₦airaland Forum

Senorita123:
Op, u must be very high on cheap weeds. I read all your posts and I am so sorry to tell you dat they all seem so unintelligent and vain. Must u post something? I understand that u are trying so hard to be relevant. I wonder when men, guys or society will start treating the female folks with respect. Y must we always be the victims? Y must we always be the ones to suffer from the fact that most of you prefer using your dicks than your brains? Op! Op!! Op!!! How many times did I call u? Be warned

Marriage is not compulsory.

francizy:
In your warped reasoning, all men cheat on their wives? That some men cheats or will cheat doesn't mean all men will cheat or cheats. Left for me, any man who cheats deserves to be cheated on. No room for furking around and importing HIV/Hepatitis B and C...

The most ironic thing i have observed on nairaland is that many people comment first before they read the subject of discussion...how sad.

Bhella5:
And your point is?

May GOD bless you for the question becauae amazingly his writeup perfectly corroborates with what i wrote.

Funny dude.

tartarus:
This guy again?.. ...

If you're not ready to share your wife with another man you're not ready for marriage

^^ How does that sound? R£tarded right? Op that's how u sound. Always belittling women, you've probably got mommy issues. Settle with your mom please.

Women are suffering in this part of the world. Imagine the nonsense. Smh

Only real men will catch my drift.

And as i wrote,ladies are also free to do as they wish..its a free world bro.

HateU2:
That's the truth bro. I grew up with house full of blood brothers so I know the drill. It does not surprise me at all. It's just that too much of it and no respect for the wife is what is totally bad

LOBATAN.

esosa993:
even when a man that loves women marry four wives, would that ever even stop him from cheating a big NO...... so whats the point of marrying many women when you will still have mistresses


point two I wouldn't say any man shouldn't have more than one wife his problem but do you know the stress he put himself at the end of the day? on a norms four gals can't live peacefully in a place that's the FACT.... not to talk of women sharing the same man, they kuku kill u their husband at the end of the day that's the FACT



to buttress my opinion mr toks I see u usually insult other people by calling them less intelligent when they don't agree with your opinion its not cool at all, other people have their opinions too and this is a public forum na so why get irritated when someone doesn't agree with your post.



I HOPE U WONT CALL ME LESS INTELLIGENT TOO FOR MY COMMENT.

Lol

Where on earth did you get that from? Only people who curse are labeled unintelligent by me and that is undisputable.

Away from that,the issue is not even about marrying all the women in one house or renting different houses for them or is it about the guy living long or short life.

The bottom line is that ladies should not bother getting married if they are not ready to face the possibility of living with that mindset. I cant stress it enough.

Im tired of hearing same stories of how a man cheated,the lady left bla bla bla

And at the end na another person husband or boyfriend go dey do the same womanwey leave her husband due to infidelity....MADNESS.

Why leave your marriage to start living a useless life?

HateU2:
Yes, I agree.
Guys are polygamous in nature. Na God created dem lyk dat. There will always be side chicks. Their 3rd leg is d wahala

Coming from a lady makes this interesting and with this mindset,you can never ever have infidelity issues in your marriage..never.

Yet im not encouraging this but the truth is that if a lady is not ready for the possibility of her man with another ladystay single...Period.

Adaure4ever:
which woman will love sharing that "thing" with another woman?
Polygamy is crap!

Definitely most women will swear never to indulge in polygamy yet they will willingly DATE a married man probably for finance and many ladies will gladly marry a rich dude who is happily married rather than be the only wife of a poor dude and we see this everyday.

Many ladies will say they want a faithful guy as a boyfriend but will prefer to be with a guy other ladies want and please tell me if it is not true that many guys have more than one gfriend.

Cant you wake up and see the sense in this write up?

Polygamous affairs everywhere and most hypocritical is when a lady cant see that polygamy is also when a man is faithfully married to one woman yet keeps side chics..huh

Tinalex:
Wow!!! So its true....never judge a book by its cover. Thanks for showing who you really are tho. That asides....your truth is relative to you so stop spreading your foolishness on this forum.

In same vein,that foolishness is also relative to you cos thats what you think.

