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Romance › Re: When you want an Unforgettable Wedding Ceremony. by Toks2008(op): 9:20pm On Apr 07, 2017

greatgod2012:
Insightful piece!

Many people forget that wedding is just for a day, while marriage is for lifetime!

Invest in marriage not wedding!

As if she go gree do small wedding ceremony. .

Ladies and lavish wedding be like...

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TV/Movies › Re: BBNaija: Ayiri Emami To Give Efe N50M & Brand New SUV - HPRTV Claims by Toks2008(m): 9:18pm On Apr 07, 2017

I hope this billionaire guy does more philanthropic activities else he is a serious money miss road.

Romance › Re: Single Lady Vows To Sit On Railway Until She Sees A Husband (PHOTO) by Toks2008(m): 12:56pm On Apr 07, 2017

LordIsaac:
She looks good na...I can't speak for her character sha.

My tots too...

But then there are many super hot ladies out there desperate for a husband but they try to cover it up and ironically even cute dudes too of advanced age are also desperate but only at a vantage position because they are males...

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Romance › Re: When you want an Unforgettable Wedding Ceremony. by Toks2008(op): 9:59pm On Apr 06, 2017

2biel:
wow! there are lessons to learn from this thread.

However, not all parents could do likewise. In this era where parents of the groom would want to show that, they have what it takes to marry that woman.

Yeah but I don't know if lalasticlala would consider this insightful piece.

Romance › When you want an Unforgettable Wedding Ceremony. by Toks2008(op): 10:57pm On Apr 05, 2017*

Read this and learn.

"Dad, can you loan me Five Hundred Thousand Naira?" Kola asked his father.

"What for son?", his father asked.

"For my wedding.

By our calculations, we're falling short meeting the cost".

Kola had come to meet his parents with his fiancé.

"Your wedding? How much is the total cost of the wedding?", his father asked.

"N3.6 million. We're thinking of starting the committee next week. We can together give about eight hundred thousand and expect our friends to help us raise about two million. I remember you told me if ever I need help I can come to you" Kola answered.

His father held him by the shoulder and said "Go get your wife and come meet me at my study room".

"Yes dad", Kola obliged.

Minutes later, Kola and his fiancé,Tomilayo walked into his father's study room.

"Having a good time my daughter?" Kola's father asked.

"Yes I am. You and your wife are so hospitable. I pray that Kola and I can emulate your marriage. You are an admirable couple" answered Kola's fiance.

"Thank you. I am delighted to have you as my daughter. This is your home, you're welcome anytime", said father.

They sat down.

"Thank you dad"
"So, I hear you want to spend N3.6 million for your wedding and you need me to help with five hundred thousand?", asked father.

"Yes, we will greatly appreciate" said the fiancé.

"The wedding will be at the Total Garden Ibadan in about six months time", said Kola.

"Why do you want to have a big wedding?", father asked.

"Well, it's our big day. She's always dreamt of a big wedding", Kola replied.

"Have you dreamt of a big wedding or a strong marriage?", The father asked the fiancé.

"When you put it that way, it's more of a strong marriage" said the fiancé.

"Good. You've answered wisely. So who do you expect to come for your wedding?", asked the father.

"Friends and relatives. About seven hundred people", answered Kola.

"How many true friends do you really have?", I mean friends who have been tried and tested to be there for you through thick and thin?, asked the father.
Kola and Tomilayo looked at each other.

"Countable", the fiancé answered.

"So who are these other people who will come to your wedding?", asked the father.

Silence.

"OK. Let's go to the relatives. I know you love your relatives, but how many are really close to you? You barely talk with the many relatives you have", said the father.

"What are you trying to say dad?" asked Kola.

"My son, my daughter; why do you want to spend N3.6 million on a wedding, a one day event yet you need the money in your marriage? Look, you are actually coming to ask me for money, you will form a committee to ask people for money; all to show off and please people who will not even matter in your marriage"

Silence.

The father continued, "Let me share with you my experience. When I married your mother, we spent about a million for the wedding. That was a lot of money then. We fed people, got stressed by service providers, just so that we put up a wedding that will win the applause of a crowd. But as soon as we got married, the crowd disappeared. All the issues that your mother and I went through, no one cared, even family couldn't do much. Every one is busy living their life. When things got tough, the crowd gossiped about us, some even seemed happy that our marriage was in trouble"

Silence.

"I have seen this script repeated over and over. Brides get stressed on their wedding day, they can't even enjoy, couples being angry at friends who don't support them financially, and does it make any logical sense to start your marriage in debt or struggling financially? and the strange part is that most times,couples who do grand weddings usually do not have a happy and lasting marriage while those who have very low key wedding usually experience a blissful union.

Do you know a wedding doesn't have to cost so much, it doesn't have to be stressful, it doesn't have to be full of people who perhaps will never talk to you again?" added the father.

