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elantraceey:
No matter how long the wait,marrying the right person will be worth it,no rush or anxiety about it.According to dygeasy,its not about getting married but staying married .

#teamrightman

There is nothing like right or wrong spouse in most cases but it is us who define what we see as right or wrong

My brother na your story be that..as for me,YES i really love to settle down but im not desperate in anyway.

That boy is still alive..that is not a death pose

misspicy2:
Now I really don't want to get pissed off,because I know this article might not even smell FP because men are always right with the mindset "take me as I am" but if it was Toks2008 and Tosyne2much with their "you must be this and that before any man can wife you" list now,it will run like usain bolt to FP

now all this ones doesn't seem to be enough for you guys ooo,you had to come and type this on here.......okay,amma just sit here and watch this article make or not make FP first before I type the right reply for you all CHAUVINISTIC DIOTS

Please cut down on the orubebe weed you mix with your food..its getting out of hand..wettin i do you? If you want me why not just say it abi na your own way of showing green, light be this?

I bind every monitoring spirit following me online and of-line...if you mention my name again..

Tales by moonlight

I am very happy for him but the question is...how is he affecting the lives of people around him and the youths in this country?

This dude should have a reorientation and start a life of legacy and not vagueness.

Acquiring car of millions of naira when he still has several expensive cars in his lot while youths lack empowerment...money miss road.

E be like say i go woo that 23yr old cos i like her curves....i no dey joke with curvy chics.

If my wife cheats on me and asks for forgiveness,i will consider her plea only if she is a good cook.

Walahi i cant give up a good cook except she leaves on her own.

Any woman who can not cook satisfactorily for her hubby has failed totally...infact any lady who cant cook has no business with marriage except she is ready to cope with a second wife in the name of a maid cook or mama put.

StrawberryCream:
Lol Go get villiage bride wey no modern .. Also come with problems

You can bet the advantages are more...

LaurelP:
Call it green light,red light or whatever you like, there are certain qualities men find irresistible in women. It's therefore no surprise that some ladies date a man for just one month and before you know it, the man proposes, while others keep going from one man to the other and they keep "dumping" you.
Most of our ladies already know these things but choose to still ignore in the name of being hard to get or being "civilized ". There are however some things that civilization cannot change especially in Africa, at least not in this our generation yet.
Without much ado, here are some qualities that will surely make a man want to have you forever.

1. Respect : Every man craves for respect, especially from women. It has nothing to do with pride, its the way we are wired. If you find it hard as a lady to respect a man then you might as well forget about settling with a man and maybe try a fellow woman. Women thrive on love and attention, men thrive on respect. Even the Bible says it. When you respect and honor a man, there's nothing he cannot do for you. That is why women who seem respectful always attract men. Enough said on this.

2. Confidence : Now by confidence I don't mean arrogance, there's a lot of difference between them. A confident woman knows what she wants and goes for it, she knows how to make her man happy, she feels free to show off her man and brag about him, she pursues her goal with vigour and there's this air of happiness around her. That's the kind of woman a man cannot resist. Not the talkative, insulting, busy body type.


3. Decency: A large percentage of men desire decently dressed women. At least 90 percent and am talking about serious relationship unless a man wants to have you for satisfaction. No man wants to marry a wife who dresses half naked. Sexy is good but naked is unacceptable to most men. Ladies too much makeup pisses most men off. Too much artificial hair, nails and all makes you look fake and only good for banging.

4. Can she keep a home? : There is nothing as nice as a man coming home and finding his house well cleaned and arranged. It tells the man that this lady will surely make a good wife. Most women feel that men are feeling too big to do these things like cleaning, washing and cooking. It's not so. Men are not wired to do these things just like women are not wired to do strenuous work like wiring, carrying heavy loads etc.

5. Can she cook? : Men love food. I can't stress that enough. That is why a man can start developing feelings for the house maid who cooks good food for him and takes care of his house. Show a man that you can feed him good food and he will want to keep you forever.

6. Neatness and good dress sense : A neat, well dressed, nice smelling, well put together woman is very desirable. Enough said.

7. Smile : Now this is where most Naija ladies fail woefully. I don't know if it's against the law in this country for women smile. You see them carrying long faces like they woke up on the wrong side of the bed. Ladies please smile. It communicates confidence and friendliness and also shows you have a good heart. Men can't resist a sexy smile from a woman.


