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tosyne2much:
People are throwing shades at the OP but I stand with her on this.. Being too blunt and realistic sometimes haunts someone. That's exactly what the OP is facing

I'm happy seing a lady taking the heat...I'm so happy this is coming from a lady.

1bkaye:
What are the good reasons?

Too many to highlight.

L0velyn:
what exactly is ur point?... Are u trying to say men cannot do without cheating? c'mon if you gonna cheat on ur wife go ahead but dont make it look like "all men must cheat"

All men don't cheat and as I wrote...I hate the thought of cheating on my woman but I learned something funny recently.

Guys cheat for several reasons and if I was still with my ex I would cheat on her cos she is so sexual timid despite her hotness and great virtues.

pocohantas:
The problem is, most of you find it easier to type this on NL but in reality, I am waiting to see that man, whose wife will look him in the face and say she expects him to cheat.
No man would find it funny when his wife packs condom in his bags, even a serial cheat would find it insulting.

Are you one of the cheating men? You'll definitely say no.
Who then are these men that cheat?

I have never cheated on the two ladies i have ever really had affsirs with in mh life but will cheat on my wife if she gives me any reason to and if you ask most guys why they cheat...many will give you good reasons.

mekuso89:
Am 28 this year and I haven't seen any reason why a grown ass man should cheat a woman he loves

Get married for at least 10years and come back to comment.

kimbra:
Stop advising ladies to embrace polygamy. Are you a Christian or Muslim?...my religion doesn't support what you're encouraging.

Girls like you would cry hell when your man cheats!. Funny write-up!.

I hope you are not referring to Christianity as that your religion because polygamy is not a sin.

kimbra:
Ma'am don't force what you think or assume to be true on us "ladies".

Buy condoms for your husband and when he brings home a second wife quietly open the doors to your home for her just because you think all men have the tendency to cheat.

Better remain single if you can't cope with THE POSSIBILITY of your hubby cheating on you

All these rantings won't help

Bumbae1:
Many relationships are out there with faithful men that only see one woman
Please ladies don't lower your bar if he cheats and you feel you can't live with one go . Never ever condone rubbish
Your life deserves happiness and a good man ! Yes no one is perfect but let the imperfections not be unfaithfulness ..


If its guys and lady cheats in marriage hope they will keep her too

Better remain single.

Yes there are few faithful men out there but to be on the safer side,expect him to cheat on you.

[quote author=Lawlahdey post=54431645][/quote]If nah my thread some ladies will curse and rant but thank God this is coming from a lady.

austinosita:
I understand bro and I feel your pain. I once passed thru this sh1t and it was hell for me.
You can check my comments on the NIV thread.

#we don't have a govt

The issue is not even about the refusal but the entire process.

UK and Canada will state clearly why you are denied with right of appeal after meticulously screening every document presented by applicant.

But for U.S they just ask some generic questions and do mini mani mo on you based on psychological evaluation which is never a full proof cos many still go without coming back even after convincing the officers they have ties in their home land.

The bottom line is that U.S visitor visa application is pure gamble and your chance of winning it is dependent on luck and how good you are in convincing the interviewing officers even if you have to lie....this is why many bad elements easily gain access to the states...

You documents are rarely checkd and no right of appeal...meaning your 50kplus is gone which is jist the same as MMM or baba ijebu...little wonder why some myopic people go to church to give testimony of "winning a visa to the states"

I had written to them recommending a restructuring of the entire process to allow for transparency and equity but Nigerian government is so non chalant.

sweatlana:
Who is Lalasticlala? Why do you ask for the person?

He is the most efficient Nairaland moderator I have seen in my 10 years membership on Nairaland. ..Even The Ijebu guy Seun knows.

funmisticqueen:
and those of us ladies with a vision for our lives will work hard too.

Epic

funmisticqueen:
you are either very young or very inexperienced, ask old married people

If I wrote this many will come for my head for pulling the age and inexperience strings but than God this is coming from a lady.

Unfortunately many ladies in Nigeria must brace up to either remain single for long,risk starting with a man or probably settle for a second wife or mistress of a made guy because 8 out of every 10 made guys out there already have a lady who stood by them and for those who don't have,they will hardly take you serious but only see you as a leech.

A terrible devil and deep blue sea situation.

dovelike:
You mean Tuface brother is a woman beater?.

Don't mind people speculating pooh...
But it seems anyone with a dotty record is refused entry once you leave.

I actually opened this thread to read scriptures butteresing her stands but when I read "the holy spirit ministered to me..." I knew she was just an attention seeker...

In the confines of marriage...anything goes as long as the couple is comfortable with it.

austinosita:
Gibberish! The ambassador is just trying to be relevant!

