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Religion / What Is The Benefit Of Being Around People Who Do Not Believe In God by tobechi20(m): 9:34pm On Jun 30, 2023
Any advantage
Romance / Re: Groom Checking His Phone While Walking Down The Aisle With His Wife (Video) by tobechi20(m): 11:27am On Jun 04, 2023
He is anxious. Using phone to cope

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Career / Why You Should Get Sacked As Fast As You Can by tobechi20(m): 11:50pm On Jun 03, 2023
Try to get fired as quickly as you can” could be a nice mantra for finding the work and career path that can handle your full range of strengths and talents. If you try to fully express those aspects of yourself where they aren’t appreciated, you could easily get fired.

Brett also shared that he’s come to believe that there are really no bad ideas – just bad timing and bad context. A seemingly bad idea in one situation might be brilliant in another.

Even if your potential strengths are rough around the edges, you still need to start expressing them in order to hone them. They won’t get any better if you hide them.

Want a lifeless and mediocre career instead? Don’t rock the boat and try to fit in. That’s a great way to end up where you don’t belong. Are you in that situation now? You can still apply the advice here, starting today.

This works if you own a business too. Think of it as scaring away the customers, clients, and partners who can’t handle your uniqueness. If you still have a viable business after that, you probably have a keeper that you can invest in long-term. And you’ll get to serve people who appreciate what you do for them. Plus you won’t have to deal with the headaches of bending over to serve total mismatches.

I’ve seen time and time again that the ideas that felt risky or edgy to me were often those that produced the most value for people. The articles that I was most hesitant to publish were frequently the most impactful. I’ve enjoyed a delightful lifestyle thanks to the simple, repeated act of sharing honestly.

Instead of fearing criticism and consequences from people who aren’t a match for you anyway, you may as well deliberately court their rejection to speed things along. For instance, if Trump supporters are a lousy match for your business – as they are for mine – channel your inner Logan Roy and tell them to Bleep off! They need to hear it because they’re being really, really stupid. Then focus on serving the people you like and respect. Remember the rule: Mutual respect or disconnect.

Some people have an objection to this because they feel that we should all be connected on a spiritual level. Hey… spirit gave rise to differentiation too, so don’t be so afraid of it. Go ahead and love everyone at the level of spirit, but dump the mismatches on the mental, physical, and emotional levels, so you can do some real exploring of what matters to you. Don’t hide behind spirituality as an excuse for avoiding rejection – it’s inauthentic and phony, and you’ll lose the respect of some great matches when you do that. Don’t pretend that you resonate with everyone you meet. Bounce over to the circles where mutual alignment is strong. Bounce out where resonance is weak.

It’s often the case that you must bounce out of a mismatch before you’ll even perceive the possibility of a match. That’s because if you’re in a mismatched situation, you’re actually repelling matches, usually before you can even perceive them.

You can also apply this advice to relationships. Think of your best relationships as being anti-fragile. You can express the full range of your personality without holding back, and you’ll still be loved. Imagine getting involved with someone new with the attitude of sharing everything about yourself that’s you think will induce someone to reject you. Anyone who makes it through is likely to be a strong match.

So share the ideas and express the aspects of your personality that you hallucinate will get you fired, rejected, or cast out. That will help you discover where you’re most appreciated and where you can push your talents and develop your ideas even further
Politics / Which Vice Presidential Candidate Is The Best. by tobechi20(m): 11:24pm On Aug 01, 2022
Last election, the vice presidential candidate,; Osibanjo and Obi were making waves than their boss. The debate was bomb.

This year among the three, I think Labour party vice presifentiak candidate has the best sellable credentials.

