₦airaland Forum

LUCAS99:
I don’t really know who to believe anymore...

Opinions on Nairaland tend to be really biased...

Ladies on Nairaland believe Guys are the problem Meanwhile on the Other hand Guys on Nairaland believe Ladies are the problem...

Op my best advice to you would be to go back & reconnect with one of the Girls you went to High School with...

You remember Amaka, Adaobi & Chineye...

Those ones that gave you a chance in High School...

They dated you because they love you because you didn’t have to spend anything on them...

Those are the ones you need to go back to...

Now if you didn’t have any Girlfriend in High School tend start attending Nigerian Churches & Nigerian Ceremonies called Owambe Parties...

Usually I will recommend Redemmed Christian Church of God, Winners Chapel & Deeper Life Bible Church if you’re based in the United States...

There are eligible Bachelorettes with Good Paying Jobs available...

You can start attending Youth events & develop familiarity from there...

But don’t go to Church & start womanizing, that doesn’t end so well because Bad News spread very fast especially in Nigerian Churches...

If the two options fails, then look around really hard & you should be able to find a White Girl that should be Marriage Material...

You can sign for Yoga Classes, Cooking Classes & even the gym...

You should be able to find someone as long as you’re outgoing...

As always just play your part & God will play his part...

There is no Magic Formula to finding the right woman...

cococandy:
Say what you know

RTSC:
I believe you, cococandy.

That face of yours is hot cake. I am sure you can get any dude you want, if you were still in the dating market.

cococandy:
You’re really taking Nairaland ramblings of ignorant folks seriously?

People who have reasoning faculties still understand that they can find good women anywhere. Nigerian women in USA are hot cake. Don’t let some heart broken urchins on Nairaland tell you otherwise.

These ones probably got left behind hence their painment.

TaminaliaCatapa:
This has been worrisome abeg, I don’t like the idea of bringing any gf from Naija come marry, they mess up real bad.

The Naija girls wey dem born abroad sef, they ain’t any way different from foreigners wey go dey tell you to start sharing house chores 50:50 with dem. There is nothing bad if I do those chores in my own volition, but making it a duty for me is a no-no.

Reason why I cant marry white is obvious, the very immediate point I just made up there, some won’t even let you take your kids back to naija coz it’s shîthole

Please, if you are a
1. Naija married man in a foreign land
2. Didn’t marry here in naija but abroad

How did you get married and what type of woman is she.


Please we wanna learn

boomssey:
Please from a sister to a sister let him go.I don't see any sign that he loves u as u proclaim here,yes it would b difficult but trust me u will thank me later but u just av to let d Sally wag go!

lilianofentse:
Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and I love him more than anything in the world but I'm so fed up with giving chance after chance several times now I've caught him messaging other girls inappropriate stuff and I've forgiven him and then a couple of months later when I've built my trust up with him he will do it again, he also deletes all his messages so that i can't see them all which just makes me go even crazier not knowing what has been said.

2 weeks ago I found out he physically cheated on me which he said he was never planning on telling me. Since I've said we can work on our relationship, spicing up our sex life making more of an effort but it's only me that's making the effort. He isn't trying even tho he says he loves me and wants to be with me and not anyone else.

Tonight he went out with his friends and I waited for 5 hours for him so he could meet with me, instead he wants to stay at his friends because he hadn't finished playing a game. I'm so done with getting my heart broken all the time and making all the effort it makes me feel like it's all my fault the problem I have is I still love him so much but I don't know if i can keep putting my self through this all the time.

He knows how to s.ex me and I also knows he loves me but what I can't understand is why he keeps cheating on me.

Modified: Ps I am trying my best to forget about him. Pls any advice on how to forget him would be appreciated. tnx

Ugosample:
monogamy is a western ideology


Bros you need factory resetting slap!

that's all I hsve to say


To think I used to like you and your posts

punk ass

Nickijoy:
Prophetess that cannot get her own husband.. is that one a prophetess

cococandy:
One man one woman is heretic?

But you claim you don’t cheat on your woman.

So you’re a heretic. Or you’re naive.

Confused bloke .

Briller:
My Friend sharrap if you have nothing to say. If it is not a problem or a sin as the case may be, so why didn't he make it public. Why marry in secret. That's the nonsense and double-standard lives that God hates.

cococandy:
He was just lying about her cheating

When a man like this claims to have divorced based on infidelity on both sides (as if he’s trying to hold himself accountable) then you know he must be really really guilty.

DECENCY3:
I guess they have die hard followers who will be shouting daddy, mummy up and down.

I just my foot. Mtcheew!!

theoldpretender:
Takeaways from the video

1.The Bible is very clear....adultery is WRONG.

2.Yet we have the respected pastor of a church, sleeping with another woman apart from his wife, and at the same time the other woman is busy competing with his wife. The mother of his children

3.Pastor says the wife cheated on him. Well.....there are biblical ways to deal with the cheating.

4.And I wonder...why hasn't the Pastor Iginla stepped down from his headship of the church? He has sinned.

5.Either way, the Church of God in Nigeria has a sin problem. If after years of being 'born again'...a pastor and his wife and the mistress cannot learn that adultery is a sin...hello....are you guys chirstians or irreligous.

6.And let's be frank....the reason why Boko Haram, and economic crisis is tormenting the church is because the head has problems. This is the how manyeth time this is happening. Remember Ese, and the pastor whose actions chased her away from the faith?

Nigerian Christianity is in serious trobule. And we are going to keep on suffering and suffering...until we look at how sin has entered our house and is wrecking us to bits.

