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ClassCaptain:
Very logical question there sir.

the term " Celebration" has individual contextual definition.

my birthday may be 12th and I may choose to throw a party and celebrate it on the 1st of the other month...People might have birthdays on the 3rd.but due to constraints in cash.venue or other things choose to celebrate it a month. 2 or even 3 months later to celebrate an added year.

so d answer to your question is yes.

I love intelligent people like you..infact if you be woman i fit woo you just because of this intelligent and ethical response.

CC:lalasticlala and ishilove oya answer me if a man and a woman can be "just close friends"

ClassCaptain:
Its not the date that matters but the Purpose

Seconded..Just setting the facts right.

kstadaura:
Hello guys, morning, how was your night? I would like to start with merry xmas to our Christian brothers and sisters.

I have been asking myself this question, whenever i see a marriage that lasted for more than 10 or 15 years, if you look at the husband and the wife you will se that the wife always looks older, do you have any ideas why?

That is one mystery i wil never understand.

Even if a man of 40 married a lady of 18,by the time the man is 60 and the lady is 38 it will look as if they have just 5years gap while those of like 10 years gap will look like mates and those of like 5years gap will have the woman looking older.

Researchers believe that the higher collagen density accounts for why women appear to age faster than men of the same age. When considering intrinsic (genetically-programmed) aging of the skin, it has been said that women are about 15 years older than men of the same age.

This is why one of the main advices from traditional parents is to find a man at least ten years older than you. Why? Because when you hit forty, you won’t be crying when people ask you “So who’s this man you have not yet introduced us to? Your little brother?”

When was Jesus Christ born? Was Jesus born on December 25 - Christmas Day?

A careful analysis of Scripture, however, clearly indicates that Dec. 25 is an unlikely date for Christ's birth. Here are two primary reasons:

1.Shepherds were not in the fields during December. According to Celebrations

First, we know that shepherds were in the fields watching their flocks at the time of Jesus' birth (Luke 2:7-. Shepherds were not in the fields during December. According to Celebrations: The Complete Book of American Holidays, Luke's account "suggests that Jesus may have been born in summer or early fall. Since December is cold and rainy in Judea, it is likely the shepherds would have sought shelter for their flocks at night"

Similarly, The Interpreter's One-Volume Commentary says this passage argues "against the birth [of Christ] occurring on Dec. 25 since the weather would not have permitted" shepherds watching over their flocks in the fields at night. Second, Jesus' parents came to Bethlehem to register in a Roman census (Luke 2:1-4).

Such censuses were not taken in winter, when temperatures often dropped below freezing and roads were in poor condition. Taking a census under such conditions would have been self-defeating.

Given the difficulties and the desire to bring pagans into Christianity, "the important fact then . . . to get clearly into your head is that the fixing of the date as December 25th was a compromise with paganism" (William Walsh, The Story of Santa Klaus, 1970, p. 62)


2.If Jesus Christ wasn't born on December 25, does the Bible indicate when He was born?

The biblical accounts point to the fall of the year as the most likely time of Jesus' birth, based on the conception and birth of John the Baptist.

Since Elizabeth (John's mother) was in her sixth month of pregnancy when Jesus was conceived (Luke 1:24-36), we can determine the approximate time of year Jesus was born if we know when John was born.

John's father, Zacharias, was a priest serving in the Jerusalem temple during the course of Abijah (Luke 1:5). Historical calculations indicate this course of service corresponded to June 13-19 in that year ( The Companion Bible, 1974, Appendix 179, p. 200).

It was during this time of temple service that Zacharias learned that he and his wife Elizabeth would have a child (Luke 1:8-13). After he completed his service and traveled home, Elizabeth conceived (Luke 1:23-24).

Assuming John's conception took place near the end of June, adding nine months brings us to the end of March as the most likely time for John's birth. Adding another six months (the difference in ages between John and Jesus) brings us to the end of September as the likely time of Jesus' birth.

Source:On-line Research.

But whether we chose to celebrate his birth on the 25th of December or any other time of the year, the point remains that to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of (Peace.Isaiah 9:6). That child is Jesus Christ who was sent by GOD to die for the sins of the world so that we all can be saved.


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aflyingbird:
sexual infidelity i.e. adultery is grounds for divorce in the Bible.





what d hell?? she should just pray for him n be happy in her marriage? mcheeeew. how tf can she be happy in her marriage when she just found out her marriage has been based on lies?

I am very sure you are not married.


Please read this hard fact:

Some ladies have argued that they can divorce their husband based on sexual unfaithfulness but Strangely enough,there was never a place in the bible where women are permitted to divorce a man based on sexual unfaithfulness.

Yes i know that Biblical injunctions are bi-gender in context but this particular quote was very gender specific and here it is:"But I tell you that any man who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and any man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery"Matthew 5:32

"And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife." 1 Corinthians 7:10-11.


