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Some very cold babes go dey firm hot by force.
Nothing hot here but all I see is a bony oiled frame.

amokeme:
13 years I'm curious

I will only gist you if you are above 26 and single.

Ezionye:
Don't u have " not too hot girls" in ur area to start a relationship with since hot girls are an issue now. Or better still find d " cold" or "frozen" ones. I wonder what hotness means here anyway

Just to give you a little idea of what hot means...check the pics...

But understand that being hot is relative but conspicuously hot ladies are what we are referring to.

DLGUY:
E no even concern me because I know they are 90% lies.

Wetin pain me na the time and effort wey I waste.

I place much value on my time and I don't like wasting it on dump skulls.

Thank God you did not waste 13years with one as I did.

elantraceey:
An average looking girl today can become a 'hot chic' tomorrow when good money is involved so the difference is some choose to be extravagant and showcase their 'body' while others don't. If you really know the kind of lady you want it won't be difficult finding the 'different' one.


As for question, what difference will a yes or no make? You'll still believe and conclude whatever you want to.

I don't know your definition of a "hot chic" but a hot lady will be hot even in her poor state.

Mountbatten:
Smart men don't get married in this day and age due to how messed up modern women have become. In today's society, marriage only benefits women with the divorce laws, child support and alimony.

I am yet to meet someone who can tell me the point of getting married. If it's for having kids, you can either adopt or get a surrogate without getting married.

A single man can chose how to spend his money and time. If you can't keep your little head down then there's escorts or women of the night to take care of that. Most women today aren't worth marrying hence the high divorce and cheating rate.

Cristiano Ronaldo and Leonardo Di Caprio are examples of smart men.

But for the fact that I am a believer in Christ who hates sexual immorality, I will never go near that scam called marriage.

Too many sweet ladies willing to go down with you and you have all your freedom without any emotional attachment but how can I explain to God my reason for sleeping with different ladies....sone times I wish there is no commandment against indiscriminate sx.

elantraceey:
That's a very wrong conclusion and hasty generalization. So I should become ugly to remain faithful? That's a big lie, anyone that wants to cheat will cheat whether beautiful / Ugly , poor or rich.

This is the line most of them use to hide their nature but only very few are truly different and I hope you are not one of the bad ones.

DLGUY:
How can someone I've never met before break my heart.

You all must be disillusioned to think ing such.

How do you even love or obsess over someone you've never met?

I wish you knew me better, you'd know I'm not even easilly impressed with women.

I only showered her with too much attention which got to her head and ofcourse she bailed out when she realised she wouldn't get what she wants from me.

The only thing I felt bad about was the fact that she was using my weakness against me.
Little did she know I'm way more than she thought I was.

I wish you knew how easy it is for me to get a girl but I choose not to waste my time and energy on them.

I was only trying to save the friendship we had but now I've realised she's not even worth the effort after seeing her.

Don't be fooled by the pictures, most of them don't look anything near the photo filters.


Heart broken my foot.

Sometimes people wonder why I'm still single at this age and most times I just want to keep mum because wettin dey after number 6 pass 7.

Most of these hot ladies are bad news and are better left to be used and dumped by as many randy guys as possible...rather than for them to strive to be fulfilled, they tend to look for guys that can buy them...for the sake of respect for my ex I would have pasted some crazy conversations we had which opened my eyes to the fact that most hot girls are disasters and a waste of time and resources....this is why you see the not too hot babes getting married to sweet dudes while the useless hot ones remain single till menopause catch up on them and most of them who are lucky to be married usually get dumped by the husband.

Sometimes I think a woman's outward beauty can be a curse on her if not we'll managed.

Medunah:
Yes, don't mind them...

They will leave responsible and well trained girl like me to go after beauty and curves that will break their heart at the end of the day.

Well, I think they deserve each other....the guys want them as trophy wives cos they beautiful & all and the girls also want their money!!

I "partially' agree with the Op, be wise and stop chasing physical appearances.......

This is why I have decided not to go for flashing beauty but very calm one with an average sweet body...I have learned a big lesson from my past affair.

Most hot ladies are useless and brainless...they think all that matters is their hot body with nothing else to offer.