Those that were turned back at the port of entry nko?

Will they call all of them back?

#politics at play

Except I apply for any other visa category...I will never ever in this life again gamble my money for a visitor's visa...NEVER.

If you guys know how much the American embassy makes from Nigeria on an hourly basis from Mondays through Fridays on the visitor visa applicants alone. ..you will weep for this country...

More worrisome is their mode of interview which is never based on your true intent but on how you have mastered the act of convincing the interviewing officers.....this makes me conclude that the application process for a U.S visitor visa is grossly flawed and a big scam.

kwenu:
Op is biased.

Not at all.

lalasticlala do you agree?

Sugarboyy:
You want a wife, i have lots for you?

Lol! you are funny..

midashenry:
It happened yesterday. I called my gf in the early hours of yesterday to come over to the house so we can chill or maybe hangout and have fun, but she told me she was on her way travelling to go to her uncle's house. At first I was angry, because this is not the first time she is travelling without giving me prior notice, but as usual I said OK, and she said she would be back by Tuesday.

I decided to go to a friend's house because I was bored and on getting to my friend's house he brought up the idea that we should club that night so I agreed. We later drove to a club that night at Owerri (Cubana). Lo and behold who did I see sitting with her bestie and two other old men, old enough to be her dad, was my gf. She was so shocked when she saw me, but so I don't spoil her fun I sat and acted as if I didn't see her. But we both know we saw our selves.

She has been calling me since last night but I have refused to pick. I am so angry that if I pick her call she would hate the words that would come out of my mouth. So am pissed off and don't know what to do because she is suppose to visit me tomorrow, and I really don't even want to see her, because things might just get out of hand, so I just want to avoid her for now. pls I need ur advice on this.

Dont fire the shots just yet.....this thread is for you.....

https://www.nairaland.com/3610005/before-fire-shots

Cc lalasticlala

ok

Miggs:
Ifediba is a sensible lady.The main issue with virgins is,when they eventually have sex,even if they are married,they are always inquisitive to discover if the sex act is thesame or different with other men.So presently being a virgin, doesn't necessarily stop ladies eventually becoming promiscuous or having many sex partners

Yes it's good to be a virgin but it's no guaranty that the lady will eventually be faithful

I made my ex a woman yet she complained of spending all her years with me.....meaning "she got tired of experiencing same thing" lol! so I kuku allowed her to go and taste other delicacies and see if they are better...

So I honestly don't give a damn about a lady being a virgin cos most virgins will still stray.

imma2:
I fine pass this dudes na.

I wonder o...even at my age, I still fine pass all of them put together let alone in my 20s and 30s....

The only fact is that I have never seen myself as hot until I started seing ladies drooling over guys that are less cute.

BiggyB242:
Girls will date a fine boy but get married to someone who is financially comfortable. If you do your research ladies drooling over the pic are in their teens, early and mid-twenties, they are still young. Only the rich bae wouldn't mind dating a fine boy.

GBAM!

sweatlana:
Not true on all cases. My sis is a sucker for handsome men. She has her own money though

I like the closing remark.

When a lady has her own money,she will be confident to be with a man for the right reason.

RadiantBae:
Pastor! What took your eyes to her dp?

I was expecting this intelligent question...

On an interactive platform it is very natural to check on a dp of any poster that you find his or her comment a thing of interest so that is not a biggie.

And for those quoting and asking me why I'm judging her I must say they got it all wrong..who am I to judge? I only expressed my opinion which im entitled to and she could simply ignore or implement.

Some people need tutoring on how to comport themselves on any social interactive platform either on or offline.

Amarabae:
this is morning pls! I don't want to start the day with argument.
Have a nice day.

There is no room for argument so stop being sentimental.

Call me a moralist or hypocrite if you like but I have the right to express myself.

A married woman is required to dress modestly to ensure that she does not provoke or invite lustful thoughts in other men and I made my comment based on that premise and it's left for you to ignore or maintain a status quo.

“In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety” (1 Tim.2:9).

Have a great day.

Amarabae:
Mr "am holier than thou".
Always quick to remove a peck in other people eyes and forget the one in theirs.

My sis no be fight o....if you like go nude...just exhibiting my fundamental right to freedom of expression.

Amarabae:
Wow, One of them looks a bit like my husband.
The resemblance is close. Tall, broad shoulder, chocolate skin and goodlooking.

Hmmm! if indeed you are married then your dp should look more married lady like...my opinion tho.

Unfortunate naija babes no send fine boy...once you have the money...you are the finest even if you are as ug...

Funny...

mamagee3:
[color=deeppink]Hi all, do I look possessed/scary?[/color]

You look very elegantly pretty....but maje ko ko si e Lori o..lol!