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blessedvisky:
What does Toks2008 think? Lalasticlala Dominique

Makes sense.

There are sweeter,fresher and virtuous ladies of your class to date.

Leave the high class lady alone but if you must date them,just be patient until they are in their late 30s...by that time,they will even pray for an agbero.

Blackfyre:
Your posts were impressive. Insightful and full of understanding.
May i know the church you go to?

Infact...it is EPIC

Incrizz:
Nah, you don't get it.

When Lazarus died,
Jesus told the disciples the truth, Lazarus is sleeping.

The disciples who didn't understand Jesus replied, If he is sleeping then it's a good thing because he'd wake up.

Then, Jesus told them plainly, Lazarus is dead (human terms)
They understood this one.

When Jesus met the woman at the well,
HE told her the truth, Go call your husband. (Husband being the truth here)(She was one-ing with him. In the spiritual, she was married)
But she didn't understand and replied, I don't have a husband (world definition: no ceremony had been done yet on her, bride price etc )

Then, Jesus told her plainly, thou hast well
said I have no husband.....

You get it?
Jesus was talking spiritual stuff she was "married". She was having sex with the man.
But by the physical definition, human definition, world definition, she was not married. So, in her own eyes she wasn't married.

For the very first time in my 10years on nairaland I must confess that I have never seen anyone with such Rhema revelations such as this.

I will be privileged to know you offline...please if you don't mind,send your contact to my Email and I will add you to my wattsup contact.

You are a teacher of the word and I'm not ashamed to say I'm awed by your tenacity.
olakoredeh@gmail.com

Thanks

To think that some people are praising SARs for this madness goes to show that we are our own greatest enemies.

So many questions to ask.

1.Was there a gun battle?

2.Are they proven guilty?

3.Even the answer for questions above is a big YES whatever happened to shooting of the legs?

focus7:
Ogbeni bawo ni? You mean you are still update with nairaland from far away London.

lol! you can't be too far or too busy to do what you enjoy doing.

How you dey?

predmine20:
I wanna say a big thank you to all those that are in support of these bitter but truth thread and also a big thank you to all those against these thread but is not too late for you to do away with porn viewing.

I will never stop posting on moral ethics because that is one of the disease that is affecting the youths.
Pls don't hate me because of these post instead thank me for trying to make a difference.

Why getting so emotional? just do your thing and get a home at agboju (ignore).

Pornography is everywhere from the streets to the music videos, movies and Internet. ..

My prayer is that GOD should help those still addicted to it. hypocrisy aside...9 out of every 10 people viewing or making comments on this thread still fight a daily battle against it.

GOD HELP US ALL.

jagugu88li:
It's probably the last thing a woman expects to see after going through labour and giving birth.

But for Lucy Hellein, from Alabama, the situation was all too real, reports the Daily Mail

Her newborn son was delivered by midwives clutching her coil – designed to stop her from getting pregnant in the first place.

Since being uploaded to Facebook last week, the ironic photo of Dexter Tyler has amassed more than 71 000 shares to date, the website reported.


She told Metro: "Dexter was definitely meant to be. His original due date was May 4th and even the doctor said "the force was strong with this one.

Although he wasn't planned, my family and I feel incredibly blessed."

Ms Hellein added that it was actually her third Mirena device, which is a hormonal form of the coil, also known as an IUS, she had been fitted with.

Despite being fitted with the 99 per cent effective contraceptive in August last year, she discovered she was pregnant just before Christmas.

She was told she was already 18 weeks gone, suggesting she had conceived just days after it was planted inside her uterus.

Daily Mail
http://www.iol.co.za/news/back-page/look-baby-clutches-his-mothers-birth-control-coil-8954405

This is amazing. Lalasticlala needs to see this.

Could you make the topic more catchy by modifying it to something like...*Shocking pics of a New born clutching his mother's birth control coil.

somehow:
Any biblical reference?

Check page 5 or 6 of this thread and you will find the ones I gave.

Incrizz:
Do not sleep with anyone you are not married to.
Get married in court, traditionally, or contemporary and enjoy the wife of your youth.

Stop live-in relationships.
Do the right thing before God and man, and get married.

Stop the "One-ing" with every Tom, Dare and Harry.

Stop the heart breaks and hurting caused by engaging in illicit sex.

Live holy lives.
Through Jesus Christ this is possible.

Thanks for your insightful inputs.

That was why I created this thread...

https://www.nairaland.com/4224018/when-build-wall-around-yourself

Lalasticlala should consider the article for fpage.

Imagine if this lady is the unfriendly type who has built a wall around herself.

