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esosa993:
eeeewwww op so u mean after catching your wife repeatedly you still continue having sex with her that's disgusting....... even me as a woman if my husband cheats on me repeatedly I don't think I'll ever let him touch me again u know why I'll find it disgusting, imagine that sane mouth he has used in kissing some parts of another woman body ewww

My sister seems you have never been love struck before?

If you truly love someone,and tyhat person bleeps up in the case of adultery,you will feel so pained but as individuals, we will react differently and that exactly is waht i will do.

If you know how a guy makes love to a LovePeddler he detests and a lady he loves,you will understand the difference.

weebee:
Are you for real? Did you take time to find out what the men in the lives of the ladies you mentioned did to them to deserve what they got. Do you know what they had to put up with before resloving to this? So they should continue to wallow in all sorts cos dey want to remain married? Please! You even forgot to tell us what you did to your ex. Bless you.

Point of correction weebee,This is not even about me perse and i cant say i have an ex cos this same lady refuse to let me be yet she remained so indecisive simply because that is the funny nature of hers.

This is not about taking time out to find out what their men did to them because as i wrote, 6 cases can never be a coincidence and i still wonder that how can these ladies be so perfect yet so flawed?

Please go and read the story of Juliet ibrahim and Anita Oyakhilome then come back and tell me exactly what you can make out of it and as i wrote, i have other two lady friends who also left their hubby and i listened to their stories and i just concluded that YES they all have something to say but the question is...Are these excuses worth the divorce? that is the question.

These ladies are so mysterious that only a man who really have the patience to understand them will really cope with them.

I am not generalizing please but all those i have met have the same trend.

EgunMogaji:
First, if she cheated then she doesn't love you.

Second, it's a business investment so you win some and you loose some. Reinvest with someone else, like setting up a new company.

Third, if the next one does the same thing then kick that one to the curb too.

My views, admittedly, are tainted, I don't live in Nigeria so my outlook is from an Americans perspective but this life is only one chance, there's no retake like in the movies. This is it. So live it and live it well.

I'm on my 3rd marriage so I talk the talk and walk the walk.

I love it when people with real experience contribute to topics such as this.

As i wrote..IF YOU REALLY LOVE A LADY and she goofs and becomes sober..i nliv she deserves a sec chance.

Look at this instance..you have been with a lady for years,built a life together and for one crazy reason she decides to do the forbidden with another man and you find out..then you send her packing even after much plea from her....i nliv you have done that other guy a good favour cos he will coll down to really do the shit outta a lady YOU LOVE and u while you are in your house going tru emotional wreck,your emotionally troubled wife is being drilled recklessly by another man...i dont think it makes sense.

It is if she does it the second time that i will now treat her like the slut she has chose to be.

Everyone deserves a sec chance.

Fearcom:
Real people. Real stories.

In an encounter a serially cheating fiancée, I did what the Op is saying now. From someone I carried like an egg, someone I really loved and never cheated on, the tables suddenly turned. She became my intimacy gadget/sex slave. Like a piece of as*hole available for my use. Banged her anytime my manhood stood erect. What am I even saying? My di*k spent more time in her mouth than her own tongue! Then I stopped eating her food. Never allowed her sleep at my place anymore. Never allowed her entry to my kitchen. The Nevers were very many...and when she insisted in sleeping over..yeee! She didn't sleep throughout cos I kept banging her continuously. She endured it for a little while before she stopped sleeping over( am not an easy person to make love to if am not gentle ) chai! I'm not a wicked person but that lady brought out the worst in me. She was very calculating and manipulating but in the end she left..
*modified* that was a long time ago though. I heard she's married now and am married also....

A good thing you have a first hand experience.

I honestly laugh at the foolishness of guys who spend their money divorcing a worthless LovePeddler...GOD FORBID.

treat her like a super LovePeddler she chose to be and even when she decides to leave your house,tell her categorically that she still remains your wife and divorce proceedings must be follwed before she can be wuth another man and she will be arrested if seen by you going about with another man expecially if u guys are legally married.

Infacty make a report to the police that your life is threatened by her.

This is a sure way to deal with an unrepentant lady.

ALAYORMII:
Oo fiku sere

You're playing with death.

If an adulterous wife doesn't kill herself
She'll kill the husband.

