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Mcowubaba:
Hmmm going there yourself...
Due to Security issues, I wouldn't advise that yet at this stage...
Also be wary of Officials and police men, who will want to exploit you on there own, thinking you're a Cash cow.

Getting over 200 girls from the Idps will require lots of logistics and expenses, I hope you're ready for that.
I would have preferred you start with like 5-10 girls, then you expand..
All this are dependent on also the state of Health of the girls in Question, whether the are orphans and their age.
If the are minors, that's another issue, because the may not be willing to participate and their parents may not release them. Some girls may not want to leave the camp, you will be amazed..

Also, state of Health, most of the girls there are malnourished, have PASS (post traumatic stress disorder), some are pregnant, some may probably have some STIs, some may have psychological disorders, so the need proper treatment/rehabilitation first, before the can engage in any thing tangible, to ensure maximum output.

Language too maybe a barrier, not to sound bigoted or tribal, but the fact is that most people from the core North, think English language is a Foreign language and not our official language, so the don't speak it, after all BBC Hausa dey....

Finally, as your scope is for only girls, you may be accused of woman trafficking, running a prostitution ring or sexual activity, all this depends on how you lay out your plans, vision and missions for the girls. And also your credibility and integrity to handle their matters.

All this are based on my experience in working with my friend's 'little' company in Somalia for something a bit similar..
Success

There is no way i will be able to take away 200 girls at once.

The business is about sales of edible products at various locations in the state and as i wrote before, ladies are more fashioned out for this business and these ladies will be employed in batches and not once.

It is a transparent thing and as i wrote, im no money bag at all but each lady employed could also make me a profit of 1k daily while she makes like N1200 for herself for those personally employed by me and caterers involved in same business will eb willing to employ as many as possible.

It can be monitored from start to finish but as you just wrote the obvious...there could be some frustrations from the authorities even when it is obvious that they cant fend for them.

Mcowubaba:
If u read my comment, I never said u should go to Idp camps.
Getting NGOs that are involved shouldn't be an issue, RED Cross, Rotary club are definitely involved just to mention a few...
You can start from sending a Tweet or Pm to the lady (who her tweets are in the front page) that is talking about this sex exploition, she definitely has access to more information about this Idps...
Anyways, whatever your doing is charity and goodwill, so don't be dismayed...

I am not dismayed except the fact that i would have loved to go there and meet with those in charge, do the police reports and file the required papers and within 3 months more than 200 will be gainfully employed. I have always had this in mind but the distance is a problem.

I will try to get in touch with the lady in question.Thanks

Mcowubaba:
Brother, you can have access to them....
U don't even need to be there in person..
Just liase with some authorities nd NGOs involved in the Idp camps and you can access them......

My friend did something similar in Somalia back then......

And how do I get the contact of the ngo?

They can even monitor the process and they will be amazed.

Too many things on my hands to start going down to idp camps.

Reinvented:
Are you a female trafficker? Why not men and women. Why young girls?

I believe that girls will easily adapt to the business more...which one be female trafficking?

DanielGb:
explain more Sir,
maybe this will work.

This is not maybe but it works.

I have my integrity to protect and heaven forbid I promote what will not work.

I finished service in 1998 and while looking for a job I joined GNLD but the stress was too much so one day in the bus I met an elderly lady from Ghana who told me that the stress of marketing GNLD will wear me out so she introduced the global coperative system to me and I got the drift at once.

This is not a ponzi or make money quick program and in fact your participation us for free as soon as you refer 3 people who will also donate...

It is a superb system that allows people to help each other financially.

You help people with 54€ voluntarily WITHOUT EXPECTING ANYTHING IN RETURN....meaning you are joining with the heart of a giver.

At this point if you like you can go to sleep but trust me..you will only get your reward from above as a giver.

But if you really want to benefit immensely you will have to refer at least one person to also donate 54€ and for every person you refer to donate you will earn 18€ meaning by the time you refer 3 people to donate, your full donated sum of 54€ is back into your pocket meaning your participation is now free .

The next thing is to expect deposits of 3€ and 10€ deposited into your bank account at 500naira to 1€.

The system works on a true, tested and trusted network principle so if you believe you can't refer at least one person please stay clear.

It costs N27,000 as 1€ is pegged at N500.

And as I wrote, your full 27k is immediately back into your pocket after you refer 3 people from any part of the world.

DanielGb:
I know. for now its working fine in Nigeria. But, this is the loopholes of the business.
1. It will crash if there are more withdrawal than providing help.

2. The 30% income is taken out of other MMM members capital. Which means at the point of crashing some people will lose there money.

3. The system will make some reach while some to loss there live savings. Well, as they always say: its a risk business.

MMM for now, is good because people are comming in and the organizers are working hard to get a lot of people in until it reach the point of saturation one day and it will collapse because, MMM can't pay everybody.

