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Felixalex:
Nigerians don't read, after the write-up he stated how he agrees and disagrees at the same time, probably he is trying to say that at the end of the day the important thing is that u help someone in need.

Maybe he de use style tell us say him too de help but he chooses to keep his own humanitarian work off social media. Nowhere he said what Uchemba is doing is bad/wrong

You are very right.

They are all over nairaland. ..always making unreasonable comments without reading.

R.I P to them and I pray GOD gives their family the fortitude to bear this colossal loss.

Anytime I remember this verse of the scriptures...

Philippians 1:21 For to me, to live is Christ and to die is gain.

I thank GOD that I'm a believer in christ hence do not fear death cos if I die this minute,I automatically start living a greater life in paradise.

If you are reading this and you are yet to accept Jesus as your lord and saviour please do so cos there is nothing in this life....ABSOLUTELY NOTHING.

Do you want to accept Jesus as your lord and saviour this moment?

Just read this loud where ever you are..

"Lord Jesus,I believe you died for me on the cross to take away my sins.I accept and confess this moment that you are my lord and saviour. Thank you Jesus for saving me."

It's that simple...congratulations,you are saved...just find a bible believing church to get baptized and grow in the Lord.

Trust me guys,Asan laye. ..

I give this info a 5 star

TarOrfeek:
That evil spirit has done it again!

Serious evil spirit and she even wrote it online.

To marry sef weak me with all I see online these days.

Radiant1020:
OK sir... But can you tolerate a cheating wife?

And about being adorable, thanks...I'm blushing already

It's a wicked world of men and only wise women come to terms with this...so please never ever juxtapose cheating in men with that of women.

Radiant1020:
I'm surprised by this post of yours cause I've been following your posts for a while now and most of your expectations when it comes to women matters are quite unrealistic

Btw

I'm not stalking you o. I've been a visitor on nairaland since 2013. Became a member this month... So I know some of your take on relationship issues...

The truth is that my persona has nothing to do with my stand view.

I wrote about the need for ladies to tolerate philandering husbands but I don't ever hope to cheat on my wife then why do I ask ladies to tolerate?

Because reality remains reality and because I hate philandering does not change the fact that 9 out of 10 guys WILL CHEAT on their wives so rather than preach against it which won't stop a thing, I would rather prepare the ladies for the unfortunate reality.

I'm a very sexually decent guy and you will be amazed that in my 10years on nairaland no lady and I repeat NO LADY can find me wanting in any regberegbe act and that is why I'm proud and confident to write what I put out.

I'm a prolific free Lance writer and I write on the realities of life and not the way I believe things should be.

BTW you are naturally adorable.

Radiant1020:
I'm surprised by this post of yours cause I've been following your posts for a while now and most of your expectations when it comes to women matters are quite unrealistic

Btw

I'm not stalking you o. I've been a visitor on nairaland since 2013. Became a member this month... So I know some of your take on relationship issues...

The truth is that my persona has nothing to do with my stand view.

I wrote about the need for ladies to tolerate philandering husbands but I don't ever hope to cheat on my wife then why do I ask ladies to tolerate?

Because reality remains reality and because I hate philandering does not change the fact that 9 out of 10 guys WILL CHEAT on their wives so rather than preach against it which won't stop a thing, I would rather prepare the ladies for the unfortunate reality.

I'm a very sexually decent guy and you will be amazed that in my 10years on nairaland no lady and I repeat NO LADY can find me wanting in any regberegbe act and that is why I'm proud and confident to write what I put out.

I'm a prolific free Lance writer and I write on the realities of life and not the way I believe things should be.

Jupxter:
Hahaha, hilarious. I'm in naija it's difficult for me too. Almost all the ones i find no connection at all..No passion for them. It's more or less the same sh*t bro

Should be easier in Nigeria.The point is that it is not about lacking the company of ladies where I am but it's about doing things right.

I'm a believer in christ and I have no excuse to sleep around. If I want to sleep with as many ladies as possible that is no problem but I'm talking about getting that particular lady that makes you fly without wings...that lady whose unclothedness will make you thank God for a good work.

Jupxter:
Fear is usually their fear... As for we guys our own fear is their calmness...WIll they be calm. As we're caught around the same position, what options are you considering personally given the situation of things?

Well one just has to try and hope to see the one I desire and will also want me too without drama or hiccups.

If I am in naija it will be easier but right here it is a herculean task...trust me it is.

Jupxter:
Choose one, sponsor her trip....why r u dulling bro ?