"But dad, what will people think if we do a small wedding or we don't invite them?", asked the fiancé.

"Are you getting married for people? If you have a small wedding with only the witnesses who matter, will you two not be married? What is all this competition of who has a grand wedding for?

People are competing on Facebook, in weddings; why this need to show off? You know that money you are about to blow in one day, you can use it to invest in your marriage, you can start the process of buying or building a home, you can save up for the needs of the children you will have because you need money to raise a family. Why not start your marriage financially healthy and not in debt?

Marriage is what is more important than a wedding", continued the father.
"Dad, if you don't want to support us it's okay", said Kola.

The fiancé stopped him saying, "No my love, dad has a point. I actually find the idea of a small wedding not just wise and economical, but also intimate. Marriage is just you and me, not people".

The father spoke, "My son, in all the years you have been a man, you have never come to me asking for money, but now you are asking for money to put up a show? I look further, I look at your marriage. I admire how people come together in a wedding committee to raise money and I wonder, what if couples and people use that same energy to put up a business that will uplift families. Those members who will be part of your wedding committee, imagine if they become your investors, imagine if you build a company where you can make profit and feed your homes. Something sustainable."

Kola and his fiancé nodded.

"My son, I have longed for the day you would come and ask me to invest in your business idea. But today I will make the first move", the father said taking his cheque book from his drawer.

He wrote on the cheque then gave it to the fiancé.

"Here my son, this is a cheque of 4million naira, not for your wedding but as start up capital for a business of your choice. I am giving the cheque to your wife because as the Proverbs 31 woman said, she is to walk with you in building an empire for your family. Focus on your family, give your family the best; forget about the public and opinions of people who don't matter. Build a future for your family. Build your family on a foundation of surplus not debt".

"Thank you so much" said the fiancé.
Kola stood up with tears in his eyes. His father stood up too.
The father and son hugged.

"Thank you dad for being a great figure and your counsel. I don't know what to say. You have challenged me not to merely get married but to have a vision, a vision for my family. I don't know what to say" he spoke.

The father held his shoulder, "You will make a great husband and father. I wish I had the same counsel when I was getting married, all those people I fed on my wedding day didn't add value to my marriage. In fact, if I was to organize an event and feed multitudes, I would do so for the less fortunate and those in need.

Source:Anonymous but modified by me.

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Romance › Re: Man Grabs Fiancée's Boobs In Pre-Wedding Photo by Toks2008(m): 4:02pm On Apr 05, 2017

Lobatan!
We go soon see prewedding pics of an unclad couple making out.

Celebrities › Re: BBNaija: Annie Idibia Supports Efe (Photo) by Toks2008(m): 3:53pm On Apr 05, 2017

afezy110:
based on logistics.. Efe has won BBN

Tboss go surprise una.

Celebrities › Re: BBNaija: Annie Idibia Supports Efe (Photo) by Toks2008(m): 3:52pm On Apr 05, 2017

Jodha:
I respect Annie the more.. She made an intelligent choice.. Wise people join the winning team..
If our African queen can support EFE.. Why can't yhu..

Vote EFE.. He's a winner..

Shout out to Annie.. Black African mamma.. Black is beauriful..

That baba wey do EFE jazz Sabi work o...as everybody dey support am...but till Sunday Sha ...

I no dey watch am o..but nland Don over advertise the show.

Celebrities › Re: JJC Skillz 40th Birthday: Family Photos Of Funke Akindele, Hubby & Stepchildren by Toks2008(m): 5:01pm On Apr 04, 2017

I almost felt bad that I'm yet to be a dad at my age when JJC a younger dude already has 4 children but when I remember that they are from 3 different mothers,I just kept mum.

I don't want that type of life.

Crime › Re: SS1 Student Gang-raped By 4 Classmates After Taking "Gegemu" by Toks2008(m): 4:57pm On Apr 04, 2017

Gegemu dey here mafiku sere. .. Awon alakori bi ti e won takiti sere *singing gbamugbamu by 9ice*

Family › Re: Photo Of Beautiful Family Of 8 Children by Toks2008(m): 12:29am On Apr 04, 2017

Jammiiee:
Na her signature nw lol

lol! don't mind uzolexis..she is probably one of the naira land ladies who lacks cognitive ability to comprehend my mature and non hypocritical stands.

Ask her to list the threads to support her assertion and it will blow your mind that she will not be able to defend her myopic stands.

Please ignore her...she is just an attention seeker.

Family › Re: Photo Of Beautiful Family Of 8 Children by Toks2008(m): 11:00pm On Apr 03, 2017

Jammiiee:
Wow. What did Toks2008 do to u

Which one be my own for the Matta?

