say no to your partner, and women need to stop being shamed for this. The jokes need to stop, and feeling like we should “just do it” to keep our partner happy is unacceptable.

Married or not, sex still needs to happen between two consenting people, and if she’s not in the mood and doesn’t want to be touched, she’s not consenting and should feel comfortable saying as much without shame or guilt.

End of story.


Scarymummy



https://tobechispeaks./2021/10/27/do-we-owe-our-spouses-sex/

We turn a blind eye when husbands pressure their wives for sex, because how could a husband demanding sex from his wife possibly be harassment? His sex drive is considered natural. His pleasure a given.

It’s not harassment when it’s your husband, right? Isn’t a sexually demanding husband normal? Aren’t they just Hot husbands? Don’t they all do it?

This type of erroneous thinking lends itself to less obvious assaults, manipulation, and even in some cases, violence.

But because it can be done in a marriage, it’s even deemed normal and acceptable.

Mismatched libidos among couples can be frustrating. I get it. But it’s also very normal and prevalent. So many factors can contribute to sex drive — external stressors in one’s environment, diet, sleep, medical issues, etc.

Postpartum women are given the green light to bone at six weeks after birthing a baby. Never mind the fact that pregnancy literally tears a woman’s body from limb to limb, molecule by molecule for nine solid months. Bah! You’re fine. Get back on the horse!

Never mind that a new mother may have had full abdominal surgery, in the form of a C-section. That doesn’t take immense healing or anything. Never mind episiotomies. Seriously? Are you looking for a pity party, postpartum women? We all know it’s super easy to heal when your vagina is ripped from front to back. If you don’t want sex after vaginal stitches, what’s wrong with you, women? 

Forget those postpartum haywire female hormones and sleep deprivation after giving birth. Those are just theories; that shit ain’t real!

Sarcasm aside, when a woman is out of the postpartum stage, her menstrual cycle returns. A period comes with its own set of hormone fluctuations that vary and change all month long.

If we all know a woman’s sex drive is largely impacted by biological elements beyond her control, why aren’t men more understanding? Why isn’t society more understanding?

Why are a man’s sexual needs the ones always tended to? What about what the women need? The mothers? What about the support they need to feel sexy?

Women are not only impacted by biology, but they are also sexually influenced by social and cultural factors in their environment. For example, married mothers tend to work the majority of the “second shift.” Second shift is the domestic work done at your shared home, after working your paid job all day.

Women are disproportionately scrubbing toilets. And we’re exhausted. Married moms are disproportionately handling matters related to childrearing. They are touched-out. How can a mom feel Hot when she’s doing most of the work? When she’s the one tending to the kids?

Instead of telling married mothers that they should do it anyway, even if they’re not in the mood, we should encourage men to do something that would contribute to a woman’s arousal.

For starters, men should respect a woman’s rejection. They should respect her body and her choices. They should respect consent. Consent still needs to be considered, even in a marriage.

A man’s actions, or inactions, in the household affect a woman’s arousal environment. We should expect married dads to pick up more of a woman’s second-shift duties. That means helping equally with parenting and domestic tasks.

From the outside, people who berate and belittle women for not satisfying the sexual needs of their husbands are bullies. They are unsupportive. Their unfair, and frankly, deeply flawed marital criticism is rooted in years of oppression against women.

No one, I repeat, no one should think it’s okay for a woman to have sex against her will. Not even with a spouse.

Bring kids into the picture, and often, one’s sex drive takes a nose dive. Especially for mothers.

Low libido is a very common issue for new mothers as they are healing from childbirth, grappling with fluctuating hormones and extreme sleep deprivation.

While we know adjusting to a new baby can profoundly impact a couple’s life (including sexual intimacy), we, as a society, act like it shouldn’t. We act like there’s something wrong with a new mother needing a timeout from sex.

New mothers who admit to having less sex drive are often met with people urging, “Just do it anyway,” and “You’ll get in the mood.”

But what if you don’t get in the mood, even when you take this advice? What then?

Why aren’t the feelings of the woman valid? Shouldn’t she be listening to her body? Her mind?

I’m not sure where we got this idea that a husband owns his wife’s vagina. Or that he is entitled to intercourse, MouthAction, handling, or groping. I’m pretty sure I didn’t see that covenant in the paperwork. But I have an inkling that this entitlement is very much based in misogyny and male privilege.

Men are led to believe, often since they are young boys, that women should have sex with them when they want it. Even when their wives are not “in the mood.” Because sex is the way he feels intimate. Sex is the way he connects. Because putting your husband’s sexual desires first is supposedly the best way to avoid divorce.

These antiquated and sexist designs for marriage are damaging to women.

When a married mom doesn’t put out, she’s called “cold” and “selfish” and the dreaded “bitch.” She’s told she must have “something else going on” mentally. Outsiders to the marriage, and maybe even therapists, will question if the wife was ever sexually assaulted. Does she have a history of trauma? They’ll try to make connections that aren’t there. Because how could a wife possibly not want to have sex with her husband?

It is sickening and horrific to think of a woman having sex against her will, married or not. It’s disgusting that we automatically assume something must be “wrong” with a woman who is having a gap in her groove. Beyond all that, it’s dangerous.

Suggesting that married women and mothers should just “do it anyway” is sexual bullying and coercion. If a husband acts on the “just do it anyway” cliché and forces it — that’s called rape.

When we attack married mothers for not putting out, we’re reaffirming once again what’s important in this society.

A man’s needs, not a woman’s. A man’s voice, not a woman’s voice.

I laff

I imagine how to carry her when she is pregnan

Arguing with a child who is willing to learn is worth it.

I learnt a lot by arguing.

Argue to I understand different perspective not to win.

No insults

Ever had an erection in church ?

Power thussle between executive and judiciary.

When it happened to Onnonghen, we kept quiet

More than Bokoharam?

Now I understand why Soldiers are more willing to attack IPOB over bokoboys

North does keep data else

Do you realize that the fastest way to enter politics is to side with the common man

Oshiomole did it and succeded .
O won't be surprised if he contesses for election 2023

just finished a CRS class with my JSS1 students.
I topic was 'Problems in Marriage'. In my usual manner, I made it a discussion class and encouraged them say some of the problems they have witnessed in their parents marriage.

The students mentioned disagreement, arguments, fighting, divorce,etc. As they mentioned, one boy stood up and passionately said that women should respect men and some of the boy supported.

Another boy stood up and countered him, saying that both men and women should respect each other.
I was still trying to drive the lesson home when another boy indicated that he wanted to say something, so I obliged him.

This boy stood up and said, and I quote, 'a woman is a slave for man'.

Wow. I was shocked, this coming from a ten year old, but I continued.

I asked him why he thinks a woman is a slave for man. He said it's because that is the culture. Another boy said it's because the man paid the 'bride price' for his wife, therefore she is the man's property.

I will be lying if I say that I was not shocked at what these ten year olds were saying to me today.

This discussion took us to examining respect and the dynamic nature of culture.

Ngozi Nneka

When she is not a brick layer

Don't break my heart by Westlife

Attempt to discredit Peter obi before next election

A productive mind with empty land is better than a rich land with empty brain.

Dubai was empty but a thinking mind made it a tourist center.

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