It's not that easy bro but if there is one nairalander I won't mind to sponsor it will be a certain one that is so calm and sweet looking...Though an African but not a Nigerian...I just like that lady.

The second one is American and can sponsor herself but fear is her problem.

Jupxter:
Hahahah, this is so true @ Most times the ones you want are usually unavailable and the available ones are not what you want.

Vut some come and one doesn't recognises it till the moment is gone too...


I rather be single than marry a chick that's less. I'm selective, sophisticated and just way above average to settle for a second fiddle..I rather pull off an Oprah Winfrey !

There are 3 nairaland ladies I would have loved to be marrief to(If they let me) without second guessing cos they are so pleasing to my eyes at least from their pics (I know pictures lie these days but I kinda believe they are what I see)

Due to location issue I can't be with 3 of them and one is located where I am but she is still young to be serious about commitment.

Jupxter:
We're exactly in the same boat, got me some 8 ladies, all mismatch. Damn, like you said the other day, the older the higher the mismatch.

There is something crazy about fate...

Most times the ones you want are usually unavailable and the available ones are not what you want.

Now in most cases,guys go for what is available due to pressure of "when you go marry?"

And most times just after marriage,his choice starts popping up from different corners like a planned work and infidelity sets in and wahala starts.

Jupxter:
Bro we're in the same boat. The drama with ladies is something they don't know is an emotional baggage and a stressor on a man. Just a laid down lady that's down to earth is what some of us yearn for. Have you tried arranged dating? Have you tried some of your female friends hooking you up with females here back home?

I really believe in seeking out a lady of my choice by myself but another issue is that I'm very picky...I can't imagine sleeping about after marriage so I really need to be with a lady that pleases my eyes as in very sexual pleasing to my eyes.

Don't get me wrong...I really have lots of ladies who likes me but due to location problem,we can't be together and many are just a mismatch but those who I really desire are drama queens so it's a crazy situation.

The best bet is just to try more and be optimistic.

Jupxter:
Same as me. But why do simplistic people find it hard to find simple women like this?

My issue is not really with difficulty but the way these ladies go about it.

At this stage of my life I know what I want and I don't need to even waste time courting but these ladies want to be wooed like nothing else...they want you to put up with their drama but I'm just too tired for such.

As a man with no kids and unmarried in a new land and of course one who sincerely wants to settle and build a life, I seek for an unmarried lady with no kid or maybe one with a kid as long as she is still hot but guess what? I mostly get wooed by single mom's of 2,3,and so on and I just sit down and wonder why these single ladies are so full of shakara even when they deeply want a man.

Honestly it's crazy for me at the stage to be pursuing a lady upandan.

Radiant1020:
It'll be difficult for a woman to please you

Funny enough I want to be the one to please her and not the other way round.

Let her just be pleasing to my eyes and let her love GOD...I will cope with the rest...

I'm a ridiculously simple person.

shammahyaro:
cool.. I tap into his blessings

Oya take it.

Nice one.

1. Poor communication:

In every relationship we find ourselves,communication is vital. No one is a mind reader and no matter what it may be that could be a reason for your unhappiness,speak out immediately in a stern manner and not laikadaisically.
Many women are found of calling their hubby's relatives to complain about certain issues meanwhile the hubby at home does not have an idea of how hurting they are concerning that issue.

2. Sharing their marital issue with a male admirer/friend .

Not every guy you know is responsible. We have some low lives that has no regard for any form of decency and it is no news that many guys are in this category.
When you discuss your marital issues with an admirer or a male friend,most times what these guys hear is "im vulnurable,i need you as a succor". This is why most times,when a married woman take solace in a male friend,the end result is usually an illicit affair.

3. Being careless with male friends .

I have always maintained that there is nothing like just friends between a married woman and another man.
If he is not your childhood friend,co-worker,co-student,business partner then you have no business with him.
Many married ladies have a careless habit of keeping male friends indiscriminately and worst still get so careless allowing these guys call them by their maiden names.
I will never call a married lady by her maiden name because just as the name suggests,its her unmarried name but will rather put Mrs,sis,madam.
When a married lady is called by her maiden name,it diminishes as well as tarnishes her respect,image and matrimony giving room for a potential unethical relationship between her and the "just male friends".

