₦airaland Forum

That is the way to go if you must attain greatness in life.

When i look back at my past,the bad things i could have done without second guessing and remembering how i tuned away,i cant help but say to myself..what a sacrifice.

Each day i have the opportunity to sleep with different ladies but i always ask myself,what is the gain? I am a single guy and i have a staff strength of 10 in one of my businesses and all ladies yet i deliberately look away from all of them despite their beauty and i tend to ask myself...what is the big deal if you just catch your fun with any one of them but i also ask..does it make sense?

One thing i have come to realize in life is that pleasing GOD is not easy..it takes so much sacrifice but the truth is that the reward of pleasing GOD outweighs the sacrifice.

Sometimes i ask myself..am i guided by principles or the fear of GOD? Nevertheless, it pays to please GOD.

GOD help us.

https://www.nairaland.com/3025209/10-reasons-why-dont-indulge

FortuneTeller:
Let us make peace. A Christmas gift for you my brother.
I believe she will be to your liking...

https://www.nairaland.com/lady39

lol! very funny...but without sounding hypocritical I will say I appreciate your tenacity.

Happy holidays

falconey:
lol, you know I exaggerated, you look dashing(no homo).

lol! Funny enough i don old...tyhose days when i was in my 20s na die o...babes dey trip but now no show again as 20 something lady dey call me uncle

falconey:
tok2008 is that you on your D.p? damn!!! my dad will call you dad!.

Lol! so you think I'm a small boy abi...I could father a 25 year old if I put a girl in the family way at 16.

I just love to interact which is why I enjoy creating threads on nairaland not minding the naughty .kids here but then I still look very young to ladies in their late 20s And the 30plus.

VibrationsZ:
true talk mr toks, most of the tym a serious guy will take u to meet his parents, just hope fvckkboys wont start adopting this styl massively

No sane parent will condole silly act from any randy son...he can do it once but not twice.

Heavance:
Things have changed o, guys could meet your parents and grand parents, impregnate you and still not marry you. will the girl's parents kill him?

Even guys at 30 are not ready to settle down..... some are scared, some are waiting to live in their dreams, some want to have their millions first, some grew up as promiscuous, some don't even know when to be responsible.
'A lady marries to start a life, whole the guy married to end his life' that's how some see it

lol! it's not that easy...

jtwest:
ehn en @op, this ur talk sef is likely to disrupt the balance of the Universe, wat do u think a world where baes doesn't fall for lies will be like? even wen dey ask u question most time they expect u to lie, questions like; boo am I getting fat? or is she finer than me? I think your mum doesn't like me?..... so pppplllssss just enjoy d way the Universe is.
N.B: lie....if u can't! Stand aside and watch.

Hmmm..bad guy

In my years of existence I have seen many ladies go through series of heartbreak and there seem to be one generic reason for each one of these ladies...."Deciet"

Many ladies know when they are lied to but they tend to accept the deceit no matter how hard they try to caution themselves and at the end they act as though it took them by surprise.

There is one thing the bad guys have come to realize and that is the fact that ladies embrace lies because most of them are embodiment of falsehood from head to toe and no matter how smart a lady may claim to be,it is embedded in the genome of most ladies to love lies because they prefer to hear what they want to hear even if it is an obvious lie.Simply put...JUST TELL A LADY WHAT SHE WANTS TO HEAR AND YOU ARE ALMOST CERTAIN TO HAVE HER WHERE YOU WANT HER.

Tell a conspicuously fat lady she looks slim and she will say thank you with all smiles and tell a less attractive lady she is sexy and you will be her best friend. Even on nairaland,ladies tend to like deceitful comments from smart sharp guys more than sincere ones.

A lady sees a guy in his late 30s or in his 40s and he says he is single and she believes without doing serious due diligence.

A lady sees a guy in his 20s cruising a very costly ride and she believes when he says he is legit without asking serious questions.

A lady will ignore a sincere guy just to fall for a popular playboy because he tells her she is the only love of his life while other ladies are side dishes and that is the lie she wants to hear.

A lady wants a man that will be hers only but will look away from a sweet faithful guy who wants to make her his numero uno to start desiring a cassanova many ladies want.

I can continue endlessly to highlight facts that suggest why ladies will forever fall for great liars but my advice to sincere guys is to continue to be real because it pays and only a lady who is sincere to herself can be with a sincere man.

Many ladies will claim to love sincere guys and will say a guy that lies is a great turn off to them but unfortunately they are the exact opposite of what they say.

My humble submission.

This is the type of pics I love to see and not the overrated boring prewedding pics.

zicoraads:
I know my Mom. You dare not bring any girl to the house except you are very sure. In short, she no wan even see anyone wey na friend. If you dare, she will continue disturbing your life. Come go do mistake bring another, your own na finitò.

Good mother

SweetyZinta:
Thank you toks2008 for this topic. I will take heed to your advice before I enter one chance.





some guy I was dating even took me to his area but did not take me to meet his siblings though he is an orphan.
he told me his uncle is the only one at home with his wife and the uncle is so aggressive, that he is avoiding the uncle's problem




what baffles me the MOST was my guy tried calling his sister to come say Hi to me but she NEVER showed up after spending 2-3 hours with this guy.



