Each time I hear people talk about getting married as one big task I just shake my head at their ignorance.
Ask any single guy or lady of advanced marriageable age why s/he is still single and you are certain to hear words like..."I'm taking my time,can't rush in and rush out,I need to be sure I'm with the right person...." but the question is ;"Does the fact that you are extremely careful in choosing a spouse guarantees a happy marriage?
Getting married is the easiest task anyone can accomplish and far easier than complicated courtship but we tend to make a mountain out of a mole hill.
You can't be too careful or careless when it comes to your choice of spouse because there is no good or bad choice but what we have is "YOUR CHOICE". Good people can turn very bad and a great courtship is no guaranty of a great marriage so take the risk and stop wasting your time in the name of "being careful"
So if you are a man or lady who is really interested in getting married then read this. 1.For the guys :
Ask yourself some vital questions about the type of woman you want,her tribe,physical attributes as well as inherent attributes and so on and don't just try out every lady in skirt.
Understand that whatever pleases your eyes will inadvertently please your soul so go for a lady that catches your fancy physically, ask her some basic questions about her persona,do a quick background check on her and if you are ok with your findings just take the risk as long as you can feed yourself and one more person and also have a place of your own.
If you can afford a lavish wedding then go ahead but if not talk to your woman about doing a small wedding by paying her bride price and going to the registry while you both plan for a bigger wedding.
If she refuses then help her foolishness by enjoying wify duties from her while she continues to wait but if she accepts your plan please go ahead and marry her and try to work out your differences...
Remember that you can never know a woman but you can only try to understand her gradually only when you start living together.
And remember that though GOD hates divorce,there is always an option of walking away from the marriage if needs be. 2.For the ladies:
Save your self the bull poo of dating and courtship...it's a total waste of time cos it's no guaranty of a happy union.
Except you are a teenager or in your adolescent when dating is mostly just for the fun of it,if you are really interested in a purposeful affair then you don't need to court any guy for more than a year.
If you see a guy you have strong desire for and he says he wants you,...do a quick background check on him and if you are ok with your findings..take that risk and go for it...
Stop complicating your life about doing an expensive wedding by fire by force...you can always do that latter but if the money is available then go ahead with the wedding of your dreams
I have seen many guys and ladies despite their over Sabi and meticulous courtship still break up with their spouse so why fool yourself.
If you like continue to waste your time looking for the ideal man and fooling yourself in the name of courtship while actually getting used by the guy. Dating and long courtship is for boys and girls who just want to catch fun. No matter how hard you try and how long you court a man, you can never truly know any man until you start living with him and a guy that truly wants you as a wife does not need any yeye long courtship with you.
Marriage is overrated so stop killing yourself trying to be in the best marriage...just take the risk...if it favors you,stay and if it becomes unbearable,take a bow so why waste your time trying to be too careful when you can never be sure of getting an ideal man or woman no matter how careful you may be.
lalasticlala: From the face of Delta soap (who remembers her delta soap advert.. .from the first day I met you girl... ..?) to her foray into Nollywood, beautiful Lilian Bach has come a long way. Though she might not be a fantastic actress, but her ravishing beauty covers her weakness in acting. Nothing much has been heard of the 'Outkast' actress lately.
Here are recent pictures of Lilian Bach still looking beautiful.
MosakuAW: Yes you have to source for dollars and deposit it in your account. Whenever you make any transaction you will be charge based on the bank rate. E.g Frank charges N320 to a Dollar as at 28th of Feb when I used my dollar card. I don't know what other banks charges
I'm so sorry but you need to explain more.
This is a dorm account and not naira which means what I have there are dollars.
So let's say I have 300 dollars and I make use of the card attached to my dollar account to make a transaction costing 100usd are u implying that the transaction will be debited in naira? Note that this is a dollar account and not naira.
MosakuAW: Banks will not provide you with the dollars but they will charge you based on their own exchange rates.
I did not get this part..please explain...because I had to buy dollars from black market to deposit in my Dom account so I guess when I do any transaction the money is automaticslly removed in dollars and not their own rate.
nemynely: pls just stop! none of what you mentioned above had a hand in the feat he achieved. why underplay the fact that Olatunbosun has put in tons of hours into workout and training sessions which culminated in the brilliant goal we are all celebrating, including CNN. If it is by fire and miracles, lets see them tweak an unbeaten run and win the league.