4. Seeking vengeance .

Many married lady tend to take some actions in order to prove to their hubby that a sauce for the goose is also ok for the gander but unfortunately this will destroy your marriage more.
When you take a revenge on your hubby by sleeping with another man because he cheats on you,of what use will that be to you?
What value will that add to your life?
Learn to maintain your dignity no matter what because at the end,the shame will all come back to you and as I always reiterate. ..nobody can make you do what you are not capable of doing.

5. Talking down on your hubby.

This is one foolish mistake many ladies do. You and your hubby are one and talking down on him means talking down on yourself. It is one thing to voice out what he did and another to use outright abusive words on him.

In situations where a couple seperates,some ladies will not mind talking down on their hubby with a friend,their family and even with male suitors and i keep wondering if the woman thinks this will earn her any form of respect.

If you call your hubby a sick man then what does that make you? Or you call your hubby an asshole then it takes an asshole to tango with such a man.
No matter how angry you may be,don't ever rule out reconcilation and even if you are never going to reconcile,respect your matrimony with him even if he deserves no respect from you.

6.Moving out of their matrimonial home hastily over an avoidable reason .

What excuse do you have for running out of your marriage?
He cheated on you,he does not give you attention,he took you for granted,he curses you and many more are the excuses married ladies hold on to and i keep asking this one question;
Will leaving solve the problem? Even a divorce is not a way out because its a 50/50 chance that the next man won't be worse so i advice that you confront that problem and try your best to solve it.

7. Believing there is always a better man out there .

This is one foolish thing married ladies believe. That they will get a better replacement.There are more than enough never married ladies out there for the unmarried guys so you will do yourself a great honor by sticking to your husband.
There is really no better man out there and except you are faced with an unrepentant violent man,please remain in your marriage because you will soon realize that its the same cycle we all go through in any union we find ourselves and there will always be one reason to leave any man you are married to.

Many women divorcees realize this too late as they end up as a toy in the hands of randy men,as second wife,or end up single for a long time as many men will believe they are doing them a big favour by wanting to be with them.

If you must throw in the towel on your marriage,make sure you have exhausted all means of reconciliation because i keep saying that it is better to be single at 40 than to be a divorcee at 20 and a 40 year old single lady is more maritally appealing than a 20year old divorcee,funny but true so think very well before you run out of your marriage.

8.Sharing their marital issues with single female friends ..

Like seriously! it may surprise you to know that most of your friends who are still single are not happy that you are married so take your marital problem to them at your own risk.

9.Not looking sexy enough.

If our sultry actress Omotola jalade is looking this sexy after three children then tell me why you can't look sexy too.
Laziness is one big problem with most married ladies.Men get carried away by what they see so do yourself a favour, get that big tummy down and get into crazy bum shorts and flaunt that thing.
We know you cant maintain that sexy look we saw the very first time we met you but at least try your best to look sexy for the next 30years for us after marriage.

10. Never sorry .

Many women are so proud,egocentric and sturbborn to the extent that when they do or say things that are conspicously wrong,they will never or hardly apologize but rather would want to buttress the rationale behind their actions and most men see this as an appalling nature. Be quick to apologize even when you are right..men are naturally egocentric hence the need to bring down your ego to avoid the case of two men married to each other.

11.Geting insecure and monitoring her husband

I have always advised married women to let their men be. Believe whatever he says even when it is clear that he is lieng.The moment you start getting overly jealous,suspicious is the moment you begin to lose your self worth. Don't bother whether he is faithful or not but sternly tell him to play safe if he must be unfaithful and warn him to do it far from you cos what the eyes do not see do not hurt. Yes this sounds crazy but trust me,it works like magic because the husband will likely be on his toes and respect you the more. Remember that a man will always be a man and you can never monitor him
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12.Not good enough in the kitchen and the other room : .

If you are a married lady reading this please don't ever joke with these two places because any woman who knows how to use these two places will most likely have her husband where she wants him cos the way to a man's heart is forever through his stomach and down there.

13.Taking the job of a full housewife.

As you can clearly deduce,being a full housewife is a big job because those who babysit get paid so I quite understand how demanding this can be but nevertheless,don't settle for that,no matter how demanding the task of keeping the home front can be, still do something to be financially independent. Your husband may tell you he does not want you to work promising to provide all your needs but we both know he really can't do that without asking funny questions from you when you demand for money so it is important to have something doing so that the financial pressure will be less on your husband and you can also be self reliant.Being financially independent can also come in handy if your hubby faces any financial crises so take this advise seriously because financial pressure is a great destroyer of marriage.

