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desreek9:
Oh God, we the married ones with handsome husbands, keep our marriages for us, no matter the trials and temptations, amen

sexybbstar:
So he has been married for the past 12 years ? He still looks good. I followed him on Instagram yesterday. He's really cute.

DancingSkeleton:
Me vs mods , for wasting my vaseline

lodgerill:
UK-based Ghanaian actress, Efia Odo has shared with her fans another life moment with her experience back home in Ghana.

The actress who is visiting her homeland is sharing updates with her fans in the diaspora as she keeps sharing photos and videos of some exciting moments home.

A couple of photos published on “Swag Of Africa’s” Instagram page suggest that Efia Odo is the new African Queen an Amazon warrior. She posed in Hot bikini photos at the Beach and her fans are going crazy already.
See more Photos at;

http://www.lodgerill.com.ng/2017/12/uk-based-ghanaian-actress-efia-odo.html?m=1

Baskela:
Paul said every woman should have "her own" husband. Putting the phrase "her own" clearly condemns any scenario where a woman would have a shared husband so Paul clearly condemned polygamy.

I advise you study the scriptures yourself too, and explain how Paul saying every woman should have "her own" husband permits polygamy.

That sentence given by Paul is in the English Language and it very clearly condemns polygamy. You should explain how it doesn't.

And if you search the scriptures, you'd find that tithing(compulsory giving) has been abolished under the new covenant.

So just like tithing, polygamy has been abolished too.

Jesus Christ has redeemed you from the curse of the law, you're no longer under it, don't try going back to it by justifying polygamy.

Peace!

obowunmi:
Indeed, polygamy is not a sin.


Monogamy is a choice.

Baskela:
Again, you attempt to twist the scriptures. Jesus said I have come to "fulfill" the law. Has that been done? Yes, Jesus Christ fulfilled the law on the Cross. So you are no longer under the law.

Romans 6:14- For sin shall not have dominion over you: for ye are not under the law, but under grace.

On polygamy, except you're calling Paul a liar, he clearly condemns it in 1st Corinthians 7:2

So you're no longer under the law. And who said anything about tithing?

Baskela:
You asked if the Bible condemned polygamy, I quoted a portion of the Bible that clearly condemned it in the New Testament. If it wasn't a sin, would the Apostle Paul condemn it?

If Paul says every woman should have "her own" husband, would it make any sense if two women share the same man? Did Paul really have to say it's a sin before we know it's a sin?

Jesus said thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself. Did Jesus really have to say don't hate your neighbor before we know hating another is a sin?

I think Paul was very clear, he wouldn't condemn it if it wasn't a sin.

On the Old Testament argument and the mind of God, God accepted stoning an adulterer in the old testament, why doesn't he accept it Under the New covenant?

Why don't you quote a passage under the new covenant supporting polygamy? 'Cause all I see are old testament laws that have been done away with.

Toks2008:
Why did God allow polygamy in the Old Testament?
The Bible does not specifically say why God allowed polygamy. As we speculate about God’s silence, there are a few key factors to consider. First, while there are slightly more male babies than female babies, due to women having longer lifespans, there have always been more women in the world than men. Current statistics show that approximately 50.5 percent of the world population are women. Assuming the same percentages in ancient times, and multiplied by millions of people, there would be tens of thousands more women than men. Second, warfare in ancient times was especially brutal, with an incredibly high rate of fatality. This would have resulted in an even greater percentage of women to men. Third, due to patriarchal societies, it was nearly impossible for an unmarried woman to provide for herself. Women were often uneducated and untrained. Women relied on their fathers, brothers, and husbands for provision and protection. Unmarried women were often subjected to prostitution and slavery. The significant difference between the number of women and men would have left many, many women in an undesirable situation.

