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realtalk19:
Mr toks2008, for the fact that you have Neva seen a guy dump a lady that struggles with him doesn't mean they don't exist. Why wuld a lady that stuggle with a man suddenly misbehaves at her man's success.

So ar u saying a man that has a girlfriend that stood by him and after he suddenly become successful has every reason to still have other girlfriends.?

Ar u encouraging polygamy or licence to have more than one girlfriend and the main babe shuld be cool with that and every form of cheating?

I am not encouraging polygamy dearie...IT WILL HAPPEN IF THE GUY WANTS IT. Polygamy is not a sin but a choice.

blackangel0403:
Hi guys, I i need your sincere advice pls.

My sister is a divorcee with two kids she is solely responsible for. Life has not been fair with her.

Finally, God brought a cute man who is based in UK her way, the man is willing to marry her and take her to the states, he has come to see our parents and also took her to see his, they have agreed to tie the nut in December this year.

The guy is currently in Nigeria and has been begging my sister to get pregnant for him, my sister knows for sure he will marry her once she is pregnant but doesn’t want to so that pregnancy doesn’t stop her from meeting other guys pending when he comes to pay her dowry. Note, they met in the club but the man still overlooked it and still proposed marriage to her.

Sincerely speaking, she wants to settle down with him but her problem is that she doesn’t want to get pregnant and stay alone all by herself pending when the man will take her and the kids to the uk, she wants to take in when she has moved to the uk, but then she is scared she might loose him before then as they are already having misunderstandings been that my sister likes hanging out with friends and going clubbing which doesn’t go well with the guy.

Now the guy is having double mind on if he can go ahead with the marriage or not, I have adviced her to take in for the man and by dec her dowry will be paid but she is adamant, pls what is the best option for her in this situation?


Take in for this guy now he is in Nigeria and secure him or wait till December and risk loosing him, note he is a very cute guy and every girls dream, my sister also is tired of life and wants to settle down, if she takes in now, by dec her pregnancy will be 3 months, she is also bothered abt wat people will say on why she took in befor she was married to the guy, my parents also especially my dad will frown at it but dey don’t know that life has not fair with her and she needs a man to call her own. Should she careless abt my parents and what people will say and take in or wait and do the proper marriage before she takes in?

She is 35 years old with two kids, no other suitor insight too.

Why is your sis still clubbing when she knows the guy does not like it?

As per the pregnancy let her wait till she lives naija to avoid story that touch.

If the guy leaves her cos of clubbing then she is to blame but it the guy leaves cos she refuses to get pregnant then good riddiance .

Krystal28:
I’m Polynesian Samoan by ethnicity, but that a first lol I’ve heard for mixed race people

Yes they have very high libido.

benji93:
Ok now, Oga I beg sorry, so patapata kra you were 23-24 then, so we are still back to the original threshold, which is 45

You have no idea how old I was. Back in the days we graduate at 19 or 20.

Jewessgratitude:
Not so true.

The few ones i dated are ugly but it seems the ugly ones even do worse. in fact, in short, all men are the same, handsome or ugly.

Ugly man wey get money no ugly o.

OmoAlata1:
I am confused by this paragraph. Please expantiate

Very easy to comprehend. Ma yo mi lenu.

benji93:
I checked the link, and i couldn't help myself but laugh. He was at least 27 in that picture, so let's say 48, hehehehehe . But you people no good ooo, why you no concentrate on the message? It's nice to know we have elders here

You dey craze... who does NYSC at 27?

Krystal28:
It not worth the risk of losing the love of your life for a fantasy shag that probably last longer in your dreams, than in reality.
I personally have a high sexx drive, but I don’t do promiscuous sexx, even when I was single. I would rather touch myself, than engage in the act, and I just used that method to handle my urges. And it works well for me, because even when being in a relationship, I never had the heart to cheat, even if my body betrayed me. My mental state was always in control.

Are you mixed race? Cos I learnt that mixed race has high sex drive.

Krystal28:
I think the illusion wears off rather quickly, especially if it an infatuation or lustful desire, which most times it is when your wanting a man that taken for instance.

