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yeyerolling:
Uk pple wey go soon claim irreconcilable differences

Nah their way..but if one party is a citizen and the other party is not,they will say its marriage scam.

I have observed one trend in U.K and that is the single mum trend and i begin to wonder what is responsible for that...my answer...the ladies are very unrealistic because they spend their lives looking for a faithful man upandan even the single ones with children.

Rather than for them to look for a man that will remain with them as their companion,,they start complaining about a man being unfaithful to them and i begin to wonder why ladies refuse to get it...Any woman looking for a faithful man to marry should just forget marriage..YES you just read that. They marry their own,they still break up,they marry foreigners they still beak up..Funny

Lalas247:
Just booked my space will be back when it gets to the promise land hope u r well

Yes o,im good.

Benita27:
When a bill is passed it becomes a law right? And when laws are broken, offenders are punished. The gender equality bill isn't to drag roles with men, this is what most people think it's about. Women have been marginalized in the society based on some customs and traditions which should be modified 'cause the world is evolving.

Exactly the point..

Lalas247:

Hi miss curvaceous,what's your take on this piece?

Lalasticlala I'm sure you will find this very insightful.

Vikky014:
Lol will send you a what app msg ASAP

I'm not in Nigeria at the moment so it won't get through cos I have changed my wattsup number.

Vikky014:
Yes. Mr Toks. you have forgotten me nah.

You see yourself...prejudice.

I lost your contact and I had hoped you would call or send me a watts up message.

How are you?

Please send your mobile number to olakoredeh@gmail.com. it's been a while.

shogotermies:
thank God, his green card is coming soon...

Check the couple out and you will know this is not about green card. Sweet young lady and a sweet looking guy..great match.

Abasha

Vikky014:
Something is different,
not like it was before.
I'm doing my best but I feel like I'm just not good enough to be loved and cared for. It's going to be his loss one day. will definitely move on.

Sorry is this vicky my good friend? I lost a certain vicky contact on my phone and i have been trying to get her User ID on nairaland.

tosyne2much:
Owa ooooo.. How your babes for abroad nah?

Babes lol! how I wish you know how far.

tosyne2much:
A very good one oga Toks

Sometimes in life, you have to slightly lower your standard before you can get the best in life. Many married men and women today actually found themselves getting married to that very person who was probably below their standard.

The earlier you know that you just can't continue to live by a particular standard, the better for you


There's a whole lot of sense in this write-up

Tosyn bawoni/ iyawo e nko

Aboguede:
Toks2008 my man na so oh. Am i munich. You

Somewhere in U.K

Aboguede:
Toks2008 you right but to set the record straight, i am simplylookinh for a woman to help my status and i dnt really mind yhe age so far i can get erection with her and am nearly 30 and a journey man at that smart and speak gud english.

Anyway respect

I understand but you will be amazed that if you see a younger lady who proves to be a good woman,even after getting your stay,you won't leave her...we guys are not animals and as pets,we are likely to remain loyal to a lady who treats us right..paper or no paper.

I wish you the best.

gypsey:
Though some nigerians not only nigerians marry to stay in the country but some of the marriages are real, i know nigerians who marry young and beautiful English women and are still married with beautiful children, so in the case of this guy it could be that the marriage is real, there is no need to assume otherwise.Afterall we have never met them.

My point exactly...As a single guy presently living in a western country there is no crime if i choose to marry and build a life there and if I see a beautiful younger western lady today and she is willing,I will marry her and stay married and same goes for countless Naija guys.

But in the case where the younger ladies are acting like emere what do you expect from the guys?...continue to beg them when older ladies are dragging you right left and center.

iamJ:
see bio nobody cares
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Chai lwkmd! Naira land is one hilarious online forum...rotflmao!

Aboguede:
RESPECT TO TOKS2008 you be wise i see am.
Me here just enter germany and i go soon carry my own.

Who get tym for hugry naija girls if nobe to wip anr drup

It is simple logic but i wonder why these ladies just dont get it.

The two questions any western lady approached by a naija guy should ask are these..

1.Is this guy truly single?
2.Do i want him?

If the answers to these 2 questions is a YES then she should just take the risk cos no woman on earth can categorically say that any man truly wants her but if she is indeed a good lady with a beautiful soul,the man in question will remain with her till death,

But look at your case,you are there and i can bet that the lady you have in Nigeria if any is as good as forgotten which means if you find a younger beautiful lady in Germany to be with,you will likely be with her till death but whilst you are trying to make them understand that you really want them,they are busy nursing fears and stalling and for every one younger lady you look at,be sure to have 10 older ladies look at you.