MMM will be in operation for ever if people are encouraged to mandatorily refer new people but that policy of "you don't have to refer anyone" will crash it.

soberdrunk:
Some Nigerians are "desperately" addicted to MMM, there is nothing you can tell or show them to change their mind until they eventually loose their money before the reality of the ponzi scheme will dawn on them...............

Any system that promotes deposition of money with profit without doing anything is a ponzi and is bound to crash.

I joined a global system based in Germany in 1998 and till this day I still earn from it and that is because it is based on true network marketing principle.

1.Make a voluntary donation of €54

2.Refer 3 people to also donate €54 and you will get your initial donation of €54 back into your pocket.

3.Earn over €32,000 as voluntary donations in a clear tested and trusted process.

It is not an investment scheme so you don't buy or sell but a system that allies people to generate substantial passive income through voluntary donations....more like a global organized thrift system called ajo in Yoruba and the system is over 30years in operation.

Godvilla:
Talk is cheap
All i see is sum1 soliciting 4 cheap likes

You make me laugh in egun language...

Cheap like lol....

I can even offer 50 jobs of about 30k a month.

It does not mean I am a millionaire but it's all about ingenuity.

The problem I have with graduates of today is that they never think outside the box.

I have been a C.E.O since 2000 and one thing I have realized is that the degree we bag in schools is our greatest undoing.

How many graduates can be involved in a fixed mobile sales of edible products?

I guess they will prefer an office job where they will enjoy AC and by month end they get paid...

I can fix even a 100idp camp pupils in a good business if I have access to them.

I wonder how i can get contact to bring into lagos like 20 young females from idp camps to start a business that will give them up to 30k a month.


They can not continue this way.

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tit:
useless brainless president

Sorry if I may ask, can you suggest a way out? I mean what you would do right if you are made the president this moment...

Waiting for your response.

Mrsprof:
What will ever make someone want to commit suicide? In every situation you are passing through , just know that there are people out there passing through worst situation and they are still living. So why take your own life? So far there's life, there's always hope.

Everybody has a breaking point..we all pray never to get to that point.

OK edud

ItsQuinn:
but please don't call me dude next time okay, thanks

ItsQuinn:
okay my apologies, now you know I'm a female

Not sure yet o.

deb303:
enjoy yourself jare...divorce is not the end of the world

Nah you divorce them abi?

Separation is not divorce

ILoveToFuCcK:
Bro toks what about how to fast-track my fυcking escapades during recession?

See user name...God have mercy .

ItsQuinn:
you called me a dude

Abi nah damsel you be?

Your user ID is not gender specific tho.

ItsQuinn:
dude? Don't piss me off .....now I get it

Wettin dey worry you? Berrer calm down cos today na sunday.

ItsQuinn:
Just go to court, pay 40k and you're married. Simple!

Not that simple dude..you need to pay her bride price too to be qualified as truly married according to culture and tradition of the land

Laveda:
Lol about to.

I had a siesta so I am so awake.

Odaro

Laveda:
In a way you made sense today.


Sometimes, the fault is usually from the woman, they wanna do things above their level, they want theirs to be like that of the others forgetting their financial status hence going to lend and do all of that.

If your man has a good house and a source of steady income, there's actually no need setting your eyes on that "high key" wedding, afterall its just a one day thing..

But then, this shouldn't make them rush into marriage if the man says he isn't ready.

lol! that phrase made sense today got me cracked up..the truth is that I always make sense but it all depends on how you interprete my threads.

Nevertheless as long as the lack of readiness is not hinged on lack of funds no wahala.

Btw you look sweet in that dp.

laveda you never sleep?

Today I really want to write on a very sensitive issue as regards the emotional torture many ladies go through in the hands of guys who use recession or lack of funds as an excuse for not wanting to take the bold step.

Do you know that most times when a guy of marriageable age says "i'm not ready" what he is actually saying is that he is not financially buoyant at the moment to have a grand wedding ceremony and not that he is not ready for marriage proper.
It is quite amazing that many ladies of marriageable ages find it so convenient to be used as unmarried wives by guys in the name of lack of financial readiness and the lady will even support the guy's stands yet he is always ready to do what a husband does to a wife on the lady and she will gladly play along hoping that when the guy is finally ready, he will marry her.

Most ladies tend to realize too late how foolish they have been because in many cases, the guy in question usually dumps them for another lady when "he is finally ready" after doing them in a reckless manner...

So what exactly can be done to remedy the situation expecially during this very difficult times of economy turbulence?

Yes there are some people who have the money to organize very lavish wedding ceremony and this piece is not for those set of people but it is for the majority of ladies out there who dream of a very flamboyant wedding and all the razzmatazz that comes with it yet have a guy who can't afford such flamboyant wedding at the moment.

I can't seem to understand the rationale behind the flambouyant wedding ceremony culture of Nigerians and despite the economy situatiob,many ladies still make it a do or die affair when it comes to having a grand wedding even when citizens of countries with good economy only go for a low key wedding but what many Nigerian ladies should knoew is that most expensive weddings you see in Nigeria are sponsored

Nevertheless it is the dream of most ladies to have a grand wedding and every man owes his woman one but who says you can't have a grand wedding when the funds are available?, must you wait until you have big money for a grand wedding before getting married?, does it not make sense to find a way around an expensive wedding for the time being and settle for a low key one rather than continue to allow a man use you in the name of courtship or lack of readiness?