Romans 7:3:"For example, by law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law that binds her to him.

So then, if she has sexual relations with another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is released from that law and is not an adulteress if she marries another man".

If a man can marry two or more wives then why should a lady kill herself or make herself unhappy because her man sleeps with another woman.?

If you look at the western world you will not agree less that many ladies divorce their spouse over this issue just for them to start sleeping about with men who are also another woman's husband so who is fooling who?

What i will never support is a man cheating with impunity by making a mockery of the wife and that is when he does his crazy and hell bound acts to the notice of the lady or brings the other woman home to commit the crazy act and of-course i expect any reasonable man to use protection with the other desperate lady to reduce the possibility of infecting the wife at home with deadly STDs.

ozy4christ:
Can some öne please tell these celebs dat here in Nigerian,98% of us dont value cards,we need their helps interms visiting d needy,scholarships both in and out side d shore,i mean be of help 2 d nigerians nt showing us there unclothedness.

Only teenagers and dumb ladies get carried away by six parks or all these nudity but wise ladies look beyond this while many typical naija ladies will prefer the pocket pack to 6packs.

mostyg:
I feel sorry for you my sister,that you are already going through this just six months into your marriage. I wouldn't advice you to stay or leave but you should bear in mind that infidelity is a good ground for divorce. At 22, you are still very young to start life allover.

Your husband has a double personality no thanks to the social media He is a chronic womanizer who knows and understands what he's doing.. Men like him would do anything to protect their 'pseudo-reputation'.

You have to let your parents know about what you discovered about your husband and listen to their advice.

I wish you God's guidance in your decision.

There is no place in my bible that ask a lady to divorce her hubby because of sexual infidelity and i might just shed more light on this if i decide to create a thread on it.

Dessertion is the only ground the bible gave to a woman to divorce her spouse.

Shocked:
Hello everyone,

I'm in a dilemma. I  got married less than 6 months ago to a man I loved very much. I thought he was God-fearing, honest and great. We met some 5 years ago, I was a virgin, we dated for about 2 years before we tried having sex and I got pregnant. I was just 22 and a graduate. We couldn't get married immediately because of financial constraints but we finally did after a lot of troubles and emotional trauma.

My parents told me we didn't have to get married regardless of the fact that we had a child, that they'll support whatever my decision is but that they'll never be a part of a divorce. I went ahead and married him because he seemed like a great guy. He can't go late to church talk more of missing it, he's a house fellowship leader, has this big Bible, reads it everytime and all his posts on Facebook are about God, we have constant devotions. He washes for us, irons, cooks, uses his money to make sure w wear the best stuffs and are comfortable to an extent. I had to beg him to stop buying stuff for us so that we can save towards our child's education. I appreciated all this and I thought we'd have a wonderful time being married and spending the rest of our lives together with our child. I work my ass out, I am not a lazy person too.

Some days ago our child didn't sleep early, I was bored so I decided to check his gallery to see pictures but it had a lock on it, I decided to see what my name was saved with, he used my first and middle name, even that of my parents. I got suspicious and decided to check out other stuff. Every messaging app was passworded so I dropped the phone. But curiosity got the best of me and I decided to by-pass it. I found an ugly, disgusting and heartbreaking can of worms.

He was asking every girl on his friends list on social media if he could be their man, he has records of people he has slept with and those he invites over, pay them and their bills. He even paid the house rent of someone else while we are owing ours. He was sexting with his ex abroad telling her how she was the only family he wanted and that he will come over again and make her his rightful wife, that I was just a Bleep and I know he's still in love with her. They exchange nudes too. You would never find a trace of me on his account. I found our child playing with condoms he took to Shiloh and we never used it.

I am a good person, I have learnt a lot sexually and I am willing to try out new things. I am very beautiful and you would never guess I have a child. I cannot point where this is coming from because I would never have thought of cheating on him. If I was doing something wrong, he never pointed that out. He was my best friend and we communicated a lot.

I confronted him because I took screenshots and sent to myself, he had an explanation for everything and I couldn't fool myself. They were all lies. I sent a reply to his ex on Facebook because apparently she didn't know he was married. I told my sister and she's been crying because nobody saw this coming from a man like him. I am wondering if I should involve his family. My parents might die of high blood pressure if they found out.

I am sorry about the long epistle. What do I do?

Just pray for him and be happy in your marriage.

Shits happen.

Please visit my nairaland wall and read all the related threads and i bet you will be at peace.

This is exactly why i write some stuffs on nairaland but the unmarried ladies will never understand.

fbtowner:
Lord have mercy

then I ask myself what crime have these ppl committed to deserve this kind of death


I feel God doesn't interact with man anymore. We just need to fight for ourselves so the human generation won't go into extinction.

Which way my ppl

I get you bro but you must understand the way GOD sees death.

