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Mrnairalandd:
The most dumbest person on earth is the Op.

Honestly, i thought i have seen all the dumbest people on earth until i read this

It’s only a foolish person that ll advise a woman to focus more on her children than the husband

I have seen a lot of homes gone down cos of this stupid advice

And the reason why a lot of mother in laws literally depend on their children at old age for survival is cos of this stupid advice

A lot of women enjoy the old age with the husbands they build relationships with.

Children ll leave one day and the woman ll be stranded

It’s happening today all over the world where mothers literally spent all their lives on their children and only to become lonely cos she failed to build that relationship with heir husbands.

The husbands end up marrying a younger lady as a second wife while the old wife begin to disturb the marriage of her children cos she has no where to go.

The same stupid advice was given to my ex girlfriend that all men cheat and this lady carried this myth as if her life depends on it. No matter how honest you are, she has been fed by people like this idiot that all men cheat.

A lot of men don’t cheat...

You just ranted cos all the pooh pooh you wrote has no bearing with my write up.

This is how you guys read upside down and start writing pooh.

What I wrote up their is clear..IF SHE FINDS HERSELF WITH A CHEATING HUSBAND...IF...IF simple English.

Go back and read the thread again and give a reasonable input.Puma

coputa:
Any women that decides to tear her home apart out of ignorance will surely regret it.
This is why they should know the challenges that are inherent in Marriage after the Cinderellas courtship.
They should prepare their mind on how to handle the challengeso that it won't affect their marriage,so they should learn to live with it,becausee these are realities that are more likely to happen.
They should develop thick skin and a large heart to deal with the real man after the period of courtship.

Exactly why I chose to write these stuffs. ..but most ladies are wired to be totally gullible and myopic,they chose to be foolish rather than learn and at the end they suffer for it.

If I woo a nairaland lady today they will certainly have serious fears considering the type of threads I create but it's quite funny that most guys who come on my threads to firm good guys are the real wolves but guess what? most ladies due to their foolishness will fall for the hypocrites because they are naturally inclined to love lies and at the end they cry and wail.

I am not bothered in anyway because I know that someday,those who rant on my threads will think back and say "toks was right afterall".but for now let me allow them bask in their delusion.

Omotayor123:
I laugh in Chinese..
Toks and his cheat cheat of a thing!

OmoT bawoni? don't mind me jare. ..

But how you you focus on the cheating part while ignoring other points....?

As I wrote,not all guys cheat but incase you are faced with one then take that advise for your own good...rather than act foolishly.

Rachel Oniga advised that ladies should fight for their marriage but what I put up there is a reasonable and realistic steps that will sustain marital union considering the crazy happenings today.

I chose to respond though because I know you to be mature in mind but for all the naive ladies and small boys of naira land I will let them wallow in their delusion cos my threads are not for such group except they learn to read and learn.

Have a great week ahead.

gbagagbogo:
Very sensible and pragmatic steps. I love this piece.
I will like to add one more thing, women be submissive to your husband. That's the most important aspect. No man wants to leave with another man. Be loyal to him, respect his opinion and if you feel he's not making sense, correct him in meekness and maturity. Marriage is sweet when the man and the woman understand each other very well.. But ladies don't forget this : the success and prosperity of your home is majorly in your hand. Be loyal. God bless our homes

Good one.

Coldfeet:
Yeah no need fighting him.... just put a bullet to his head and end his miserable life .

Lol! you are mean.

Jasper14:
I love this piece of article.. Kudos op

That is the funniest side to it..some love it while some hate it and that makes it even more intriguing.

cococandy:
Mumu agbaya

This teenager again! lol! Must you troll my threads? you are so addicted to my threads.

ibkayee:
Lol girl the first line that my eye caught was some BS, just scrolled on by

LOL! See another toddler who is still battling to understand what dating means coming to comment on a thread about marriage..smh! you think displaying pictures and having likes is what there is ..don't worry,this threads will be here as long as nairaland remains and many of you will remember them but for now,keep ranting that is the stage you are.

Daeylar:
Once I see the name I don't bother to read the post, I know it will be some misogynist BS.

Exactly what i have always advised those who cant stand my factual threads,just pass but unfortunately for them they just cant help reading and making lame comments.

I cant just understand.

Safiaa:
Are you smoking bleach or what? You sure everything dey okay upstairs? This 40+ unmarried man wants to tell me that I should advise condom usage for my cheating husband..You are sniffing fluff. Mad man. Werey.

Toddler spotted.

Btw i gave 10steps,what about the remaining 9? Oya continue ranting..i dey gbadun you. *Presses play button on remote and throws it away*

Gerrard59:
The woman wey do you this kind thing no do well.



