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sexybbstar:
Egbon, please drop your whatsapp number her, my mail isn't functioning for now.

080two314604six

1StopRudeness:
When companies start saying women won't get 90days maternity leave with free pay since men don't enjoy the same.....this shout go reduce small.....(that's me joking though)
Let women begin to take the bull by the horn, slay in academics, slay all round and not only dressing half naked, pouting, sticking tongues out like puppies on social media and not expect derogatory and pulling down comments from their male rivals....

My opinion though...I might be wrong...

You are hilariously mean...

Olalan:
Most of them have issues with their self esteem, thou a creation of our society which see single mothers as second fidle to single girls. The single mother is mostly desperate to cling on any guy that comes her way and unfortunately they mostly believe allowing steady sex will make the guy stick with them.

I don't know if it is my level of maturity but I will cherish any sweet looking single mum that has great wife qualities..all these steriotyping is uncalled for.

As long as you are still sweet looking and ready to calm down,I'm game....who single ladies without children epp?

[quote author=sonofLuci post=57681144][/quote]I'm so sorry I forgot to check your username...I am not surprised....
Omo satani

sonofLuci:
Woman wrapper na here them go see you o, hope you nor go use Portuguese take drop your number this time make she she add you?

Monitoring spirit....I bind you..

BARRIKADE:
A gender equality bill has passed it's first reading....

Sorry,second reading and I need Nigerian men to let it slide through.

lofty900:
and you think the gender equality bill will change that? There are some bills that doesn't make any difference whether it is passed or not. An employer still have the right to employ who he wants to employ. Violence against women should be the priority

This will make a huge difference dude...just wait until you see the contents.

Have a great day.

Simply put,gender equality is not about putting both sexes on the same level biologically or on the basis of physical strength or religion doctrines but it is achieved when women and men enjoy the same rights and opportunities across all sectors of life and needs of women and men are equally valued and favored.

The first bill on gender equality in Nigeria was thrown out by the Senate due to some clauses in the contents which they saw as too demanding.

But a new modified bill sponsored by Senator ‘Biodun Olujinmi (Ekiti South),has scaled through the second reading and according to section 4 of the new bill,it prohibits all forms of discrimination against any person on account of gender, age and disability through spoken words, acts, rules, customs and practices by any person or institution in Nigeria.

So in my opinion,judging from the real essence of gender equality and the section 4 of the modified bill,I'm persuaded that it will be a great victory not for just the Nigerian women but for all men in Nigeria if this bill is passed into law and i implore all Nigerian men to rally round this bill for the following reasons...

1.In the aspect of romance:

As a lady,how scintillating will it be if you no longer have to wish and hope that the cute guy you saw at the mall walks up to you when you can simply make the move without any psychological or cultural restraint.

Since the bill will automatically remove any cultural,traditional beliefs and customs segregating the sexes, this simply means Nigerian women can confidently and boldly walk up to a man and woo him decisively without shame or any form of stigmatization.Ladies can now go on their knees and propose marriage to guys and in fact pay the groom price and organize the wedding party with little or no contribution from the man and ofcourse polyandry will be official. Yes few ladies are already doing this in discreet but the bill will make it official hence remove any form of restraint.

2.In the area of finance:

I guess men will find great succor in this area as we can gladly switch places with the ladies without any shame.

Will it not be nice if we guys start using the same criteria ladies use to be with us? I can now openly say "I would like to be with a beautiful,God fearing, financially stable lady who can take care of me and ofcourse switching places mean the man will be ready to do all a woman does in the affair like washing of her cloths,that of the children,be a sit at home dad and practically does all the domestic stuffs while the woman is saddled with the responsibility of Children school fees,House rents,Electricity bills,Medical bills.Generator fuel & repairs,Car fuel and repairs
Feeding of family,Clothes for children,Xmas and New year bills,Furniture &House maintenance,In-laws wahala/demand,Her own aged parents,
Your siblings also,Your financial demands,Vigilante bills,Erecting Building,Religious demands,Family social bills,Electronics bills,Recharge cards
Extended family bills,Community demands and so on...

Let's face it,whatever a man can do i guess a lady can do better so there is no big deal here and not every man will have good money no matter how smart or hard working the man can be....the world is just unfair to some people so this will be a good one for such men.

