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shaybebaby:
Because the society is more open-minded. Tell me why a black girl will be friendly when she is constantly being exposed to the sort of mindset that prompted your write-up?

I am friendly but I'd be mean to you too if I discovered this thought process.

shaybebaby:
Now we have a male like you talking sense. Or is there anything he has pointed out that is detrimental to you menfolk?

Icon79:
Not all men cheat but ALL men are capable of cheating. And to be quite honest with y'all, it takes the grace of God for a dude not to cheat. Nobody can live all his life eating the same dish every freaking day. You gotta change diet occasionally ... variety is the spice of life.

Anyway, what I am trying to say is that it takes the Spirit of God and some level of self control for a man not to cheat.



O pari

shaybebaby:
I don't know them type girls.. Black or white.

Now I see why you reason the way you do. You need to move out of Lewisham.

shaybebaby:
So you are here. Don't let me meet you then, I'll put you on blast.

shaybebaby:
If you are then you must have lived a hard life of suffering.

tosyne2much:
Mo gentle egbon mi... How Yankee how?

shaybebaby:
Agbaya ti ko danu(someone help me with the translation)

Proudgorgeousga:
it is exactly what you are agbaya

Proudgorgeousga:
according to mysoginistic toks2008 you are asking too much.

winnar:
Toks, a man that decide to cheat in the first place, should know that his marriage is already doomed.

All i am saying is..., Respect your vow. Dont do to your wife what you wont like her to do to you.

Am i asking for too much?

KreativGenius:
Funny enough,if ladiesapply these truths, their marriages would wax stronger, than look for reasons to bail on any excuse, i call it the " bail-mindset". Ask any woman that stayed in marriage long enough, they'll give you a thumbs up for this glorious piece. If thie thesis now holds for so many women that stayed in marriages and later enjoyed, when then the heavy protest against it. Alas, while enduring many women also ended up in grave too. So bro, please can you be a bit stronger on guys too in upcoming posts? Please. Mehn need to stop turning marriages into cemetries. We have enough marriage-induced death in Nigerian marriages !

winnar:
Yea, we really do.

A gal will just be enjoying her singlehood with all happiness, before you know it, one man will now come and carry you to alter, and beg you to be shagging only his dyck, and he will also promise to be shagging only you oo. All this promises are before People and God ooo.

Tomorrow he will break his promise and expect you to keep yours. Is it not selfishness of the highest order?

Incase if they dont know.., the same way men feels tired of one punny and want to explore.., is the same way ladies feel tired of one dyck and wants to explore too.

Nobody has the monopoly of cheating. period..!!

We are all humans and the men should not forget that.

KreativGenius:
oP, listen to the ladies, use more of " couples ", but who knows without the controversy in your writing style, would this thread have garnered much views?

tosyne2much:
Nice one egbon Toks

XYZo:
No matter how much a man loves u. Don't want mean he can't eye another lady, he will respect u do much but give him his space , don't choke him up and see how much he will regard u. Don't be too snoopy, looking for xzibits on his phone. Just free ur guy and love him, watch him love u in return.


Research has shown that the percentage of divorce in first marriage is 50% , second marriage is 65+% , third marriage is over 80% . So why not calm down and make yourself happy but be wise

But the part I disagree with you is, when a man becomes violent to his wife, my bro, I'm not saying divorce him o, but leave that environment for your dare life. If you have been a good woman to him. Trust me he will come pleading n begging. No, don't just accept yet, let him moil and toil a bit, to get u back to the house, and mind u. At the first attempt he tries that to u. Take it up against him, if he tries it and u don't react like this, he might increase the tempo some other time. No matter what, a man should never hit u. But stay on ur lane too, by not running your mouth insulting him as u like. Men hate that. Even if he is wrong , men love respect from their wives.

shaybebaby:
Great. So when men cheat serially, they are unrepentant so have no place in our lives again.

winnar:
But, you told us our men will always have a side dish.., and we have decided to follow that advice.

So if all our men are having side dish.., who is faithful then?

Let me tell you what you dont know.., if you keep preaching all this your "men cheating sermon" You are only sowing seed of distrust in marriages.

Hence, breaking of marriages instead of holding them together.

You come to Nl to type how a woman shd stay put in her marriage even if her cheats on her.

Do you know how it feels to see a man you toiled with, suffered with, gave your world to.., to cheat on you?

To some women who are emotionally weak.., it destroys them forever. some it turns them to a wreack.

I expect you to preach and understand that women are humans too, they have a limit to what they can endure and take too.

If you know what you cant take.., Dont dish it to others, even if she is your wife.