To humans,death is grievous,regrettable,sorrowful and in fact we tend to wonder why infants and the innocent die so helplessly but to GOD death is simply home coming and a natural consequence of coming to this world and the fact that people die in thousands everyday does not reduce GOD from being GOD.

The circle of life must balance up,people must leave this world and new people must come in to maintain that balance and people must leave in one way or the other be it through sickness,bombings,natural disasters or many more.

The most important thing we can do for ourselves is to prepare our soul for eternal life.Though we all pray to live long but the simple truth is that at anytime you and i can leave this world without prior notice so make peace with your maker today by simply accepting Jesus as your lord and saviour...

This is the best legacy you can give yourself...a legacy that has great result long after you leave this world.

The worst thing that can ever happen to any man or woman is to be caught dead without accepting Jesus as lord and saviour.

I am sorry to write this but i have a strong feeling in me that this mishap has an occult connotation but spiritual matters can not be probed by the police....It is well in Jesus name.

davidsgal:
Men.... Pls search well b4 takin a wife.

LOL! So as you get time dey search for good wife? see this thing na by luck and not by how careful you are.

Abeg just pick one wey appeal to your eyes and enjoy yourself..be nice to her but if she bleeps up discard am and get another one..soldier go soldier come barracks no go ever dey empty.

SAMBARRY:


Compliments.before you start feeling yasef

who dey that pinture..i say who dey dance inside that pincture

SAMBARRY:
come back here and stop feeling fly with yourself

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This is why i tell people to embrace christ while they are alive cos if anyone drops dead this second,life goes on...

Your children will move on
Your spouse will move on with another partner faster than you can imagine
Your family members will fight to remember you existed.

As you can see,this person is advertising cars on a thread he should be writing R.I.P so this is to confirm that you are on your own so just accept Christ so that anytime you leave this world you will simply go and rest.

Basically in Nigeria there are 4 causes of road accident.

1.Over speeding
2.Driving under influence
3.sLEEPING OFF WHILE DRIVING
4.Asasi(Spell)

God will save each and every one of us in Jesus name..AMEN!

Small time they will say i should marry any lady because she girl good character..If i no marry sweet chic wey set make i kukuma remain single...Just kidding..What profit a aldy to have curves and still remain single when all the curveless ones are getting sweet dudes.

Sometimes having hot body can be a curse on the lady if not handled very well and that was part of wettin dey worry my ex..she is as curvy as Juliet and trust me, hot chics find it very hard to settle with a man except those that have serious experience of love affairs or very disciplined like toolz provided she no Bleep up and for juliet now that you divorced your hubby for funny reasons,have you been able to get another husband despite your over hyped curves?

Some ladies are so daft.
http://www.nigeriafilms.com/news/27744/28/i-have-divorced-my-husband-juliet-ibrahim-confirms.html

poweredcom:
@op u r a sadist u can never stop us ooo dis night na red light district I go do my xmas eve I go bang TDB my condom de standby hahaha I ave banged close to 100 hoes both pples girlfriend single mother oloshos hahah I still de healthy using my condom

O.Y.O lo wa

Kgdavid:
Oga at the top, sir, where did you go to school?

Peruse these links for your own enlightenment:

http://www.thebody.com/Forums/AIDS/SafeSex/Q177398.html

http://www.catie.ca/en/pif/fall-2011/exposure-infection-biology-hiv-transmission

http://www.medhelp.org/posts/HIV---Prevention/Protected-sex-with-fresh-cut-on-testicles/show/1405059

I think ignorance is the problem of many people especially those who chose to remain ignorant.

HIV is transmitted when fluids from an infected person (HIV positive) pass through the mucous membranes, cuts, open sores, or tears in the skin of a non-infected person (HIV negative).

Asides the fact that day by day more virulent strains of HIV are been discovered that even has the veracity to pass through very delicate thin layer of the penile shaft much less an abrasive skin.

If you are also intelligent enough to read the contents you quoted you will see where it was stated that indeed there is a possibility of the virus passing through the exposed membranes.

This is why i usually advice that when we discuss online or in any gathering,we must learn to articulate out opinion in a civilized and responsible way cos you have only exhibited your ignorance in the most ignorant way asking me which school i went.....Please be civilized.

misspicy2:
@ Toks2008 you said you have never used condom for intercourse

please can you highlight how you have been able to avoid pregnancy or do you have children already?if so how many kids have you birthed?

from a confused me





catlova weldone o

Send me a PM and i will tell you how i did it...Atuni si ita bi ono ojo mejo.

monex:
Oga the risk is that the lady might not be as "principled" as you. so it might be wise to still do with protection until you are married.

And what is the assurance that your wife will be principled?