3.In the Labour sector:

I think it is quite awkward to hear that some jobs are meant for guys or ladies...in recent times there have been a wide shift of male folks indulging in careers that are previously tagged "female career" and these guys doing these jobs still feel a form of emotional and psychological restraints but with gender equality in place,guys can now boldly and officially get involved in jobs that are believed to be feminine in nature hence create a better work force which will improve the GDP of the country.

4.In the area of child inheritance:

Do you know that in Nigeria today,we still have some tribes who do not consider the girl child as an heir apparent to any property owned by the father? worse still if a man dies and leaves a wife with only daughters,none of these people will have a good share if any at all of the diseased property. .how insane.

I'm sure no man would like this to happen to his family if he dies so I believe if Nigerian men encourage this bill,it will eliminate this cruel tradition from the affected tribes and will give the girl child ample right to inherit her father's life material achievements.

5.Better opportunity for the girl child:

Just take a stroll to most markets and ask the beautiful smart female drop outs why they are not in school and you are sure to hear funny responses like "my papa sey I be girl so e no go waste money send me go school sey nah inside my husband kitchen I go still end" how sad and grossly unfair....

Many brilliant young girls destiny have been distorted by uncaring parents who still believe that a woman's place is in the kitchen and the other room but if we men can support this bill,it will give that village girl the right to education and it will become a crime for any parent to prevent any girl child her right to her desired educational level.

6.Prevention of juvenile marriage and sexual abuse:

Do you know that some tribes in Nigeria marry off a girl as young as 10 to 13 years of age? crazy innit!

Unfortunately this happens on a regular basis and many young girls have died due to Vesicovaginal fistula, or VVF which is often caused by violent penetration of the female core or by childbirth in which case it is known as an obstetric fistula. This is prevalent among young girls who go through prolong labor and as a result of the underdeveloped pelvic region,a prolonged labor presses the unborn child tightly against the fragile pelvis which cuts off blood flow to the vesicovaginal wall and the affected tissue may necrotize (die), leaving a hole.This usually degenerates and lead to death of the innocent girl and this tribe usually tagged such death as an act of GOD....how myopic and gross!

As a man who will likely grow up to have a daughter,just close your eyes for few moments and imagine your daughter going through this..."did I hear you say GOD FORBID"?

The good news is that we can prevent this if we all join hands together to support this bill into law.

I hope these make sense.

I'm sure some ladies were expecting to see Toks as the writer of this so that they can wash me down with insults but got so disappointed that it is their kind that wrote it...

Meanwhile me right now...

sexybbstar:
I saw a thread earlier on (why do guy thinks girls are whores?) I think this is my own view.

You had better stop comparing, if God wants equal rights for us all, he would have created everyone with p.enis or va.gina. But the difference in our private organ and body build shows that what is good for one may not be good for the other.

If a male child should become wayward, believe me if he repents, not a sign of it will be on his body but if a female child becomes wayward, I won't lie to you, let her become a pastor. There will still be signs to show for it like sagged breasts, wide va.gina, etc.Tell me can a man have a deformed organ as a result of being promiscuous.? obviously no!

Don't compare the two together.A lady that compare herself with a man is playing a dangerous game. U sure know that when he have sex with u without protection, u would get pregnant and u will receive the blame. Yet u allowed him, don't blame anyone for your misfortune because u are aware that the lady takes the blame.

Man and woman are two different words with different attributes. A man who lives like a woman won't find it easy and vice versa. Even two ladies are not the same not to talk of a man and a woman.

You want gender equality, ladies. Can you impregnate a fellow lady? Even those of us who transgendered to become a man still have so many manly activities they can't do.

Learn to appreciate your gender and bring out the best from it.

Do you know I actually did a background check on your threads to be sure you are not seeking attention and I'm so amazed that you are real and you have so many front page materials that need packaging.

Send your mobile number to olatokunbo40@gmail.com....I need to mentor you on how to present your articles. ..No freaking strings attached so do shakara at your own expense.

Your articles will likely start hitting front page back to back.

sexybbstar:
I saw a thread earlier on (why do guy thinks girls are whores?) I think this is my own view.

You had better stop comparing, if God wants equal rights for us all, he would have created everyone with p.enis or va.gina. But the difference in our private organ and body build shows that what is good for one may not be good for the other.

