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Kachisbarbie:
While I agree with the beginning of your post, I disagree with the summary of it @ Ladies should make up their mind to marry a man no matter his financial status.

Firstly, there are so many ladies out there married to such men. Some of these marriages/relationships account for kids suffering today in Nigeria.

Money is very important in any relationship. Every human out there reserves the right to dream/wish/aspire... male/female. Way back our fathers toiled to make money, marry and the woman watches after the home.
Now, it's different. A thread on NL showed that men no longer want unemployed ladies or undergraduates <<<This shows that everyone craves financial support.

I think we should be more focused on encouraging female independence. Then the guys should learn to start families earlier, once there is enough to take that plunge_ why not?

How many percent(%) of the Nigerian population earn above or in the range of 150,000?

We are on the same page.

misspicy:
[b]Mr Op,i like the way you construct your writeup and your advice,very insigtful,buh i want to point out somethin... Until the issue of men infidelity is curtailed,most ladies will keep going after the financially ok guys...yes do not quote me wrong....
we know it is very difficult for a couple to start a family without reasonable financial backing,now checkout this scenerio....
Bro A,is still a hustling guy,he meets sis B also a struggling lady,they agree to be with each other,get married when ever they become financially okay,now Bro A gets to hit a jackpot 5 years later,then he met Sis C,due to d fact that he hit some jacpot,he decides to quickly indulge himself with sis C,in d process,he gets carried away by the euphoria of the moment,he forgets abt sis B,all of a sudden,he realise he doesnt love her anymore,or she is not as good for him as sis C.Bro A eventually dumps sis B,marries sis C...Mr Op,if sis B happens to be your sister,will you advice her to start life from scratch with another man?....

I think this is the fear of many spinsters today,only a few can take the risk,the rest resort to trying their luck with the financially ok man,in the end,if it backfires both way,they are at the recieving end....

Conclusion,every unmarried lady out there,should consider the pros and cons before settling to start from scratch or pursue financially ok men...thank you[/b]

I appreciate your input but permit me to cler the air on some perpectual misconceptions of ladies.

YOU ARE NOT DOING ANY MAN A FAVOUR BY DATING HIM OR GETTING MARRIED TO HIM WHILE HE IS STILL STRUGGLING TO BE FINANCIALLY OK.

If you fancy a guy stay with him if not take a walk regardless and no lady must see a man as indebted to her because she coped wiith him during difficult times because no one held you down..

Now concerning faithfullness of guys please prmit me to say that you have no franchise over that. A faiithful guy will be faithful and a philanderr will double date but get this fact right...

8 out of 10 unfaithful guys are nevr interested in leaving their wives for a side chick but they just want to have a taste and dump them.

The problem is that many imature ladies usually hinge their marital happiness on a man staying faithful to them and at the sign of any side chic,they flare up and start threatening fire and brimstone and this guy who is so bent on tasting miss c wll care less and due to hot temper,mrs b gives hr man away willingly to mrs c.

If every lady with a randy guy can just focus on her life nd that of her childrn,ignoring the guy totally and only sees him as hr sex machine when she needs him,the happier many ladies will be in marriage.

So dear please leave out the issue of a man staying faithful out.

ladies must learn to be with a man for the principal purpose of wanting him and must learn to take the risk.

Nubian113:
Then from the sound of things you need to educate your sisters and as men instead of chasing womanliness chase money and pus.say will chase you... From the sound of things

Lol..

ok lets be frank..will your pursuit of money automatically bring the money?

Have you not seen guys strugglin since their 20s and finally hitting the goldmyne in late 30s?

The way people talk about guys looking for money first is so funny cos its one thing to hustle and another for your hustle to yield dividends.

Harbosede02:
Very true

Very interesting that a lady seconds this.

afamjb:
bros talk true did u really read dis post form d beginning to d end.!!?
Dis post tall! long

Olodo..how you take pass for school wiithout reading long notes?lol

udysweet:
Dis ur comment nawa o. So if goin by ur comment,you don't plan on settling down?

I guess you isolated some part of the post.

IF FORNICATION was not a sin or MESSING AROUND is no sin...so apparently it is imperative that i marry and settle down with one lady.