Pray against having an adulterous wife

We have 2 types of adulterous wife...the repentant and the unrepentant..the first one is ok but the second one is the terrible one.

stardragon:
What of food? would you stop eating her food?

because that is where she can get and deal with you mercilessly if she has a wicked heart!

That is the first thing i will stop eating.

But i wont send her packing neither will i spend my 1 kono to file for divorce but she must clear her pooh by herself.

EgunMogaji:
You have good intentions but I am not a patient Man.

The marriage ended that moment, the rest will just be sorting out the legalities.

Oh and I will gladly pay handsomely to sever the wanton beyotch.

But honestly,dont you think a repentant adulterous wife needs a second chance?

A lady you love and have invested time,efforts and emotions in building a life with her goofs and she is really sober i bliv she should have a second chance.

There is no guaranty that your new lady wont be far worse.

It is an unrepentant adulterous wife that needs to be dealt with...my opinion.

Lalasticlala i dont know if ladies will have something to say here especially the lady E-worriors.

I remember creating a thread concerning this low life behaviours of some ladies and guys who are fond of showcasing foolishness on social platforms.

https://www.nairaland.com/2853834/rule-2-nairaland.a-true-test


As they say,one of the best places you can know the true nature of an individual is on a faceless online social interactive platform.

If there is one thing that will always baffle me on nairaland or other online social media platform,it is the way some people curse and abuse others with such recklessness not because they were abused by that person but because the person was simply stating an opinionated view.

In any social interaction,everyone has the right to express his or her opinion no matter how lame or awkward and no one has the justifiable reason to curse or slander such but should rather respond by expressing a contrary notion if needs be in an intellectual and responsible manner without any form of insults or jabs.

While many people ignore this set of people,some believe this is part of the norm of online social interactive media but this does not change the fact that it is a repulsive and odoriferous act that is done by people of questionable intellect.

I have come to a conclusion that anyone who abuses, bullies, deliberately insults/provokes, fights, or wishes harm to any other person whether on or off-line just because such expressed an opinion is not only unstable mentally but such is also of a very low intelligent quotient(IQ) and a potential danger physically and emotionally to people around him or her

Such person whether male or female is not worth co-existing with any human but should take a home with the animals in the jungle.

doveda:
[quote author=EggovinMma post=43044908]His ex wife. ..
I ignored this thread ffrom the onset, noticed it was clouded with hate and sentiments from his previous marriage. I may be wrong though.

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Joy1706:
[quote author=Ngokafor post=43039772]....

[/quote]I had to call you ladies out to give you a brotherly advice.

You guys may feel you are catching fun but trust me,it is an unhealthy way of interacting and even if this is a faceless forum,it is indeed the best place to show your true nature and i am very embarrassed and disappointed that rather than focus and discuss on the matter on ground,you started attacking the personal life of the writer...This is a crass nature and very very appalling and demeaning.

Please learn to be poised and seasoned in the way you relate with people and you will be better off.

For the purpose of clarity,please stop writing unfounded storied about whether i am or was married,whether i am divorced or whether i was dumped..that is my personal life and the last time i checked,it has nada to do with what i wrote so apparently there is somthing fundamentally wrong with the mental state of you ladies.

I wrote an article which is my opinion and it is only normal for a mentally balanced person to discuss that without direct insults or reference to the personal life of the writer.

Joy1706:
Wow! A fool at 40 indeed

lwkmd...
Now i know why some men beat the pooh outta some ladies..lol
Oya fire on...

EggovinMma:
MARRIAGE COUNSELOR INDEED!!!!
TOKS IS DIVORCED!! HE IS YET TO REMARRY. I THINK THE DIVORCE REAL LY AFFECTED HIM SO BAD.KEPT BLAMING HIS WIFE....

Lmao...walahi you ladies don craze finish..which divorce and wat marriage?

Im enjoying this walahi..oya fire on in your utter confusion and cluelessness.

Joy1706:
Awwww! You've been in the marital union for years? You conveniently FORGOT to mention ur wife left you. Awww! Little Mr.marriage counsellor is divorced. Hahahahahahaha. Wifey refused to deal with ur BS huh? That's why ur so pained? Mumu. Who the Bleep are u counselling seeing as u couldn't even keep ur home. You're a failure as a man and u dare advise women? Mumu. Gerrout jor

Oshogbo weed and brazil substance mixed together is dangerous for the brain...

Chai..ladies and their inbuilt madness...only you be judge and jury...