If a male child should become wayward, believe me if he repents, not a sign of it will be on his body but if a female child becomes wayward, I won't lie to you, let her become a pastor. There will still be signs to show for it like sagged breasts, wide va.gina, etc.Tell me can a man have a deformed organ as a result of being promiscuous.? obviously no!

Don't compare the two together.A lady that compare herself with a man is playing a dangerous game. U sure know that when he have sex with u without protection, u would get pregnant and u will receive the blame. Yet u allowed him, don't blame anyone for your misfortune because u are aware that the lady takes the blame.

Man and woman are two different words with different attributes. A man who lives like a woman won't find it easy and vice versa. Even two ladies are not the same not to talk of a man and a woman.

You want gender equality, ladies. Can you impregnate a fellow lady? Even those of us who transgendered to become a man still have so many manly activities they can't do.

Learn to appreciate your gender and bring out the best from it.

Me right now...

optional1:
You is the real grandpa near.

Village grandpa don die tey tey.


Weytin come be *alakoba*

How old I be wey you dry call me grandpa? you Wan spoil show for me? I still dey find wife o make you no pour sand for my garri.

I'm still twenty something...

optional1:
Grandpa

Thank God your eyes is open we can't marry this kinda kid.

Only 2 pms she dey brag they never message her for Bleep chat oh. And this guys self might be her mr righ. she dey form on top her own shiit.

Your grandpa dey village...alakoba

tosyne2much:
My brother, the issue just tire me too oooo... I guess the Bbstar of a girl is beginning to experience what both of us have been experiencing for a long time.

The truth of the matter is that, if you're a realist and wouldn't hesitate to dish out the undiluted truth, these ladies will gang up against you and will have you hated for no good reason. I see the way most of them attack your marriage threads for no good reason, even mine too.

I don't know what these kids stand to gain in bring people down

At least let them allow those who are experienced to comment but for where? one certain Cinderella had tried all day to get my attention but I kept ignoring her...

But on a lighter mode,nairaland sure eases my brain and most times I just laugh the stress off when I read some insults from these small girls.

sexybbstar:
Mine is even over 400 and I never replied them.

You see why I don't send PM's. ..if I want to get you on my phone list I give you my number in the open...who has time for PM

Slayprincess:
[color=pink] After being warned some still sent me pm's like wtf is wrong with you people? [/color]

Whoever sent you a PM is indeed stwpid cos he just sent a PM to a toddler.

tosyne2much:
The way these useless and ill-mannered ladies attack both young and old on this forum calls for urgent attention my brother. You will find them on every thread unleashing their frustration and anger when you create a thread or make a comment.

Like I was telling a dumb skull this evening that she can feel free to throw tantrums at me on a public forum, because I know that she can't stand me physically to say such a thing to my face.

There's even one that has been trolling me every time just because she said my articles disgust her

Tony honestly how I wish I'm not passionate about writing cos naira land has proved beyond doubts that many are mad but few are roaming the streets naked.

I will create threads about the married and before you say "nairaland" this same set of trolls will hijack the thread and start crying,cursing and worst still have no marital experience and will not make one logical contribution.

I just read this from a lady on one great thread on nairaland.

sexybbstar:
You just spoke my mind.... They will open some threads and start spewing rubbish when it's obvious that the thread is talking about nothing but the truth

Shallow- brained ladies everywhere.
Just because their love life is trash, they start hating on every threads that speak about the things that are likely to be giving them a bitter love life. They will fail to learn the truth from a thread and start shouting and expanding their ass hole over sensible threads.

Very true so I guess I'm vindicated.

sexybbstar:
I see you egbon Toks...

I just felt I should visit the romance section today cos I hardly browse the romance section of naira land except when I create threads and I think I'm really missing out cos I so much love this thread.

How I wish you could add more points buy I guess it's OK as it is.

I really ant to see how ladies will react to this thread from their own kind.

Dimples129:
1. Can a man impregnate another man?

2. Why should the lady take the "blame" (a child is a blessing and not blame) when it takes 2 to reproduce?
Should we not change this backward ideal rather than embracing it?

3. Gender equality isn't about trying to be a man but rather trying to protect women from the injustices that you as woman is supporting.

I hope all the praise you get from the men on this thread puts money in you're account because you just sold out on the female race including your daughters.

Otito koro

sexybbstar:
I saw a thread earlier on (why do guy thinks girls are whores?) I think this is my own view.

