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Toks2008:
I know this topic will shock many people who believe in the propaganda that the use of condom is a formidable prevention against HIV but unfortunately,using a condom does not prevent you from contracting HIV but only reduces the chance of contracting it.

Now read this and i doubt if you will ever read this anywhere else because the condom industry is a huge one and facts like this may not be widely disseminated but here i give it to you to ponder over.


-Human immunodeficient Virus(HIV) is very virulent and can pass through through unnoticeable and painless skin abrasion on the penile shaft as well as the vaginal region.

-The viral load is present in cervico-vaginal fluid and of-course in the blood.

-We will agree that in most cases if not all,the condom no matter how carefully worn still exposes some part of the penile shaft and this is where the problem lies because in most cases,the vaginal secretions come in contact with this exposed region of the shaft.

-This means an automatic entry of the virus from the vaginal fluid into the man especially when there are some abrasions on the penile skin which of-course is so delicate and easily bruised.

-If the man also has the virus and he happens to have any form of abrasion on the penile shaft then the woman can easily contract the virus once the Unclad part of his shaft touches the walls of the vaginal.

This is just a simple illustration to show that condoms are no guarantee prevention against HIV.

Staying faithful to one sexual partner who is HIV negative and will not be silly enough to indulge in careless sexual act with an infected individual remains the best way to prevent HIV.

The bottom line is that no one is really safe and we all stand the risk of contracting it as the Virus has a transient period between when it is contracted and when it can be detected in the blood so you may meet someone who is tested negative today and later may test positive.

GOD HELP US.

Toks2008:
Adrenal rush of love a.k.a initial gragra...A dangerous precept

You meet a guy or a lady and you hit if off immediately with the person, both of you can't seem to hear enough of each other's voice,chatting became so regular and you just start to imagine being around the person always and every form of idiosyncrasies of that person feels so cool with you.

Then after a short while,maybe days,weeks or months the communication dwindles and you even care less if such person exists and you tend to ask if that was the same person you felt so magnetized to in just recent past.

You meet another person and then the circle begins just to go the previous way and on and on you experience this never ending tidal wave of affection

This is known as adrenal rush of love otherwise called initial gragra and many people have made serious mistakes confusing this for the real thing.

Many people have left a promising affair for another person as a result of this false feeling,many ladies have crossed the line to get pregnant for a guy who does not really want them during this stage and some people have destroyed their marriages by having an affair with another person just because of this crazy imaginary feeling while some men have proposed marriage to women during this stage just to realize latter that what they felt was just a flimsy wave of initial thunderbolt of a made believe affection.

No matter how crazy you feel at the start towards that person,please give it time like a year and make sure you observe that person keenly for red flags and you will come to know better if what you are feeling is the real deal or just a passing,flimsy,tidal facade called adrenal rush of desire which i call initial gragra.

Be wise and avoid getting carried away by initial gragra syndrome.

Hope this makes sense.

enygmababe:
Both of you are gems. Part of the very few REAL MEN I have read from on nairaland. Lots of children spewing stuff they know nothing of. In real relationships (I mean those that last) there is no power struggle.

CaroLyner:
i'v seen a few "big boys" actually kneel.

AdeniyiA:
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Vikky014:
hahahaha u and dis ur Nairaland crush self.... abegi we nairalanders cant wait to see una pre wedding photos



op u tried bt nxt time make it 50 so dt i will take u serious

AkumahTalk:
100% correct. Op! you just wrote my mind. Ladies! follow this advice....

viktagorion:
Nice points OP.


Well written.

We share the same sentiments.

May the good Lord bless your brain.



#kindredSpirit.

Nickymezor:
Noted, tho I aint guilty of any of d above.

Orikinla:
OP, thank you. You are helping them a lot. Majority of them are insecure and use all the attachments and extreme makeup to boost their egos. My buddy fell in lust with one Lagos babe at first sight in the night. But when he saw her in the morning without her attachments and makeup, he nearly had a heart attack.

dckng16:
I detest Tatoo a lot, if I see a lady with Tatoo on her body. What comes to my mind is Olosho

Bigmarx:
if 69 males plus me out of a possible hundred agrees with the OP.....then I wonder what you are clinging on...definitely there will always be people with different perspective but when over 70 percent agrees to a way of life/pattern putting "real man" at the focus then I don't think there is much to argue or bicker about.....