Nutase:
Why marry Akwa Ibom chick when your ***** malfunctions. It's like buying a shoe when you have no legs.

This talks of calabar and aka ibom people and sexual prowess is a facade...

Ondo/Ekiti/Benin ladies are by far more active...

Don't ask me how I know...I read it somewhere...

Tosinex:
Mr op should consider rewriting this misleading article. Sleeping with someone doesn't mean you are married to them, it only implies fornication or adultery which the scripture is against. Then a man shall leave his father's house and be joined to his wife and the two shall become one, and that's after the necessary rites have been taken. Except they are joined by marriage rites Instituted by the law both in the church and in court before they can be called married both in heaven and on earth. Speaking from the spiritual angle, yes you can say both of them have entered into a covenant of bonding through sex but that doesn't mean they are married, and the enlightened partner can pray to break every bonding or covenant from such frivolous activities.

I'm happy you are finding it hard not to contradict yourself.

Enough of the heresy flying about...THE MOMENT YOU HAVE SEX,you have silently agreed with the second stage which is the rites as clearly explained by me and then entering a covenant as you clearly stated...THAT COVENANT IS INDEED THE MARRIAGE.

linearity:
OP delete this nonsense, there is no scriptural bases for it. Those are just your interpretation of those verses, none of those bible verses reached the conclusion that you reached.

Jesus addressed this very situation personally and he reached a position opposite to yours, I will stay with Jesus on this...

John 4:16-18

“16 Jesus saith unto her, Go, call thy husband, and come hither.

17 The woman answered and said, I have no husband. Jesus said unto her, Thou hast well said, I have no husband.

18 For thou hast had five husbands; and he whom thou now hast is not thy husband: in that saidst thou truly.

Going by your analogies, having slept with a minimum of six men, Jesus would have told her that, she have six husbands.

And despite the fact that, she was currently living with a man, Jesus agreed with her that she is not married.

The above is enough and I would have stopped there, but I would like to add that...if adultery and fornication is marriage, then the Bible will be contradicting itself by calling it a sin.

....because the scriptures says...”marriage is honorable in all and the bed undefy, but whoremongers and adulteries, God will Judge.

This is the type of intelligence I Crave for and I pray that your IQ continues to wax stronger.

You made excellent points but then I guess you are looking at my topic in isolation.

I once said that according to traditions of the land even a couple with children can be disqualified as married because a certain rite has not been carried out.

“Five marriages didn't make her a sinner because those men either died of flee probably making her a 5 times widow or abandoned bride due to warfare, famine, disease, and injury, men in those days dropped like flies.

A widow became either a beggar, a prostitute, or another man's wife. Each time, this Samaritan woman had chosen the best option.

But sharing her bed with a sixth man who wasn't her husband? That was a sin.

Truly If by just living together with this man made her married, Jesus would have said, ‘The man you are now living with is your sixth husband.’ Instead, He did not recognize them as being married even though they were living together.

When Jesus spoke to the Samaritan woman,he revealed something very important, something we often miss in this passage.

The woman had been hiding the fact that the man she was living with was not her husband.

According to the New Bible Commentary notes on this passage of Scripture, Common Law Marriage had no religious support in the Jewish faith.

According to the jewish practise,Just Living with a person in sexual union did not constitute a ‘husband and wife’ relationship and Jesus made that plain here.

But is the jewish tradition above GOD's instructions?

According to specific rules of GOD directly from the scriptures,a couple is married in the eyes of God when the physical union is consummated through sexual intercourse and that is the angle I want you to see this from.

Kendrick80:
Ds guy needs 2 get laid asap...NL babes pls help d nigga

Rotflmao! Chai! omo you are hilarious...

Chai! So you think I can ever have problems with getting laid by as many women as I want? Chai!

ademijuwonlo:
Sex before marriage is called "Silent marriage "

Silent marriage it is..nice one.

kelvinreality:
Wow...this is an eye opener. I still have a question.
Why is it that most churches still preach against Marrige without Bride price if according to you paying Bride price is not a must in Marriage?

Do you know that you are contradicting one of the most common believe in Marriage?

Unfortunately the Devil has permeated some churches and heresy has become the order of the day.

I will send 10k to the account of anyone that can show me where it is specifically written in the Bible that we must we'd in church,Registry or traditionally?

I will add an extra 5k if anyone can show me where the bible instructs that we pay Bride price AS A CONDITION FOR CONCENTUAL UNION.

From the Bible,Bride price is only meant ONLY FOR VIRGINS and it is a penalty for rape which is why as the bible clearly stated,the father of the Virgin may still prevent you from marrying his daughter even after the penalty for rape (Bride price) is paid.