Apologies to the hot and reasonable ones out there but the bad ones have given you all a terrible reputation...hot chic my foot

20% 30% 50% 80% 100% 200% erections. ..lmao!
OP walahi you have no problem just that you are psychologically troubled.
Since your self service act is disturbing you then stop it and get a girl.
With a lady around you,there will be improvement even without premarital sex.

DavidEsq:
Pls com an take a bag of rice o. Imagine telling a lady u slept with, that "I wld teach u to operate on a level of grace u have never experienced". Haba! That pastor ehn....

COZA comes to mind.

Even me wey get chance to enjoy free kpekus dey try hold body because I don't want to take God for granted yet there is a general overseer wey dey enjoy sin with impunity.

BiafranPound:
This is why I said sample your ekwe and ekwe your sample before marriage! It's rather unfortunate! There's no hope, no light , there only despair for that man!

Another proof to show that in Nigeria,marriage is a big scam.

So if you sample your ekww before marriage and after marriage the ekwe turn to sample wettin you go do?

leave am abi?

LeView1:
This is how a man gets treated when he relies on a woman and her family for upkeep. That's all I got from this. Men make your own money and accept no assistance from her family because you will be treated worse than their housemaid. They will table your business and tell the world your story.

You are very right sis. ..I can imagine if the dude were a Dangote son or very wealthy I guess they will still be trying to help out or be optimistic.

alexialin:
Nah I don't love him anymore. He's chapter is closed forever. Nothing can resurrect my feelings towards him.. It's dead and buried

Habba! you sound so hard..remember...never say never.

And btw is that you on your dp or a Japanese doll?

Very insightful thread

The sermon of grace Is the most dangerous one because there is a thin line between being a slave to sin and being over dependent on the grace of God.

That moment when you enjoy sins and even plan to sin with the mindset that God will always forgive you is the moment you have become a slave to sin.

Ishilove:
Marriage is NOT a scam. My parents and countless others I know testify to this

Ishilove maybe in your family it isn't and I also know that in mostly other countries people marry for love but in Nigeria I insist a trillion times that 99% of marriages are hinged on either what the man or woman has to offer and never on real desire or love as they call it...Quote me anywhere.

Happy sunday

We are tired seing this.

WriteBoy:
I agree that there were compelling factors that led to that decision. What I admire is his calm approach to it. Go back and read the op's post, the guy is handsome, financially okay and living a good life -- If he does not get to engage in sex, do you think that will scale back the quality of his life?

What do you mean by "hell on earth?"

Instead of running around hospitals seeking for an elusive cure -- that is: assuming that the cause of his sexual health issues are incurable -- wouldn't it be a better tradeoff for him to maximise enjoyment in other areas of his life instead of becoming flustered, despondent and restless at something he doesn't have control over?

You also have to realise that the things that make your world tick are different from another individual's and as such you should refrain from judging a person's decisions using your frame as the only yardstick

Like seriously! which life fit sweet without enjoying the succulence of a woman's body and hearing the sweet ring tones...oloun maje

metallisc:
the problem is a psychological one... maybe he doesn't find your sister sexually appealing enough. it happens all the time in relationships, especially forced ones. Most guys already have a fixed mental picture of what they certify as sexually appealing, anything below that image won't get them turned on and excited.

He has been going to prostitutes abi? ask yourself, has he been going to them to watch football?
If you know any of the pros he has been hanging out with, talk to them and find out what he does with them to clear any doubts.


just get him in a room with a girl that looks like the one below and watch him spring to life like a volcano!

A thousand likes for this...in fact you are so on point.

I'm the type that will hardly have an erction if the lady is not sexually appealing to me even if she goes nude.

I'm very very visual which is why I must marry a lady who is sexually appealing to my eyes else...

WriteBoy:
I love the guy even more for wanting to become celibate. Do you know the amount of self-discipline needed to make that happen.

I cannot imagine it mehn. The dude is a strong man.