Do you know that 7 out of 10 ladies have struggled all their life right from childhood to adulthood? Will you blame such ladies if they refuse to marry a man who can not boast of an income good enough to adequately cater for a family?

Lets face it,there is nothing absolutely wrong in a lady wanting to marry a made guy or financially ok guy but the problem is the economy that has made it difficult for many hard working smart guys to be "financially ok" hence the need for ladies not to make it a do or die thing

The economy of this country has made it so difficult that even a man that makes 150k a month dares not think about marriage considering the way it is celebrated in Nigeria and by the time you remove monthly expenses from your 150k you wil be left with little or nothing hence saving for a wedding ceremony wil not even come to mind.

Now lets ask ourselves,how many men even in their 30s have jobs paying 100k and above? How many are even gainfully employed?

So this is a practical way it plays out and this is a simple illustration of why we will keep having increasing number of spinsters in Nigeria..so take a look.

-8 out of 10 ladies want a "financially ok guy" but in Nigeria of today,just 2 out of 10 guys are financially ok.

-So the 8 ladies flock around these two guys and because these 2 financially ok guys now realize they are hot cakes and it is about the money,they just play around with these 8 ladies and dump them for other fresh ladies.

-The used and dumped 8 ladies who are desperately looking for a financially stable guy to marry ends up becoming single and searching again after wasting their time with these 2 guys and while some of these 8 learn,some will try their luck again with new guys and the never ending crazy circle continues.

Forget the stupid talks of not wanting to suffer with any man cos he may dump you when or if he becomes rich..what if he never becomes rich?

No lady does any man a favor loving him when he is broke,jobless or poor because love affair is a two way thing...if you love him,stay and if not please take a walk and stop the blackmail. Until ladies make up their mind to start a life with a man even if he is still struggling, we will continue to have crazy increase in the number of over-age single ladies.

As a guy try to get something doing that brings in steady income. Even if you are a graduate,look for job but don't wait for a job and as a lady also try and get something doing.If both you and your man makes at least 60k jointly please start a life and stop s.xing your lives away. Get an apartment like a room self contain,do a very low budget wedding while you plan for a bigger one when the money is available and work on developing your lives together.

Ladies should stop making excuses for the men in their lives because these guys will keep laying them at will while they will keep saying he is not ready as if there is a guaranty that he will get a job tomorrow and suddenly be ready..Think ladies..THINK.

Nigerian spinsters...please be wise and stop having that myopic mindset that marriage is not relevant.....because a time will come probably in your very late 30s or 40s when you will understand the importance of having your own nuclear family.Even the ladies in the western world who believe marriage is irrelevant now know better as they get scammed in the bid to have a companion in their 40s and 50s.

Just trying to make common sense.

halexito:
Hmm....... Toks2008 , it's like everyone has hidden stories to tell. I believe many are so painful...........

I guess so.

But for the fact that adultery is a sin and messing around is unacceptable before GOD,i do not see any reason to settle down with a woman..FACT

apcpdpallscam:
2 mins is an overstatement actually and it's affecting our sexual relationship. It has diminished his ego and as For me, I don't ever wish to have it with him honestly, It is not only embarrassing but frustrating.

But i feel like surprising him on his birthday. So I'm wondering if there is anything i can add to his drink; drug, herbs without his knowledge to enable him last longer to his amazement and making him feel it's natural. Or is there an ointment/cream I can use to massage him. I need to spice our marriage sexually.

GOD save you because i would have lashed out at you if that marriage part did not surface.

Anyways you can try and give him a Mouth Action first and let him cum then wake him up again and i believe he will do better.

You can also make a natural Viagra for him and make it a juice for him.Water melon,lemon and garlic fruit mix. Good for the ladies too

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B2_EKwN5aFc

A Real man does not ask a lady to visit him...she will definitely come on her own volition if you know how to tame her. Only a learner or player ask a lady to visit him.

This thing is meant to flow not forced.

Ok friends,as we go to sleep lets remember that there is nothing in this world worth the stress,the moist important thing we must do in this present world is to prepare ourselves for eternity.

It now depends on you to either prepare yourself fore eternity in heaven or hell but if i were you,i will choose the former and avoid the latter at all cost.