Joy1706:
But you said he will cheat na. No need waiting. It's best I prepare well in advance. And it's my side guy that will be my intimacy gadget.

KreativGenius:
I said this to you earlier,and i'mma repeat it again. A lady came to my domain recently, and i looked at her and i chuckled.

She's been married ten years now. Not asingle day of her been beating or the assualtsother ladies get, guess what, including myself, and at least ten folks, we are felt it was a no-brainer. They both had just 40-45% compatibility. She and her husband are constantly around me so i'm privy to inner details in her relationship to some extent.

Guess what makes the relationship still up-standing till today?

The point you raised in number nine. Forgive, tohave a good marriage, compatibility or notcompatibility, forgiveness ranks higher, and for hearts that holds plenty of it, along side with patience, nothing can rock such a boat, becase it's not built on the pedestal of i can't be wrong, but rather, i'm willing tolet go, look away, turn the side, turn a new leaf, start afresh, press on, continue, challenge, turn the other direction, tweak it a bit, make moderations, in order to achieve an expected objective, which is a successful marriage !


The opposite of such forgiveness is self centerdness, self preservation, self love, self obsession, self ideologies all in the bid to psychologically have the upper hand at such times, whereas in marriage both parties shoul be intertwined and become a single being.


May God give us wisdom, a heart that understands, a mind that takes heed, and a heart that is flooded with the light of the truth. When the heart is flooded with the truth, it swallows up lies, soif seeds of lies germinates in our hearts, its because we have vile in our heart and all the requirements for it to flourish, the battle is half won in our hears. We should read books like Battle field of the mind by JoyceMeyer

Safiaa:
No, the question was specifically directed at you. I want to know what exactly you would do in this situation. Your wife simply got tired of the sex life at home, and decided to creep out, just to explore. You find out she's been sleeping with another man for some time. Do you keep calm and provide condom usage for her as you don't want problems? After all, it's very balanced, and this is what you're preaching. Please let me knw.

winnar:
yea, I agree. Healthy rship.

Tell this to op too. Let him focus on healthy rship. and stop this his crusade on how " women should be smiling when their husbands are cheating".

Joy1706:
My dear ladies, there is only one thing to do to ensure marital peace. GET A SIDE DUDE. Then nothing your husband does will worry you. Whether he's cheating or not, not your concern after all you'll be getting good loving on the side

Joy1706:
So women are the heads of the families after all. I mean since the success of the home is majorly in our hands

Safiaa:
I have one question for you. Would you provide condom usage for your cheating wife? Please don't tell me this bullshiit about women cheat with emotions, both genders derive pleasure from sex and I may simply want to taste something new outside. Sincerely, do you provide a condom for me? Let me know

Yewandequeen:
Smiles, your are wrong.

I supported the write up cos it's appears many bail out on their marriages at the slightest sign of misunderstanding or lil problem. And all I see to Op point is for people to stay in marriage and make it work and no one is perfect .
As my pastor will say God hate divorce. Stay in your marriage and try every to make ur work, see your pastor, counselor etc.

The truth is no one is perfect we all, we all are trying to be. For example, you court someone for 5yrs believing you already know each other and within the blink of an eye you hear head impregnated someone, or the girl got pregnant for another, or either of of them just says he/she is tired of the relationship or at the slightest provocation one stabs the other to death.

See its only God that can help one, there is no logical or mathematical reasoning to marriage. The institution is a black market, we just need to be be at peace with ourselves before we can go transfer it to our spouse.

If you see my opinion as a shame, it's fine. It is a free world and we all are entitled to our own opinions.

KreativGenius:
Not all men are cheat. Many men and women are cheats, but it's better we go into relationships with less expectations in this world of ours. One can committ and swear they're faithful, but when you hire a private investigator, walla ! For me, it is my dogma not to let my thoughts wander, i can't come and die because i'm monitoring something jare. I rather focus on life, career and my objectives. The stress from thinking where a partner can be or is with can wreck one's peace.


By the way, i've seen some ten years relationships close hand without cheating. It's plenty in the society, stop letting social media taint our minds. We won't stop seeing people as evil if we keep letting social media affect our judgement

nawtibownie:
Hmmmm... This thing takes patience.

Naughtysite:
For you to use the word LADY and REALISTIC in thesame sentence, bro, are you okay ?

You often hear them say, YOU DECEIVED ME, even for guys whom they love.

So just find a girl to deceive and she is yours.

makydebbie:
Benny can you imagine? I should go to the alter, and say "I do". With the stupid twisted mentality that my husband would one day cheat on me. Is that not me stupidly subjecting myself to bondage? Because in the hypocritical society we live in, 'women are not supposed to cheat but cheating is in men's DNA'.