Now time is ticking,you wont be there forever cos your visa has a dead line..you want to live and work hard legitimately and marrying a cirizen is no crime under immigration rule so at the end you settle for one of the older ever willing ladies and people will start saying you are an opportunist..how dumb.

iamJ:
oga, if u knew anything, u wouldnt be on this forum still looking for front page, ur mates that knw somtin have created blogs, websites and have best selling books, no be to sidom write 3000 thread since 2008

Lmao! Apparently i enjoy creative freelance writing and i dont need to make 1kobo from it cos i just love it as a passion.

And talking about frontpage you should know by now that it is not about obsession for it but most of my writeups are too insightful to remain in hiding which is why i call the attention of lalasticlala and leave him to decide.

I would advice you to use your free time to do what you love doing..this is one of the things i enjoy and as a senior member of nairaland,i can only channel my romance writeups mostly towards advising the female folks in a wicked selfish world of men. #Stophating

Kingx4sure:
Most ladies are just naturally confused. Those dramas are pure display of confusion.

She wants a tall, dark, popular, friendly, good Christian, good mannered, caring, rich and handsome man.

When she finds one that close to the unrealistic specs. She terms him Mr nice guy. Or weakling.


She meets a rough guy

Drama everywhere... Women usually want the men who dont want them.

iamJ:
its not a crime to seek attention, its our nature to seek attention, some just knw how to use,bear and handle it beta, everything u do is attention seeking

the dress u choose, the dp u use, the phone u buy, the hair u do

abeg we are all attention seekers, the ignored ones are the hypocrites singing in the choir

seeking attention has levels bro.

RETIREDMUMU:
chai this op care about woman than any thing on earth, are u studying womanlogy good write-up up there

by the way we all cant be perfect

lol! just trying my best to save them from this cruel world of men.

iamJ:
so a coward is not insecure? i love girls with attitude, drama queens are my food but u have to be fine and rich to make me enjoy it

stop saying things based on ur feelings u knw nothing, where have u been to?

just sidom click create thread type nonsense, some people just like having fun, causing drama and being insulted is somtin i enjoy a girl that can take insults and not get offended catches my eyes, is she insure because she likes being very direct? oga stop its not by force to do thread, go and make books, let people burn it

if the op knw anything, he will have left nairaland since, since 2000 he is still doing olodo threads begging for front page without being paid

Drama king spotted.

Are you the type who just loves to be the center of attraction?,the star in your own soap opera and you enjoy admiration from men,old,young,single and married...are you the type who just sets standards for yourself based on your own opinion and not the reality surrounding you?.You derive great joy in the number of likes you get from the pics you put on social media and praises from people are the elixir you need to be happy.

Maybe you are the type who never let things pass as you are ready to show the world how discontented you are and it will take GOD to apologize to you before you let go of grievances?,somebody spills wine on your shoe and you gain half a pound with no sense of proportion in expressing your anger,opinion and suggestion.

Do you usually complain in every spa,salon,restaurant that you visit?. you hardly find your taste,the vegetables are never quite crisp enough. you expect perfection from people around you and those close to you should anticipate your feeling and complaints.

Are you the type that expects every man that approaches you to be "your standard" and woe unto that man who falls below your expectation as you are sure to wash him down with your eyes and make him know where he belongs?

Are you are in the league of the single ladies who prove "Hard to get" for guys that approach you as though you have a crystal ball to detect good guys from bad guys...you would only interact with anyone you believe you like and cutting yourself away from anyone you believe you don't fancy forgetting that those you fancy and like might not even care if you live or die and that guy you feel is your type might just be the one that will send you to an early grave.

In my opinion,i strongly believe that drama queens suffer from a subliminal low self esteem and insecurity and they only try to cover up with the drama they put out. Real people and responsible men run from drama queens but bad guys crave to tame them and prove to them how insecure they are.Calm down,be humble and let real people fill your world.

Don't know if this makes sense.

Amarabae:
Does it mean that an older woman cannot find love with a young guy?
What if they are in love?
Let's give them some break, as long as they are happy with each other.

Amara lemme ask you this question,

Why do you think sugar mummies and daddies spend so much on far younger lovers?

I laugh when people just write trash about an oldie and a youngie being together..it is very myopic and foolish to talk down on them cos they know what they want in that affair.

We have been reading about Toke and the billionaire old man but what many dont know is that if it is true,that old man is ok to spend lavishly on Toke just to have that freshness for just one day.

In most if not all these green card marriage things,these older whites know that the guy wants a green card and they are ready to give the guy for the price of having him to herself for a couple of years before the green card is finally given to him.

A young hustling guy wooes a young lady una go say nah broke guy,now he don marry oyinbo for better life una still dey complain..smh!

