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All the people listed are lions no doubt but if a group of lions are led by a flock of sheep the outcome is easy to conclude.

Lalasticlala what is your take on This?

Renderhelp:
Their love seems real...unlike most contract celebrity marriage

When the self interest is very compelling on both ends we usually see real affection.

40,000 kwa! Mini stadium capacity in Togo..

Issokay

Crazy lawless country...all they know is to send condolences and write R.I.P whilst ignoring the main cause of repetitive deaths.

JESU! How will he cope? I pray he doesn't do something funny cos the shock is just too much...

kenwhawha:
Nigerians in America, 70% are Igbos.
Nigerians in UK, 90% are Yorubas.
Nigerians in Germany, 90% are Igbos
Nigerians in Italy, 90% are Edos
Nigerians in Middle East, 90% are Hausa-Fulani.
Nigerians in Europe, 70% are Igbos
Nigerians across the world, 70% are Igbos

Where did you get your statistics from? So wrong.

Even me wey I be man never do up to 20 women when my age is far above hers...

pocohantas:
I can see you changed the title of your thread.

Do people bother about these things in reality?

As in, two people that found themselves attractive and deserving of each other, would start worrying about who loves and respects first?

Are these things mutually exclusive?

You will be amazed to know how many marriages have collapsed as a result of this subject matter.

pocas:
No problem, we have heard.

Let me add it to the other books on how to live peacefully with men. We would read them all.

Lol!

ZWorld:
After wave of xenophobic violence at many foreign nationals, South Africans bend the knee, begs Nigerians and others for forgiveness.

In what looked like they're under a spell, they knelt for minutes under the hot sun in their numbers pleading for peace and unity.

Watch The Video Below..


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VdF7KiM1zgA

See more:
https://zenithnaija.com/xenophobia-south-africans-bends-the-knee-begs-nigerians-for-forgiveness/

Believe this and believe elephants can fly.

jospepper:
Some collected all plus extra yet they are still irresponsible.

lol! certainly there will always be exemptions...

goodmorning40:
Broom on a child?
Its an abomination

Check the landing area..it is hitting or beating a child with the handle part that is an abomination in Yoruba land even when we are not really sure of the facts..

I will never forget the day the Alignment tool was used on me simply because I refused to wash plates when it was my turn......these days they will tag it Child abuse...If only they know the power and positive impact of strict discipline...Till date to leave my plate unwashed after eating scares me...GOD BLESS OUR MOTHERS

NwaAmaikpe:




The only reason I turned out perfect in life is because my parents meted out all of the above on me.
They were even ingenious enough to use telephone wires as whip on my back any time I faltered when doing the Almighty pick-pin.

You must have been a very obstinate child even to date...lol!

JESU!

Please feel free to add yours...

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In those days our parents especially our Mums did not spare just the rod but also everything at their disposal to instill discipline into our lives and that is why many people who can relate to these must-have grown up to be very responsible.

Here we go...

starbuck:
Dad's old notes �

Chai! That means I can give birth to you.

theButterfly:
Before I reply you, could you translate the "base b'eru la b'omo" for me in English, pls. I only understand the
"Ori o j'ori" part.

A slave child is given birth to the sane say we give birth to the free child.

lyntiffany:
and you forgot the part of the bible that says seek ye shall find...... I am proud of the woman I am and am quite certain that they are other women like that out there, you only need to seek Toks and definitely you shall find.

I am not seeking for anything ...NO CARRY LOAD PUT FOR MY HEAD. Nah simple write up.


So, in essence, you dey talk sey you get all these attributes...Then you must be an angel.

GrossPrice:
My mother's all this!

Most people can conveniently say that about our mum but how many ladies of today have such virtues?

What exactly does Proverb 31 say?

PROVERBS 31 VS 10-31

10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.

11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.

12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.

14 She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.

15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.

16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.

17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.

18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.

19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.

20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.

21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.

22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.

23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.

24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.

25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.

26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.

27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.

28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.

29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.

30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.

31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.


It will take an uncommon miracle to come across a lady in this 21st century that will have all of these virtues ..

theButterfly:
In the words of 9ice:

"Respect is reciprocal
Ori o j'ori, base b'eru la b'omo".

This is a very destructive mindset.

No head is more superior we know but it is what it is....women should respect their husbands in order to experience the love they so much crave for.

LordKO:
What I deduced from your submission in particular and references in general is that religion is an object of subjugation truly.

Well, for all I care and know, respect is a major constituent of love (goodness) and it doesn't discriminate. It's earned, not given, politeness and self-esteem beget it - I only hold brief for people who're sane.