Guys add more.

Lalasticlala good morning.

And this is why maids keEp snatching hubbies from madams because you will hardly get all thee in a modern lady hence modernization is the root cause of the unmarried situation of old spinsters today.

GOD SAVE THE MODERN LADIES

StrawberryCream:
Very well written op
I like your point ... Ur right about point 2 , 30 n up

Good,glad you found some sense in it.

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Insightful

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[/quote]I guess the honourable mods lalasticlala and ishilove should take a look at this..if its worth it then then could share on front page.

alaamword:
The reason why I say it is not straightforward is that in Jonathan’s case, there appears to be some kind of international understanding that he should not be ridiculed. The reason being that most African leaders in the past — I say ‘most’ because not all of them; some of them have successfully handed over in the past when they lost election. But most of them have developed the habit of clinging on to power even when they lose elections. Most African leaders manipulate the electoral process to suit themselves. They do this not only because of the peculiar reasons; they do this because of the fear of life after power.
Therefore, the world and Africa have always encouraged presidents who have lost elections to hand over peacefully. And in return, there is some kind of behind-the-scene international understanding that such African leaders should be given their pride of place in history, so that it encourages others to toe the same line with honour when they lose elections. In Jonathan’s case, therefore, any attempt to humiliate him publicly will discourage other African leaders who lose elections to hand over because they will easily refer to his case. And this may lead their nations to unnecessary civil strike or war.
source:www.ladunliadinews.com/2015/12/21bn-arms-festus-keyamo-explains-why.html?m=1

Ok well articulated so the morale of the story is that a sitting president can siphon as much as he wants but as long as he maintains a status quo if he loses a re-election bid,he is free to walk away with the loot...Soro niyen

ladyF:
Lol....

errrmmm....but not everyone is thinking about marriage na, some people are happy being single

Many single ladies will say they are happy the way they are yet will have boy friends,use intimacy gadgets,spend time chatting with guys...please who is fooling who?are they really single?

Until a lady gets to her late 30s and 40s,she may not really feel the need to be in a family setting.

MsGlobalwonder:
so says the sexist. Lol.I hope it won't be a sin too when the woman marries more than one husband .

ofcourse not..tthe only issue is he synergy of religion and tradition.

If tradition permits it why not?in some countriies today,a lady is permitted to marry more than one man.

less i forget please try all you can to communicate in a decent manner making sure you articulate your points intelligently without name calling or derogatory remarks because it is very demeaning and low life like to discuss intellectual issues with name calling..i hope you adjust.

MsGlobalwonder:
she is a christian and it is called Adultery.

Did your pastor ell you that marrying another wife is adultery?

I taught the bible said it is sex between a married man or woman with another who is not one's spouse.

You better wake up and understand that polygamy though not advisable as i will always reiterate but not a sin in anyway.

My warmest Yuletide greetings go to:

Seun
Lalasticlala
Ishilove
Sugarbee
Motayor
Siamia
Udysweet
Cutehector
misspicy
Every nairalander

The blessings of GOD will not depart from our homes in Jesus name AMEN!

SUGARBEE:
[color=#225484][b] My wishes came in late but I must still wish the wish

Wanna wish these group of people, happy Christmas

Seun
Lalasticlala
BUTCHCASSIDY
Prettythicksme
LadyBoss1
Onihaxy
Larrysun
Toks2008
Elcapito
BeeBeeOoh
Cutehector
Vizkiz
GoodheartNg
Tosyne2much
Teempakguy
Tonyebarcanista
Ireneony
Mariolae
Naijaboiy
Estharfabian
Introvert
LadyF
LogoDwhiz
Kingtom
Kinglekan
MizMyColi
Airforce1
2dice
Punkyveer
TheSonOfMark
Ronald4lif
Truckpusher
YourMain
Dejavuu
Rokiatu
Ishilove
Pretydiva
Kachisbarbie
Oyind17
Agarawu23
Kinwayne
Coolval222
Aminat508
Avicky
MoneySoldier
Johnydon22
Explorers
Benedictnsi
Thronekid
Chocolateme
Mynd44
Onila
Cr77
Sinaj
Mrsphyno
Snakie86
PastorAji
Sinnz
Dechandel
Cum4what
STFUareyouGod


Ouch my fingers hurt.. I really must say, I love everyone who's made my time in this forum worth it.. I love y'all above.. If I didn't mention you abeg no vex.. Kisses..

