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CACAWA:
Did he really die?

No he didn't.

Nollywood movie...no be only die,na dye

The man is probably very alive and enjoying his life somewhere...sharp guy wey disguise as woman beat UK security operatives

HtwoOw:
Jonathan. Jonathan




Prison calls

I have said it several times....Jonathan might just be the first former head of state that wil go to prison.

The world respects him but his indulgence in shady matters far outweighs the respect accorded to him.

Fernandowski:
looks like a kangaroo

Yeah it is

pucelle:
I think all your write-ups are okay and well laid out...
you should close your eyes to the ranting of the naysayers avoiding the practical truth,you and I know they have no liver to do what they type online its all a facade.


A woman who finds herself with a philanderer(I will not use the word cheater) should have known better or should know better than thinking cheating on him too will solve anything.

But I don't think your thread is based on cheating only,I like the way you highlighted many things some women think is not,its high time women realise that all that glitters is not gold

I have asked the unmarried ladies making comments here to delete all their comments and wait till 5 years after they marry before they can come back to comment.

Most young unmarried ladies making comments here reminds me of someone who have never driven before making comments about driving.

MzNelly:
My point exactly.

Your threads always resemble each other, belittling & condemning women to soothe your over bloated ego.

Common girl, i tried to communicate with you intelligently and decently yet you just won't stop your classless manner of response. What i write is is not the problem but how you read and understand it is your problem so deal with it.

Have a great sunday ahead.

valdovas:
Polygamy is not a sin?!?!!?

Now I know for a fact that you are not a Christian.
Please stop deceiving innocent men and women with your devilish theories about marriage.


@all the unmarried ladies ; never accept adultery as a normal part of marriage. It isn't.
I am a man and by God's grace I will stay faithful to my wife after marriage because that is what God asks of me and I fear Him and respect him enough to obey.
You embrace adultery and turn a blind eye to it but are you going to turn a blind eye when your husband mistreating you because he loves his mistress more than you and is now irritated by the sight of you?
Are you going to turn a blind eye when the woman outside becomes pregnant and he now has to take responsibility for her and the child and marry her and bring her into your home?
Will you turn a blind eye to sexually transmitted infections?

I grew up in a household with a cheating father and I remember to this day how unhappy my mom was during the early years of her marriage. She was withdrawn and frustrated but she stayed and tolerated my dad because of us kids. Now they are both older, the closeness that should be between old couples does not exist between them because of the heartache my dad put my mother through. He is now too old to play around and is trying very hard to win her affections because he has realised that the other girls will not be there to grow old with him or keep him company when he is advanced and fragile.

So imagine your mum left your dad.

My dad was also a cheat but trust me, my mum was never unhappy for once as she always reietrated that she swtched her desire and focus to us the children and my parent stayed together for about 50years until my dad passed on.

Ask many ladies who divorce a cheating hubby how their life have fared after divorce. It will blow your mind that many divorced ladies as a result of infidelity end up sleeping with another married man or one or two randy young guys.

Juliet Ibrahim was accused yesterday of sleeping around and while im not saying she did it or not, the point remains that if she remained with her hubby, all these insults will never come to be.

Toke is a wise woman and while many unmarried ladies will tell her to leave her hubby, she knows better that leaving an adulterous hubby is never and have never proffered any lasting solution to the grieving of any lady.

Only myopic ladies hurriedly leave their hubby because he philanders.

valdovas:
Polygamy is not a sin?!?!!?

Now I know for a fact that you are not a Christian.
Please stop deceiving innocent men and women with your devilish theories about marriage.

Please can you educate me from the Bible and quran why polygamy is a sin? because im ready to educate you 100% that the Bible does not condemn polygamy. Please whnever i write anything i advice people to refrain from just jumping in to condemn without any salient points to back up their notion.

Polygamy may not be advised due to its complexity but no man will be committing a sin if he decides to marry 100wives.

So as a bible scholar who gets references from the bible please i will be willing to get more enlightenment from you without the use of human philosophy.

MzNelly:
I've always known this Toks of a person to be a misogynist.

This doesn't surprise me

Apparently you don't even have a clue of the meaning of the adjective you used but let me help you out.

A misogynist is a person who dislikes, despises, or is strongly prejudiced against women.

Now if you take a look at this particular thread used as a threshold for your prejudicial disposition,it is quite unfair and cruel that out of the entire 13 points,you singled out just one or two to make your judgment shoving under the mat the remaining points.

I only responded to advice you to rid yourself of the destructive act of prejudice.

Ashmark:
""" If your man beats you once,it could be a mistake but if
he beats you the second time then its a habit he is likely
never going to stop.""".........What if your Woman slap you once? Is it a mistake?

Take it as a mistake and if she does it again do this..

Tie her hands and give her a number of hot slaps equal to her age.

pucelle:
I think all your write-ups are okay and well laid out...
you should close your eyes to the ranting of the naysayers avoiding the practical truth,you and I knows they have no liver to do what they type online its all a facade.


