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Diplomaticbeing:
@OP


Stop sounding like you an authority or one who has monopoly of wisdom.

Your postulation is flawed to someone like me, because I believe that love or submission when given (earned or not), should be maintained so as to sustain it.

Do you know that you would have made more sense and sounded mature without the first paragraph?

I can't remember ever claiming to have monopoly of anything so why the unwarranted bitter rant?

Please you are a man so comport yourself as one.

asuo27:
Well!, i'm not satisfied by your respond.

NO BE MY RESPONSE O..NAH BIBLE TALK AM.

asuo27:
Base on the first scripture you used " men love your wives as you love yourselves". hope i got that?.

And the second one which says "women should be submissive".

My problem here is "Loyalty is a two way thing", how will a woman be docile while her loving and caring husband cheats on her?.

Nice question.

The issue of a man cheating will forever be a pain in the minds of many ladies but I'm so so sorry to tell you this truth that submitting to your husband is unconditional.

In submittion you can table your grievances and the fact that your hubby cheats on you is not a ground for disrespect. If you want to leave the union because of that then it's your choice but that must not make you disrespect him.

Your husband is your lord.

asuo27:
Nice write up Toks.
I noticed you placed more emphasis on submission, plz! can i ask you something?.

Fire on.

theEYe21:
How does a woman say no in a submissive way?

Nice question?

When I was growing up I usually watch indigenous movies and I noticed that many times the wife usually disagrees with the hubby but there is this calm and respectful manner they table their disapproval and at the end the man usually flows with them.

Olowo ori mi, oluwa mi, ade ori mi, my darling, sweet heart...are the magic words they start with and the man will just calm down to listen but in a situation where the wife just uses a high tone to disagree then wahala dey come be that.

No man wants another man as a wife in a sane world.

THE SUBMISSIVE WOMAN

Most ladies spend so much time and energy preparing for a wedding ceremony but very unprepared for just one condition responsible for a formidable union called SUBMISSION.

The modern day woman has allowed sophistication as a result of sound education and several other factors to make her see herself as equal to a man hence finds it difficult to be extremely submissive and this is one of the triggering factors for a break up. Being fully submissive to your man is one of the greatest secret to longevity of any romantic affair so Lets see what the Quran and Bible has to say concerning the act of submission from the woman.

Al-Tirmidhi 3272 - "When Allah's Messenger was asked which woman was best he replied, 'The one who pleases (her husband) when he looks at her, obeys him when he gives a command, and does not go against his wishes regarding her person or property by doing anything of which he disapproves'."

Ephesians 5:22-24 :Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

No woman has any business with marriage or any serious romantic affair with a man until she is ready to "submit,honor,respect,reverence her husband to the maximum level just as she will respect the lord.Show me a submissive woman and I will show you a peaceful and lasting union.Being submissive does not mean you should obey your man blindly or go against the commandments of GOD neither does it make you a zombie or a mindless person but it means being meek,humble and serene even when you disagree with your man as many times as possible.Believe it or not,no matter how many relationships you get involved in,you will always have issues if you don't learn how to submit yourself to your man.

And as the man,for whatever reason you choose to marry that lady, if you are not ready to love that woman with her imperfections and without exception with behavior worthy of respect and esteem, always seeking the best for her with an attitude of loving-kindness all the days of your life please don't propose marriage to her.

GOD commands the man to love the wife and the wife to submit to the husband. Refusal to do this is rebellion against GOD himself.By loving your wife you are honoring GOD and not doing your wife a favor and by submitting to your husband, you are demonstrating an act of obedience to GOD and not to your husband.

I hope this makes sense.

GodblessNig247:
Thats a quintessential testimony from u. I believe there are alot of intelligentsia here. Keep it up buddy

I had to look up the meaning of that word "quintessential" before replying you lol!

Yeah a quintessential testimony it is.