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Thanks dearie,GOD bless you and i am also wishing you the best of the Yuletide.

sherina10:
Hello
I'm 23 years old, a graduate and currently serving.

I met a guy sometimes in 2012 and we got into into a relationship along the line he told me he was married but had issue with his wife and they are separated but he didn't tell me what d issue was.

I couldn't care less then because I had issue with my elders sister's husband whom I was staying with and he sent me packing. They were the one sponsoring my education. I was broke, confused and frustrated with no money. I called my in law to apologize he wouldn't pick up, send sms in fact I did everything I could to make him forgive me but it seems its heart was made up then, I was left with no choice but to move on then I just finished the semester for 300 level going to 400 level with no savings in my account and my heart was full of anger and hatred.

Above is the reason why I couldn't care less, then i was totally broke with no love from anyone expect this guy, in fact to me he was God sent then because really he saved me from a lot of sufferings.

He helped me move on with no stress, again I was comfortable and I don't need my sister's money for anything but he told me that he wanted to get married to me which I accepted because I cant afford to loose him.

Along the line he reconciled with his wife and he told me that he had reconciled with his wife and he told her about me and his intention to marry me and she accepted.
Note: they are muslim n i'm a Christian
When he told me about this I wasn't comfortable with it because I wasn't interested in polygamy in fact at the beginning I lost interest in everything when he told me he was married but I couldn't let go because of the comfort. He is not very rich but he is comfortable.

We kept on seeing each other, he is very okay in person, very religious, very caring, he had it all and I love him very much.
All he wanted was marriage, I got to know his wife who happen to be very nice too and sometimes I wonder why a woman will become that nice to her husband's
Everything was going fine and I got deep into promise of I will marry him too to the point of no return again I was left with no choice than to get married to him.

FAST FORWARD..........
We are currently married(polygamy)
Separate apartment (the two houses are close by) no transport needed.
24hours with each wife
No fighting
Provide's everything equally
JEALOUS? Deal with it whatever way you can but you have no right to confront your mate over anything because she isn't married to you.

The marriage is going on fine if you can deal with the above.

My GRIEVIANCE
1. I just find out that he married me (if not me then another) for child bearing
His wife had health issues and he wants a particular number of children.
How did I know this? He told me himself. When I stressed on it he told me that if he married me for child rearing how come we are still together because i lost a pregnancy
not long after we got married.

2. He doesn't keep any of his personal belongings in the apartment the both of us is sharing. But he brings some office document and somethings when he needs them and take it back when he is done

3. He doesn't receive visitors in our apartment. Reasons: I don't cover my head and his friends isn't comfortable looking at me because it's as if i'm naked to them.

4. Sometimes I feel ashamed of being a second wife, I cant tell my friends, sometimes when we discuss marital issue they always complain about money but I don't while they are I like I wish i'm comfortable like u, In my mind I will be like I wish I can get a husband to myself like u . Pathetic? Yes.

All in all the marriage has not been bad but my senses just can't accept it that i'm a 2nd fiddle, maybe because of the way I was raised or because it is a taboo to my Christian faith.

I want a divorce because he has bridged his marriage contract, he told me initially that wife is wife in islam, there is no difference between 1st, 2nd to infinto wives but I cant cope with the above because I feel he lied to me.
I can't be in a marriage because of children.

CRITICISM is allowed but please advise while you do so or after you have done that.

It is worthy to NOTE that we never committed fornication/adultery before the marriage because he said its against its religion.
If you want any kpekus (whether extra, supplementary or whatever) then get married first, lol.

Get a reorientation lady..polygamy though not advisable but not a bad thing neither is it a sin...you made that choice so live with it.

tomyka81:
I have no clue. I am not Nigerian. I do read, write, and speak English though. I know when someone is seeking to justify themselves by claiming baseless facts and making gross generalizations though.

O.Y.O lowa

Sleekyshuga:
Single and searching ke? And you decided to throw your bait in River Nairaland ?

I thought you were the King of Romance ? Is there something you are not telling me ?

I withdraw the 'Uncle' back ..

Ifahia throw my bait in nairaland?