Bintin laye(This world is nothing) Your soul is the most important.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YnKj-Rv4d8I


Have a great nite rest.

Melish:
Nice comment... You should comment more often

LOBATAN! Melish the Moderator. How i wish this is an offline thing..

udysweet:
And then they finally unban me! Am really very suprised at this ban tho cos I dunno what it is I must have typed that earned me not just one,but two bans! Diaris Goduo @Seun,I don't have a fight with anyone here nor did I use vulgar words. And if you guys must ban one,please point out the fault because I kept clicking the post for wch I was banned and I'm redirected to someone else's post!
Anyway enof of that,lemme take a deep breathe. Good evening everyone,good to be back here. Trust your day went well? Thank God for that. @Nouvelle,many thanks for your kind words,glad to hav u here,pls do show up more often.
Ok going forward again,I like to state that I do have my contact details here simple because I have a business wch I'm trying hard to build and take to the next level ,on this forum. So people shouldn't think I'm putting my details out there for the fun. Its purely business reason. So if I see an invite,first thing I tink is,a potential client,lol!
I just may not be able accept every invite o,no be shakara mata o. I accepted an invite from sm1 from here who's making me have a rethink why I accepted in the 1st place. Then for those who want to flash to know wether its a humna being that owns the number,be kind to do it during the day,not at 2am when my sleep is at its sweetest,lol!
Sweetdreams all,hugs!

My lovely tit-tat nothing do you. Business madam..odaroo

fexyrich:
I prayed and fasted for 40days and 40 nights and was asking the lawd to show me who to marry ,after praya as I was coming down from d mountain he showd me a black and very beautiful igbo lady with the name linda Ikeji...He said my son Behold this is the woman I have prepared to be your wife enter into thy rest my son




Runs outa Thread
Spreads mat and sipping my coffee
Prepares for serious bashing

I honestly have this thing for IMO ladies generally because most if not all the ones i have met so far are dogged,very very decent and responsible and in marriage they are usually faithful,hardworking and not materialistic.

My observation.

brownsug:
Haha! Maybe u like toks u don't know how to tell him lol

Melish:
Na so....

LOL! Just saw this and i must say its very hilarious lol!

Melish so you like me yet you refuted my move when i asked for your permission to come to your parents as you simply turned mario on the thread for the 30plus yet you are just 20 lol!

No wonder you were just picking on me for no just cause lol! Abeg if you really mean business i can come and meet your parents and marry you,after-all you already know all there is to know about marriage that you were even advising everyone here.

The only fear i have is how i wil cope with you because you will definitely be one stubborn wife.

Anytime i read your comments here you always remind me of the clips in 30days in Atlanta where Ramsey noah wanted to give mercy johnson slap online. If i marry you na high BP you go take kill me,

nouvelle:
I wasn't planning on commenting again but unfortunately, here I am. The desire to learn is greater than the will to be silent.

Toks2008, Oga is fine and you are right, it wasn't a fight, it was a clash of interest so I have modified the original post, (I am getting the hang of commenting, I always see people write, 'modified', now I have gone and done one )

Gratefulme40, you are welcome and you are part of the reason for this comment, your question about 'lobatan' made me learn, I always see it here on NL but never understood it so having learnt that one, toks2008, how about these other two: iranu and abasha, meaning Can you help?

Joebeckz, let's just let sleeping dogs lie . Gratefulme40, yes o, na me sabi but like I said I have followed this thread, comment after comment so I really sabi , maybe you should reconsider yam

Apologies for leaving the sideline

Iranu and abacha are vernacular synonyms of the word appalling or disgusting.

[quote author=OYAY post=39146877][/quote]Ghost mode deactivated..Nice to meet you so im not alone on this lol! shey na career make you still single at 37 abi you enter one chance affair like me? Just curious.

gratefulme40:
Oh...ok. Thanks. Is it a Yoruba word? Saw it first time on NL

Yeah..its used to seal up an assertion..
Somthing like Gbam,end of story.

OYAY:
It is nice reading posts on this thread though I was able to only went through the first and the last three pages,which by inference is amazing,educating,mature and worthy of being part of hence I am wholly registering my presence for the first time and also promising to be active henceforth and play by the rules so as not to make the work of the heroes sustaining the thread to be in vain. Kudos to all and hope we all have a splendid day?