Ishilove:
Toks2008 is hiding himself on Nairaland because he knows he is fine . Apart from being a very handsome dude (dark chocolat ), he is a very lively conversationist. No dull moment with him

And Toks, do you know what really blew me about you? Your beliefs. You are not the obnoxious person with strange moral codes you seem here but a totally different individual who knows what he wants out life.

It was truly a pleasure

lol! thanks ishilove.

As I told you, all my threads or let me say 99% of the threads I create on nairaland has no correlation with my personality but just a dogged and unbiased facts.

Thanks for your time.

GodblessNig247:
Some peeps with good intentions are also online

Yeah expecially the ladies I have met online. So cultured and we'll behaved.

I met a popular nairalander Ishilove who I have known for about 2 years online and I was blown away by her superb IQ and elegance...little wonder why seun made her a moderator. Infact I be learner when I compare my eloquence with hers and I had to do series of soliloquy before using any Grammer. ..this is one busy and responsible lady you hardly come by... I hope to meet lalasticlala and even Seun in person someday cos I love intelligent people.

Vikky014:
Toks2008 nice write up

Oh thanks Vicky. ..permit me to say that you are one of the fantastically responsible ladies I meet online..though I have never seen you in camera but my sixth sense tells me you are a good lady *winks*

Happy sallah

suzan404:
Online dating helps you avoid embarrassment
The first is obvious; dating websites prevents you from you from having to get rejected, or reject anyone, in person. The second is something you may not have thought of. People may hold back feelings or thoughts when meeting in person because they are too embarrassed to talk about them....

Online dating allow you to specify your intentions right
from the beginning so you can find people looking for the
same thing as you. If you are seeking a soul mate, this
prevents you from wasting your time with casual dating.

Ironically my focus is on "online hookup" and not "online dating"

I could hook up with you now but If we will date it will be offline. Who really has time hunting ladies offline sef?

[quote author=nameerfhtennek post=49305442][/quote]Bro relax and take a cold glass of water.

First I would say you did no wrong sharing your story online cos a time usually comes when you just have to let it out and I will say I understand your situation perfectly cos I have been there.

As they say, there are 3 sides to a story which are his side, her side and the truth.

Nevertheless I want to tell you that this is a phase in your marriage that both of you will outgrow..trust me on this.

The hard fact is that there are very disciplined ladies out there but every lady has her up and downsides cos no one is perfect. Some times ladies can misbehave maybe during their time of the month or just some funny mood swings but they always usually apologize and I won't be surprised if she has done that already.

No marriage is perfect dude.thank God you love her..so forget what went down and carry on with your marriage.

cheers.

Sacluxpaint:
The annoying is that she is my spec physically, well I got to put it in prayers because the stories I am reading about women these days are very scary.

Lol talking about spec it is so disheartening that many sweet looking ladies fall into the leech category.

They make theirselves trophy ladies that needs to be aquired and dumped somewhere because there will always be hot ladies out there available for a rich dude to pick after he has used the value of his money from the previous product.

Boss13:
I have told you that you need help and the more I read from you, the more I shake my head. I probably will excuse you if you are student, which would make you still young, but that is not an excuse. You will certainly remember my comment especially when you do not change your priority and mindset.

Lol so you still don't understand that there is something fundamentally wrong with that lady?

please ignore her cos she has shown a great symptom of mental turpsy tufvy with her incoherence and unwarranted arrogance with her odoriferous mindset and attitude.

Read her comments again and you will see that a homo erectus is way ahead of her in reasoning and psychological state.

Abeg make I go sleep.

Sacluxpaint:
My on and off girlfriend only cares when I send her alert, for awhile I haven't done so, and she doesn't bother about me. I am thinking of dropping her but I might be wrong about her.

My brother I really tire. The most annoying thing is that some ladies are so lazy that they just don't want to work but use their body to get money from guys and I wonder how far can they go?

