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Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 10:06am On Oct 08, 2015

udysweet:
Wow all dis to be posted on my facebook wall? Ha I can't o,I'm not a marriage counsellor(heck I'm not evn married yet)
I tink I'll jus leav the job for u to do sir,by the way you're doing a very good job.

Thanks sis and drop that sir..

Call me toks so that i wont look older than 40 lol!

Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 9:59am On Oct 08, 2015*

CorrectGuy4love:
Am Tokunbo too.

Wants to go into politics too, will you mentor me?
Not a good writer...more of figure/calculation person.

Thats good so we have two tokunbo on the thread.

Politics is very interesting and YES its a job too but you do not really retire from it and can be dangerous if you are the desperate type.

You must have the passion to serve the people and you must have great empathy for the people and above all you must be extremely patient and focused.

My idea is to be a technocratic politician moving up the ladder through appointments which apparently will pave way to be elected as a result of past records of excellent service hence the need to be dogged,sincere and efficient.

Lastly you need to be identified with the grass-root and be humble enough to honor those you meet there irrespective of their educational background because often times, it is those who do not even have a secondary school cert that will lift you up and recommend you for elective positions.

Money is important but often times,you must be endearing to the strong party chieftains in your locality which brings to fall the need to have a very caudal relationship with them.

So go ahead and join any political party that suites you and by GOD's grace,together we shall make this country proud in future as those that are there now no matter how long they get recycled,must leave there soonest for us to take over.

Yes politics is a job like every other and financial gains is well juxtaposed with taking up politics as a career but never to go into politics for the primary aim of financial gain but passion.Also have something doing that brings in decent income for you,this way you will be able to look away from any form of stain as a result of financial enticements to do what may work against you as your every step is been observed by those you can never imagine and even when we know we can not be good to everyone,i have tried all my life to keep a clean slate in all i do and today at my young age of 40,i stand challenged that nobody on the surface of this world wil find me wanting in any way.

All the best tokunbo.

Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 9:18am On Oct 08, 2015

gratefulme40:
Well....Toks, all i can see is a selfish, self-centred man who only cares about himself without minding how his actions affects his wife.

What manner of man makes his wife watch him go down on other women?

On the wife's side, i see a sick woman whose life revolves around the wishes and desires of the husband.....who really does this?

If the husband cannot sleep...he can aswell do a tarry night!

If i were this woman, I wont even be using same cutlery with this man by now.....that mouth is nothing but a gutter.

As for me.....whatever i do with my spouse has to be acceptable to both of us.

LOBATAN.

Good response

Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 9:16am On Oct 08, 2015

CorrectGuy4love:
Am in....

here to make friends and not love.
am 35, married with kids.
works in a multinational and also have a private business.

am an introvert, less intelligent and not sociable.

wish to gain more knowledge from you all, get out of my shell and be sociable.

also to network and grow my business.

cheers.

The embolden are the exact purpose of the thread and hooking up is a tertiary possibility.

So welcome on-board and invite your unmarried friends to join nairaland and be part of this awesome thread where we discuss any matter and give advice to each other in a no holds bar manner as well as in a very matured way.

So i am Tokunbo,a business consultant and politician and as you can see,i also do freelance writing as a great passion.

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Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 9:09am On Oct 08, 2015

udysweet:
@toks2008 nawa for u o! I saw this on Instagram last week and posted on my Facebook. Then one of my very Christian brother in boxed me o,by the time e finished preaching I just respect myself and pulled the post down, lol.
To be serious, dat guy is A heavy nut case. Pls I won't do it o,forget been submissive,dsnt apply in this case mbok.
Suck me every night before he can sleep? Hell to the No!!!!

Please copy and paste this for that dogmatic gim gim brother to read so that he wil stop teaching people the wrong things that will apparently make them sexually boring to their husbands or wives.

MouthAction

first LETS READ THIS...

1 Corinthians 7:3-6 :
The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. I say this as a CONCESSION, not as a command.