AngelicBeing:
Www. Marry an ancestor= green card, after few years, divorce her and go marry your real wife, Na today, next news jare

The irony is that most of these guys who marry older women are left with no choice considering the lame drama the younger ladies act all in the name of either proving hard to get or fear of being used and dumped as if other men from all around the world dont use and dump women...If a marital breakup is between two western citizens,it is called irreconcilable differences but if it is between a Naija man/woman and a western citizen then it is scam marriage..Arrant rubbish.

A young man goes to dating sites or to western countries just to get a younger western lady to marry for real,stay together till death and as well get a green card to beter his life but what does he get?.rejection from the younger ladies due to various reasons and whilst the young drama queens do their madness,the older ladies are always willing to let the guys into their lives even when they know they might still leave them but they are ok with that 2 or 5year union with a younger blood..afterall not many marriages survive even up to 2 to 5years. it will surprise many to know the extent a 50something or 60something year old whity man or woman can go to be with a black male or female in the 20s,30s and even early 40s even if it is just to spend one week with them let alone 2 to 5years before they are possibly dumped...

I have been there and i know what im implying,..it is the timidity of the younger ladies of the western world that usually drives many young naija guys to marry a mismatch but if the younger ladies are more open and daring,they will realize that most Naija guys who marry them will remain with them till they grow old. A man got to do what he got to do and if the desirable is not available,the available becomes desirable. End of story

GNT:
From the few matured and immatured girls i hav interacted with within my Vicinity, it shows me that ladies are weaker vessels and men have really capitalised on this to Toil with their emotions, sweet lies, heartbleed, heartbreak. Ladies shed tears everyday somwhere because of a Man and when they get over it and their heart gets Solid for the meantime, then they come up with "I CAN DO WITHOUT A MAN" but they cannot. I even saw a lady on a monday morning tryna Dust her car by hersef and it wasnt fit for her at all. A boy or man is needed here.

Now Remember that Law in Physics: States that to Every action there is an egual and opposite reaction. The action of men is what led to Reaction of some ladies comin up with som lines like #Menarescum...#Teamsingleandhappyladies

Later they resulted to #Wecandowithoutmen which has birthed Op's Question.......Sadly It's a man's world, but sooner or later women will do without men as some men have started doin without women Already......

Insightful.

Lalasticlala just recommending.

lalasticlala:
Watch the wedding video of the late son of Ex PDP Chairamn, Bilyamin Muhammed Bello and Maryam Sanda who stabbed him to death


https://alexis.lindaikejisblog.com/photos/shares/5a16c5b0006ea.png


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HjOqRmqR9PQ?list=PLMgLYyo3mS5x7LEygukJoscBekpsocpfB&t=260

Shey you can see that i just dont create threads because i love writing....i don see things..I think this thread should make front page tonight..long overdue.
https://www.nairaland.com/3835190/dangerous-desire/1

I am looking for a wife,she must be GOD fearing,sexy,and hard working...I earn over N600k a month. No PM...if you qualify drop your picture here...

Dry bones shall rise again.

Seun, please can we have miss Curvaceous Nairaland.

Eke1:
Women are already hating women in this thread

Lalasticlala will mediate.

ReinaFarine:
Because I was brought up in a society where I was meant to think I have to compete with millions of girls for the attention of a 'man'

And instead of us joining hands to build ourselves for men to envy us, it seems easier to point out supposed flaws, bring others down to feel perfect... Instead of you teaching me how to have a nice skin, and me teaching you how to understand budgeting and financial management, and she teaching us how to dress like a lady and on and on, we concentrate on pointing out what others are lacking at sohhat we'll feel better about ourselves...
Do I think it is a sexist comment, Yes, kinda....
But is it true... Hells Yeah....

I grew up a tomboy... So I don't understand hair and make-up and catwalks... And I used to feel insecure about that... And I still do to an extent.... It never bothered me before... Guys around me weren't complaining about my looks or my vulgar mouth... It was my fellow ladies that started the snide little comment... And I don't blame them...

Right now, I can see they were threatened by my closeness to the guys in school and they threw rocks at the area I was lacking... #Fashion sense... And I didn't help matters... I had the vulgar, insultive language of a teenage boy and I made them feel like shit about areas they invest effort into.....

But over time, I had to grow up... I take insults and attacks at me as places I need to work on...
When a girl calls me olosho, I watch my interaction with the opposite sex and amend a little...
When she calls me a stuck up bitch.. I try to improve my interpersonal skills...
When she takes a shot at my power of English I read...

Instead of attacking her, I work on the aspect she's correcting in her own verbally abusive way....

Threatened by another woman... I am who I am and as hard as it is to be who I am, if I see anybody, man or woman playing underhanded games to disrupt my career, I call you out on it... I don't have to fight dirty....
I'm strong enough to win fighting clean...

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