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Indescribable:
You have a great sense of humour. Just stumbled on this post today and all your comments i have read so far have been spot on. First time I have ever taken the bait to comment on any post on this forum. I am female and 34 years old.

You are most welcomed but make we see your face o at least for 10mins.

udysweet:
Fine oga at d top,how's ur day goin too?
@Toks2008
Shoutout to @Klassik @Siamia @Torque @DDshow @OtunbaDosunmu @nouvelle @sparkles003 and the rest,pls pardon me o
@Melish,infact I need to see u,I'm so curios as to ur personality,no homo o,lol! And did u jus say u turnned 33 in August? I must hav missed dat part? So whre did the "I am 20yrs old come in" @Toks2008 abg dis babe is more than ripe enof ,mak we carry wine go see her folks jo! Who knows anytin can happen. Meanwhile me still dey on d lookout too,winks

Who turned 33? definitely not melish

ddshow:
I beg to differ from this school of thought irrespective of the personality.

I believe a woman and her child are a package deal. If you date a single mother & her child gets attached to you, then you leave, it will crush that child. It will give that child abandonment issues lasting a lifetime, affecting their future relationships.

I don’t hold a woman’s past choices against her. Single mothers deserve a Man who can lead himself & his children. She shouldn’t have to lead herself and her child by herself, and make every financial decision in her life, and deal with stress, and pay all the bills, and pray all by her self.

She deserves a strong man who can shoulder that burden with her. Lead her child & be her rock. Teach her child how a loving, healthy relationship looks by how he treats her with respect. Melt away her insecurities. Destroy her trust issues. Break down her wall & show her what reciprocal love is....but trust me, you can rarely find these attributes in single men. A single man is completely inexperienced to handle all of these from foundation, he needs a lot of tutelage and requires to undergo the learning process.

It is only worthy to make a woman a wife before making her a mother, because my mother raised a future husband & father, not a future baby daddy.

Apparently you just rephrased my post and i agree with you 100%

I have only been with a guy all my life.

Maybe she meant to say i have only been with a guy as far as i can remember or as far as real sex is concerned but many guys have ravaged my body like kilode and i have also done enough trumpet blowing for countless guys.

Lubbish

Ok everyone, catch you all latter.

Remember that no relationship is perfect and no marriage was made in heaven.Staying in any courtship can be hinged on your feelings but getting married and staying married is a conscious decision you have to make so think deeply before making that life time commitment.

Melish:
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Not copy and paste
"owuya" means "na so"


Why do men marry late?

I understand that for women but men's own just doesn't make sense to me....

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Honestly we will not mind answering your questions if you maintain a proper decorum because you really need to learn one or two things.

Many men who are single at "very ripe" age find themselves in such situation due to many reasons.

1.Disappointment in previous affairs which makes them lose interest
2.Setting targets as regards finance or comfortable lifestyle and we see this mostly with our Igbo brothers
3.Other reasons.

ehemwhy:
Una wll done o ! I'm 35 an accountant,presently in between jobs.
I don't know if it is me or something else, but single mothers have been comming my way lately, I'm not prEjudiced against them or something .

Welcome bro.

Please if you see a single mum that catches your fancy just go for her abeg and you will enjoy the affair so well in most cases because these ladies are ready to calm down very well.

As long as the lady is looking sweet and sexually decent why not. Having a baby out of wed lock is never a yardstick to see a lady as sexually indecent,this thing happens even at first time sex experience.

I dont mind a single mum as long as she is looking dapper and decent.

Melish:
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GOD is love.
He knows the heart of all men.
He knows our secret sins and weaknesses.
If you want the best partner from him you must also be the best person for your partner.


If you want a partner that'll bless your life then your life should be able to bless your partner.

If you're hot tempered, lazy, wicked, a gossip, a womaniser, full of pride, always jealous and envious! Selfish,disrespectful, uncaring, a slanderer, abusive etc.... then go and fix yourself cause God will not bring good natured people your way to suffer in your hands..

You'll only end up with your kind.
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Did i just see disrespectful and abusive?Oluwa o lol!

Melish melish,please before you copy and paste just try and admonish yourself with your theory and i believe it will pay off.

We pursue you but no way,you have officially turned mario here. How i wish i could ignore your post but honestly i just cant help bursting out in laughter anytime i read your post and by the way what does OWUYA mean?

Ekaroo o gbogbo ile, se daada ni e ji?


Udysweet sweetheart how you dey?

wrongnumber:
Me i don talk say na internally displaced camp i wan go get wife.

At least the ladies there will make sense die.

Younger.fresher,sexier and more domesticated and best part be say dem no go demand for too much money..