As far as im concerned,many ladies will relate to this when it dawns on them.

Good morning.

Fkhalifa:
I feel good bro, but don't expect them to be happy with your posts o, Even some Islamic clerics don't like preaching that aspect to women, they don't take it lightly with the preacher from their countenance, #from experience o

Except you are ready to be dragging with them here for days.

Me..drag...Heaven forbids..

My threads arte not the hilarious ones but deep and factual..the type of write up many of them will likely come back to read again and say....and this guy said it o...so im not bothered with their reaction now.

Fkhalifa:
Op, what you don't understand or probably don't care about is that ladies would never be pleased with the idea of polygamy,some will even reject it if God was to speak it from the heavens

No lady ill gree to your proposal if you let her know beforehand that you may take another woman in future, even though it is the reality

The sad truth is the rate at which men play away games is so on the high, even the so called decent men are already towing that path,Even me with all my firmness, I fear I may fall into it.

It is better in sight of God to legally marry another woman than to fool around,as I have not seen it any holy book where it is outright forbidden.

Don't expect the ladies to happily agree with you,only few who have seen it all will understand.

This is the nearest most realistic,reasonable and factual comment i have read so far.

Please note this..i am not advocating for polygamy and you just sumed up my write up in your paragraph 3 and 4.

I am decency personified in all aspects of life but i will be the greatest fool to start preaching to other guys to be ffaithful to their wives because even me with all my decency i know how tough the battle is.

I have seen it all...ladies are ladies worst enemies,single ladies fall in love more these days with married men and i begin to wonder that with the rate things are going,any lady who still goes into marriage with that mindset of my husband must be faithful to me is not only a dreamer but a total joke.

If your hubby ends up faithful to you i say a big congrats..but the bottom line is that you should expect the expected...that is my message.

Vikky014:
Toks2008 may GOD BLESS YOU WITH FIVE WIVES IJN AMEN!!!

please dnt forget to share your experience with us cos i know God must surely answer my prayers




managing one wife is even a very difficult task. in a polygamous home the man will always pick one of his wives as his favourite while others goes to native doctor to frustrate the life of the favourite wife and her kids. polygamy is bad if you not a muslim am talking from a real life experience with a close friend.

I know many people will read that write up in isolation and it takes a very intelligent person to grasp the deep message in it.

I repeat...if a lady is not ready for the POSSIBILITY of sharing her man with another lady whether AS A MISTRESS or another wife,she should remain single.

KimBerlyie:
I want to know y u feel a man shld get another woman or wife? Y u feel tz ok for a man to he polygamous? Y not stay single and sleep with several women and not get married? Y get married and decide to get another wife/mistress wen your wife provides u with everything a man can ask for? Or u just feel like 'have been taking oranges all these while, time to switch to banana and lemon, from there to fruit juice.
You said face d harsh reality, that's exactly wat m doing and since u know more abt it, I will like u to ansa my questions..

Unfortunately i dont know if you are a he or she, maybe that would help me relate with you clearly.

Now get this straight...this is not about me saying or implying...when i write stuffs i dissociate myself from what i write meaning it is not about what i feel is right or wrong but the happenings around.

If i preach from now till next year it will never stop guys from philandering or hubbies from cheating on their wife or getting more wives so why not face the matter rather than goof around preaching sermon that will be preached next sunday.

folksync:
But I wouldn't advise polygamy. Managing one woman is hard enough. Two or more? Well, I don't know about other men. But I am a VERY gentleman who doesn't at all like trouble.

What i wrote up there is not about individuality but the factual occurrence we see everyday.

I say i will not cheat or take a second wife and you say same.

Many guys also say same yet we read everyday about divorce due to same act we all claim we wont indulge in...INFIDELITY...So who is deceiving who?

My point still remains that of what use is it if a lady divorces her hubby due to infidelity and ends up with another married man? YES 7 out of 10 divorcées end up having affairs with married men or as intimacy gadgets for randy guys so is this not insanity of teh highest order?

So why divorce the first man in the first place when you are most likely to end up commiting same act of adultery?