I pity any woman who heeds to your nonsensical advice

Teenager spotted.

Yewandequeen:
Toks if I have never supported any of your threads, I am in support of this one 100%.
Nice

One mature mind spotted.

Lalasticlala i believe this is very realistic considering the happenings today in marriages.

ExAngel007:
shame

I believe if not all, some establishment/ organizations are not in support of this.

Most women fall for their superior because they had been compelled to do so

Compelled ke!

The IG is 1000% right..as long as the lady wants it. .no p.

This English sef. .

majekdom2:
No one says it's your experience. It's a case of confusion here. Same you complained about naija girls having attention in your pockets and SA and western babes not giving a jerk about your pocket. Same you is saying OWO NI KOKO and ladies will fall on you. Even Kanye an American addressed this issue in his song "Golddigger". Like I said, it's nature. Thats how God made it. A man tills, a woman eats. If one is getting rejected by a lady it's because there is nothing for the woman to eat both physically and intellectually. This is what the thread even addressed before you came with the "in other climes" talk. Are you confused?

Bobo yi fi mi sile..whatever rocks your boat.

majekdom2:
every one knows money is very important. Complaining that girls like money means you have been broke for like 20 years and in that space of time you dated 15 girls and all left you because you didn't have money.. all weird. Most guys that complain about a girl loving money are pussy starved, broke and looking for some free shows... this is the simple fact!

Me i no understand your epistle o but as far as i know, i have never been pussy starved in my life instead i run from it regardless of being broke or not...Sometimes when i write about reality,people quickly equate it with my experience and i care less. My point is that OWO NI KOKO...

Maybe its because i have other qualities that will make me have the lady of my dreams even if i have no kobo in my pocket but that still does not change the fact that MONEY ANSWERETH ALL THINGS so go for the money and ladies will easily fall for you even if you are a short ugly pot bellied jerk.

majekdom2:
that not even my point. My point is the guys complaining about girls liking money are looking for osho free. They are the type that cannot stick to one babe. If you want to be in a relationship and get to know 100 girls, do you have to sleep with them all to know which to be serious with? How can you want to have several side chicks all for free.. hian!

Dude please dont be deceived, owo ni koko, if you are stil hustling just stay clear of a struggling lady otherwise you are only toying with your heart as she may end up leaving you if she finds a better guy in terms of finance.

Most of these ladies that ususally disturb our hears with "i was there for you" in most cases never found a better alternative all the time they were with the guy else dey for don shift ground.

Just pray to GOD to make good money or have other qualities that may atone for being "broke" and you will have no issues. I repeat,..OWO NI KOKO. expecially for naija.

majekdom2:
naija has a population of close to 200 million and you made a conclusion by your own experience. I wouldn't blame you for that. I wish to let you know there are babes that throw deals like water in naija, that don't give a bleep about your money. I have had experiences with not one, two or three. Whilst, some may have been what they are because of the economy. No woman anywhere in the world is comfortable with a man not financially strong enough to cater for his family. I have had same experience with separated and divorced western women. The first thing they tell me is the man has got to be a man and not an irresponsible man that leaves the responsibility for them. Dating and marriage are two different situations. A girl in yankee can care less about your pocket because she isn't married to you yet but when you are married and have responsibilities together, ogbeni, you will be divorced if you are not being that "man". A girl in naija cares about your pocket whilst dating because she sees you as her future man and because of the economy like you said, she is trying to help herself. The truth is the guys that complain about naija girls being money lovers are actually the ones that wants to f*ck every other girl. If you have just one partner you are working things with, why complain. Isn't the relationship supposed to be symbiotic. Why complain that your wife is asking for money.. she is your wife! Like you said, a western girl won't tolerate your infidelity. So the plain truth is if you stick to one partner you won't be complaining!

When the words "most or many" are used,it means not all so YES i agree that there are still many naija girls who give no bleep about your money but they are very very few.

En15:
present,what happening here??

We are sharing rice.

majekdom2:
Point is this comparison between Naija girls and ïn NL language "other climes" girls is a very unintelligent thing to do! compare humans as a whole not gender!

LOL! This is where you are so wrong and i mean so so so wrong. Naija girls are the most loyal,loving,selfless loveryou can ever come accross but the economy situation has driven many of them to seek for solace in a rich guy but in other countries exp the western countries where things work,the ladies are gainfuly employed and all they need is your faithfulness and not your money.