This your comment just inspired me to create a thread which will be titled..."Principles and principalities"
My brother i quite agree that lots of self development played a hige role but pray you don't experience a situation where all the principles of success fails because there is a principality somewhere working against you.
We live in a black continent and a black country where everything works against our success.
If you want to doubt me just make your research and it will blow your mind that there have been better goals before his yet no one heard about them.
R80: Religion can be manipulated by anyone, it's a case of finding the right words to suit your goal. What about the fact that an adulterous spouse can bring AIDS to the bedroom what then forgive and forget?
izzou:
Very soon, the next generation will only see snakes in pictures
I know a mod who can tell us the species but I won't mention his name.
Just wake me up when we get to the promised Kingdom
Lol! sometimes I wonder if lalastickala is an ophidiologist.
deflover: Last week we saw one of the greatest drop in the value of the dollar with a sharp gain of the naira in the black market. How was this achieved. Who made this happen. Who is the smart ass. Anyway this move made a lot of people poorer i.e currency speculators who kept buying the dollar putting a demand on the dollar while the naira suffered from low demand till it hit the high of 2016 and just then the CBN intervention came in with a mad flood of much more dollars and the mopping up of naira so that there was a scarcity of naira. And wholla the dollar came crashing down while the more the naira was mopped out of the system.
This brilliant intervention means the CBN is using our reserves to fight the dollar war How sustainable is this ....will the CBN be willing to continue this.
As a forex trader with 10years experience I watched with my mouth open as it happened and shook my head as the internet was glowing with news how osinbanjo is the man How he tamed the dollar in one swing of the magic wand.I saw panic selling going on as many turned in thier dollar. While smart investors bought all these dollars for keeps. Now the dollar fall has stopped Why did it stop I thought it will fall for ever as we are made to believe. Just yesterday while watching ARISE TV the news came out of the economy contracting by -1.4% for the first time in 20years. Meaning for the first time in 20years the economy stopped growing Now the real bad news was from the PMI ( producers manufacturing index) saying it fell What does this mean It mean the real people who needs the dollars are not getting it But osinbanjo gave dollars for school fees payment While the manufacturers who need dollars are not getting it
Even the economy according to the news saw major improvement from the oil sector because militants have stopped bombing So the non oil sector fell even the most holy agriculture.
Osinbanjo has stated in the last FED meeting he favours a devaluation of the naira. Right now the naira is 405naira to 1 dollar Let's assume he goes ahead to devalue to let's say 20 basic points That would be 425naira to 1 dollar Now imagine what the black market will do We will be looking at 550-600naira to 1 dollar Already JP Morgan is worried that Nigeria is not attracting FDIs ( foreign direct investments) What does that leave us It leaves us with an economy that will keep shrinking and a dollar war we can't win as fear will make more people demand for dollars as naira will keep falling. My advice to you Keep buying the dollar for keeps Keep your bulk money in dollars The trip to hell is about to get nasty God save our soul
opribo: Truly is it really worth the whole hype these days considering the high rate of divorce and infidelity amongst married couples. In some societies marriage is fast becoming extinct, people just have kids and move on with their lives nobody wants the others bullsh1t.
So in my mind, I think it would be a good idea if people will procreate rather than fool ourselves and deceive eachother people should just checkout whoever they like and produce children so the world may go on. This in my humble opinion will save us a lot from the marital troubles of this world.
Gerrard59: You made sense this time. However, as always, you displayed your hypocrisy. Hypocrisy? Yes, because you are the same person who has continually accused Nigerian females of leaving the man who they love but unfortunately doesn't have the financial resources to a financial stable fellow. You have said countless times that they are materialistic and will regret their change (asking them why can't endure with the "promising but broke fellow" ), but alas, as a hypocrite you changed again.
I am with you on this post, but had to point out your hypocrisy.
You need serious self education on what hypocrisy is about.
It's like calling the elders hypocrite because they scold a wife for not being humble to her husband and equally scold the husband for not being sensitive to the emotional needs of the wife.
I also wish to be in the helm of affairs someday too so help me GOD
Just take that bold step...
I'm a grass root politician today but I know that as long as I'm still breathing, I will be one of the greatest political leaders to ever come from this part of the world.