So, it seems that God may have allowed polygamy to protect and provide for the women who could not find a husband otherwise. A man would take multiple wives and serve as the provider and protector of all of them. While definitely not ideal, living in a polygamist household was far better than the alternatives: prostitution, slavery, or starvation. In addition to the protection/provision factor, polygamy enabled a much faster expansion of humanity, fulfilling God’s command to “be fruitful and increase in number; multiply on the earth” (Genesis 9:7). Men are capable of impregnating multiple women in the same time period, causing humanity to grow much faster than if each man was only producing one child each year.

Baskela:
Ist Corinthians 7:2- Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

If every woman is to have "her own" husband I don't see how the man would be "her own" when he introduces another woman into the picture. So yes, the Bible clearly condemns polygamy.

serverconnect:
This one wey them breast done fall, na virgin too.

CaptainJeffry:
I just love Pastor Chris and his teachings.

Julivas:
Toks, I must confess, you are a brilliant scholar, but come to think of it God says this is the reason why a man will marry a woman and become one flesh.

Genesis 2 : 24
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife; and they shall be one flesh.

Julivas:
Brilliant submission no doubt, but can you please tell me the reason why God took only one rib from the ribs of Adam to create Eve?

simsay:
It's none of your business if they end up lonely and desperate, they made their decision, respect their decision. If cheating was the cause of the breakup, why not address the problem, instead of asking someone to adjust with the problem.
You want to know if am a lady so you can look away from the topic and focus on the gender with all bias. If more men stand for what is right, things could actually be better.
Hey, that you pass through a road doesn't qualify you, cos you couldn't endure the thick and thin of the road before you gave up. Did u study womanology or the study of women, my guess is no,do you have a wife- no, have you trained a girl child upto the university level- my guess is no. Are you a trained marriage counsellor, if so, where is your certificate.

Guy, u can't give what you don't have. You failed in your marriage (the bitter truth, marriage doesn't work for everyone, fine, but for a self acclaimed marriage counsellor, you dint even take your own advice in choosing a life partner) and it seems you have deep seated issues with women. You should be seeing a psychologist or a certified marriage counsellor instead of advertising yourself as one.


And this is where I drop my pen.

simsay:
What would be your reaction if mercy Aigbe where to go online and become a relationship expert? Everyone has a right to express themselves and anybody can learn from anyone's experience.

Relationship and marriage is a very delicate matter, such that, if you are looking for a mentor, the basic standards is Someone who is happily married for a long time whose marriage has gone through the thick and thin. Such person will go as far as telling personal experiences, how he solves disput with his wife, the secrets to a lasting marriage.

But you come online and tokunbo tells you it's OK to cheat on your wife, women just have to deal with it cos there are no better men out there, then you absorb it and treat your wife shabily, hurt her feeling, she becomes withdrawn and start looking for someone to fill the empty space.
Am not saying that all he says on this forum is wrong. But look at the thread on women being their ownworst enemies and see how men and women are calling themselves names. I feel so bad reading such. But it makes toks feel accomplished which worries me.

simsay:
You need to understand that as there are different cultures and traditions, so do their interpretations to relationships and marriages differ.
Some cultural practices of marriage is wrong like marriage conducted between children as we have in India or marriage to minors as we have in some religion. For such people, the world is putting them under intense pressure to change their culture.
There is nothing as such as static culture. The Africa we have today is not the same as the precolonial era, so as the interpretation to relashionships
Moslem men are allowed to marry as many as 4women, if a woman decides to live with that, that is her choice and everyone should be happy for her.
In christianity, it's one man and one wife, the standard will never change. If you are a Christian man, you must never haveconcubines or 2 wives, that is the standard. Of course there are Christian men who cheat and there are lots of men who remain faithful to their wives, and yes, women are allowed to demand faithfulness from their men.
A man whose his wife cheat on has the choice to stay in the marriage or leave. A woman who makes the same choice should be have her choice respected. Not everyone can deal with a cheating partner and must know that.