Abeg lets just try our best to be as decent as possible and leave the rest to GOD.

enygmababe:
I have always preferred guys who like me for what I have in my head and not any body part or shape. I felt strongly about that in my teens and despite the years......I haven't changed.

Do have a lovely day

Good thing you mentioned this..

The hard fact is this..i love curves YES and i really love hot chics BUT I DO NOT GET CARRIED AWAY BY A LADY'S PHYSICAL BEAUTY.

Apparently there must be a first endearing thing that attracts me to a lady and if i move closer and im not impressed with what i see,i take a bow and talking about what i see,i don't lay emphasis on eloquence but intelligence,poise and proper decorum with sexual decency topping the list.

Just thank your mum for giving you that beauty but i like you for not allowing it get to head cos the moment it does,....

dasparrow:
@Post

Abstinence is the only way one will not catch STDs. That is why the bible said that it is better to be single because those who marry will face many troubles. Do you know that:

"More than half of all people will have an STD/STI at some point in their lifetime" according to Koutsky L. (1997). Epidemiology of genital human papillomavirus infection. American Journal of Medicine, 102(5A), 3-8.

"Over 14 million people acquire human papillomavirus (HPV) each year, and by age 50, at least 80 percent of women will have acquired genital HPV infection. Most people with HPV do not develop symptoms" according to Myers ER, McCrory DC, Nanda K, Bastian L, Matchar DB. Mathematical model for the natural history of human papillomavirus infection and cervical carcinogenesis. Am J Epidemiol. 2000;151:1158-1170.

Culled from: http://www.ashasexualhealth.org/stdsstis/statistics/



Too many people are carrying one or more STD/STIs in their bodies but exhibit no symptoms and don't even know it. That makes having sex in this day and age a very risky venture. I love being healthy and sex to me is over rated. Its one of those things that I can certainly do without, without much problems. The rising rate of infertility in Nigeria might also be as a result of STD/STI which many Nigerians have due to their risky sex life. Worse yet, many refuse to get tested for fear of what they might find out.

I agree but we can't abstain forever becauyse one day we will surely marry and then the risk comes up...Staying faithful to one sexual partner remains the best way to curb the spread but unfortunately,100% sexual faithfulness from both partners is very doubtful but possible.

Seventeen:
my brother i like that u used d word 'hope' there, cos, omo, na only hope all of us dey hope oo.. I always think to myself that even in a so called faithful relationship all that is needed for a spouse or partner to carry dis tin com gv person na just one careless day of falling into temptation by the other party ooo. Na God go help us oo.

This is why i say condom use is only a way of reducing but not eliminating the risk.

And even if you marry an HIV negative partner,what is the probability that he/she wont go out to be reckless?

This is why even as individuals,we can only reduce the chance of contracting it by staying faithful to one sexual partner and hope he/she does not bring the virus home.

akthedream:
Are you really a Doctor?...that's interesting to know.
I thought the best advice that should come from a Doctor is to use condom if one can't abstain from casual sex..your own doctor na wa.

I am not a pastor nor a doctor but as i wrote,i did Virology under Microbiology and what i wrote holds true but you won't find it anywhere else on the Internet because CONDOM MUST SELL.

akthedream:
Honestly,you are trying to derail your thread by stylishly changing the topic of discussion...you know what I am talking about..or you are just confused

My problem with many people is the way they discuss vital issues.

I am happy a certified doctor discussed this with me extensively and intellectually in the first page so i really dont need to batter words with you.

If you are ready to discuss like a scholar let me know.

HRich:
What is that Banana fore?

lol! i for put the real thing?

Kgdavid:
Oga at the top, this is not quite factual. Hiv is not transmitted through bruised skin. The primary way in which hiv is transmitted during intercourse is by vaginal and seminal fluids coming in contact with mucuous membranes (such as the vaginal wall and the head of the penis). It's not that hard to use google to corroborate your hypothesis before you create a thread to spread erroneous beliefs.

the bottomline, though, is STOP FORNICATING!!

I think you should go to google to corroborate your assertion dude.

I have a Bachelor's degree in Microbiology and for you to say the embolden is even a reason for me not to reply you.

misspicy2:
lol see your brown head



that was the month you used to type without jab but it seems the nairaland virus has entered into you likewise me, I just went through the thread all over again and I saw my inputs besides must all your thread make FP? greedy man

and I see how you evaded my Christmas wishes,just have it at the back of your mind like you always say that we all have our own opinions to issues,doesn't mean we should be E-Enemies....that's why am extending my hands of friend ship will you take it?





BTW lalasticlala I bet you don't know that condoms does not guarantee HIV prevention

see ya sef?

Infact i was the first person who sent you a yelutide greeting but i used misspicy without the 2 maybe thats why you did not see it.

No worries..im a lover not a fighter and i know how to calm the nerves of an e-tigress lol..

But wait o..you can abuse...chai...ta lo fi joo?

interesting