LOL!

I learned that the sophisticated northern babes are complaining bitterly that their guys are dumping them for these frees ladies.Eyaah

[quote author=bet9jaguru post=39198519]Op

there is a difference btw guyz that are okay financially and financially okay guyz [/quote

lol!

I just hope you got the gist

repogirl:
resorting to the immature tactic, are you? I don't need to say much and I am too busy with real life work to be following your nonsensical posts about... Read this post below.

People know you for who you are already, so why should I bother? Mr. Maturity personified.

I will not answer you again if you can not provide a post that supports your assertion so that i can at least clear the air for others to understand.

Are you for real? you just accused me of something you must have observed from following "my nonsensical post" and suddenly you are too busy to quote me.

As for the other person you quoted,i guess she is in the same boat with you.

Apparently its now clear to you that you have just made a big nuisance of yourself.

Rather than address issues intellectually,you resorted to acting like an illiterate pepper seller. Please let me warn you sis,YES this is a faceless forum but im not faceless,im real and that is why i put my pics from time to time. Just be careful and think deeply before you attack people's personal lives. Be warned.

Kachisbarbie:
In my years of existence I have never seen someone who speaks from both sides like you.

The other day, you said real men go for older ladies. Ladies that have financial independence and are mature.
Another day, you're on a thread for singles above 30+ acting like y'all are team.
Today you are still castigating the same older ladies 'real men' like you cherish.

Abeg, which team are you? ?

Jesu oba iye

Please where did you get those from?

I ma sure it was an impersonator that must have written all the funny stuffs up there lol!

Please bail yourself out by quoting any phrase or sentence that supports your accusations or remain silent or i will fish you out and arrest you for false accusations lol!

ll these ladies that just come online to make mockery of themselves. I dey house for you all. If you are not intelligent enough to decipher my write up just ask for clarifications or better still start ignoring them ok.

repogirl:
liar liar pants on fire.... In your mind you have a high IQ.....lol.

I attacked your person because that is WHO you are, your self centered, myopic opinions don't count for anything.

Hypocrite, you are so full of ideas on what the perfect woman should be like but I never hear your ideas on what a good responsible man should be about.

You say people should love for love's sake, yet you will open a thread and tell women what they should do to keep a man from straying...what happened to men loving women for love's sake? Lol!

I bet you don't even take your own advice which you dish out to others easily and think you have a high IQ, really?

This is exactly why i have consistently written that out of 10 Nigerian ladies,maybe only 2 are intelligent and over and over again i have been justified.

Now if i may ask,can you do yourself one favor and quote every post i made on nairaland that is presumed to be questionable and i will enlighten your immature mind.

I am not surprised or angry with you no matter what you write cos it only shows the world how myopic you are which is not healthy for you socially.

So my sister stop making mockery of yourself and acting like a lowlife pepper seller on a public forum.In the real and logical world, people bring facts to the table and i repeat, go and dig out any false post i have ever made on nairaland since 2007 and put it here so that you can get the desired answers.

My advice for you,get matured,learn how to communicate intellectually and before you attack the personality or life of anyone,think twice so that you will not be seen as a nonentity.

So im still waiting for the result of your findings. All these toddlers sef.

ideyhere:
Sorry to ask but do you normally speak from both sides of your mouth

You know what?

Its pretty difficult to come across sincere people and when you meet such,it becomes so difficult to flow with them.

I am a man of my words and when i say something today and you see me say something slightly different tomorrow,before you conclude please ask questions. I am as consistent as the day and night in my words.

repogirl:
LMAO, coming from a divorcee who couldn't make his own marriage work? Please tell us how many years your marriage to your 'virgin' wife lasted?

From your track record, your opinions on this forum hold no water... So am I bothered with what your small mind thinks? Umm...not exactly.

Lobatan

First you got it all wrong..im not a divorcee cos i have never been married and thats a story for another day and this nullifies your childish act of attacking my person rather than making an intellectual response.

And i really wonder how some men cope with some ladies who lack sound iq cos that is my greatest turn off in a lady and trust me,you just turned me off..let me stop here.

Naff24:
Thumbs-up

Love supercedes everything, if I don't love him for who he is I will never stick to him in time of his trial.

Perhaps, I am a very independent lady, I'm working as IT consultant to d firm am working with to earn my living and to fulfil my career paths.
So, staying with a broke ass nigga doesn't mean u are doing him a favour, u are rather doing ur self a favour which will secure a brighter future for both of u and that's if u eventually get settled with eachoda.