My point is this; Most guys don't ever think about marriage as long as they are enjoying the benefits of a married man so If you have a man who claims to love and desire you and you also desire him please stop wasting time and stop getting used and do the needful as long as both of you are bringing something to the table and he has a decent apartment of his own.

1.Do a decent introduction
2 Let him pay a decent bride price on you.
3.Go to the registry.
4.Settle down as a couple and start a life together.
5.Build your life and save up for a grand wedding.

You may say I'm blabbing but the truth is that i have heard of many guys who dumped ladies that have waited so long for them and i have also heard of ladies who left a man they desire and who also desires them because there is a guy somewhere who seem to be ready for a grand wedding ceremony. Be with a man you truly desire and who also wants you and understand that true wealth is progressive and not sudden and it is better to have a low key wedding for the time being than allowing one guy to use you as an unmarried wife and probably dump you for another lady whenever he is ready to have a grand wedding ceremony.

I hope this makes sense.

Nna mehn see curves...walahi if I get this type she go cry...
Abeg no one should quote me o.

IVF thingy..congrats

firstking01:
Hmmm, but we must be following each other first na before i can pm you??, anyway i 'll still keep it locked on that 21st tho...so, hws the weather with you??,.been freezy over here.

Professional oshomo

LeSudAfricaine:
well Nigerians as a whole also tend to have a homogenous look. It is quite easy to spot a Nigerian ,male or female.Look at Brazilians for instance, they also have a homogenous look but are'nt their women hot? Same for ethiopeans, russians etc. South Africa is one of the world's most racially diverse countries. You find South Africans of Greek, Indian, Portuguese etc descent and communities of aboriginal peoples mixed with malays and so forth. South Africa is a mish_mash of cultures bro, you can find any type of beauty, you simply cannot compare Nigeria with South Africa with regards to diversity

I beg to disagree with you.

Nigeria has over 300 tribes while south Africa has just less than 20.

LeSudAfricaine:
I'm thinking the same thing. South Africa has arguably the most diverse of women on the continent

No you are wrong....

Once you see a southy lady you will most likely know because they tend to have a homogenous look and even the white south Africans look similar but in Nigeria our ladies have very heterogenous beauty that comes in faces, colors, and body structures...just think of any phisique you want and you are most certain to get it easily unlike the southy ladies that are mostly bootilicious....so what if I font like big booty?

chronique:
You really have to compromise. When I was much younger,I dated lots of pretty chicks and always swore my wife must be drop dead cute and gorgeous. But now,I'm learning to pay attention to ladies with just basic looks cos outward beauty could lead you to errors.

Talking about compromise I really tried to but I just can't compromise some things.

There are some sexual features I just can't imagine my wife not having cos if I marry her then I may cheat on her when I see a lady that has those features.

I am a one lady man and as long as I have a lady who is sexually pleasing to my eyes, an excellent cook and faithful to me then she will beg me to cheat on her.

livinbygrace:
My dear brother,am feeling same here.I have dated many ladies but never took any serious,Infact i never imagined myself still single at 35,sometimes feels lonely and depressed.Its not been easy at all,and I just wonder what a single lady o my age would be going through if as a man I can be feeling uncomfortable.

Hmmm

I wonder what I will say at 40 after wasting 14years with a confused woman.

Sometimes situations we never envisaged can put us in a condition we never imagined.

I'm thinking of going to IDP camp sef to go marry one super beauty cos I don't have time to decipher the so called sophisticated city babes.

VikingsOO7:
I've read this exact story before.
https://www.nairaland.com/2815882/travails-marrying-late

I just marvel at the length some people can go just to be on front page. smh

ireneony:
I doubt if there's anyone in a relationship without having sex.
i have never met a guy that doesn't want sex in a relationship.

This happened one time..a guy asked me out and i told him i only do relationships without sex.
he was very blunt. .he said" for this town ..for Nigeria. .this kind tin still de happen"
here i was thinking he's the kind of person that does believe in a "without sex relationships" because of his innocent face.

The only time i see or hear WTHOUT SEX RELATIONSHIP is online stories and how ladies turned down men that practice without relationship, I'm like wowwww. Sometimes I'm like how come i don't see this kind of men.

This brings me to my question, how many of you are strictly in a relationship without sex, and how do you cope with the temptations?

Share your experience! !!

I was in a "non penetrative" sex relationship for 6 years but full of oral but no penetration and I was cool with that.

The point is that there is really nothing like no sex relationship because MouthAction usually comes up at least in a mild way talking about smooching and curdling and some even fngr and do anal.

Yes I can do a no penetrative sex but I don't know if I can do without touching her at all and the period of no sex must be truncated with marriage in less than a year...I have gone past the age of long courtship.