I went to a club in South Africa and i saw ladies with curves that will make mercy johnson hide in shame but you know what,they will stone you with your own money if you offer them even after taking them home and they will tell you straight up that they work for their money but they are onl cathcjing their fun with you..strange but true.

In U.K i see about same trend where you will go out with a lady and in most cases if not all,she will never ask you to pay for her order and she may even ask if you dont mind her paying...even Ghana near us has ladies who are more into emotional stability rather than what the man has to offer.

I dont blame our lovely naija ladies..i blame the economy

majekdom2:
outwhere. Forget the movies and movies bro. Part of being who you are is your prosperity. If you are rich you say "I am rich" not you am rich. It's part of what defines you. I like beautiful, well to do ladies. They say "I am beautiful and well to do" that's who they are

Kilagbe kileju?

Rapmoney:
Thanks man. I appreciate.

Very true expecially in Nigeria but out there,most ladies will love you for who you are cos most of them don't have the leech mentality.

IAMSASHY:
wen duscusing wt a guy al of a sudden he stretches his hand 2 pick either pimple or dirt from my face, very annoying

Strange I must say. Thought that should be romantic.

klassykute:
Hey guys, what's the slightest thing that gets you Angry?

When I see unintelligent comments on nairaland from trolls.

Or a lady making crazy sounds while chewing gums....Chai!

elantraceey:
lol... it's not the case with every lady though, for me, I'll love to get married before I'm 25 self and it's not out of pressure or anything negative.

Yinmu!

heykims:
The second wife hasn't come out regretting her status as a wife, someone left her home and now regretting..
She made a foolish decision and admits it..

Indeed she is brave to admit it.

Lalasticlala I think this thread should be beamed for our young ladies to Learn.

https://www.nairaland.com/4065809/10-unusual-steps-woman-should

activistjohnny:
Veteran Nollywood actress, Rachael Oniga, recently had a chat with Olusola Ricketts of Punchng, about her failed marriage. On how she coped as a single mother of three, she said: “My first born, Olamide, was four years old when I left my marriage.
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I had to put them all in boarding schools. That is one of the most painful things I have had to do. Whenever I talk about this, it always brings me close to tears. My children paid the price for something they knew nothing about.
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The factor (her late husband married another woman) that led to the end of my marriage made me determined to prove to him (ex-husband) that I could stand without any man.
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I was not ready to give any other man the chance to be a hindrance to my children and me. I also made up my mind that I would dedicate my life totally to my children. I toughened my heart and blocked every opportunity to go into any relationship.
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I saw myself as equal to any man, regardless of how much money he might have. I didn’t want any man to treat my children badly. I was working for my money and I put my kids in good schools. So, what do I need a man for?
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I felt all men just wanted was to see the beauty of a woman and walk away. With what my ex-husband did to me, you expect me to trust men again? Before we got separated, he was a good and ideal man.
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But he married another woman and I moved on. But I miss the whole union thing, friendship and sharing things together. My advice to young ladies is to keep and fight for their marriages.
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Perhaps, I was naïve; I never fought for what was mine, but I still thank God. He made many failed attempts at reconciliation. He knew the type of person I am; that when I say no, it is no.
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Before death took him (ex-husband) away, he called many times. It was my mistake. I should have fought for my marriage. Any young lady must try her best and fight for her marriage. My decision at that time might not have been the best, but I still thank God. I have my regrets too as a human being.”

source:http://www.pressnewsng.com.ng/2017/11/it-was-mistake-i-didnt-fight-for-my.html

This is the reason why I write some realistic threads but naira land toddlers will never understand yet will be ranting up and down.

Indeed madam you were naive.

nairavsdollars:
That is why Africa and Nigeria is always behind. Someone left the comfortability of his country and came here to assist but see how you repaid him back. May his killers find no peace

These are the people giving us bad names outside the country.

I can imagine what will be running in the minds of the Britons now anytime they see Nigerians...they will be like...

nero2face:
Almost 3yrs and APC are still blaming Jona, God will never forgive u guys for this scam on Nigerians, wish I can one day resign from being a Nigerian

Apparently you don't know anything about ripple effect...

It will take us years to overcome the rot caused by Jonathan.

elantraceey:
Oga Toks so we below 25 are not eligible for marriage abi

Well in most cases,many ladies below 25 tend to be very carefree without the need to settle down but only to play and pla around..

This is why i stylishly know the age of any lady i come across so that i will know her state of mind regarding romance.. for me,if you are 27years and above then i can relate with you on that level but anything below nah seresere.

rebirthforgoody:
I enjoyed your write up tnx.

If you are referring to this thread then it's a good thing that some ladies still see something reasonable in my factual articles.