THAT IS MY POINT.

KimBerlyie:
You see!!! U clearly stated that she shld be ready to pay the price, so in conclusion and in accordance to ur writeup , it is normal and acceptable for a man to cheat and maybe ask his wife for forgiveness and she will accept but if a woman tries such, she will pay the price?(maybe a divorce or he eventually murder her) . You do realize this is the 21st century right? We av successful and intelligent women here and dere, y shld polygamy be accepted? What reason? For more kids or just for d pleasure? Why do u make it look like men re doing women a favor for marrying them. So wat u re trying to say is that all men re polygamous in nature and all men re d same!? I am trying to understand your writeup.

Please snap out of the closet you are and face facts here.

When you say cheating you make it sound cruel but the question is what is the difference between a man who decides to take a new wife and a man who sticks to one wife and sleeps around with other ladies?

Please stop using that word cheating and face the harsh reality that a man can have more than a wife and there is nothing any lady can do about that if the guy's mind is made up so that is tyhe angle i want you to look at the write up from.

folksync:
Wow!!!!! A lot of people can't take a joke. Haba, the OP was only joking with you all. OP, call off the joke already!!!!!

Joke you say?

Look around and see the so-called lady divorcees and the similar trend is the act of sleeping around with the husbands of other ladies or with randy men after leaving their husbands due to the same act of infidelity they now indulge in so who is fooling who?

I am just fed up with this back and forth stories of divorce because a man cheats just for the same ladies to leave teh marriage and start doing same thing with husbands of other ladies..MADNESS.

KimBerlyie:
Lol I never pray for someone I know or someone close to me to get married to u with this ratiocination of yours. So tz cool for a man to be polygamous in nature and not acceptable for a lady to be?

Who says its cool for a man to be polygamous?

You are still looking at this from a baby angle.

Does the fcat that it is wrong stop guys from doing it?

Who said a lady cant be polygamous? let her enjoy herself and be ready to pay the price simple.

KimBerlyie:
Lol was kidding, who takes stuffs like this serious? M sure the op was asleep wen he typed all these. The woman that will marry that man shld just brace up for the worst.

Laugh wan kill me die!

If only you know the personality behind the name toks,you will pray and fast for your most loved female spinster to have me as a hubby but as i wrote,ladies love lies.

Tinalex:
But for real Op....i used to applaud your write ups but of recent you 've been f*cking up. Pls dnt let your brain devalue like our naira now cos you just murdered all my previous esteemed regards for you. :-

Better stop having regards for me..if i woo you please rubbish me and if i woo anyone you know abeg tell the person im a monster.

I am ready to pay the price for the truth. The truth many ladies cursing me today will thank me for latter.

I know ladies love lies but unfortunately i stand for the truth.

Laveda:
Team white guys?

I love my cute Naija guys please
Don't mind the ones posting trash on NL

Just hope and pray you won't remember this trash someday.

There are some hard pills that seem very difficult to swallow and this is just one of them.

KimBerlyie:
Y won't he condemn it? I thought it's only Muslims that re allowed to marry more than one woman? Since wen those d rule apply to everybody?

You know what is good for the goose is also good for the gander , y won't operate on an open marriage, while ur wife is screwing u, she can also be screwing another man, same is applicable to u .

Polygamy is allowed in both religions

Writing and music.

Cutehector:
What kind of balderdash is this?

Even nairaland loverboy dey condemn this..wow

lalasticlala i guess this is revealing enough.

Before i dwell on the matter i would like to welcome every Lady Nairalander who has perfected the act of E-cursing to come on board especially those who are still far from the reality of marriage to call me names like monster,misogynist or any other name that comes to your mind.

Yes we know that philandering is a hell bound sin and adultery is very sinful so this is not about justifying or encouraging the act but does that change the fact that a man who will cheat on you will do and some guys will never cheat on the woman in their life but unfortunately there is no way this can be written on their foreheads.