A woman who finds herself with a philanderer(I will not use the word cheater) should have known better or should know better than thinking cheating on him too will solve anything.

But I don't think your thread is based on cheating only,I like the way you highlighted many things some women think is not,its high time women realise that all that glitters is not gold

The dumbest thing any lady can do is to cheat in retaliation to a cheating hubby..infact it is not only a dumb act but totally childish and baseless
No man is worth making you stoop so low to be a tramp and a dustbin..absolutely no man.

johnsonjosbles:
Op u were asking if u make sence have don a wonderful job up there! this is the best article i ever read about marriage. thanks for the inovation. hope women folks comprehends that!

Thanks.

inasmuch as i dont expect everyone to agree with my position,how i wish only the married will make comments on this thread...

omojeesu:
I am very grateful for this your very candid presentation. It sure makes a lot of sense! It is a must read for young girls and women who are yet to be wedLOCKED!

I had just finished a heart to heart talk with my one and only daughter on this subject to discover your Nairaland piece. She is at crossroads in her relationship. I have shared your piece with her one of her female cousins. The following are random thoughts I shared with my daughter in our own discussion:

1) Marry your friend.

2) How happy are you in the courtship? How much emotional stress are you experiencing?

3) How caring is he? How considerate / sensitive? How understanding? How kind?

4) Is the person spiritually sound / balanced?

5) How passionate / excited is the person about the relationship?

6) Who is driving the relationship, taking most decisions, initiatives: you or him?

7) Are you afraid or seriously concerned about the relationship and what marriage life may be with him?

How sincere / honest / transparent

9) Do you have doubts, really strong doubts about the relationship?

10) How comfortable are you in it? Deep in your heart are you at peace with it?

11) Are you 100% sure God is in it?

12) Are you eagerly looking forward to a wedding? Are you excited to have a wedding right now?

13) Never marry out of pity for or pressure from anyone

14) Follow your heart guided / informed by your head (i.e. knowledge, wisdom and understanding, intelligence, common sense), etc

God will see you through. He will guide you. Trust Him!

GOD bless you and your daughter ma...

It gladdens my heart when i read comments from people who can relate with my articles first hand.

pucelle:
Toks2008 I have always admired your write-ups from a distance
I love this realistic post really,its an insight to the truth about marriage,even though most modern women try to deceive themselves I hope by the time they learn it will not be too late

Thanks...

Most of my write ups if not all are unbiased,pragmatic and down to earth.

Some people have taged me many names just because of my no holds bar approach.

I keep telling people,i dont even know how to cheat on any lady in my life neither do i wish to be polygamous but please does this change the fact that many married men sleep with another lady or ladies asides their wives?

Is polygamy a sin?....A BIG NO

is philandering or adultery a sin.....YES IT IS

So if a man can get another wife if he so desires without sinning against God almighty then i believe no lady should kill herself over the fact that your man has a mistress.

Im not and will never justify or support a sinful act but the fact that smokers are liable to die young have never changed the fact that people still smoke and the fact that many pastors will preach against sins today will not stop many from still commiting sins latter today.

Believe it or not,if you are the type of lady who has no shock absorber against a possible infidelity of a man,PLEASE STAY OFF MARRIAGE.

remsonik:
Who made all this rules for women sef, a woman is not entitled to the best of marriage? wow ? Men you all wish to have daughters o. Is this the advice you will give your daughters? Its ok for a man to cheat, its ok for a man to have concubines? Toks2008 is this the advice you are giving your brothers on this forum? They should cheat but do it far from home, then they come back with several form of STIs to infect their wives?
Well I still believe there's a small % of men who doesnt cheat and hold their marriage in high regards.
Mr Toks2008 your assumption that a man who cheats with impunity is callous,useless,a pig and one who cheats far away from home has respect for his marriage is very wrong!!! Either you cheat far away from home,or you cheat under your wife's nose cheating is wrong and you are a pig!!1.

Please stop writing all this facts and rules for women,talk to the men too. Marriage isnt a do or die affair, every woman can have the best of marriage with a faithful man. Stop justifying philandering!!!!

You see Remsonik,the issue of a man being polygamous in nature have been since time memorial.

Go down the history lane and you will see that even many great men in the bible were polygamous back to back From Abraham to David to Solomon..this is why every lady must allow reality to take over her fantacies.
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But Aunty remsonik,if you want to still hang on your notion,you are free to do so.

That moment when teenagers and adolescents who still live in fantacies make wishful comments on a factual thread....smh

Ladies who have expressed a more bragadocio disposition while still single usually calm down when reality stares at them.