I mean who really wants a man that already married or tied down? It would have to be someone that either very desperate or someone that you don’t bring home to your mama.

My advice would be for those whom want to settle down, marry someone or be with someone that loves you more than you love him, because a man that madly in love with you, won’t stray from you.

No matter how many beautiful women cross his path.

Very very true.

This is why I don't pity any lady who cries of heartbreak cos she must have taken a guy who truly wants her for granted just to shook head into an affair with a guy who just wants to take her for a ride.

realtalk19:
Not all struggling guys you build a life with appriciates that sacrifice after they eventually make it. That when you don't fit into their kind of class and they eventually dump the babe that was there for them and go for the attractive and classy one in vogue.

I have never seen one naija guy who dumps a lady that was there for him when he was a nobody EXCEPTS THE LADY IN QUESTION MISBEHAVES.

That a guy has a side dish does not eally translate to unfaithfullness which is where many ladies always get it wrong...they feel because they were with you when you were nobody then you must never be with another lady so when this happens they tag the guy ungrateful and unfaithful.

MKO Abiola had more than a wife but he can kill anyone who toys with Simbiat the first wife who stood by him.wjen he was nobody.

koyyess:
The worst is when a female gives a responsible looking broke negro a chance, only for him to become a demon the next minute.

Abeg let the women be.

Even negroes have their taste they go for and it doesn't stop at the ideal female possessing 'wifely' qualities.

Ned was ones a nobody. But look at what happened. A smally is reaping where she did not sew.

Where is his first and only wife of his youth?

But she is cool with polygamy.

This is my point unlike some ladies who go want a rich man n will be expecting faithfulness.

Make she retire abeg...the 19 year old babe still dey strong and very fit.

Lalasticlala I guess this is cool.

MzBertty:
This film and the tribunal is on 9jarocks.com

The site is full of crazy pop ups and I can't even access the contents...will find a way round it. Thanks

MzBertty:
This film and the tribunal is on 9jarocks.com

Oh I see...i will check them out. Thanks

Guys wey dey patronize prostitutes dey try.

Nurumaxy:
that woman strong gan. the day i saw a python in the bush i was working i run pass usain bolt that day and the snake no even see us o e just dey on e own jejely na so we go stand ontop rock dey look am as e dey move go nobody get d mind to near am talk less of kill am. if na the other way round watin for happen? na fearful mind i take work for that bush dat day.

Pythons are endangered species of snakes cos they have no venom.

Lalas247:
Sweetheart how's the family.... So u remember me today..
I got the call see u at the beard gang after party... If you are bringing plus one pls ensure they have a beard. Strict bouncers at the door

Lol! I don't ever forget a sweet heart but no reason to communicate ni.

I'm fine and how's your little angel and oga at the top.? My regards.

Laurene:
I don't like guys that keep beards

When you see well groomed beards you go change mind...

Lalas247 will love this thread. The babe and beards matta no be small thing.

Taniaa:
That number 5 is silly tho.

Unfortunately that is the secret to marital longevity.

SIRTee15:
naija British girls get there own wahala....
Like when it comes to dating, everything must be at their own terms and condition....
Omo they so complicated...
Even at work place, u have to be careful how u relate the with your female colleagues....
They read meaning into everything...both verbal n non-verbal communication....

Bro wettin dey pain me pass nah the fact that for naija we have better hotter calmer babes wey no dey worry. Now I understand why naija guys dey always rush home come marry.

If they are talking to you and you keep listening it is called discussion...the moment you object them they see it as confrontation and they end the discussion. Infact I just feel many of them have one form of mental illness cos of the way they think and act.

InventTech:
how do rapists even get an erection??

I have always believed intimacy must require a 'balanced' state of mind and considerable 'cool feeling mood'

Check my profile for the best laptop deals.

Same question I keep asking. How do they sustain the erection to Rape? Except they are under the influence of a substance.

If I touch a lady and she starts showing no interest I no fit continue sef let alone raping her. Rapists are beasts in human form.

Kingdollar28:



People dy misuse opportunity ooh...

Choi me wey dy find anyhow country wey I go put head gi hustle tight.. na hin my guy see better country like UK...go dia begin find puxxy!