What's d benefit of been with a nigga that gat dows to throw around at will and eventually d Table turns around, would u be able to stay with him during his trial period Or u gonna leave him for another rich dude

For every successful nigga u see out there... There is a particular woman behind dem, who motivates dem, encourages dem, ginger dem, cheers dem up to see what future holds for dem when dey were nobody and when dey were irrelevant to the society.

So, if ur bae leaves u now to date a Bank manager or already made guy just bcz u are still hustling to be a successful nigga nd she wanna comes back to u just bcz u don arrived , abeg would u accept her back
Where was she wen u are hustling
Who was behind u during ur trials
If u happened to be my bro nd u accept such lady, I will poison u with my own hand .

For u to be successful u must experience the failures.

As yoruba adage says :Ikoko to ma j'ata.... Idire ma koko gbona
No condition is permanent.... As change is always constant!!!

Epic

Naff24:
Naso oooooo, I don't know why some of us always want to reap what we don't sow
I met my fiance when he has nothing but I saw d real potentials in him, now am enjoying my endurance and perseverance when God has blessed him with cool job nd mouth watering salary

Surulere for real.. If u can't endure, den u cant enjoy good things.
To my fellow ladies...Never aspire to be with already made man... Cz behind a successful man, there must be a Good woman
I knw some gold diggers will really love to wail... Oya kontunu
If I see any of u clinching with my guy.. Chai, ur generation go suffer for it.. #Fact

As iinsightful as this sound,i still have my reservations..

So what if that vision driven guy you married is still jobless?

Why do you see your staying with him when he was still hustling as perserverance rather than you just following your heart?

Do you think he owe you because you stayedd with him while he had nothing?

What happened to loving a man and staying with a man because you want him and he wants you?

Ii still believe naija ladies need to change their orientation.

iin Benin rep,ladies marry thir husband because they love that man yet amazingly they remain financially independent and work so hard as if they have no husband and same goes for togolese and ghanian ladies but why is this mentality of leeching on a man prevalent in Nigeria?

why does a lay believe he is doing a guy a hug favour by loving him and staying by him in his hustling days?

i kp saying it,many naija ladies will end up remaining single for life.

repogirl:
Advice the unmarried ones abeg, I am married and he wasn't jobless when we met.

Mind you having a job doesn't mean one is rich... It's like many people take having a job as someone who has plenty money.

The OP said get a job, not get plenty money

A guy with prospects will not even be chasing females up and down sef, he will have a focus on more important things believing everything will come at the right time.

Also at a certain age, a girl can not be dating a guy that has prospects..... If the guy finally makes it in the end, there is a huge likelihood he will go for someone younger sef.

That's how some will come and be opening threads here that they have been with a girl for so many years but don't feel anything for her anymore.

Also, everyone has their standards, different things attract people to each other. Even broke guys find their match, don't they? So if a girl decides you are not her standard, its her choice, not by force. The ones that can stoop low are still out there.

Just as men have their preferences, so do women, its a free world after all and people will live with their choices. So choose well!

I appreciat your stand view but in my opinion,this is an undiluted BALDADASH.

Only in Nigeria can this epistle according to be read.

Naija grls are the most redundant in the world.Only in Nigeria we will see a lady urging her man to get a 8 to 8 job even if it brings home just 50k rathr than pursuee a vision that could bring home millions.

Im sure when the likes of olamide,psquare,dbanj,don jazzy were hustling i guess you wont even take a second look at them if you were wooed by them.

Only in Nigeria that we will see this materialistic money mongering mentality.

When patoranking was selling rat poison he had no job but today he is made so lts assume he woos a certain lady then and she turned him down,will he ever value such lady today.

Many naija ladies are pathethic and i keep asking watever happened to loving a man for the sake of love?

So a typical naija girl would prefer to marry a man who does not value her cos he has a job leaving a man who cherishes are cos he is still hustling..now i now why the likes of mikel went for a foreign chic.

Very soon many naija ladies will go on jumai,olx and konga to advertise thmselves when they grow too old in the bid to get a man with a job that is non existent.

raayah:
I'm just a stupid teenager in love..

LOBATAN

StephanieEzeh:
What's your take? Some jobless guys can be so annoying! Instead of concerning themselves with their life and financial condition, they end up chasing women anyhow as if it's a paid job! . Sending rubbish romantic texts and initiating boring conversations on phone. Go get a job first and come for the girl later. She would appreciate you better.

Soro niyen

raayah:
Such a sweetheart
My boyfriend is the purple chat, while im white. We have been dating for a year now

And you blieve him?
You must be a teenager...berrer wise up young lady.

olowookerekemi:
i dnt blive in chasing red made guys arnd.sumone wu didnt hv job is even beta dan sum wu hv.i wil jst stay wit him nd struggle tgeda nd he can appreciate dat i stayed wit him wen he didnt even xpect i wil.