You wan hear story abi? sorry i no go tell you so conclude whatever you like.

But please stop your abusive nature cos it will only bring you terrible consequence.

myners007:
The Woman is quite over ambitious. Women should always learn how bto be submissive to their husband and be supportive ang encouraging even when the chips are down.Its not advisable for a Man of God to be involved in a divorce saga but Anita insisted and has finally gotten it. May God continue to strenghten you pastor Chris and your ministry will continue to wax stronger

Except there is some other reasons we dont know that justifies the divorce.

She first wrote infidelity then changed it to improper conduct and on and on but the question is..:is it worth it?

Now after divorce.wats next?

Was her case as bad as toke makinwa and many other wives of g overseers worldwide where their hubbies were vividly involved in adultery?

As far as i know..lMany adies born within febuari 22 and march 22 are too unrealistic for the real world and most of these ladies find divorce or breaking up so easy for no solid reason...ladies like..juliet ibrahim,Anita oyakhilome,rihana,2 ladies i know but dont want to mention their names 0and my ex making 6 case studies and all cant be a coincidence.

These ladies see breakup as nothing because they are too sensitive and unrealistic.

Asides their fanrastic nature,they are usually persimistic and negative,always seing reasons why things cant work rather than see why it should work and the most dangerous aspect about them is that they are naturally unreasonable,ubdexisive and can easily destrot themselves because wat makes sense to them is usually senseless to the real world...

CutieViva:
Not easy though but fact! and my opinion & answer to the question up der is 5!

An intelligent and seasoned response from a rational human and mentally balanced homo sapien.

Ngokafor:
....I don laugh tire @ most comments here. ..

..the op has always been full of nonsense so i am not surprised to read another epic rubbish from him.I am even tired of insulting him cos his madness didnt start today

..as for the guys talking crap supporting the op about cheating men,keep fooling youselves that women are not catching up.I bet you all are still living in the cage.I use to feel bad for men whose wives cheats on them(them plenty for PH where i am presently)...but not anymore.Nigerian male cheats and their supporters deserve same from their partners.

Eleyi gidigan o..all these insults sake of sey pesin express his opinion kai.. some people are hopelessly mentally unstable.

I pity that unfortunate man who will waste his time,life and money to marry a perpetual psycological wreck like you...

What a colosal human waste.

I would like to meet your parents to express my anger for them because you have succeeded in wasting their hard earned money that out to be spent on better things.

How can an educated person be this abusive because another person expressed an opinion in the 21st century...O.M.G...You are finished.

Joy1706:
A single boy advising married women. The nerve of you

Hello daddy how you doing
Hope mama is doing kay
It's been 4 years and eleven months now
Mo gbo pe Aduke ti dagba
Olorun it was true what you said to me
That life in the city is unbelievable
Had to struggle just to get bye evryday
And I could barely find my way
Sugbon mo mo pe mi o le shina,
o da mi loju
Mo ri pe aye le, araye soro
Forgive me father
but I gat to take a chance
Oh am already gone so just...
Pray for meee
.....singing pray for me by darey...

Less i forget ...if you are a day short of 30years then i am over 10yrs older than you...

And yes i have been in the marital union for years so im not naive as you think...puma

....continues my song...
Gbadura fun mi
Pray I find my way
, ki ori ba mi shey
Oh, forgive me
father but I gat
to take a chance
Oh am already gone
so just... Pray
for me...
Pray for meee...
Pray for meee...
Oh am already gone
so just... Pray
for meee...
Pray for meee....
Ki ori ba mi shey
Oh am already gone
so just... Pray
for me ...

jadelyn007:
with this your funny ideas, why do you think any female should be Married? Since you men have somehow managed to wriggle out of financial responsibility, physical responsibility and are trying to wriggle out of emotional responsibility now

O n bi mi ni jamb question.

shaboti:
you are a disgusting piece of filth! I cant believe this.
So your advice for women with cheating husbands is to endure and not get a divorce, but your advice to the husband is to do the cheating far away from their wives and use protection, not even to stop. May God punish you immensely!
Y'all should continue with making excuses for your dog-like behaviours until the next generation men believe that there is nothing with cheating and it is 'perfectly normal', mumu!