You had better stop comparing, if God wants equal rights for us all, he would have created everyone with p.enis or va.gina. But the difference in our private organ and body build shows that what is good for one may not be good for the other.

If a male child should become wayward, believe me if he repents, not a sign of it will be on his body but if a female child becomes wayward, I won't lie to you, let her become a pastor. There will still be signs to show for it like sagged breasts, wide va.gina, etc.Tell me can a man have a deformed organ as a result of being promiscuous.? obviously no!

Don't compare the two together.A lady that compare herself with a man is playing a dangerous game. U sure know that when he have sex with u without protection, u would get pregnant and u will receive the blame. Yet u allowed him, don't blame anyone for your misfortune because u are aware that the lady takes the blame.

Man and woman are two different words with different attributes. A man who lives like a woman won't find it easy and vice versa. Even two ladies are not the same not to talk of a man and a woman.

You want gender equality, ladies. Can you impregnate a fellow lady? Even those of us who transgendered to become a man still have so many manly activities they can't do.

Learn to appreciate your gender and bring out the best from it.

Lalasticlala biko push this thing to front page cos this is coming from an intelligent lady and not a man.

sexybbstar:
You just spoke my mind.... They will open some threads and start spewing rubbish when it's obvious that the thread is talking about nothing but the truth

Shallow- brained ladies everywhere.
Just because their love life is trash, they start hating on every threads that speak about the things that are likely to be giving them a bitter love life. They will fail to learn the truth from a thread and start shouting and expanding their ass hole over sensible threads.

LOBATAN! .To think this is coming from a lady...I'm vindicated

Please permit me to quote this the next time I see them troll on my threads

mrsefan:
Please help me.
My husband whom I go married to for 4years, always fill his form as single, when ever he is filling any form that requires MARITAL STATUS.
and aside from that we don't normally have any issues (fights) and he doesn't even have sense of jealousiess towards me,
Is he really inlove with me ?
Why is he always doing that ?
Please advice me what should I do
Am really in pain and having mixed feelings.

Lol! this reminds me of the day I saw my Ex filling single in her CV and I was like wtf!

Maybe he does not see himself as married or he feels writing single will earn him the job or whatever he wants with the forms.

I don't know why people love lies...anyways just ignore and be happy...don't make a mountain out of it.

rossyc:
I still don't agree with you..So by her male friends calling her by her maiden name her marriage will suddenly crash, like seriously? does she live with them? Makes no sense at all.

First and Formost you keep getting it twisted and I'm so amazed that most ladies also missed it. Please try and read again and this time from the first paragraph and slowly.

If you just met a guy as a married lady and you allow him to call you your maiden name then that is serious disrespect to your marriage.

If you don't understand this then I'm sorry I don't know what else to say.

ImaIma1:
Really, not everyone is meant to give relationship/marriage advice. And people have a right to disagree. People just come out with different lists of dos and donts and expect everyone to take it hook line and sinker.
And sometimes age does not necessarily mean someone is wiser. Our National Assembly is a good example.

The definition of "I disagree" in nauraland dictionary are hateful remarks,curses,attacks on your personal life and your persona. ..habba!

though I don't allow that to bother me but I do owe some people the responsibility to clear the air if the needs arises.

Nauraland and kiddy comments be like..

praise1705:
good but don't you think leaving everything open makes one more vulnerable or people targeting a particular fault?
especially when you get something to protect not yourself personal but others under you who need protection

In all honesty I have nothing to lose keeping it real and having an open book policy as regards my life cos as I always say...I am an embodiment of truth in all ramifications.

If you see me ever respond to any mentions you will realize that it is never to curse back but to clear the air not because of the poster but others who may take my silence to mean the post is true and one hypocrisy I hate is the type omotayor displayed because if I never posted a screen shot of those articles I wrote years back,she would simply had believed that all I'm writing is because I want to vent my anger on an ex...is that not foolishness of the highest order?

It is because of my principle that purposely avoid any romance whatsoever with any nairalander since 10years of my membership cos I have a name and integrity to protect.

Let all these teenagers and toddlers rant till eternity I care less but once they cross that line,I will make it a duty to point out to them how foolish they are.

They are faceless but I'm not so it's my duty to always clear the air.