What we follow today are man made rules and traditions which I'm not against nut just stating the facts.


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Lets read this from the book of exodus 22:16-17:
"If a man seduces a virgin who is not pledged to be married and sleeps with her, he must pay the bride-price, and she shall be his wife.If her father absolutely refuses to give her to him, he must still pay the bride-price for virgins."

Deuteronomy 22:28-29: "If a man happens to meet a virgin who is not pledged to be married and rapes her and they are discovered, he shall pay her father fifty shekels[a] of silver. He must marry the young woman,for he has violated her. He can never divorce her as long as he lives.

reminiscing:
You used the word "Randomly " having sex. That is to say that you are not married but you have a girlfriend you constantly have sex with. Don't glorify sin, sin Na sin egbon.

I guess the Mod added that but my main topic remains as seen here.

YesNoMaybe:
So, if one wants a divorce, he could also break up a union with prayers? So EVERY sexual intercourse puts you under a yoke?

Unfortunately, YES

How come ritualistic practise usually involves sex?

NwaAmaikpe:


She is cute, This is amazing.....I'm having an erection already.

Jokes apart...she is really hot.

Just one visit to a good hospital Abroad and after one injection, her life will never be the same...

Funny enough I admire her cos I can see a hot chic even with those hairs.

Meti99:
In as much as I try to reason with the op, I still want you to know that marriage is an AGREEMENT, a life CONTRACT between a man and a woman. Marriage is beyond copulation, it is companionship, a yoke bearing contract, though sex plays important role but sex does not automatically mean friendship. I want you to know you can have sex with anybody and not necessarily have a soul tie with such.. What I think you should do more is to preach against indecent, incessant sex.

On the contrary...YOU HAVE A SOUL TIE WITH ANYONE YOU HAVE SEX WITH.

Even the devil knows this.

safarigirl:
so, I should go and look for a thread that is over a year old because I'm jobless abi?

You go and look for it yourself, you have said so much crap over the years, it is impossible to sieve through it all

I had a long and heated discussion over it, and it was the last time I engaged you and that is why I remember it. Your memory may fail you since you have had many more of such discussions with others.

Must you troll all the time? I asked for a simple task...and you are already crying out loud...

Just go to your profile page,click on your posts and glance through your comments on my threads and you won't spend a minute before you get what I'm asking for.

Until then please just quietly read comments here OK. ..Have a good day.

UKmigrant:
Dem dey laff mi ni, no mind then. I'll take pics around my work place soon.

And how's your experience with their ladies..? i observe in most cases,that the whites are more friendly than the blacks..so strange.

Pidgin2:
Good luck bro, soon na weather and tax go be your major concern, everywhere has it's own peculiar issues., takia

The system is so good in such a way that even after tax,you can live comfortably.

A pauper in U.K lives a life style the average man in Naija prays for.

safarigirl:
I stopped taking Tons seriously the day he said that having pre-marital sex with one person is not as sinful as having it with multiple persons. Oga was grading fornication

He's right on this one sha, but most of his beliefs are skewered and selective so that he somehow exonerates himself from sin

If the tons I see in your comment refers to me toks then I will gladly beg you to quote the thread or comment here talking about your claim.

booqee:
Toks2008.. intelligent write-up right there but I'm afraid I'll have to counter you using your own article.

According to you and ur article..I'll say sex is not marriage because you stated that there are three stages of marriage: A man leaving his parent, uniting with his wife, and then becoming one flesh (sex).

If one has only fulfilled one part of the three (In this case..sex), then we can't conclude that he or she is married to that partner until he has fulfilled all three

However, i will agree with you that sex carries a very heavy spiritual significance which I'm yet to fully understand myself. That is why pre-marital sex or extra marital sex should be avoided at all cost.

Is it not apparent that when you have sex with anyone,you have also unceremoniously fulfilled the first two stages?

LadyMarionette:
Since it is now permitted to speak generally....

Who decides when a guy is "asking for too much?" The girl or the guy? Because I think the girl has that prerogative. She should decide how much she's willing to divulge, without being subtly bullied by the guy, who's bound to claim: I'm not asking for too much. You mention drawing the line, and I agree, every girl should be able to draw the line to define that point beyond which a guy begins to make her uncomfortable. Again, she decides where that point is for her. And for some, that line is: no exchange of contacts. I told you girls are different. Whether you attribute the decision to keep guys at arm's length to low self esteem is a matter for the psychologists in the house; but it's their own coping mechanism and it should be respected. Not everyone one is gregarious in nature. A lot of good may come from a platonic friendship, even after a failed attempt to toast, but for those who cannot handle it, they live by the slogan: better safe than sorry. There's nothing wrong with that. Nobody should be made to bite off more than they can chew.