Boss13:
Smile! You continue to depict how lowly you are. It is possible that your parents tried to do a good job with you but you derailed and I will not insult your parents, who are certainly not the same age category with mine. I am extremely glad to inform you have got a wrong mindset and a wrong mindset is a disease. I don't know you and I am not interested in knowing you, but you have a diseased mind that requires a psychologist. Why do I say so - You have never met me, neither have you met my father and not sure if he is alive or dead, but you are quick to insult someone you have never met before, never wronged you and someone you would probably will never meet. Such kind of person truly is sick and needs to see a doctor.

I can also tell you with verified facts that I am also not your age mate, do not belong in the same class with you, you likewise, do not have the same educational status with me nor belong to world-class professional associations nor well read or traveled than me. I do not say I am better than you because I don't believe one can be better than anyone, some of my workers are more skillful than me - but I believe I have and still living a privileged life, and all thanks to the sacrifices of my hardworking parents, who are now at peace with themselves, gave to me.

I will strongly advise you to look inward and do a self-assessment of yourself - what are those values you lack because it appears that you lack a lot of them. There is still time for you to help yourself out.

Please ignore her and help her in prayers so she will not give birth to another hopeless generation of leeches.

I read somewhere that some people on interactive online platform write from a psychiatry and I strongly believe she is in the intensive care.

She is a troll and already wasted. Please ignore her so she won't pour her frustrations on you.

LynnPetra:
I no understand you ooo
Girls Bleep a guy for money, it's a mutual satisfaction. It's happening every where and in all continents. You fyck girl, give her money, EVERYONE IS HAPPY!

LynnPetra:
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LynnPetra:
I no understand you ooo
Girls Bleep a guy for money, it's a mutual satisfaction. It's happening every where and in all continents. You fyck girl, give her money, EVERYONE IS HAPPY!

Oh my ..I'm so sorry dearie. I just realized how foolish I am to be battering words with you after reading your comments above.

Olosho mindset. What a waste. Good night

LynnPetra:
Toks, you're a miserable divorced man.I don't take you serious. Again you are more than 40 already, so....just take several benches and ignore me, that's if you can.

Apparently you just proved to the world how lame you are. Please what better way can I be justified more than this.

It is so sad that people like you grow to breed generations of hopeless ladies who hinge their livelihood on a man. I pity your parents for wasting their hard earned money on giving a hopeless lady like you the opportunity to get a worthless education since you still carry this myopic, Achaic and low life mentality on hinging your existence on a man.

I would have written things that will make you wish the ground swallows you right now cos you foolishly believe picking on my persona will put you at a vantage point but rather it shows how hopelessly dumb you are. A waste of a zygote. Continue looking for a man to carry your bukata while ladies of real vision are making it big in life.

Ode omokomo a to le

LynnPetra:
Bros no be me swear for una o.
E dey for Genesis, God Don swear say men go labour till una die. So free me a beg. Go out and work. We no go still carry our punishment take join una own.

So what is the use going to school to acquire education if you still carry this ackward mindset?

Even stark illetrates know better.smh for you.

LynnPetra:
Truth is I'm more scared of dating a broke guy . Most will show their real character when they breakthrough. Money get spirit.

And what on earth will prevent you from making your own money? why date a guy "with the hope that he will make it" what if he never makes it?

It's high time ladies stop making this vague and lame comments about a guy leaving them if he makes it big..MAKE YOUR OWN MONEY TOO and stop that leech mindset.

No lady is doing a broke guy a favor by staying with him..if a lady wants to leave a broke guy abeg let her shush.

98% of ladies forming good ladies here will gladly tow her line in a coded way.smh for Many ladies

Cathony:
tell 'em

This is how nairalanders will keep twisting my writeup .
I wrote about meeting someone online and not online dating. Na wah.

Abcruz:
Having evaluated the salient point of this complex thread, THIS IS MY JUDGEMENT:
''human Love'' is a deceptive mechanism basking in the euphoria of favourable conditions.
Conclusively, Toks2008 is indeed a wise man.
*c..o..u..r..t arise*

Lol!