And by the way,what is the big deal even if I was married and now divorced? abeg are divorcees not qualified to give marital advice judging from the fact that they have been in that institution? so you see that many people just rant without common sense.

praise1705:
no matter what anyone says especially on a forum like this there would always be people who would agree or disagree with you, such is life

but wisdom is when such a person takes the message and not take it personal or ignore the messenger

I have no issues with anyone diagreeing but I have a way of putting the dumb ones in their place.

I purposely make my personal life an open book because I have absolutely nothing to hide.

ImaIma1:
I disagree with this point. The fact that i am married doesn't change my name. So should i tell my family members and relatives to call me madam or Mrs. As long as calling me by my name doesn't interfere with my status as a married woman, it is fine.
Life is not that hard.

Do you people ever comprehend?

praise1705:
a woman builds a home, protects it's and acts as a pillar of support and the destruction of it..... check your bible

in all of what the Op has said the only way in preventing stories that touch is TO BE HUMBLE

Inasmuch as I do not expect everyone to agree with me,I'm persuaded to say I'm surprised some ladies are reasonable enough to see sense in my write up.

Omotayor123:
Toks with all due respect, you're a Man and a Mature one at that. You don't have to reply to every mention. if that's how you retaliate to every insults offline, then I'm speechless.

Though, you may find some comments out of place and be tempted to reply, but really, it's not worth it.
Don't be surprised that most of the females you're trading words with are far below you especially in age.

This thread is yours, and you have made your point, it's left for the reader to agree or disagree, they are entitled to their opening.

But trading words with them, is below my expectations of you, I believe you're far mature and better than that.

I agree most of the commenters jump into conclusion without knowing your true story. Just waka pass and leave them to their imagination.

I pray you get married soonest, so all this ladies go get something else to talk about
pls. STOP.

Have a Nice Day.

And for the first time ever I I'll tell you to seriously hush it.

It is quite easy for people to blab about keeping mum in the wake of insults but I guess when it goes beyond insults to an attack on my persona I guess I will only be foolish to keep mum without setting the tables straight.

Someone wrote that my threads are just venditive when I could prove how stwpd the person is.

Tell me you did not believe that my threads are venditive as she claimed and tell me you are not surprised that I wrote this thread way back in 2014 and many more in 2013 when I was still very much enjoying my marriage.

So spare me this hypocrisy of saying I respond to shits and your polite insults on me...this is a faceless forum but I'm not faceless because I'm a man of integrity so clearing the air is just needful.

I have written a thousand times that I'm not faceless and that us because I'm clean and have nothing to hide so please allow me to clear the air when necessary...at least the person I quoted now knows how dumb she was and how real I am.

Check all my responses and you will see that I'm very selective expecially the ones that needs some clarifications.

The fact that it is my thread makes it even more needful to respond to mentions and quotes that catches my fancy. Tayo please

PROVERBS 26:5
"Be sure to answer the foolish arguments of fools, or they will become wise in their own estimation"

Just that some fools are better ignored while I respond to the ones that tend to stain my image.

thotianna:
I don't know why women keep responding to TOKS2008 threads as if he is normal. The guy is suffering from bitterness and hatred of women because of what his ex wife did to him before their marriage ended. These threads are just his avenue to get revenge on her and other women who have hurt his feelings. He knows what he is doing.
He isn't trying to advice women, he is releasing venom and hatred in his heart towards women.

Just pity him and pray for him if you can and move on.

Ok now i guess its time i beg Seun to declaree 3 days fasting and prayers for some nairaland ladies because this has gotten to a level we can no longer ignore..

Like seriously! why are our ladies this super d*umb? you realy dont have an idea of my persona cos if you do i guess you will be ashamed for posting this pooh.

For the records,i have great passion for writing regardless and 95% of wht i post on nairaland are lifted from the archives of my facebook posts and that was done when i was still enjoying the best of my marital union.

I honestly pity some guys that will marry some Nigeria ladies because many of them are brain D*ead.

If you like take advantage of my articles and be a better lady or ignore,its your choice.

Attached are just 2 images of some of my write ups way way back in 2013 when i was still enjoying my affair to the fullest just to show you how Stwpid you are for making such comment.

This particular thread was written way back in 2014.

rossyc:
I disagree with you on the maiden name ish...Whether her friends(male friends) calls her by her maiden name or not holds no water besides that's the name she has been known with, it has nothing to do with a marriage been destroyed..

Its progressive dearie..the insult starts from there but hardly noticeable until it gets too late.