Apparently my threads clearly shows that im not looking for a date on nairaland so that assertion is soooo wrong. I am just doing my thing.

tomyka81:
What facts? You are citing opinion of yourself.just because you strongly believe something and move to gross generalizations in order to justify you wrong does not, my friend, make a statement a fact. Lol smiley face

I have always wondered why majority of Nigerian readers take the words many or most to be a general term..is there something wrong with the foundation of their linguistics?

Sleekyshuga:
Hahahaha.. Thanks Uncle Toks

Why you dey fall my hand for public forum?

Please call me toks...that uncle no be am..small boy like me can never be your uncle...abeg no spoil show for me o...im very single n searching but uncles are usually married...

Sleekyshuga:
OMG !!

This mistake was damn too costly..


Indeed!! First runner up who had the shortest reign as Miss Universe..

Yeah

BTW i have this annoying habit of checking out any female who quotes me and i must say you look dapper...

Rukkydelta:
My future hubby will not cheat on me, so why should i bother ?

I love your spirit...

BTW are you the one on your profile pix?you look like a chinko doll.

tomyka81:
Cheating.... Period.....shows utter disregard,disrespect and total mockery of her and the union

You don't need to start reaffirming that cos no one is disputing that.

I am been factual here and not trying to live in fantasy world.

The good thing is that miss columbia will go down the guiness book of record as the miss universe contestant that had the shortest reign.

YorubaWoman:
[color=#808000]To ba para re.

Opolopo omobinrin to joju ni gbese ju eyi to fe ni yo too si ori saree re.

Baya o lode lori tele ri, o ye kan sayewo re.[/color]

Oga o, emi naa ri wipe omokunrin yii ti siwin..Ni aduru gbogbo obinrin ti owa ni agbalaye,o fe ran ara re lo si orun apaadi nitori obinrin kan..o je ki wo lo se ayewo fun opolo re.

VenusBetty:
Dunno how true this is but I heard about a couple, the man was such a womanizer that the woman had to choose a girl for him out of all his concubines cuz she complained they were too much.

When it comes to explaning to ladies about the sexual recklessness of many married men,no matter how hard you try,the unmarried ladies mostly will never understand until they are faced with the situation.

So yes its possible and more so is the fact that polygamy is not forbidden in our culture and while islam promotes it,the bible does not condemn it.

So i keep asking ladies why the need to kill themselves if a man has a mistress when it is a fact that he can actually marry another lady at will.

If a lady finds herself with a faithful hubby i say a big congrats and if otherwise i will just advice her to face her life and that of her children..no man is worth the stress and as i will always reiterate,leaving a cheating hubby is nver a guaranty that the next man wont do even worse.

What i hate is when a man who decides to cheat now does it to the face of the wife..it shows utter disregard,disrespect and total mockery of her and the union.

Genea:
mmmmmm he has to create time frm his busy schedule,cos i like staying close to my guy,dat helps kip the relationship alive,if he can't b available,he shud call and if seun can't call he shud send txts,atleast dat wud make me know am in his thoughts

E be like say you really dig this geek o.

byvan03:
OP someone like you can't be trusted with his own daughters, find solution to your restless whip before it becomes the beginning of your end. A young girl that calls you daddy, entrusted into your care at the age of 14, you molested her and expect it to be well with you. The evil that men do will live with them, you have lost your dignity before this child and will soon lose it before your wife and children.


Better send this girl away before you ruin her life and bring more curse to yourself.

haaa lobatan..se o le to yi nii?

foreman:
She came into our house at 14. She calls me daddy. Now almost eighteen.

Now shes grown those things, fresh, firm and well shaped. I keep telling myself shes a kid. But my mind will not leave that place.

Madam travelled recently. This "kid" keeps jiggling those succulent things, intentionally or otherwise, I cant tell. Then I couldnt hold myself, I grabbed her when she served my food. I held and suckled like my life depended on them. Funny thing she didn't resist. I managed to let go when my conscience wouldn't let me. I had to visit a brothel to calm nerves that evening. Still throughout the night, my mind couldn't get rid of the twins.

Now, the problem is how do send this girl out of our house without raising suspicion. I am sure if she stays around, what I am trying to avoid will eventually happen.

Look for any excuse but let her go or you will regret it.

Genea:
yes o,ehn btw tell him to put his pix bk,atleast when i fantasize abt him,i have a picture to channel it to

Jokes apart Seun is an innocent cute guy and he needs serious wooing by a nice lady because that guiy be like person wey no go get time at all.