What do you think!
Foreign Affairs / Re: Rape Any Girl On Sight : Assam Rape Festival In India Begin This Week. by tobechi20(m): 11:20pm On Aug 01, 2022
This is fake news by a sarcastic site.
Foreign Affairs / Re: South Africa To Reduce Pump Prices Of Fuel by tobechi20(m): 11:14pm On Aug 01, 2022
One presidential candidate plans to reduce the price of Agbado
Foreign Affairs / Re: Russian Economy ‘crippled At Every Level’ Despite Putin’s Propaganda by tobechi20(m): 11:07pm On Aug 01, 2022
American are used to propaganda
Foreign Affairs / Re: Russia Vows To Defend Serbia Against NATO by tobechi20(m): 11:06pm On Aug 01, 2022
Oga want fight two countries at the same time. .e go collect
Family / Re: 21st Century Parenting Dos And Don'ts - Sure Home Seminar by tobechi20(m): 6:34pm On Jul 31, 2022
Waiting patiently
Family / Re: 21st Century Parenting Dos And Don'ts - Sure Home Seminar by tobechi20(m): 6:32pm On Jul 31, 2022
Ilove this
Politics / Re: Nigeria Ranks 143 In 2022 Global Peace Index by tobechi20(m): 6:04pm On Jun 20, 2022
Why is Ukraine not in the list but Russia is bottom when the war is going on in Russia
Politics / Re: PETER OBI: The Only Governor In History To Call EFCC, To Audit His Account by tobechi20(m): 6:00pm On Jun 20, 2022
You throw money around,they call you corrupt

You refuse to engage in vote buying,they call you stingy


What do Nigerians want?

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Politics / Re: INEC: No Presidential Candidate Indicated Placeholder When Submitting Nomination by tobechi20(m): 5:59pm On Jun 20, 2022
What happened to Ahmed Lawal will happen again.
Masari will not withdraw except Tinibu chooses a Fulani Muslim.

Watch out

A Fulani muslim must either be in president,vice or Senate.

GEJ administration had no Fulani Muslim so it was easy to make his regime difficult

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Politics / Re: A Northerner Just Asked A Very Important Question by tobechi20(m): 10:29pm On Jun 17, 2022
They will delegate the job to the running mate the same way Buhari asked Osibanjo to go and represent him in presidencial debate

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Religion / Re: Where In The Quran Does It States That Killing Is The Punishment For Insulting P by tobechi20(m): 11:39pm On May 14, 2022
This should be posted in Islamic section so we don't begin works war 9
Religion / Re: Deborah Samuel: CAN Calls For Nationwide Protest by tobechi20(m): 11:39pm On May 14, 2022
But they accused Sterling bank of blasphemy
Religion / Re: Silence Means Consent by tobechi20(m): 11:29pm On May 14, 2022
Silent means to scared to resist
Religion / Three Reasons Christian Lawmakers Should Support And ,"anti Blasphemy" law by tobechi20(m): 11:24pm On May 14, 2022
1. Blasphemy laws kill people

In Pakistan they're used to settle disputes between neighbours – a Muslim can accuse a Christian of blasphemy on spurious grounds and see him jailed and in fear of his life. Asia Bibi is still in jail facing the death penalty. In other Muslim countries Christians live in fear because of what a careless word or a false accusation might lead to. In Bangladesh, people who've identified themselves as atheists have been murdered. Blasphemy is punishable by death in Afghanistan and Saudi Arabia, too.

There's something profoundly disturbing about the idea that God should require the services of an executioner to protect His honour. When Christians stand up against blasphemy laws, we aren't denying God's glory, we are affirming it: we're saying he is untouchable by human ignorance, scorn or abuse.

2. Blasphemy laws compromise religious freedom

Some Christians are keen to oppose blasphemy laws in Muslim countries because they're used against Christians, but want to retain legal sanctions against blaspheming the Christian faith in their own country. There are laws against blasphemy in at least 14 member states of the EU. The UK abolished the offence in 2008, but Northern Ireland retained it. Six US states still have blasphemy laws; the Massachusetts one threatens prison and a fine for anyone who "willfully blasphemes the holy name of God by denying, cursing or contumeliously reproaching God, His creation, government or final judging of the world, or by cursing or contumeliously reproaching Jesus Christ or the Holy Ghost, or by cursing or contumeliously reproaching or exposing to contempt and ridicule, the holy word of God contained in the holy scriptures".