Now, there is nothing as such as cheating is in a man's DNA. The truth is cheating is in everyone's DNA. Everyone has the capability to cheat. There are women who also cheat on faithful men. The difference between a cheating partner and a non cheating partner is a word and that word is selfcontrol.
Now, more girls than boys are taught self control from childhood, such that it becomes part of them more than their male counterparts.
Things are so bad with our men such that we hear cases of men sexually harassing their own children, househelp, even babies

We all need to step back a little and train our men how to have self control instead of trying to configure women to accepting a cheating husband.

We now leave in a difficult world were baby girls can't be left in the hand of their fathers, uncle,brothers, friends. Don't u see its a serous problem.

We need teach our men, women inclusive of how to respect other people's privacy more importantly self control. The lack of self control as I said earlier is what leads to cheating and don't forget, everyone is capable of cheating.

And please don't bring up, this is Africa rhymes. There is no static culture, if we teach our children, teenagers and even adults right, we will have a better future.

aight:
if you believe in god ask yourseft how did god come to exist

simsay:
You put yourself in the position to be trolled, a self acclaimed relashionship expert that can't put his own house in order. She was the best thing that happened to you, really, but you just couldn't fight for her, for your marriage, isn't it. Well am not suprised, you ruined yours, and you are teaching others to tow that line with this hates on women topics.
Everytime you create a topic here, you further create a wedge between men and women. They come here hating on each other. You further empower misogynists.
And some simple minded people take in the garbage to their own detriment. At the end of the day, you have ruined someone's relationship out there.
Stop, this thing you are doing toks, it won't help. Look inwards first and put the pieces of your life together. If all you think of is how bad women are or could be, that is all you will get.
Like I said earlier, how much do you love the women in your life, take out time to appreciate the women by creating a lovely topic. Love changes things toks, when you truly love, we will all see it

simsay:
Well done op, you are really worse than I thought, you became an addict to nairaland to gain supports from sociopaths like you who share in your sick ideologies. Look for how to deal with your depression. Someone who is a failure in marriage is not by any standard fit to advice anyone about it. If she's as bad as u paint her, how come u married her in the first place, with all the write up on nairaland, how come you choose wrongly. How come is it that you dint live by your own advices. What if she isn't the problem but you are. You think and dream of how to hurt women's feeling then come here to put down those thoughts.
Tokunbo, or whoever you are, you need help.

missyQween:
You would have save yourself the stress of typing all these.You saw the disclaimer, You should have simply ignore it and move on but you decided to say yes and then you still come back to rant.SMH

asawanathegreat:
Nothing to write home about all those white men. Naija guys Beta pass them.

GloriaNinja:
ONE WOMAN IS NEVER ENOUGH FOR ONE MAN, WHAT'S THE POINT OF GETTING MARRIED IN THE FIRST PLACE?

Benita27:
RIP English.

simsay:
[s]Op will always find everything wrong about the women folk. Do you have any woman in your life at alleged . Do you appreciate them. When will you create a topic to appreciate them. I think I can guess why your marriage dint work. You may have expected to much from her than she can give. You sound like the complaining, nagging and the unsatisfiable kind of person.
I will advice that you get help. Most of what you write here are from your head and it says a lot about what goes on in your mind and life.

Forgive that woman that hurt you, forgive your exwife, if you miss her so much, call her and set things right with her instead of coming here to pour out your frustration on the women[/s]

tomtyte02:
You dont know if this makes sense? Bro, you have jedi-jedi from too much sense. Thumbs up.

InvaluableGem:
There are still some morally upright men dear. Not all are as shallow as you. It is shallow mentality like yours that make most marriages crash.

It's a different thing that a man fell into temptation but going about with such entitlement mentality will make you a marital failure. The word is called cheating and you feel proud to be a cheat and still expect your unfortunate wife to be grateful to have a cheat as her husband. Such efontery.

Lalas247:
That mouth though ... very good for

Red bottom gang ... oshey