He is cursed else I see no reason why he should attempt such.

U.K ladies are so complicated that you must exercise caution even before you talk to them so that they wont accuse you of assault or infringement on their space. This is why many of them are so miserable ...imagine jailing someone for attempted rape no be sey e don do am.

A lady in U.K can open her legs to a man and still turn around to claim assault and get the man jailed without fair hearing.

Esseite:
Just imagine the way he even involved himself just to buttress the lie and demonize Nigeria.

"I was in the operation, video was taken by me, i spoke to him, he is a Nigerian"... the heart of man.

I weak walahi

ItzLaw:
Where are those Nigerians hailing Boris for appointing cabinet in time? He appointed his brother and now the latter knows the former is a disaster to British hence, he opted out. It's not about doing it in time but doing it right.

I'm sorry bro but is it that you lack the ability to read or comprehend? Gosh!

Breaststroke:
Point of correction, he hasn't married her yet. He is still making the same noise, he has been making since 2017 when he got her the porsche.

Why is it taking so long to marry her? Clearly, money for proper marriage rites is not an issue.

If the rumours are true about Chioma's pregnancy then she's the 4th baby mama (waiting to be married)

I suspect, the pregnancy and massive publicity of this relationship, are now pressure points compelling him to be ''responsible'' and marry Chioma.

The whole of Nigeria is watching, he will chop the worse xenophobic attack of his life, if he backs out now (which is why he is following through with more noise)

Please leave the word responsible out of your vocabulary when referring to David, he is not responsible.

Ok ma. I concur

Breaststroke:
I beg to differ, there were two baby mamas before now he didn't marry. He still got this latest one pregnant out of wedlock before he decided to marry her.

This dude is not responsible from where I stand. I think he publicized this relationship so much (too much) that backing out of it now, would bring backlash from the general public.

I feel like the publicity only mounted pressure on him, compelling him to now marry Chioma. Justin Bieber wrote about being the most loved celeb to becoming one of the most hated celebs on social media.

David will face a similar fate if he doesn't marry this girl after all the noise he made, you know how vile and mean our people can be with comments on social media. The cyber bullying may even cause him to be suicidal.

Modified: I read some comments above which suggests David has a 3rd baby mama in Ibadan. If that's true responsible is not a word that can be associated with David.

That is my point, it is only a responsible guy that will profess so much love to a lady as he did and still went ahead to marry the lady.

Forget all other baby mamas cos i can tell you for a fact that they threw themselves at him. I have stopped judging the responsibility of a celeb by the number of baby mamas he has cos many ladies worry these people no be small and as a guy who understands what it means to be chased by ladies i will never blame any celeb who has baby mamas.

I still give it to Davido.

godwinkessi:
Davido too love this Chioma. I’ve never seen any man love and adore a woman this much. Talk more a celebrity who knows he can knack every girl in Africa and probably in the whole world

I am so impressed i must say. The fact that Davido is getting married to Chioma at a very young age is a pointer that the dude is responsible.

chalantmike:
I would pick crazy sexy, cause if you understand a person, their strength, their weakness then you can navigate it, the key is acceptance, acceptance is power instead of expectations.
If I don't expect you to cook, cause you don't genuinely know how to cook good food, no harm is committed.
You are a lady, a woman doesn't mean you must know how to cook, after all there are men who cook better than ladies.

Thing is no matter how good charactered a lady is, as far as two people are coming together, there has to be compromise and adjusts. So it's really not about good or bad character, most times it's about who is submissive and who wants to dominate, naturally a man wants a submissive wife, and women are expected to be submissive.

There is no bypass for marrying someone you are not attracted too, except cheating outside. When attraction is zero, it is zero.

A temperament change is very possible, no matter how bad but attraction ain't like that.

Nice one..take this cool down.

shogsman:
This is stupid,we have more important things to worry about.

The thread makes sense but It ought to come up latter at night.

Mutemenot:
Living with a beautiful woman with bad character will make you think your manhood is dead .. there's a saying "happiness is the primary cause of erection" so don't joke with good character, it's a key to matrimony

Is there really a good or bad woman? I think it depends on the way the guy handles her.