Right without responsibility denotes mental parochialism in particular and insanity in general - so, a leader is one who knows the way, goes the way and shows the way. Leadership/to lead is all about assuming responsibility.

In summary, conscientiously - not neither logically nor realistically - there's nothing wrong with married women who believe that the way they act should be dependent on how they're treated by their husbands (the supposed heads/spiritual heads of the house). Once more, a leader is one who knows the way, goes the way and shows the way.

All these grammer On top wettin?

Charles1888:
I had to create a new account for this

I don't know how to get through to my wife anymore, of which the fault is mine, when we were dating, she showed that she was committed to me and loved me wholeheartedly but I was reluctant to marry her cos she was of age, I wanted someone younger, say under 25, but something important that i have to acquire made me marry all of a sudden and she was the only one available, don't get me wrong, I loved her then, her peaceful and humble soul but for some reason I simply can't understand I felt she wasn't enough, but I was wrong, she was perfect, the best I can ever wish for and more, she is everything,

After we got married, you know newlyweds now, the quarrels about every little thing, it was much then, so this particular incident made me so worked up and angry I made a statement I shouldnt have said, during the heated argument I told her that she was never who I would have married, that she wasn't my specs, she was too old (31 lol) that if someone younger was available I wouldn't blink twice before I'll marry the person.

After saying all that, I wasn't sober about it, she held on to that statement, I knew she cried that night, since then we don't talk, play, gist anymore, we became distant, though I apologised the next morning but things isn't just the same anymore, communication isn't there, she only talks to me when she wants to ask or say necessary things, nothing more, though she still cooks, we still have sex, infact every other aspect is fine except for communication, anytime I come back from work and I'm in the sitting room, she doesn't stay there, she either goes to the room or dinning room, I have begged and begged and I don't want to involve third party cos I obviously caused this, when she got pregnant, she didn't tell me till I saw the strip, when I asked why she said she forgot, and we had plans to celebrate when she takes in, I was sad that day, I begged and asked to tell me anything she wants and I'll do it, I'll make it up to her,,she said she wants nothing that she is fine, I love her, she is my baby, we use to be gist buddies, I missed that and I want it back.

I don't know what to do anymore, it's my fault I know that and I'm sorry I ever said that cos it hurt her deeply, I told her to tell me more evil things so that we will be even, she said she can't that she loves me, we are drifting apart, I can feel it,

Pls help me folks, I came here becos I want anonymous advise, what else can I do to make the hurt go away?

Words are like eggs...once dropped that is it.

I honestly don't know what to say but my advise is that you try to convince her the more by your acts of love.

How old are you really for you to see a 31 year old as old for you?

Women Need Love and Men Need Respect but the problem is that men want to be respected before showing love to their women whilst the women want to be loved and cared for first by their men before showing respect to them and this has been a strong bone of contention for ages even in matrimonial circles.

One of the biggest mistakes many married women make is that they believe that the way they act towards their husbands should be dependent on the way they are treated by their husbands but this is not true and a total deviation from Scriptural teachings...IN FACT, IT IS THE OTHER WAY ROUND...

The Islamic Sharee'ah stresses that the wife is under the obligation of obeying her husband. This remains unless he commands her to disobey Allah The Exalted. She is required to obey him and exert her utmost effort to fulfill his needs in a way that makes him satisfied and thankful.

This is supported by the hadeeth where the Prophet, said: “If the woman performs the five daily prayers, fasts the month of Ramadan, maintains her chastity and obeys her husband, she will enter the Paradise of her Lord.” Likewise, Allah The Exalted

And also in the Bible...
1 Peter 3 vs 1-2
"Wives, in the same way, submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words but by the behavior of their wives when they see the purity and reverence in the lives of their wives."

This is very simple and straight forward...GOD wants unconditional respect from the wife towards her husband EVEN WHEN THEIR HUSBANDS DO NOT OBEY THE SCRIPTURES...by so doing, the husbands will be won over by their acts and draw close to GOD.

This is not expunging men from loving and caring for their wives and no right thinking man should treat his wife badly even if she does not respect him but this verse clearly places a premium on a wife respecting her husband WHICH SHOULD NOT BE DEPENDENT ON THE WAY THE MAN TREATS HER and by so doing, the man will most likely love her back and treat her so well beyond her wildest dreams. This is very difficult but I believe there is a reason GOD wants it this way...

Show me a man that divorced a submissive and respective wife and I WILL SHOW YOU A MAD MAN.

No matter how sweet a lady may seem to act towards her husband and no matter how a lady thinks it's best to express love to her hubby, if she fails to respect him then all she does will be efforts in futility

TO MEN, RESPECT IS LOVE...any other thing is secondary.