Issorite,you ar welcome but you still dey semi ghost mode so try and deactivate and introduce yourself.

gratefulme40:
@ Toks, Abeg....wetin be LOBATAN?


@nouvelle......awwww, thanks. About me and Joe, na you sabi wetin you see ooo cos me no get comment.

Means thats all.

miney:
Famous TV and radio host, Deloris Frimpong Manso aka Virgin Delay, has revealed that she would love to have s*x 10 times a week.

The TV presenter who claims she’s still a virgin went on her Instagram page to to say she wishes to travel the world and fall in love again.

The 30 year old presenter said: –

''I wanna travel the world, get paid for doing what I love, fall in love and make love at least 10 times a week .... Cocoa Brown''

https://instagram.com/p/6lIGDrkCtx/?taken-by=virgindelay

omo see my spec..

That she is even from Ghana is a plus...nice curves and presumably a virgin...hmmmm

klassic:
...When God had made Man, he made him out of stuff that sung all the time and glittered all over. Some angels got jealous and chopped him into millions of pieces, but still he glittered and hummed. So they beat him down to nothing but sparks but each little spark had a shine and a song. So they covered each one over with mud. And the lonesomeness in the sparks make them hunt for one another.
To she who has sparkened up my crazy world I say thank you. She knows her self.

LOBATAN

nouvelle:
Finally, my first comment, I beg to leave the bleachers, I have been warming them since the thread started. I obeyed Ma'am Siamia, though the promised refreshment wasn't served to the observers o. I am recently married so I kept away. I was sad when the thread started derailing but I am glad it's back.

Ma'am Siamia, I imagine you have a tasking job, hence you are not always here. I understand, I used to be very busy until recently otherwise I couldn't have followed this thread, comment by comment, page by page till now but it'd be nice if you can stop by a little more often and keep everyone in line

Toks2008, you have been very active, pity you stayed away for a while, good to have you back. When you threatened to stay incommunicado, I initially felt, do as you please but I have to admit, you were missed. The thread is better for it. Keep up the good work but no more fighting please

Udysweet, I remember when you joined then you were silent a little while then you pushed forward and reached out in the time of crisis, highly commendable. Your moniker suits you

Joebeckz and gratefulme40, you guys noticed I quoted you together, there's a reason don't feel pressured, I am only teasing, joebeckz, stop by more often. Gratefulme40, I like you

Melish, being stubborn isn't cute you know, I understand you have views and opinions about relationship, religion and life in general but sometimes knowing when and where to air them is a virtue. Udysweet talked to you earlier and you said ok, I honestly thought you'd let this thread be, I was surprised to see more comments from you. Stay on the sideline and let them be, it's better that way.

I see others too, Sparkles003, I pray someone or something changes your view on some issues, IOW, I pray you fall in love soon well, that is if that is what you wish also, otherwise, status quo. klassic, I was going to call your boss, didn't eventually, sorry.

Ma'am Siamia, I hope what you started here will yield the desired fruit, this is the sanest thread I have seen on nairaland, worth commenting on. I usually visit nairaland as a guest, finally created an account but I rarely login and have never commented. I hope the whatsapp group is still active.

Having made such a long unsolicited speech, I am reclining to the bleachers, still waiting for refreshment by the way. Peace out everyone.

Well articulated but for the records,there was never a fight.

As mature individuals we had a clash of interest and that have been resolved...

misspicy:
U love them or their hips...objectifying ladies

Apparently,what pleases a man eye will be pleasing to his soul.

misspicy:
...u want the hips right

I honestly do...i love hiply ladies.

Damilare5882:
I'm highly guilty of this ... I do it mostly to girls that are dating me but m nuh dating them ( think u Knw wah I mean )

Iranu

Many people want to get a job at the same time follow their passion.

This is perfectly ok because most times it takes time for you to nurture your passion into a full blown career and in between this period you definitely need to make a living hence the need to get a job or probably have something else doing to keep yourself or family going.

If your passion is working for a company all your life then all well and good but if you have a plan to be on your own,you must not make the mistake of getting an interim job or do an interim business that will totally take your time,zeal and focus off your passion because before you know it you will totally dump your passion for the rest of your life.

