₦airaland Forum

Homeboiy:
You again ?

nairamaniac:
Can't believe u WD come out soo rudely to me? U took it so personal, like I was castigating the bride or envied her or was against her happeness/marriage.
Im trying to be as polite to you as possible for several reasons.
But I feel u messed up on this one.

Is there anything wrong in me criticizing/scrutinizing the personality of people I see/meet on social-media.
Or i should be scared of them because they are rich or they are stars??

Mind u, I'm the least judgmental person u can find. I think I even complimented your nose ring few years back. And told you I would marry your twin sister if she was as real/crazy as you are.

But here am seeing an elderly woman in mid-thirties posting all sorts of dirty pics on her Facebook. With transgenders , lesbian having sex, Roman Goddess, women fingering themselves on her uploads and you think its swag or normal?

Mind you, when I mentioned about her second-marriage, I wasn't criticising or condemning her.
I only meant she should be more experience as a person and a wife as this isn't the 1st time she is getting married.

Please my dear, try to argue or discus with people on this forum without prejudice.

I notice you pick fights with people that criticize any female for doing unladylike things.

Toks2008 and tosyne2much may not be right all the time. But your default mindset of them anytime you see their post is "they have come again to bring women down, let me stand up for my fellow women''.

Please take it easy cococandy, no one here is fighting with you.

Try to discuss(argue) constructively and objectively.

Thank you!

cc : funkdafied
Thanks for having my back.

Blonchilli:
Are you sure you're not a copy of me from another universe? You just hit the nail on the head. A made man who picks a wife after he's made only wants a trophy wife or someone who will be a advanced maid. A woman who will keep the house clean, cook food, take the D and reproduce his heir. Most men who married a woman that hustle with him their marriage benefits both parties. Look at the Obama's, Bill and Hillary Clinton I've even met some here in Nigeria. Ladies now wants to settle for being a trophy wife

adeblow:
OP, u are one of the reasons there are broken marriages today. You would come and advice people to get married and when its time to provide resources u disappear.
Please, everybody have their own plan drawn out and coupled together with Nigeria's economic realities, please let the sleeping dog lay.

tk4rd:
There are.. Just that, they may not be the type you are fantasizing

komodapson:
why the name "Ngozi"...
avoid hate speech

Jiang:
Then what's the point?!!!
might as well wait till you get something tangible before getting married & just stay friends till the Hard work pays off, since you both gonna work you ass off plus no kids too

Etfash:
Good one there Toks2008.

I believe when it comes to marriage, the curves, heights etc fade. Those features are very thrilling before marriage. When all is said and done, woman na woman.

Whether or not my wife is slim, curvy or not is immaterial... I love her, not because she is "my spec" but because of the office she occupies. Every wife is a queen, trust me, no matter your status, if you treat them the best way, they will not look out.

With respect to temptation outside, according to a poster, personally, I don't see the temptation outside! Your wife has everything.. The backside and front side are all accumulated fats and proteins, the "beautiful face" is just your idea and you cannot eat it.. Money that will be given to you by a sugar mummy? Why will you stoop so low to surrendering your today and tomorrow to a woman who cannot even be faithful to her own husband? For me, the issue of temptation doesn't even arise.

As for getting married, well, we have seen people who had much do a low key wedding.. Bottom line, just know that whether or not your wedding is elaborate or not, people will remember it for a very brief moment. Your duty is to make it memorable for your woman since that is your gift to her. Making it memorable doesn't mean it has to be too expensive. Cut your cloth according to your material.

Meanwhile, as for children, you can only do your best. Most times, you will always be in the middle. The son of Buhari may think he has the best, but let him wait till he sees the sons of the King of Saudi Arabia. If you cannot afford expensive schools, get them in a okay school and spend time with them. Eventually, they will make it to the highly coveted Federal Universities and be better than you.

My views though..

dingbang:
This one wey no lady comment for this thread...


Toks2008,wetin happen

chronique:
this start from one room talk,get as e be for mouth o.

sirfee:
Oga Toks,you are among the few I respect on Nairaland but we are living in the 21st century.Everything is changed,the point and kill you are talking about is what we have now.


Marriage is overhyped and it shouldn't be a do or die affair,money is a key factor in marriage.

Kingx4sure:
Nevertheless, go for what you want and desire. You never can tell

Boyooosa:
Earlier this year, u sent a similar post, defending it hereandthere, I requested you to give me a contact of the exact girl of your description, you promised to link, after like sixonths (that is, now), av not heard from you.
This is the second time now, am giving u a second chance to prove your point.

sirfee:
On the contrary,poverty is the major reason why many are still single.A rich old man can still marry the most beautiful lady.

Homeboiy:
U have a spirit wife oga

Visit MFM asap

Settingz321:
[b]pls guys advice for you, never mind the op, it's never too late until you are late. Keep calm and have something tangible before getting any lady to marry, those bitches can pretend for so long think about the beefs BTW younger brothers wife and older brother wife when there is no money people treat ur wife and children with little regard.
Only few of these ladies can cope with the little suffering, they pretended as if they never suffer in their various fathers house, once they start living with they can not bath with ordinary water again unless u add detol, they can not sleep without electricity..... They start demanding outrageous things like they never know how ur pocket was before you meet,,,, and before u know they buying all these things themselves without when u know their source of income can't take care of it..... Think about it where do u think they get such money from.?

Guys must be man before getting married if not stay cool and continuing lashing the little sense once out there till you arrive[/b]

Homeboiy:
Tell me, why are u still single at 41?

Spanner4:
how were you able to peer into my mind? Your reply touched me

RETIREDMUMU:
my brother truth gat to be told, no lady nowadays will come for hustling guy than the already made up

Spanner4:


Am looking for a woman,she must me a graduate. Kindly submit your cv..... i dont need slay queens abeh

RETIREDMUMU:
op do u mean i should marry when i don't have the resources to be called a father and a husband.


do u know the meaning of hunger

Rokia2:
Staying married is not the goal. The goal is to be happy while married.


Many been married for 15 30 years but are completely unfulfilled, and miserable.