Your posts are usually full of crap and i dont know the mod that keeps pushing all that BS to fp, but im guessing that both you and mod are retards

Call me mr roma romantic
Oya show them, show them, show them
Show them, show them
Make all of them know
That my baby so romantic
Oya baby make we show them, show them
Show them, show them, show them
Make all of them know
That my baby so romantic oh



Make you make a choice na wahala but instead na curse you dey curse like a frustrated koko seller...na you get your hand wey u take type lawma trash..ko kan aye...


Oya show dem show dem show dem...•sings on•

jadelyn007:
where In the new testament is Polygamy endorsed and where in the entire Bible is adultery endorsed? Please don't quote the old testament to support Polygamy as long as we no longer offer animal sacrifices for atonement of sins, Polygamy doesn't stand. Even apostle Paul said He(God) who made them in the beginning made them male and female.

LOBATAN...No need to quote since you don talk say old testament no be part of bible.

uzolexis:
I cant even explain how disgusted I am at this OPs post and the fact that it always gets to FP even makes it worse.

Oleku
Tell me something wey i no fit do
Mo gbopo gbopo ma lo tu
mo ni ni mo ni ni
mo deji mo deji
i know you are ready cos oleku
feeling the boy feeling the boy e


Shebi you know the road to lagos lagoon...

Save your anger...you dont need it now.

Kachisbarbie:
It's surprising that lots of you guys on this thread don't cheat,yet you are the ones advocating for cheats.
It's really really bamboozling...

if a woman says all men are dogs, y'all will be quick to ask "including your father?", "did you sample them all?".
Pray tell, how did you arrive @ your 5%?

Its even lesser than 5%.

Very soon,it will likely be a global law that every man can marry at least 2wives.

O si n rin yin..ladies better wake up...and learn how to focus on your life and that of your children after marriage and let the man be.

jadelyn007:
If you can be faithful for 12yrs in a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship, why is staying faithful in a marriage impossible for you?
Polygamy is different from adultery. Even in Islam and traditional cultures that accept Polygamy, adultery is an offense. If you want to practice Polygamy practice it. The Bible never supports neither Polygamy or adultery.

The bible is not against polygamy either and that is the point...

If Quran supports it and the bible is not against it then why are ladies killing themselves over their hubby being with another lady?

Fornication and adultery are sins but marrying many wives is ok so would a lady agree to polygamy..?

Ladies are the ones causing this problem...they say they hate polygamy yet will gladly date a married man and even agree to marry him.

jadelyn007:
instead of preaching condoning cheating why not preach that ladies possess good traits worthy of ambassadors of christ on earth and How to recognize these men who are also ambassadors? Why not teach men self control rather than teach women to condone evil?

Omase o

Eyin ladies yiii..e mo nada.

Preach to guys to remain faithful lol...

If you are dating a guy who is not a believer in christ lety alone holy spirit filled abeg start rehersals on how to cope with an adulterous hubby.

Ironically even many spiricoco pastors cheat on their wives.

This is a hard pill ladies must swallow...if you find yourself with a faithful man ..kudos and if otherwise abeg the options are there.

Polygamy is not a taboo and no woman can stop a man who wants to tow that line..its even amazing that bigamy is no longer a crime in lagos even for a legally married man.

Sorry ladies,this is no time for sermon but facts.

Memejem:
I don't recall I ever insulted you. If I did I apologize I am stating my opinions based on the opinions you also posted.

I really don't like how you group females into one group as if they all act alike. You tend to generalize and I don't appreciate it. You state 'if ladies can learn how to articulate thier view without vulgarity"

Throughout this whole debate I have never once been vulgar. I don't like that. Please change that when you reply.

I originally answered your questions that if I had an unrepentant cheating husband who when confronted about his infidelity refused to change his ways then I would leave the relationship.

If as a woman I tried to meet my partner halfway and came to him in a respectful manner and told him how I felt about his actions and he refused to acknowledge them and try to mend the relationship. I would exit the relationship. What am I staying for?

Many times in marriages there are antecedents to why a spouse would go outside looking for sexual pleasure. There may be faults in the marriage and at times tthe woman could be at fault, but most times it's a joint fault of both parties. If I genuinely try to change and try to get my partner to compromise with me and he's unwilling. Then there is no relationship for me to stay for.

This is how I feel. There is no longer any trust, bond, or love left

The comment you quoted was not for you.I was trying to explain the funny nature of many ladies who make comments.