KimBerlyie:
As in ehn, I was just looking at d daddy cus honestly I don't know how to argue with him. Females av suffer whatever rocks our boat ni, there re guys who love females like that. Most of those guys complaining re just hypocrites.

I don't shave off my brows completely nd I also love my drawn brows, nd I also wear contacts. I don't see how those turn guys off. He even mentioned jewelries? Mtchewwww I give up.

yemoxyl:
Op must be looking for SU or deeper life sister
11.She should cover her hair or she should do *DIDI IJEBU* or KIKO

gcode123:
No guy like anything artificial on a woman, take that anywhere in the world you would come back to confirm it. if a guy claims he likes it then he is either a man without any option and has a terribble esteem he would settle for anything. Why do you think black men prefer white women in many cases? simple because they are natural and are still beautiful unlike many black girls with much make up, fake hair, lashes, tonned skin, fake nails etc.....

kaffy4tope:
Yeah, we fancy anything you put on since our intention is to get you laid and waste you like we did to your types. We won't allow that in someone we wish to take to momma.


Oh! You expect a guy to tell you, you look like a LovePeddler when he has not use you to count scores? You're on a long thang.

MissSlimbody:
Toks2008, please when will you create a thread on "10 things that turn real women off in a man at first glance"?

Or is it only men that gets turn off?

kayoade09:
This is why there's so many people with multiple personalities, who are dibbling and dabbling in this and that, who are confused , and all messed up in their thoughts , feelings and behavior. They are dealing with their own personality as well as the other people they have physically and spiritually connected themselves too. The person you could be laying with could be full of the devil and now ... You are too. "/.

How can this be avoided. Do it God's way. Just wait. Save sex until marriage. Sex is a beautiful thing it's fun it's exciting when done God's way. God knows how it feels and what it does. He created it ! But he also put boundaries in place because He knows what can happen when people get careless with it. TROUBLE TROUBLE ( Dollar Bill voice ). The good news is this doesn't have to be you. If you haven't already engaged in sexual activity then don't. Save it for your husband or wife. If you have.... Don't do it anymore. Ask God to discipline you to wait and take away the desire because it's definitely hard to stop wanting something that is good to you after you've had it. Take your pick. Either run the risk of sleeping with THE ENEMY or waiting and being in the Ark of safety in marriage.

manie:
What will you do when the endowment disappears due to child bearing, old age, accident or sickness? I think any woman with a good heart can be made beautiful by her husband, but a pretty woman with a bad heart is a disaster.

I may be weird, but the first thing that to turns me on to a lady is her intellect, values and pure heart then the so-called endowment. Endowment depreciates as the woman ages, but her values, outlook about life and intellect appreciates as she ages.

manie:
Are you sure, you have not gone down with countless sisters, just joking.

manie:
Even when she is not skillful on the bed, I guess you can teach her that provided she is willing to learn.

elantraceey:
Then you own is easy nau

elantraceey:
That's life for you but still we should be prepared for anything. My most concern is the children. I never want to train children in a broken home or one with so much instability and unpreparedness. I grew up in the later and it was solely by God's grace I didnt turn out wayward but now my siblings are living way better.

elantraceey:
True , there's nothing like wrong or right spouse per say but every individual has a range of qualities he/she would love their spouse to posses but no one has it all, the right person could be the one who you can best live with his/her imperfections.

SexyStrawberry:
but what's bad in clubbing? or is club only meant for singles alone? why did she have to hide it from her man that she was clubbing ? hmmmmmm this kind union where u do things in secret, let's see how long it will last happily

manie:
Same here, getting married early in other to have your grandchildren at 50 can only be determined by God. A lady in my church got married at 24 and did not not have child until 14 years after marriage while some of her friends who got married at 30 have gotten their own babies. The should not be a competition for the youngest to have children, but as responsible and informed people we should invest and build solid foundation that will give our children a good headstart in life. Some the endowment funds, trust accounts and investments made on behalf of my children should definitely by His grace give my boys a good headstart wheather I am alive or not.

Nnemuka:
Listen to yourself...
and you are 40 plus old? kai tomorrow someone will marry this one and come for testimony in a church?
Your mates nolonger diss single women, by now they go on vacations with their wife and 3 kids.

FRustrated manchelor

Nnemuka:
coming from a 40 plus manchelor.... can you just give yourself break?
You sound frustrated!....