Celibacy for a young man is hell on earth...and you can't call him a strong man because it was a decision made out of compulsion.

alexialin:
The man has a problem. Have seen this scenario happen before but I didn't go far getting married to the guy. During courtship, i realise he's everything the op just mentioned about her younger sis husband. And the funny part of it.. He's not eager for us to look for solutions especially spiritually to it. Cause he claimed he has taken all kind of herbs and drugs.. So I said then it's spiritual.lets go for prayers... that's when he then said he's not doing again.. He wants out.. I said ok good. See person wey I want help assist to restore his manhood.. He doesn't even want help. And he's so handsome, tall and comfortable financially .. That's how we breakup. Recently I heard from his friend that he does not want to date babes anymore.. And wants to be celibate.. I just shook my head and I told his friend.. That's his problem jare.. I have my own am thinking, money things on my mind.. he can do whatever he likes with his life..Better sef, so he won't raise babe hopes anymore.. I don't care. It's his choice.
One can take a horse to the river but u can't force it to drink water.

Op let your sister insist on taking him for medical checkup.. If nothing is revealed.. Then they should both go spiritual and find the cause.. Maybe he has donated his manhood for higher powers who knows.

Hmmmm! It's apparent you really love the guy...

Reading this thread makes me thank GOD a billion times that despite my sacral nerve damage,I still fit make woman squirt.

FortuneTeller:
I am coming today with tears in my eyes for my little sis. She is kind, sweet, and a very nice young lady. She met a 35 year old man last year who courted her and convinced our family of his sincerity. He is a nice guy and very handsome. They went for medical tests before the marriage and were told everything was fine. They have now been married for 3 months without sex. My sis has cried to me for the past 2 weeks. She says he has tried some herbal supplements and even saw a pastor, but nothing has changed. They did not have sex before marriage, but she says she has seen him with an erection before and after the marriage. However when he is about to insert himself, he loses the stiffness. I don't know what to do. Someone from our area says he is known to visit many prostitutes. I don't believe he is seeing them now because he has been with our family for some time now and even working in the family business. As they have not consummated the marriage, we are thinking of returning the things he bought so she can be free. How can a 35 year old man be impotent?? My sister shall not suffer.

Shebbi I have reiterated that marriage is a big scam

So where is the love? what if the table turned and it was your sis that has issues?

It is well.

OLAFIMIX:
Thank God you are over 40, help us by marrying as many widows and divorcées as possible.

I'm not cut out for polygamy but guys who can handle can gladly go ahead.

shayma:
There is nothing bad in polygamy if you are financially capable. Many people deceiving them self thinking they are deceiving GOd. You claim is a sin to marry two wife, but prefere to commit adultry by having side chick . Even to the extent of having child from another women outside. Wouldn't it better if you marry that side chick legally.
Who says is only polygamy that face problem in marriage. Mongamy do either. A lot of couple ends there marriage nowaday due to infidelity. Is not the availability of suplus marriageable women caused it.?I am not the fans of polygamy,but only GOd knows tomorrow. But it is just provoke me whenever i hear polygamy is a sin or is bad. One man one woman on my football. When you get many girlfriend you Bleep out side marriage. Who is deceiving who

Very insightful.

loveanonymity:
Is it that obvious? I usually try to be anonymous and quiet.

You are most likely an introvert...I am one too...we think outside the box.

Dfinex:
now we are getting somewhere. how about we disabusing our minds of this oddity : which is single guys thinking they must get married to single younger women?

It's not a matter of must. ..mature single guys do not see any biggy in a lady being a single mum as long as she is good enough to be married to but the probability that those group will be more appreciated by married men is very high compared to single guys...

These are basic facts.

H2Ossss:
Cool bro... Cool bro... Let's flip the table bro... Y not your wife marry anoda husband? C'mon... Lots of men don't have good jobs to marry a wife... Wait till you fall in their shoes

Exactly my point....polygamy is a matter of choice and men who can marry more wives should gladly go ahead...their life...their choice.

loveanonymity:
Some people think I am crazy when I tell them I don't mind my husband marrying a widow, divorcee or older unmarried women, but you spoke my reasons. All the single guys saying there will be people that will marry them, I put this question to them: can you marry any of them? A few that will say yes might even be playing lip service. I won't let my man know I don't care about it cos I think guys want ladies to be possesive of them too but honestly I don't care as long as he is capable, just and still shows me love and affection.

I would like to know you cos you have a very peculiar mindset...

I need some intelligent contributors to this piece...
cc:Ishilove,Seun, lalasticlala

Rainmaker69:
Interesting words... written by a single gentleman.

That was married..

Courted for 6 years and thought I knew her but I was dead wrong.