7.Also, we treat our pastors like superstars. PASTOR IS NOT A SUPERSTAR. PASTOR IS NOT A SPECIAL BREED OF CHRISTIAN...AND THAT INCLUDES ALL the daddy GO'S, THE setmen, etc.....they need our prayers, and they need to be held accountable. We have not been holding our pastors in prayer,...and we don't hold them accountable. We think that they have some special connection to God because of the miracles etc that they do. Well....SATAN has pastors high on his target list....so they need to be held accountable.

8.And we Christians...many of us CHRISTIANS...forget that Christianity is a 24 hour thing. Doing your job as a cleaner well...or as a office worker well, or as a teacher, doctor, etc...well...is the same as winning souls to christ. Yet...many of us are Sunday Sunday christians...and something else the rest of the time. Christianity is 24/7....we better wake up.

P.S...Pastor and his wife should go and get their marriage healed...and they should repent.

theoldpretender:
No, because he broke his vows to his wife. He broke the promise he made before God and man to 'have and to hold, etc'.

Look...I don't know what you are insuinating. But....what the man did was wrong.

I know of a guy. a Christian , who left his wife and went and married another woman. Not only was his wife hurt...but his children too were hurt.

Keep in mind. God sets rules for us because he knows we are weak, and we need His rules to be strong.

Would you leave your wife...and sleep with another woman? Be honest. Would you tell your children that you want to leave their mother for another woman? What if that other woman too isn't to your liking? Would you leave her too?

Is faithfulness something that you don't like.? Because all I see is that you don't want to be a faithful person?

theoldpretender:
No, because he broke his vows to his wife. He broke the promise he made before God and man to 'have and to hold, etc'.

Look...I don't know what you are insuinating. But....what the man did was wrong.

I know of a guy. a Christian , who left his wife and went and married another woman. Not only was his wife hurt...but his children too were hurt.

Keep in mind. God sets rules for us because he knows we are weak, and we need His rules to be strong.

Would you leave your wife...and sleep with another woman? Be honest. Would you tell your children that you want to leave their mother for another woman? What if that other woman too isn't to your liking? Would you leave her too?

Is faithfulness something that you don't like.? Because all I see is that you don't want to be a faithful person?

theoldpretender:
He could have gone to another religion or started his own religion, or whatever.

You don't have to be a Christian by force.

And for me as a Christian, Jesus is clear. A man leaves his parents, cleaves unto his wife. It did not say wives.

Yes, I am aware of polygamy in the bible...and all the polygamous marriages recorded in the bible had issues.

Besides....in addition to what Jesus said..generations of Christian doctrine have favored monogamy

If you can't do it...you ask God for help...or you leave and do your own thing. Life will go on. No one die.

zoedew:
Hmmmm!

Matthew 7:15-23
“Beware of false prophets, which come to you in sheep's clothing, but inwardly they are ravening wolves. Ye shall know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes of thorns, or figs of thistles? Even so every good tree bringeth forth good fruit; but a corrupt tree bringeth forth evil fruit. A good tree cannot bring forth evil fruit, neither can a corrupt tree bring forth good fruit. Every tree that bringeth not forth good fruit is hewn down, and cast into the fire. Wherefore by their fruits ye shall know them.
Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven. Many will say to me in that day, Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name? and in thy name have cast out devils? and in thy name done many wonderful works? And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity.”

#dontgodownwithjezebel

theoldpretender:
Polygamy or polyandry won't change much...people will still cheat.

Thing is, once people learn they can't have everything they want...self control becomes a bit easier.

Plus, the guy is in a religion which prescribes monogamy. If he can't stick to monogamy, like many of his co-coreligionists...why pretend? He should have left ages ago. Nothing would have been stopping him

theoldpretender:
Of course...nothing would happen, pastor will keep his church...and his family would be broken.

And when Nigerian Christianity keeps on suffering....and we ask God why...God will tell us...Because you have sinned.

Time for repentance. We have sinned...and God will soon deal with us...if only to make us repent.

ikewaterwater:
Photo of South African Prophetess, Stella, who reportedly had a baby and also got married to Pastor Joshua Iginla who announced the end of his marriage to Pastor Yemisi has surfaced. This came after Pastor Yemisi accused Stella of warning her to share her husband or risk losing him entirely. See photo of the South African Prophetess who had a baby and got married to Pastor Iginla below; 


https://unclesuru.com/2019/03/10/photo-of-south-african-prophetess-who-had-a-baby-and-got-married-to-pastor-iginla/

Brock1:
How about human suffering as to ur explanation of death

UceeGod:
True God cares about the soul of man but soul isn't the part that connects man to God but the spirit.

The soul (mind, emotion and will) is meant to be subject to the spirit of man.

The spirit (intuition, conscience and communion) is the part that coonects to the Spirit of God in order to live a God centered life on earth.

dingbang:
we saying the same thing.. If you now know that it must happen then there is no need asking Why God allows it.. Think.

dingbang:
There are some kind of deaths that are caused by human errors.

Daeylar:
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All this rubbish you posted doesn't refute her point that Men are not a necessity.
The fact that some women choose to take what they can get from the men after all men are already here on this earth and sharing this earth with women, still doesn't make you men a necessity.

It's Heartbreaking I know. As I've seen that men like you are so conceited entitled and delusional enough to have deceived yourselves to think that men are at the center of a woman's world and without men women wouldn't "exist" (the levels of narcissism it takes to say without men women wouldn't exist)
but the truth remains Men are not a necessity.

Joromi12:
yet at 45 u never still marry lol