Life is more than just making ends meet but also doing what gives you fulfillment beyond monetary gains so the bottom-line is that no matter the interim job or business you are involved in,make sure you remain focused on fulfilling your passion and this job must be the type that will allow you do that.

I am a business consultant and marketer on one side and i also follow my passion which is serving people,socializing and making positive impact in their lives. Sometimes i get called by my constituency for an urgent meeting and i had to be there hence the need to be involved in another career that allows me time to fulfill my passion.

You can't be passionate about being an event planner,make up artiste,MC,DJ and at the same time take a job in a place that needs you to be around from 8am to 5pm from Mondays through Fridays because there is no room for mediocrity in any business you do and once you start giving excuses to the clients who will need you during the week then you definitely are not ready for that line of business.

Your passion is your true profession and your true fulfillment.True wealth is not in the fame,power or money you have but is found in doing what you are passionate about.

Have a great week ahead everyone

She is desperately in need of a man and this is only a publicity stunt.

That her hips tho

I call it allowance if its steady and infact that was the name i normally call it because i gave that every week asides occasionally big money.

fairlyisabel:
Wowwww this thread is still alive and has crossed forty passages. Siamia, gosh, kudos! Your handwork is still radiating. Torrque my good friend, I have missed you. I was on leave but has resumed so I cannot be as regular as I used to be. Joe I have missed you. Melish I read your comments and wanted to die in laughter. Abegi you will not kill me. I thank God for everyone on this thread. Siamia I suspect you are a very busy lady otherwise I would have suggested that you should take total control of this thread so that things will go the way you want them to go. But all the same, the thread will still touch lives. Toks, keep it up..

Ese gan

siamia:
God day everyone,
How was service? Its been a crazy week at work! I see a lot has happened in my work-pressured absence.
Thanks to everyone who asked of me. And welcome to new members of this thread,
Toks 2008, I sight u, welcome back. I know u missed me
Ateke, welcome ooo
And now, I must go and prepare for tomorrow *sigh*
Have a lovely week ahead, and may Ur hand count money in different currencies this week!

lol na you miss me pass,you just dey do shakara...

nouvelle:
Finally, my first comment, I beg to leave the bleachers, I have been warming them since the thread started. I obeyed Ma'am Siamia, though the promised refreshment wasn't served to the observers o. I qualify on one front but I am recently married so I kept away. I was sad when the thread started derailing but I am glad it's back.

Ma'am Siamia, I imagine you have a tasking job, hence you are not always here. I understand, I used to be very busy until recently otherwise I couldn't have followed this thread, comment by comment, page by page till now but it'd be nice if you can stop by a little more often and keep everyone in line

Toks2008, you have been very active, pity you stayed away for a while, good to have you back. When you threatened to stay incommunicado, I initially felt, do as you please but I have to admit, you were missed. The thread is better for it. Keep up the good work but no more fighting please

Udysweet, I remember when you joined then you were silent a little while then you pushed forward and reached out in the time of crisis, highly commendable. Your moniker suits you

Joebeckz and gratefulme40, you guys noticed I quoted you together, there's a reason don't feel pressured, I am only teasing, joebeckz, stop by more often. Gratefulme40, I like you

Melish, being stubborn isn't cute you know, I understand you have views and opinions about relationship, religion and life in general but sometimes knowing when and where to air them is a virtue. Udysweet talked to you earlier and you said ok, I honestly thought you'd let this thread be, I was surprised to see more comments from you. Stay on the sideline and let them be, it's better that way.

I see others too, Sparkles003, I pray someone or something changes your view on some issues, IOW, I pray you fall in love soon well, that is if that is what you wish also, otherwise, status quo. klassic, I was going to call your boss, didn't eventually, sorry.

Ma'am Siamia, I hope what you started here will yield the desired fruit, this is the sanest thread I have seen on nairaland, worth commenting on. I usually visit nairaland as a guest, finally created an account but I rarely login and have never commented. I hope the whatsapp group is still active.

Having made such a long unsolicited speech, I am reclining to the bleachers, still waiting for refreshment by the way. Peace out everyone.

Thank you sis..how is oga?