My eyes are OPEN now.

You are welcome.

Teespice:
kai.

rules of interpretation on point. Is it literal, mischief or golden rule you used?

your write up showed two different things. you made it look like a man isn't serious if he does not introduce you to his family, yet you are saying a different thing now.

it is not a sure proof yes, but read your article again and see what you wrote and how you are contradicting yourself.

but then again, you are an acclaimed relationship expert, what do I know?

Does the fact that a guy shows you to his parent as a fiancee guaranty his marrying you if you cheat on him afterwards?

Does even a legal wedding guaranty happily ever after?

The problem I have always had with nairalanders is the way they comprehend my innocuous intelligent write ups..and it's really outta my hands...

Same way some people say I called marriage a scam just because they find it hard to comprehend.

Whatever rocks your boat.

OluKayy:
Sometimes, you truly see potentials in you and her but after introducing her to your parents, she bleeps up and gets caught creeping behind your back with some dude. Now who would you blame for that? You appear unserious to the people on the outside dumping her a$$ but you just dodged a bullet from a stupid trickling LovePeddler.

Exactly my point.

At least the lady will know it's her freaking fault.

Teespice:
even if he is serious and introduces you to the ancestors, if it is not you, it is not you.

what works for A may not work for B.

oh, I forgot........you know it all.

The fact that a guy introduces you to his parent is not a sure proof he will marry you...the topic reads "POSSIBLE future" meaning a better option as regards his intent...simple logic.

Justmiiiii:
What you really need my friend is #Jesus!!

Definitely

.

Pearly255:
We know already!!!!!!!!!!! We sure do!

Yeah I know..which is why many ladies still date a guy for donkey years with nothing to show.

enitey:
But some date for a long period of time.....say like 7years and still end up marrying


So having a rethink after two years or so does not apply to everyone o

The truth is that most of my write ups only apply to very mature people so a guy of 25 may not see any reason to show you to his parents cos at that level he does not even know what he wants.

dingbang:
Lol even if we invite them to know our families, it doesn't guarantee them answering our last names.

Nothing is guaranteed except death but at least it will be a good deal sealer.

Justmiiiii:
No... I'm not.

Oh my..now I believe there is a carbon copy of everyone somewhere in the world.

Nice calm dp tho.

Justmiiiii:
Yea u're kinda right though but.... Some mothers actually encourage their sons to be a so called "ladies man"... I'm sure the likes of those moms won't mind meeting different ladies every now and then...
#justsaying

justmiiiii sorry if I may ask are you ebere the older sister of Vivian?

BTW have I mentioned lalasticlala?

titi4fola:
Great article .Thank you for caring and sharing.

You are most welcome omoge.

Benita27:
That's what you would've done if in their shoes, but how many parents will call out a child in public?.

As someone will always say...if a guy wants to marry you he should go with his parents to see yours, you need not see his first.

Well i believe any parent who hides the excesses of a child is destroying the child.

Yes whichever one comes first..meeting your parents or you meeting his.Except the lady and the guy are still young and just playing around,it makes no sense dating a guy for 2 years without both of you knowing both parents....these are vital things many ladies overlook and they end up wasting years with one unserious guy.

Benita27:
No guy can deceive me with marriage.

Keep bragging..

TheSonOfMark:
Toks : Kunle, you brought another girl home? What about Cecilia? She seemed nice when we met.

Kunle: Dad, forget that girl. You should thank the heavens I didn't marry her. That girl has had countless abortions! I found out through a close friend that she tumbles beneath the sheets with random men too.

Toks : For real?! What's wrong with the women of your generation?! Thank God for you. So, how was your journey?
-----------------


Toks2008 , how would you know your son isn't playing you? He obviously knows how to pull your strings.

He can play me once.

darkmarky:
i am seeing an old man what's your point?

At least not a she

darkmarky:
you see why I said you need a hubby ( partner) your brain is melting. you don't know the difference between hubby and hobby?

Lol....see your life..please check my dp and you will know you are the one who needs a brain reset lol! abeg I'm not gay..

darkmarky:
tok2008 you need a hubby.

If you are reasonable you should know this is one hobby I love...writing....some value my write ups while some see it as trash.

TheSonOfMark:
What if the guy is playing everyone including his mum? He probably brought her home to his folks to get his 'nagging' mum off his back and get both women (mum and girlfriend ) into thinking he's serious about settling down.

There is always a first and at worst second time but as a strict person my son dares not bring a lady to me today and another tomorrow..I will tell him bluntly in the girl presence if he is sure. .I'm a no nonsense person.

NegeduGrace:
my ex did all this and still ended up breaking up for no reason only to resurface n pleading to be accepted back buh I don't do ex shit..the right person for you is the one u marry n see yourself growing old with by the Grace of God

When I write stuffs like this we must understand that a 25year old guy in the euphoria of love will show you to his entire family yet may not know what he wants...but at that point in time will be so carried away by the feelings he has for u.

It's a different ball game when a guy in his 30s does same.