I don't know if these make sense

https://www.nairaland.com/3867979/13-awkward-things-married-women

queenfav:
Even the men a woman lies stark naaked in bed for, will still cheat if they want to.... It takes a lot of self discipline and the fear of God for a man to be a good husband, it's not a function of what his woman does or doesn't do!A woman should however try to stay attractive for her man.

Must it always be about cheating?

desreek9:
How a man would have an erection without being seduced is just beyond me

Some men sef


modified

For those quoting me pls i'm a female, i made the above statement with my thoughts on rape alone.

Thanks

My thoughts exactly..

Even if I'm seduced and I hear please stop it in a stern voice my something must obey so these guys who rape ladies must have a different spirit.

cassidy1996:
see.... fine babe! where you go?

Mixed breed are usually so cute...how I wish I could have one mixed breed baby.

Adaowerri111:
The guys around you nkor

She has built a wall around herself too long and too late to realize.
Lalasticlala this thread addressed issues such as this.
https://www.nairaland.com/4224018/when-build-wall-around-yourself

Ladies are the most Complicated living thing ever to be in existence.

I see her type everyday,they will keep straight faces when outside,act unfriendly..and will hardly give a guy the chance to communicate with her yet dying inside...go to their closet and you will see orisirisi s.x toys.

May GOD deliver some ladies.

dingbang:
he has repented na

Don't mind that lady...she be tantafoo

JamesReacher:
You can act blind or you want. Check this out, you gave a terribly weak article .

See let me tell you one fact..i don't know it all and im open to learn new stuffs but im just too pissed to see comments that attack a writer or the writeup without making any insightful counter points.

You should learn o focus more on presenting your points like an educated fellow rather than just troll. I will be more than willing to discuss with you only if you can present your points articulately.

Jupxter:
EXPECT AN ATTACK ON YOUR PERSONALITY FOR THIS ARTICLE. BUT THE TRUTH STANDS AND SPEAKS FOR ITSELF. EXCELLENT REASONING TOKS, ONCE AGAIN NICE ARTICLE, AS IT'S DEVOID OF HATE, AND AS IT'S INFORMATIVE, I'M TRUSTING THE MODS TO DO THE NEEDFUL. ONCE AGAIN, WELL DONE BROV.

Thanks bro..

None of my articles have any form of hatred for any gender or religion but the truth is that i cant stop people from interpreting my write ups as they desire.

Lalasticlala what do you think?

JamesReacher:
Toks2008

You reasoned like a kid in quoting the scriptures.

Genesis 2:24
That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.

Dont you know one flesh is a figurative term for it is practically impossible for two people to become one flesh.

If you say it isn't, 'That is why a man leaves his father and mother' this doesnt mean the man would leave his parents like he's walking away from them completely, it simply means a man would start his own family.

You shamed your cultural beliefs by rubbing the term brideprice in the mud. Brideprice is still symbolic in Yoruba culture and it would stand till kingdom come.

Weak article generally.

Im really not offended by your first sentence but im greatly offended by your lack of delivery because i tried so much to see one sense in what you wrote but i couldn't...Could you please try more? gosh!

Lirqur:
It's actually sex with a virgin that's marriage, for both parties. any other sexual partner from that your first cum or from that hymen breaker is fornication/adultery.

Salaam

That is why GOD is always particular about virgins in the bible cos that is GOD'S standard.

Bride price from the Bible are only meant for virgins.

Harddiskng:
Bros. There might be a brother out there, who is about to put his keys in the ignition. Sweating and waiting for you to conclude before he makes up his mind. To do or not to do. Save a life.

Remember the words of the Good Lord; “What you are going to do, do quickly” ESV.

OK then, In about 5 hours I go drop am.

Jupxter:
True. The moment a guy has seen a girl's unclothedness and has slept with her, he has married her, infact he has taken portions of her life with him

Its no longer news that sex is a covenant but my writeup will point out clearly that indeed once you have sex with anyone,you dont need any wedding ceremony again because by having sex, you are sealing your marriage as commanded by GOD.

Jupxter:
Toks i'm not joking with this point of view oh.. I'm not rara





I hope this helps in your building material. Cause i've also been researching on the same subject for a while now


https://www./sex-blood-covenant-prof-chief-apostle-vic-n-ronnie

My brother,this link nah long thing sef.

When im done writing, no lady will be bold to say a guy is not married to her sfter he has slept with her. The world will see my point from the mouth of GOD himself the creator of man and the instituter of that union called marriage.

Let me enjoy the side comments first before i drop the piece.