That law's a dead letter, though it still exists. But this is the point: if we defend the blasphemy law in a Christian country but not in a Muslim one, we're playing the world's game. We aren't actually saying anything different about how faith works or about the God in whom we believe. We're still saying he needs defending by law. And once we concede the principle that it's up to the state to decide which religion should be defended and which doesn't, we have stripped away one of the key protections of our own faith. Because the best defence of liberty for some is liberty for all.

3. We can witness to a better way

No idea, no argument and no religion should be beyond criticism. That's how it is tested and refined, and how it becomes stronger. Sometimes criticism is hostile and abusive. And yes, it hurts when sacred things are sneered at by people who don't understand them and don't value them. But the question is how we respond to these attacks. It shouldn't be by trying to stop them. Instead, we should answer with grace, patience and wisdom. We shouldn't try to stifle them through using the law. And while we can be robust in rebutting serious criticism, we should never respond with resentment or bitterness.

God does not need us to be angry on his behalf. All too often, that's just a sign of our our insecurity. Instead, he needs us to witness to his loving grace.

We need to be confident enough not to care about blasphemy. God can look after himself.

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Religion / Re: Blasphemy: My Bitter Experience In Kano by tobechi20(m): 11:17pm On May 14, 2022
Congratulations you are alive
Politics / Re: If You Are Assigned The President Of Nigeria For A Day. You Number Law Is? by tobechi20(m): 9:08pm On May 11, 2022
Ban Bride price and prostitution

Or legalize bride price and prostitution.

They are same
Politics / Re: 2023: Ogbonnaya Onu Resigns by tobechi20(m): 9:07pm On May 11, 2022
Igbos are law abiding

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Religion / Re: Egbe Donates Land For Deeper Life University by tobechi20(m): 1:42pm On May 08, 2022
SAMAJ:
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Your English language is terrible. " Donator". It is called 'Donor".
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Thanks for the correction. But dictionary has a different view

Religion / Re: When You Have Sex With Someone Not Your Married Spouse by tobechi20(m): 10:26am On May 08, 2022
It is your dick. You decide how to use it
Religion / Re: The Worst Sin Is Not Sexual Sin, You Will Only Kill Yourself by tobechi20(m): 10:22am On May 08, 2022
Wrong sexual education

Religion / Re: Why Do Many See Church As Problem Rather Than Solution? by tobechi20(m): 10:21am On May 08, 2022
What problem has religion solved
Religion / Re: Egbe Donates Land For Deeper Life University by tobechi20(m): 10:20am On May 08, 2022
Even after donating the land, the donators will still pay high school fees

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Religion / Re: Why My Target Is No Longer Heaven by tobechi20(m): 10:17am On May 08, 2022
So you prefer to go to hellfire after knowing God
Religion / Re: Aftermath Of Covid-19: Why Are Some Church Workers No Longer Dedicated? by tobechi20(m): 10:15am On May 08, 2022
Did you realize that many people lost their job as a result of covid and are working twice as hard to make half they used to make. This means they cannot afford the luxury of time and ten percent reduction from meagre salary means a lot to them.

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Romance / Re: Lady Stylishly Gives Her Number To Another Man While At A Party With Her Boyfrie by tobechi20(m): 12:32am On May 07, 2022
Men marry many wives even though they love the first

Women too can give phone number,date and marry even though they love their partner. What is good for the male is good for the female

At least Polyandry is better than F*ucking dogs

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Religion / Re: Polygamy And Christianity by tobechi20(m): 9:00pm On Apr 29, 2022
You try sha
Family / Re: Facts About Quiet People!!?!?? by tobechi20(m): 8:57pm On Apr 29, 2022
Good. They don't like polygamy

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