Fearcom:
See egbon what I know is that this life is just like going to a market where thousands and thousands of wrapped packages are available and you are permitted to choose only one and you are asked to choose wisely...some are attractively wrapped and packaged; others are not so attractively wrapped and packaged: you are only permitted to unwrap your gift when you have paid and gone home...wetin you see after the gift is unwrapped....well, take am like that

Hilariously sensible.

ishiamu:
One thing with people is that they hate hearing the truth cos the truth hurts, I have a gf God in heaven will bear me witness we've been together for 5 years in those five years I haven't cheated her with another lady, but she has cheated on my not twice or thrice still I try and forgive although I haven sworn not to forgive if it repeats cos 5 years is enough for someone to learn, but my type of men are rare my friends all cheat I see what happen around let's say the truth no need lying to make people happy when it's all a lie, men that hardly or don't cheat are 5% believe that

You have been faithful for 5yrs? wow you try..na im be say i surppose dey hall of fame cos i was faithful for 12 good yrs and i will still remain faithful to my new lady regardless of the fact that most ladies are not worth it.

I stay faithful not because of yeye love but because i am an ambassador of christ on earth.

But will i rather come online to fool ladies who wants to be fooled anyways or lie to them because they love lies?

If my threads make you uncomfortable as a lady please stop reading them cos i wont stop writing facts whether it gets you mad or not.

geli12:
@toks2008, what d hell is the thread for, u should come out and address ur fellow against infidelity and not advice d female to endure such useless act.
Did u consider HIV and the emotional trauma involved.
If a man does not have discipline or control of his manhood, he shouldn't talk or marriage he should remain single until he understands what marriage is all about.
Infidelity is wrong, I will ensure to teach male children and I am advising you to desist from it because you sound like a bloody one.

A thread i created once made frontpage talking about 5ways men can prevent philandering...

Now if i preach from now till tomorrow does it change the obvious fact?

Why do ladies love to fool themselves rather than embrace the vivid fact?

Mamatee07:
If you are indeed a marriage counsellor you should not be teaching all this one sided things. For every action there's an equal and opposite reaction Women are not zombies that should just take any crap especially these days when many of us have financial independence and few kids so no staying because you can't take care of the kids. Go and ask Doctors how many married men have STDS and they won't tell their wives. You expect women to leave miserable lives with cheats and always have to fear for their health? That's not the kind of life you should advice anyone to live. Instead you as a counsellor should be telling both parties the consequences of cheating so we can raise a better next generation. If you lot keep endorsing men cheating they will never change, the only thing that will happen is the women will change to cope with the cheating men (already happening) in whatever way they see fit an you can't blame them for that.

Chai..wahala dey o..

If only every lady can just end their sermon by choosing one option out of those provided i guess guys would know the mindset of the ladies.

Aunty..i don hear..if im attending to a lady in this situation,i would ask that same question...WAT WILL YOU DO IF?

If your answer is not listed in the options please still go ahead n tell us wat you would do.

Genycharl:
All this wahala for just one man? My friend poison him and move on

Odaju obinrin ni eleyi o..lol

cococandy:
And the new lady in your life will respect you after discovering you were cheating on your ex-wife?

You don't get it. It goes both ways.

coco i learned you are married but the way you argue is baffling to me.

Dirst i nver said all men cheat but i only asked simple question...what would you do IF...

How can you jusxtapose a cheating man and woman? how does it sound in your ear?

A man telss a new chic he broke up with his wife cos he slept with another lady and a lady tells a new guy she broke her marriage cos she slept with....and you want to tell me same reactions should come up...habba lady think...

Memejem:
The Bible is against polygamy actually.

And I just want to clarify that you are admitting that you have cheated on your wife at one point in time.

To be frank I don't understand why why you created this thread. You aren't open to discussion. Why promote it just to ascertain your beliefs?

You should have just created a writeup of your opinions instead of posing a question.

It's ridiculous.

Why on earth wont i be open for discussions?

The question is; Must you insult to discuss?

If ladies expecially can learn how to intelligently articulate their views without vulgarity i guess it will be easier for sound arguements to take place.

And please i beg everyone who reads my threads to understand that i write pragmatically and not from my personal dogma.

I repeat,i hve never cheated on any woman in my life yet it does not change the fact on ground that most guys cheat on the woman in their lives so people should focus on the objectivity of this article and blot out the writer...only then can we have intelligent discussion.