I will always love an auto transmission with manual option.

I will not forget an experience I had when I entered a pothole and my car just went off and refused to start.....after waiting for the mechanic for hours he finally said it was just a bolt holding the kick starter that got damaged as a result of the impact and we started looking for bolt upandan as it was a Sunday. But if it was a manual transmission we would have simply pushed the car and I will gladly drive home.

KingCheezyPuff:
[color=#0099ff]I didn't mean the 'thanks' anymore than you gave me an actual compliment at 1st.
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Am I not well behaved? [/color]

No please don't get me wrong dearie..I was only giving you a brotherly advice so that you can checkmate that feeling when it comes cos it will surely come.

There is this feeling good looking people have that may become detrimental to them and the feeling is usually so compelling that arrogance easily sets in because they believe they are hot enough to get whoever they desire.

So I'm not saying you are bad but just advicing you. Good morning and barka de sallah

SirJohn:
Hmmm, nearly a decade and this thread is still causing sleepless nights?

Seeing this for the first time today.

I was a CE member and I belonged to the haven PCF.

I left the church due to their insensitivity to the members of the church and their money focused module operand.

dyydxx:
wow,i must say this is an interesting read.I have never been part of Christ embassy or it's programmes but what worries me is the so called blatant disregard of the word by this so called man of God. it makes the level of hypocrisy stink to high heavens and I just wonder how true believers with clean consciences can come and defend this pastor and some of his actions. Bible says by their fruits you shall know them. Okay let me give an instance.

Bible says in 1 tim 3:1-7 the qualifications for leading the house of God.

1 This is a true saying, If a man desire the office of a bishop, he desireth a good work.
2 A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behavior, given to hospitality, apt to teach;
3 not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous;
4 one that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity;
5 (for if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?)
6 not a novice, lest being lifted up with pride he fall into the condemnation of the devil.
7 Moreover he must have a good report of them which are without; lest he fall into reproach and the snare of the devil

The word is very clear on the requirements to lead the flock of God. it says the overseer must be a husband of one wife and can rule his household well including having his children in subjection to his authority. It then goes further to say that if an overseer cannot achieve this, how can he rule over the flock of God? Now what baffles me is how CE die hard loyalists somehow feel that Pst Chris is exempt from this rule. How can Pst chris that is divorced now lecture the church on marriage? He can't even keep his wife or home yet he's the role model of some of these followers? what does he want to teach them about marriage? The same secrets that made his marriage a failure. the levelof hypocrisy is just stunning

Biko just negodu and stop ranting in ignorance.

I may not believe in the miracles he showcases but he has the gift of a teacher and talking about all you quoted as pertains to his marital life please understand that it was his wife who filed for divorce even when he never wanted it so be careful how you judge.

Tpave:
Just asking cos somebody asked me this question this morning and I decided to bring it to the forum.

Ever since i wqs born i have been eating ram at ileya and chicken on christmas day as my dad was a Muslim and my mum christian abi na sin to eat ileya ram again?


Remember that it is a festival adapted from the bible talking about Abraham's sacrifice of the ram instead of his son Isac.


Cant wait to eat one this tuesday...Yummy delicious ram meat.

KingCheezyPuff:
[color=#9999ff]mmm thank you,sir.[/color]

You are welcome dearie but don't let your sweet looks get into your head and try to maintain a proper decorum always..it pays to be decent.

KingCheezyPuff:
[color=#00cccc]yes[/color]

You try.

KingCheezyPuff:
[color=#2ecc71]Still insultive.You've changed not. ••••••• "Obstreperous girl" .......you feel I'm uncontrollable? you right.[/color]

Your dp tho...na you be dat?

iwatch:
Blog can also let you post your Vlog contents but Vlog wouldn't let you post your blog content.

Let me know.

Insightful. Thanks bro..will keep in touch.