Many ladies hate to hear the word "Polygamy" but do you know that POLYGAMY IS THE ANSWER TO THE PRAYERS OF MANY LADIES such as:

1.Many never married single ladies in the late 30s and in their 40s.
2.Many lady divorcées with children.
3.Many widows in their 30s and 40s

Apparently it is the married men that will fancy these set of ladies MORE and only a lady in their shoes will relate perfectly to my stands and i believe it makes no sense for a man to divorce an innocent wife because he desires another woman.

How hypocritical it is that ladies will prefer a man to be married to them alone and keep side dishes rather than for the same hubby to marry more wives and remain faithful to them? Same ladies that talk down on polygamy will be the same having affairs with married men and i just wonder at the level of hypocrisy and foolishness.

And even more pathetic is the fact that a lady will divorce her husband because he decides to marry or date another lady just for her to end up as a mistress to another married man or starts sleeping around shamelessly after divorce.
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I know many ladies will say a man should also be ready to share his wife too but please you are free as a lady to marry more than one husband at the same time if you can


This is not the way it should be but a fact you must accept as a lady or stay single for life.

TonyeBarcanista:
So you mean we should wait till 2019 before assessing the government? Kudos

Assessment and criticism may be jusxtaposed but are never the same.

Have a great day dude.

Decker:
I think it's the universe's way of creating balance. Whatever they lack facially, they make up for with their sweet voice.

I must be blessed cos everything about me is fine....runs out of thread...

TonyeBarcanista:
Oga in case you weren't told, I never spared GEJ when he was in power until the last minute where I finally pitched tent with voting him simply because of loss of confidence in Project Buhari. That doesn't make me a Jonathanian. In fact, a look at my topics will show where I criticised him not long ago #NoRegret...

Oga make una face issues rather than make me an issue when I'm no public officer.

Before io made the quoted cooment,i took a quick glance at your threads and observed the lopsidedness which necessitated what i wrote.

However,it is your opinion which is a right you do have but nevertheless i will urge you to wait for 3 full calender years before castigating the new dispensation.

My take.

baby124:
Shame on the idiots that made this guy Ooni. So they didn't do investigations? What a shame on a traditional institution held in such high esteem.

You for wait till the oba is found guilty before all these...

Lalasticlala

esmeralda1:
This just confirms that this lady is dull as much as I like her I am just disappointed at her choice of spouse. Better be single than married to another mistake.
Must it be a Muslim, a man with 3 children from 3 diff women I mean is she mad?
Why do you think you will be different from others I'm too disappointed.
She just seem so dumb, that I like you won't stop me from telling you the truth funke.

Do you have a man for her?

It is easy to judge as a spectator.

eyeview:
Why is she always drawn to men who have numerous kids from numerous women? Anyway,its not her fault,maybe she has searched and didn't find.
My yoruba friends,please forgive me,but is there any yoruba guy that is over 35years and well-to-do that doesn't have a child somewhere?

Nkan worry e ni agbari.

TonyeBarcanista:
Virtually every Nigerian from Abia state to Zamfara state is complaining that are things moving from bad to worse in all sphere of the economy. The story is the same from the creeks of Bayelsa state to the deserts of Adamawa state, the rhetoric of mirage of change is growing loud from Ibadan the heart of Yorubaland to Sokoto, the seat of the caliphate. The messianic "government of Change" as promoted by the APC appears to have become a government of Blame and confusion.

While I sympathise with Nigerians, particularly those that sincerely believed, campaigned and stood for General(now President) Muhammadu Buhari during the electioneering period, it is in my opinion that the man, Muhammadu Buhari and his party, APC showed all the signs of unpreparedness for leadership and governance all through the electioneering and even after taking office in May 2015.