Family › Re: Photo Of Beautiful Family Of 8 Children by Toks2008(m): 10:58pm On Apr 03, 2017

agog:
hmmmm. She tried if truly she gave birth to all of them. But the odd seem so impossible as the oldest kid in the pics is about 5 year old or less. so she must have been giving birth yearly plus at least two set of twins.

My mama try pass am...she born a whole football team minus keeper.

Family › Re: One man, One wife by Toks2008(op): 6:43pm On Apr 03, 2017*

Kcove:
I agree with the OP, the principle of one-man-one-wife is seriously flawed

Romance › Re: "That Backside Can't Be 19" - Online Users React To Lady's 19th Birthday Photos by Toks2008(m): 5:13pm On Apr 03, 2017

I know a 17year old who looks more mature.

Christianity Etc › Re: If You Marry Wife Through Facebook, You Will Lose Her On Youtube- Pastor Adeboye by Toks2008(m): 6:11am On Apr 03, 2017

Davidooooo:
Nice 1 daddy, please tell them, that the woman they met on Facebook can never be the same with the one they saw on ground, so many Devils on the Internet,

And what is the assurance that the one you see on ground will be the same with the one you put at home?

Christianity Etc › Re: If You Marry Wife Through Facebook, You Will Lose Her On Youtube- Pastor Adeboye by Toks2008(m): 6:08am On Apr 03, 2017

Benita27:
Only matured minds would grasp the underlying message. I don't even want to meet my husband on social media not to talk of men picking wives from social media.

Please, do not quote me if you think otherwise. Try the next person. Thanks in advance!.

Like seriously?

SMH! For the records...real people in the real world are also the people on social media.

Please change your mindset before you miss the train...we are in the 21st century.

Christianity Etc › Re: If You Marry Wife Through Facebook, You Will Lose Her On Youtube- Pastor Adeboye by Toks2008(m): 6:05am On Apr 03, 2017

Splinz:
If this remark really came from Adeboye, then it's really an unfortunate one.

This statement is akin to saying: "All Facebook users are worthless". Adeboye of all people should have known that people use sites like Facebook for different reasons; both business and pleasure.

So, that one meets a woman on Facebook that appeals to him and marry her, does not in anyway translate to losing that same woman to other social sites.

In fact, this statement has little or no sense at all!

IF indeed he actually said this then he must have been miscontrued but nevertheless we need to understand that he is an old man with achaic mindset regardless of his calling so I'm not surprised.

It's just unfortunate that mindless members will take this to heart.

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Romance › Re: I Said I Needed A Serious Relationship With A Man, See What I Found! by Toks2008(m): 10:29pm On Apr 02, 2017

Omohjick:
He's just there. A time waster

This life is so funny...it is well sis

Just that this guy nah military man o with his approach.

But you can't say there are no other guys out there wooing you...maybe you are too picky like me

Family › Re: Can You Start A Family With This Salary In Nigeria? by Toks2008(m): 7:26pm On Apr 02, 2017

DaddyNick:
As a young graduate who got a job with a starting salary of N60,000 monthly and you have a fiancee who is also a graduate and has a job of N40,000 monthly, do you guys think one can start a good home with this a raise a decent comfortable family in Nigeria?

Yes you can manage that while you work for more...wealth is progressive.

Romance › Re: I Said I Needed A Serious Relationship With A Man, See What I Found! by Toks2008(m): 7:15pm On Apr 02, 2017

Omohjick:
My fellow nairalanders, I think I'm in a deep mess. Truly I'm old enough to settle down and my parents won't let me rest. They asked me to stop chasing after money but settle down and we all know men of these days, they like already made just as the way they complain about the ladies...now I met a guy who is ready to settle down and very responsible. He doesn't stay in Nigeria...

He is such a caring man and ha never married. He was born and brought up in England but he's from Lagos.

Hmmm...the worse part of him is that he's too jealous and calls me like 100times in a day. I'm not exaggerating plz. I'm here in Lagos but he never allows me to rest at all. If he calls me twice and I'm not picking its gonna be problem.

He keeps asking are you with someone there?
Why are you not replying my chat so fast?
Why did you put off your data please I hate it
What are you doing right now?
Why are you not speaking aloud?

Lots of questions and I can't begin to imagine right now.
I don't know what to do please help me. He's choking me and just too jealous which is why he's still single according to him, no wife no kids.

If possible he can ask me to do video chat with him while crossing the express road.
Chai! I don hia am

What happened to the other guy that was nice to you but not asking you out?

Literature › Re: What Do You Want To Accomplish With Your Writing? by Toks2008(m): 8:08am On Apr 01, 2017

novelBeast:
What Do You Want To Accomplish With Your Writing?

That's the question I asked myself 2 months ago when I began my recent (and final) personal challenge: to independently publish my entire archive of creative writing and fiction.