I have heard this copyright lyrics many times but in reality na lie.

im not debunking your claims but ladies use this line a lot.

dharay99:

†hose 2ladies above me
jez proved one †hinq...."mos† qirls are af†a weal†h n0† love"

point of correction..most NAIJA ladies.

That is why some will remain single forever. A struggling guy with vision is better than peerpectual visioness guy who seeks succour in a job and if the job is gon th guy is finished and until he gets another job na suffering go kill his family.

halexito:
Hmm.... I take it that you have never met THAT special woman. When you do.............you will never want to let her go. She will make you see and feel why God instituted marriage. You were created for someone, Toks,someone special............. If she's not here yet, never you stop hoping.
It will be a very sad story, if she's to come but to find your heart closed against her. Because of several not so good experiences I know you must have had.
To me, not all women are bad. Not all women are the same. I know something gave you that mindset that settling down with any woman is not worth the trouble. But God made it like that for a reason.
Toks, as you grow old and old, One day you will grow tired and weary of being alone.........
We all need a life companion, friend, confidant, helper, lover, soul mate etc in our lives eventually.
Someone to call your own, yours and yours alone.[not a public toilet ]. Your special joy and happiness. Someone to have those lovely kids with.
Maybe they are scarce but believe me........they are not out of existence.

I still believe in love just that its more of an illusion than reality.

Chanchit:
Na wah o, nd who would hijack a 44yrs old woman with two children from her husband. This is serious.

Infact im just wondering too

I had a first hand experience 15 years ago when i bought my first car,i was so naive then but now it makes sens to me..

Two ladies were just fighting to be with me and i made my first millions at age 25 but then i was complete jjc in the areas of love.

They will practically struggle for the front seat and they wer ready to give me that thing at will just to win me but me i waas confirmed mumu way back.

The interesting twist was that i was enjoying the drama and that is exactly the case with thse few guys who have the money,they scrw ladies at will but fuunny enough most rich guys if you ask them..will always respect the lady who was there all along..its just the way some guys reason.

muphasar11:
Painfully your sense isn't common. If a lotta ladies could see this your line of thought then your far and possibly the fear of many other people would be curbed.

Countleess number of naija babes are being dumped every minute because some rich dudes do not value them because they know its about their money.

look at our stars aand you will see the trend where the guys marry their old time girlfriends after scwrng the shit outta the money mongers who think these guys are fools nd foolishly and shamelessly becoming a side dish or baby mama of a rich dude when one vision driven potential multi millionaire is begging theem to b the only woman in their lives.

this is why th likes of dbang,mikel and many more chose to get a non Nigrian lady.

I really feel for many of our ladies.

intresting comments

ideyhere:
Nobody is begging anybody to marry anybody. And if you must quote me, read what I wrote and quote me correctly. I said if you MUST settle down with ONE OF THE DEVILS...
And if what I'm looking for is a rich guy and I don't find, I'll stay single naa. And poor men naa dem dey punch their wives pass. So I still maintain what I said...and even add more to it... If I must be a punching bag, it best be for the rich dude than for one living from hand to mouth.

One more thing... It would be better if you don't quote me again cos as you like seniority for NL reach, e no go tey now you go talk say I never sabi anything come they argue with person wey fit be my father...and before we say jack you go talk say me don insult you

I honestly dont get the logic behind this post..

I would advise you to reestrain from making comments on a topic you are not ready to discuss intellgently and intellectually.

You really do not need this your post cos the last time i checked,we were having some reasonable communication.

O ga o

misspicy:
My dear it all boils down to the misogynist nature of men,afterall its a men's world....
So why will anyone advice me to suffer both ways,i cnt wait for u to make it n get dumped again,i would rather hustle for my money,or go for that financially okay man,n damn d consequences.....note,i cnt evee fend for a man....

Cc Toks2008

I prefer that part where you wrote .. wouldd rather hustle for my money..sounds responsible.

ideyhere:
All this talk about girls remaining single because they like money don tire me for this NL ooh. Unless naija guys change their opinion of ladies as things you keep in your house to bear you children while they go gallivanting with other ladies, I don't advice any lady to settle. Since a lot of Nigerian guys have bad characters when it comes to their treatment of ladies, if I must choose a devil, I rather choose one with good physicals and financial prospects. Njo eshi njo omume naa em worse pass. And if I must cry, I rather cry inside a limo....chikina

And what is the guaranty that you will readily find the rich man?

Do you have the power to make the presumed fin buoyant guy marry you?

oh you preffer to be a punching bag for a rich dude rather than being a queen with a struggling man?

smh