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Xiadnat:
I think there is such a thing as 'over communicating'. It leaves nothing to mystery.

A little mystery is good for a relationship.

Truth is: not everything needs to be communicated--and definitely not verbally. Much can be said non-verbally as well.

Not everything needs to be verbalized. Hold back some. I think the challenge is in discerning when to speak and when to hold it.

Vikky014:
good piece but why will you ask her just twice and stop r u really sure of wht u r sayingbc to me u are not practising this write up if u will stp asking her after twice.....If ur wife is my type eh.....u go cry for 1 week

Elxandre:
These are the things people tell themselves that they them in trouble.

Do you really think a 35 years old woman will be comfortable and utterly contented with a 55-60 years old man?

Generation indeed!

Anything above 10 years, you are asking for trouble!

femi4:
Its so unfortunate that all you do on Nairaland is making a list or giving advice on relationship yet you couldn't settle down even in your 40s.
Don't tell me you want to train your children with grey hairs.

SerialGist:
Technically married? Is there anything of such in marriage? Oga, you never marry before. May be u put one girl belle accidentally.

SerialGist:
Oga, permit me to be harsh on you for once by shocking you a little. In 1997, you were already a corper while i was in primary school and between then and now, it's good 19yrs and you are not married. All you do is coming to nairaland to write epistles about women of which you've refused to pick one and settle down with. Your village people must really be using your brain to fry Akara.

Autopin:
wow! With all this mention of height on Nairaland, I must be damn attractive.

Azil:
Height, he's got to be at least 6'2 and a face someone other than his mother can honestly appreciate.

Omotayor123:
Agreed. Communication is the key

Higgson:
I think contentment and perseverance holds the key to a long lasting relationship. Not just effective communication.

foriz4u:
lol... u go hash o.
but she goes on with dat muddy face over u giving u d impression sth is wrong. how will u deal wit such I frustrating situation?

foriz4u:
very true. most women want their hubby to be a kind of teleporting angel who reads mind and even raise to every single tin slight issues bordering them before they even speak out. and they seems to mistake to a casing and sensitive man.

but they don't no that men r not super human but mere being just like they are.

the annoying kind of women r those u will ask a million times "honey what is d problem", no matter how convinced u r that sth worries her she will still smile adamantly claiming nothing is wrong. I hate women wit such habit en?

Twaci:
So I just saw this on my timeline and......well, I really don't know what to say here.

But hey, what do you guys think of her opinion?

missingrib:
for me o. no dulling becos I must know the size

CaroLyner:
how about moving on to something better?
Instead of waiting for one boy to love you.

dft:
The OP reminds me of my SHORTEST ever relationship.
I normally avoid these types of women, but one slipped through the net.
She did something 5-ish -- not another man, but she disappeared for a couple of days.
When she resurfaced, I said nothing.
The next day it's, "did you miss me?"
I said, "no".
Then I let the whole thing just fizzle out. That was the end of my two week relationship with trouble woman.

hockeyoilers:
I just find it remarkable a man pulled from a vagina attached to an umbilical cord for sustenance is considered a God , and/or worthy of worship. We are talking about a man who ate food and used the bathroom.

A man like all men who does not know the day of judgment. A man who like Muslims prayed on his face to the creator.

I prefer to worship the creator not the creation.

oloyede252:
doveda i wonder how you can pass exams with this your unintelligent line of reasoning.just because you view the op as a person against women you blockd your higher cognitive level.if you support woman empowerment you will see sense in this post.but your ignorance wont let you.you're just saying how man is supirior to women which is not to be so.but women like you are the problem of empowering women.

Sunnypar:
Shut the f up..... Date a jobless dude! In this generation.... Would you allow your 5 kid sister do it?

Seventeen:
God! What did i just read? I cant believe that In this age and time, young enlightened ppl like the op and those liking his post are of the opinion that educating a girl child is a waste. Plz parents, if u can afford it, educate ur girl child, theres more to education than ending up with a good job and getting rich. Infact may i use this opportunity and medium to celebrate my Dad as i always do, everyday of my life. We are 6 girls and our only brother who is the last and the only one still in uni. As a matter of fact we are the ones paying his fees now cos we hv asked our parents to relax and enjoy themselves. We are all graduates and am proud to say we are all outstanding in our various fields, some of us are professionals some are not, but thats not even the remarkable thing about us. I bet u, u would never meet a group of beautiful, smart, witty, confident sisters with very high self esteem like us. Infact when our husbands come together, the unknowingly talk endlessly about us and compare us like its a game of who married the smartest sister. I thank God for our parents that believed in us especially my Dad who never considered us lesser humans because we wr girls. We are not rich (that kind of world definition of rich) our husbands are not rich either but our parents are reaping the fruits of their labour. Even my uncles hv made envious statements to my dad on several occasions. I can tell u that he raised better children and is a prouder father than most of them who had more of boys. My friends always say that i cant hv a conversation without mentioning my dad, and its true because i just cant stop celebrating the man.

Abeg give ur children, whether boy or girl the best education u can afford, make una no mind op.

DNameisOla:
My dear, wat has been d fate of those females dt built der lives wf dose ambitious guys so far? U even juxtaposed urslf wf wat u wrote abt d wife wife being used as rituals! Are the first wives nt always d ones building "their lives" wf d so-called ambitious guys but still end up being used for rituals? Well, d best tin is to build ur life urslf wfout depending on anybody because nobody is trustworthy.

YelloweWest:
Abeg shu.t up. U lazy men these days who can't strive to make a dime are always looking for ways to bash women.
WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED TO WEALTH AND PROSPERITY OR AT LEAST THE POTENTIAL OF IT! AND GUESS WHAT? GOD HIMSELF MADE IT THAT WAY! ADAM HAD A JOB IN FACT HE WAS THE RICHEST MAN THAT EVER LIVED BEFORE GOD BROUGHT EVE!
So pick your sorry a$$ up and go get a JOB! Cos only a stupid woman would marry a man without a means of living!

banmee:
Even more ridiculous. Is that your excuse for perpetuating a flawed mentality? Every individual irrespective of gender needs an education. An educated society is an improved society. I just can't fathom how you reason.

chimaobinelson:
this obsession is a long a long underlying trait in MOST undergraduate or graduated ladies,as their true essence of goin to Universities is to
1.experience that sweet freedom campus life they hv been seing in the home videos.
2. To come out to the world and show what they have got above their fellow female folks you notice it from their values(latest clothes)
3. to answer that name GRADUATES so as to give the an edge over other wives,especially when ranting in their women gathering
4. As lazy and cawordice as they are,haven tought ahead and seen how "hard" life is in their little brain,they need a rescuer to cling to n "graduate" accolade wil attract values to the in marriage..nt knwin dt education empowers u to carry onus wch dey r affraid to compete
men cherish zealous n industrious woman

ENIMONEY:
brain dead like every female in your generation!!! Rich Men are getting married everyday and poor boys keep whining... Better goan think.