Like so many things in life, if you want to accomplish something, a good place to start is by setting goals. A list of things that you can do, that will push you closer to the outcomes you desire.

But in order to identify what those goals are, you have to have some idea of what it is you're trying to accomplish. So I'll ask you again...

What Do YOU Want To Accomplish With Your Writing?

There are no right or wrong answers, it's entirely up to you. You don't even need to share your thought in this thread. Keep them to yourself if that helps.

Is your objective to write and independently publish a book, or a series of books, like me?

Is it to start a business of some kind? An online newspaper or blog, an editing service, copywriting service, ghost writing? Do you want to publish essays and bring awareness to the state of education in your country? Do you want to create content to promote entrepreneurialism in your community? Do you want to encourage people to eat healthier, live better, or report on local or international politics?

What?

What do you want to do with your writing? What are you trying to achieve?

Give yourself time to think about it, then go from there.

Once you have an idea of where you'd like to go, charting your course becomes a little easier.

I just write cos I love doing it...no other reason.

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Romance › Re: Man Dies Having Sex With 4 Ladies In Lagos by Toks2008(m): 8:02am On Apr 01, 2017

destinysaid:
for men, that thing na work, most women just lie there like wood screaming faster,harder

Serious work o...and amazingly most ladies are lazy in bed despite the fact that the guys do more work while they just position the hole.

If any man likes let him die trying to impress a lady who after 1 or 2 rounds keeps singing "give it to me...harder...oh you are great...drill me...screw me...deeper...destroy me....." nah sorry be your case cos you go just die go while she moves on to the next victim.

Romance › Re: Man Dies Having Sex With 4 Ladies In Lagos by Toks2008(m): 7:55am On Apr 01, 2017

stephenmorris:
[/b]The girls, who were already intoxicated at that time, said they thought he was enjoying it, so they kept going on taking turns and just having fun. It was when they noticed that he wasn’t breathing that they started screaming[b].THESE girls unknowingly RAPED the fool since they were all high .Aw can a man carry 4 girls .konji na strong thing oh

Madness indeed.....well he came through a hole and he died on the same hole.

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Celebrities › Re: Iyanya's First Sex With Yvonne Nelson: Singer Recounts by Toks2008(m): 3:47pm On Mar 31, 2017

Bumbae1:
So its her attitude during love making he misses
It is well .

Apparently....

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Celebrities › Re: Iyanya's First Sex With Yvonne Nelson: Singer Recounts by Toks2008(m): 3:45pm On Mar 31, 2017

Perfectionist11:
Must you include the sex part?...you disgusting cockroach...!.

Very stupid guy...childish and clueless.

Iyanya needs brain reset walahi.

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Celebrities › Re: Iyanya's First Sex With Yvonne Nelson: Singer Recounts by Toks2008(m): 3:44pm On Mar 31, 2017

ayesco202:
Abeg, who knows how much they now sell a paint rubber of garri in the market

I'm buying one today for N800...correct ijebu garri wey dey slap for mouth.

Romance › Re: Ladies Would Not Allow Me To Rest. (cute Pics) by Toks2008(m): 3:40pm On Mar 31, 2017

eiknarf14:
And who says 40year olds cant still look handsome and dapper ? ? ? lolzzzz

Exactly my point...of you look very cute and dapper at 40 after going through life proper then indeed you are cute...not all these baby cuteness.

Romance › Re: Man Who Recently Married A Lady Who Snatched Him From Her Friend, Speaks by Toks2008(m): 7:12am On Mar 31, 2017

kowema:
I am never for this school of thought and would never be.
Why do I have to keep my friends away from him if he doesn't have to keep his friends away from me.
Any man I have to Isolate from my friends for watever reasons never mine.
If he chooses my friend over me finally I will walk away no fighting. It will pain me that I had to be used to bring dem together but I will never stop being positive.
All relationships must not end in marriage.!

Makes sense.

Romance › Re: Man Who Recently Married A Lady Who Snatched Him From Her Friend, Speaks by Toks2008(m): 7:09am On Mar 31, 2017

Ashleydolls:
I'm wondering how he got to know the woman has all those qualities...hmmmmm..Ladies will never learn. You know you have a single friend that is better than you in terms of looks, attitude, bedmatics and what have we and yet you allow her have a good relationship with your partner. It starts from calling him uncle and before you say Jack, they exchange numbers and they're already talking on phone and dating. Ladies out there are desperate, if you find a good partner, keep him alone to yourself, stop telling your friends about him, stop allowing them to meddle in your affair. It's takes two to make a relationship, remember three is a crowd. Keep your relationship private and away from your friends. B*tches ain't loyal.

Ironically you had over 200 likes for this. .

If you like keep your man in the dungeon...it won't stop him from doing what he wants to do.. men will always be men..just be the best you can and leave the rest to fate.

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