Buhari/APC Displyed Signg of Incompetence During Campaign
Firstly, a look at the APC candidate Muhammadu Buhari campaign promise basically are; Asset declaration for the President, his Vice, and his appointees; payment of N5,000 stipend to 25 million unemployed youths, elderly and disabled and free meal per day for pupils and students in public primary and secondary schools respectively; Empowerment of 740,000 graduates annually across the country, provision of 3million jobs per year etc; payment of one year post service benefit to passed out youth corps members(Corpers); Bringing back the kidnapped chibok school girls etc. The list is virtually endless and can be seen here
https://www.naij.com/473147-know-the-81-campaign-promises-of-president-buhari.html

The party presented Nigerians with a glimpse of eldorado even when it they were aware that they lack the capacity nor intellectual ability to fulfil even 10% of their promise. To mask their disability, they shielded General Buhari and Prof Osinbajo from every form of political debate. Instead, they resorted to prepared speech making in Chetham House, London(UK), and padi-padi town hall meeting where participants, who are their party sympathisers and paid agents would discuss pre-arranged questions. Participation in debate would have presented Nigeria electorates the opportunity to know "HOW they intend to achieve the utopia" when the oil price was falling like the walls of Jericho. They relegated debate that would have given Nigerians the benefit of separating campaign promises from the competence of the candidate Buhari. On March 28, 2015, fifteen million Nigerians fell for their "wish list" to thumb-print for the broom with the hope of Change.

...And Started Failing From The Day of Inauguration
After taking over office from predecessor Goodluck Jonathan, reality started dawning on Nigerians and Sai Buharists. Firstly, the adored General and the pious VP refused to publicly declare their assets. In fact, Presidential Spokesman Shehu Garba even told us to go get it from Code of Conduct Bureau. It took about three whole months before the President and his VP released a vague statement, calling it asset declaration. The funny twist is that almost NINE months of taking office, non of President Buhari's appointee has publicly declared their asset. This is in contrast to his campaign promise when he said public asset declaration will be a pre-condition for appointment.

Secondly, like an unprepared man, the President came on board and ran the show with civil servants for SIX months even when the economy was going on comatose. When asked, he echoed that cabinet ministers were noisemakers, and his fans re-echoed same sentiment. We reminded him that civil service is for policy implementation not policy-making but his supporters shouted us down. Today the controversial 2016 appropriation bill that has become a national embarrassment was majorly prepared by the civil servants that Buhari so much trust. In fact, ministers of government repeatedly denounced part of it. For face saving and in the spirit of "scapegoatism", the President fired the DG Budget Office instead of firing himself for allowing the DG Budget to work unsupervised. And by the way, we have a huge budget proposal of N6trillion for 2016, meanwhile more than 70% goes to recurrent expenditure and increased overhead in a period of economic decline. Oil price is pegged at $38 per barrel even when oil was selling under $35 per barrel as at when the budget was presented to the parliament. Where in the world does that happen?

The economy is spiralling downwards but the President in his wisdom is yet to inaugurate an Economic team to bring in immediate and long term solution. Instead, the government rely on "blame game", and prayer session in Medina, Saudi Arabia(when demons aren't responsible for the downturn).

In this our dear Nigeria, electricity has become a scarce commodity, Naira is trying to rival Zimbabwean dollar, price of commodities are shooting up, sachet water aka pure water is fast becoming a premium product selling at N20-N25 per sachet. Instead of job opportunities, thousands are losing their jobs. Very unfortunate. But what do you expect from a government and party that failed to thoroughly appreciate the challenges that we were facing as a country and pitch their promises based on reality? What do you expect from a party that made use of beautiful and colourful speeches and slogans to capture power without any defined plan on how to use power into meeting the needs of the masses? Can one give what he doesn't understand?

As for the growing numbers of disappointed Sai Buhari die-hards that allowed the love they have for the Daura born General to eclipse their sense of inquisition on what their idol is bringing to the table when/if elected, they should take heart because the deed has been done. I sympathise with Nigerians because they'll have to put up for at least three years. We in opposition shall continue to constructively criticise the government while we restructure our party in preparation for Aso Rock takeover in 2019(God sparing our lives).










May God Bless Us All and Bless Our Nigeria

Inasmuch as i respect your opinion,i would like to affirm with no fear of contradiction as well as prejudice that your lopsidedness is a pointer that you are simply bias and unrealistic towards the government of the day..

I just did a fast due diligence on your past threads hoping to see any form of objectivity but i observed that just like Ben bruce,you remained silent all through the tenure of Jonathan but only dim it fit to be highly opinionated after APC took over power.

Ogbeni relax and give this dispensation breathing space.