Edited: I thought I was responding to zeroeightzero. Sorry, if it sounds like we've been having an argument.

Fair enough...if a girl feels not giving out her contact to a guy will make her sleep well at night why not.

Have a great day

*modified: @Arguement...it is a great way of learning from each other as long as vulgal words are at bay.

zero8zero:
Good points.
But then is there any difference between drawing the line and building a wall?

A great difference.

Building a wall is not getting to know people but drawing the line means letting them know how far they can go.

LadyMarionette:
If you are asking me for my personal reaction, it means you have accepted my earlier statement: that every girl has a different perspective on this issue, and would react to an approach uniquely, depending on her personal experiences with men. And that no sweeping generalizations can be made by using your experience with one, ten are fifty girls. That's really the point I've been trying to make. So just respect people's positions and don't insult them for it.

Now, if you approached me to ask for my number I would strongly consider the context. It is very important for me to vet a guy's motive. If this happened at a professional conference I would assume this would be only natural because I can already see the common interests and the possible goal. I would not be suspicious at all. If it happened at a party, I would assume it's expected and courteous to start conversation and exchange details. It is almost perfunctory, and I wouldn't even think the guy is serious enough to do anything with the number. Besides, I could always blame it on the alcohol if I didn't want to pursue the acquaintance. But if I got approached randomly at the mall, on the street, or whatever; I would be very suspicious. I don't buy the line: I just saw you and I like you, I think we can be friends. So my response would likely be negative. Because, yes, I am very wary of guys that just want to be "friends". Especially if it is out of the blue like that.

If you were honest with yourself, you would realize that girls that get approached by guys like that are usually the pretty ones. What's that got to do with it? If you're looking for a friend, is it paramount for her to be pretty? Ugly girls can be loyal and funny and smart. They can be very good company. But no, you approach the pretty ones and then you're offended if she assumes you have ulterior motives. Some girls just give you the benefit of doubt, until you mess up. Because they're adept at handling such situations. But some girls lack the social skills to regulate the closeness of a male-friend, so they don't even go there.

Talking about the last line. ..will it be right to say that such ladies who can't regulate or draw a line have a low self esteem?

I still think only immature ladies start having crazy ideas cos you can always draw the line if the guy asks for "too much"

If I ever ask for your contact or give you mine,then it means I really fancy you enough to be my friend which is perfectly normal.

If for any reason I see a need to ask for more,it is still very perfectly normal but it is for you to now tell me sorry guy,not possible then I accept that and move on but we still remain as platonic friends and trust me,we could still benefit from the friendship outside romance.

Wise people understand the power of friendship but when a lady starts to think that if she gives a guy her number,the guy may woo her then she holds back,then she needs to grow up.

I find it necessary to address this issue and I would advise ladies and even guys to stop building walls around themselves cos the greatest investment you can ever make is the people you know.

Macgreat:
Thank You.


No time

Which one be no time...Please effect changes jare. ..just edit the original post and correct the title...

You can even change it to "Ladies,what comes to your mind when a guy asks for your number?

Then mention lalaatic lala and it just might get to the front page.

Have a great day.

Macgreat:
Women thinks that men gain something from sex - what?

What is it;

Can someone enlighten us what it is.

You say hello to a girl - the first thing she thinks is "he wanna have sex"

You ask her number - she thinks the same thing.


WTF! Sex is worthless

I still wanna know though

Check our the below imagine.

Now to the topic...

It's quite unfortunate that many ladies are naturally unfriendly and also very bitter with themselves.

If a man walks up to you to ask for your number it means he wants you to be his friend and as a lady you have the right to give or hold back but when you start reading meanings to an innocuous act of a man asking for your contact details then you really need to reevaluate your mindset.

I have lots of ladies as friends and I have never comported myself in an uncomely manner. There is more to k owing each other than romance and sex.

I fact the moment I sense a lady is acting up if I try to know her, I quickly delete her from my mind cos in my world,an unfriendly lady is a myopic lady.

Macgreat:
Women thinks that men gain something from sex - what?

What is it;

Can someone enlighten us what it is.

You say hello to a girl - the first thing she thinks is "he wanna have sex"

You ask her number - she thinks the same thing.


WTF! Sex is worthless

I still wanna know though

Check our the below imagine.

Women think..not "thinks"...please correct it. Thanks