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lalasticlala Fulaman198, odumchi, bigfrancis21, ishilove,
Fynestboi, Mynd44, Obinoscopy, Ijebabe, Seun, Yokiti,
Dominique, tosyn2much,elantraceey, caracta, naijaboy,
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introvert, viviangist4, Mostwanted7

On a more serious note, i would like to know the present active nairaland mods...Please can someone help me on this? Thanks

Honourable lalasticlala what do you think?

sickstars:
To me the best wedding ceremony acceptable by God is d ceremony u have nd u are determined to stick to d marriage no matter wat


Avin a traditional wedding nd stickin till end of time togeda is 1000 times better dan
Avin a church wedding nd divorcing d next day or next month

Cos wat is bound on earth is bound in heaven

Nd wat is loosed on earth is loosed in heaven

Ceremony doesnt matter but the 2 hearts goin on dat life time journey

God is after every human heart first
Den actions next

Good.

Chanchit:
The guy tin truly. I remember when I wanted to start carrying weight, I fell sick after 2wks that guy sef fat pass me now but I like my self as I dey, ko ni da fun 6packs.

Six packs na for teenage girls and those still living under their parents...in my country,pocket pack is more romantic than 6 packs.

davidmark4naija:
Wots wrong with dating someone you cant marry?

Wots wrong with dating someone you know you won't marry?

Wots wrong with dating someone with no future plans in mind?

Wots wrong with continuing to date someone after you realise you guys just cant have a future togeda?

Anytin wrong with any of the above?

Whats wrong in going tru 100level to 400level when you know you wont graduate?

luckman20:
When You Bring your personal issues online,are You Expecting us to cry for u,Beat the person for you? Brethren 90% of Us Don't care.

ogbeni please next time write something like this:

luckman20:
When You Bring your personal issues online,are You Expecting me to cry for u,Beat the person for you? Brethren i Don't care.

Dotmax53:
Fellow Nairalander'


Please Help A Brother...I newly married this beautiful young lady in her late 30's, and was shocked with what i saw with my eyes the first night of our wedding,she ended up messing up my newly purchased bed which i bought to appease our marital life,Had i known she was a baby adult,i wouldn't have gone into this marriage with her...No wonder she wouldn't agree to sleepover at my place while we were dating,,,i never knew there was a skeleton in her cupboard.After i noticed the drained bed on our first night together,She ended up giving an excuse that maybe she had drank so much water during the day/stressful day. Ever since, she as been urinating on the bed, We end up going to spread our bed outside everyday to get heated by sun...I believe our neighbors would have started suspecting something of such nature due to the usual sunning of the bed....Fellow Nairalanders, I love this lady and i cant afford to loose her..Our marriage is just a week old..

Please Advise me on what to do because i am really out of my mind presently.....

Pls MOD's Push this to front page to get urgent responses..

Love they say..endures all things.

Now close your eyes and imagine you are the one in this predicament. This is why i always say couple must open up to each other on every and any secret so that there won't be any unpleasant surprises.

Now while i wil,advive that you google different phrases bothering on "How o prevent,cure adult bedwetting"

You can even google.."My wife bed-wets every night" i believe you wil come up with a good succor but for the time being you can get her an adult diaper so she can be using it before finally falling asleep at night at least this will keep the bed dry.

It could be a genetic disordere or spiritual problem but which ever one it is,there is absolutely noihing impossible for GOD to do but please get that adult diaper..You can fo Mushin if you are in Lagos to get 5k worth of it which is about N4900 for 32 pieces(pne per nigt).I was buying it at a time for an elderly person.

Remember that shits happen in life..just put yourself in her position and apparently i may want to blame her for not coming clean before marriage but then i believe she may be scared of losing you.

Dronedude:
I think its high time Buhari looks into this entertainment industry, the money and the fame is eating up this Lads badly and to think that so many young ones are looking up to them. If you make money and loose your morals, u r a suspect.

Asides from the madness within their entertainment caucus.the alarming rate at which our little children are getting corrupt by their lyrics and musical videos is very very worrisome....you need to se some little kids sing these lewd lyrics to understand my point.Olamide is at the forefront of these terrible lyrics.

Celebrated touts everywhere.

Can't remember ever throwing a punch at anyone in my life or engage in physical combat much more breaking bottle...

If it is real then dammy should get this boy arrested immediately for assault and let him spend that money that is controlling him..iranu awon omo jatijati

mallamsk:
I just met this girl not long ago and we are going well along. We are about to finalize things and start dating officially. Surprisingly today, I just saw this on her dp and she confirm that it belongs to her. Please fellow nairalander, do you think I should run for my life or I should still carry on?

come off it dude,why are you so insecure?

Depends on her background and how hard working she is.

This reminds me of a program on sony max channel called "A THOUSAND WAYS TO DIE"

Creativity

craziebone:
why is that?

Op, when i saw this on FP, i knew it was you. I disagree with several points there though.

LOL!

The truth is that it is never normal for everyone to agree with all i write but only those in such situations will know first hand the relevance of each thread i create.

mercydaniel:
Hmmm u are indeed God sent. Am a single mother and every information you layed down here is the fact. God bless you for this information

With this comment i am most fulfilled with this thread.

GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR CHILD.

I also thank the ever active mod lalasticlala for taking this to front page.Apparently this is why i call his attention to my threads so that at least one person can learn from the wealth of experience i have gathered in my 4 decades of existence.