Can MouthAction be dirty and unhygienic? Yes. If a man or a woman is not clean and hygienic, or take good care of their genital health, there is a great likelihood they will be smelly, or harbor unwanted fauna and flora in that area. Indeed, cases have been reported of thrush and other mouth and throat infections that come from having MouthAction. The more sexual partners the person has, and the more lax they are about keeping themselves healthy, the more likely this is that diseases may be passed. This is why a dirty lady will never have my head near her privates..NEVER

However, the assumption is that married people are faithful to each other, or maybe I'm just hoping. Also, being married, you most times become automatically sexually active and have to learn to take care of your genital health even more. You wash up regularly, have your check up for STIs, and always make sure you smell clean and fresh before you try to initiate MouthAction. If all these check out, and both man and woman are in the mood for some good loving, then let the fun begin!

So how does this affect Christians? Now concerning some teachings by pastors who use personal human philosophy to condemn MouthAction or about Christians not allowing themselves to enjoy MouthAction, please read this from the Bible...

There are passages in Songs of Solomon that actually promote how couples can enjoy their sexuality and different aspects of sex. I think more Christians need to remove their bias against sex and read the whole of SOS with new adult eyes. Usually garden and fruits are used to refer to female and male private parts.

As an apple tree among the trees of the forest,
so is my beloved among the young men.
With great delight I sat in his shadow,
and his fruit was sweet to my taste.
(Song of Solomon 2:3 ESV)

a garden fountain, a well of living water,
and flowing streams from Lebanon.
Awake, O north wind,
and come, O south wind!
Blow upon my garden,
let its spices flow.
Let my beloved come to his garden,
and eat its choicest fruits.
(Song of Solomon 4:15-16 ESV)

With that said, the bible is just an instruction manual, for the believing Christian, our full direction comes from the Holy Spirit in us. If your conscience makes you uneasy, then it may not be for you. But be sure it is the spirit, sometimes, wrong things we learned in the world can distract us from hearing the spirit clearly. Like someone said, God is not an author of confusion. If your wife or your husband wants MouthAction, and you deny him or her, you are flouting the some bible instructions.

But the bottom line is that one must not force the act down the throat of another but must learn to discuss it and have it done con-sensually.

Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 8:51am On Oct 08, 2015

udysweet:
@toks2008 nawa for u o! I saw this on Instagram last week and posted on my Facebook. Then one of my very Christian brother in boxed me o,by the time e finished preaching I just respect myself and pulled the post down, lol.
To be serious, dat guy is A heavy nut case. Pls I won't do it o,forget been submissive,dsnt apply in this case mbok.
Suck me every night before he can sleep? Hell to the No!!!!

That preaching part got me wondering.

In the confines of marriage there is absolutely no laid down rule and both man and wife are free to do any crazy thing they are comfortable with.

It is important to remember that God created sex to be a beautiful expression of love for married couples. When the husband or the wife does not feel that sex is a "beautiful expression of love," then changes need to be made in that couple's sex life. Evidentially, the actions are not mutually beneficial to each person. Nothing in the Bible says that MouthAction is a sin, however it may not be appropriate for every couple if one or both of them are not ok with the act.

Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 8:44am On Oct 08, 2015

torqque7:
Yea I can with my wife,if I love her enough to marry her then going down on her wouldn't be a problem as long as she wants it sha..as for the story It really sounds unbelievable but things like this are very real ,the man could have some kind of spiritual issue and needs help,as for the wife helping with other girls it means she is not sound too and definitely playing with fire because she is encouraging him to cheat,she needs to see someone about it for help like a man of God and they both need to go for couple's therapy she and her husband.

Good and yes that man's case needs prayers and teh story is even unbelievable. Which sane woman will go and bring another lady to her man for oral to be done on her? wash

Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 8:42am On Oct 08, 2015

uchezzz:
I once had this toaster that told me he prefered sucking a girl over the main $ex. I ran for my life and stoped picking his calls.
As for ur question Toks 2008, can i do that for my hubby? Dont know yet.( never say never....lol)
When can i say its too much? Definitely not every nite or everytime we have $ex

Good morning Ucheez and everyone..

Nice answer.

LOL! regarding running for your life i guess you should not even grant me audience if i woo you cos it is one thing i believe i will enjoy more than the real thing and i believe any lady who has her man interested in giving her head is fortunate cos many guys dont even think about it.

But the lady must be neat.

Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 10:05pm On Oct 07, 2015

uchezzz:
Toks2008
I think the guy needs help. The wife should help him get help cos its not normal.
In marriage, the body of d wife no longer belongs to her but her husband and vise versa. Both they should both do what they are comfortable with.
The guy is perverted, and needs help

Good advice so to the question...no use style dodge am..

Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 9:35pm On Oct 07, 2015

Toks2008:
i READ THIS FUNNY story on L ikeji's blog and it really got me wondering.

I think the guy needs prayers because this one don pass be careful.

But then i want to ask the guys in the room, can you give your wife a head?

As for me its a big resounding Yes and infact the taught of it turns me on so as adults lets talk

1.For the guys can you give your wife a head?
2.For the ladies can you do that for your husband and when can you say the habit of your husband giving you mouth action is too much?

Note that we are all adults here so lets talk.

Oya make una come answer nah

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Romance › Re: 10 things that turn real men off in a lady at first glance. by Toks2008(op): 9:13pm On Oct 07, 2015

Please wats this craze of nose rings these days?

Choi i saw one lady today and the portion where she attached the nose ring has changed color and i was like "Na by force?"

No be small thing o.

Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 9:11pm On Oct 07, 2015

torqque7:
Hmm wonders shall never end..this melish child you have really become a nuisance here o..it is girls like you that become stalkers and stalk their boyfriends every move, the definition of a dunce is someone incapable of learning simple things..what part of stay away is impossible for you to understand? does it look like we are sinners or don't have our various religious beliefs? personally I think you need deliverance from this irritating behavior, you can't force yourself on people when you clearly are not wanted,all these hypocritical talks just shows you are the type of girl that can drink poison or do something crazy when you get dumped because you definitely are a girl that gets obsessed with things.hmm na wa o

Please ignore that small girl and lets talk jare.

The more you give her the feeling she is noticed the more she feels important.

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Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 9:08pm On Oct 07, 2015

i READ THIS FUNNY story on L ikeji's blog and it really got me wondering.

I think the guy needs prayers because this one don pass be careful.

But then i want to ask the guys in the room, can you give your wife a head?

As for me its a big resounding Yes and infact the taught of it turns me on so as adults lets talk

1.For the guys can you give your wife a head?
2.For the ladies can you do that for your husband and when can you say the habit of your husband giving you mouth action is too much?

Note that we are all adults here so lets talk.

Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 8:55pm On Oct 07, 2015

klassic:
I love kids and i am crazy about em kids especially cute guys of not less than 8months old. Even thinking about it gets me smiling .But i hate marriage. The tort of it scarces shit outta me. What do you advise i do? Should i adopt, keep a lady preg and make her a baby mama, or get a single mom and adopt her child as mine?

Very simple.

Forget marriage, look for a good female friend that you enjoy her company then take a step that will make her always be by your side..That step is marriage but you wil never see it as marriage but an act to bring your friend closer to you.

Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 8:26pm On Oct 07, 2015

For the single mothers in the house,here is a thread i created sometime in the past.I believe it will be an interesting read.

8 words of advice for the Unmarried Single Mothers

Having a child out of wedlock is not ideal in anyway and ladies should do their best to avoid this not by the sinful and babaric act of abortion but by been careful to open up to a man who will love then enough not to abandon them and the child should pregnancy occurs.

Nevertheless,it is no longer a big deal that we have baby mamas who are never married and we have a growing number of this set of ladies due to many factors too numerous to elucidate upon.

The sad twist is that it is generally believed that such ladies usually find it difficultt to find a man that will eventually marry them due to the stigma of being a single mum out of wedlock.

In my opinion,being a single mother is no deterrent but most times,it is the approach of these ladies who find themselves in this situation that really makes it hard for them to get a man as fast as they would love to.

Here are very important list of advise that will be beneficial for you.

1.Be confident; Many men are very skeptical about fertility status of many ladies these days so as a single mum you should be proud of yourself that you are fertile and capable of procreating so carry yourself with dignity and be proud of yourself.

2.Look sexy: Get rid of that after child-birth pregnancy(protruding tummy) many Nigerian young mothers are known for. I CAN'T STRESS THIS ENOUGH.I guess this link will come in handy for you and other mothers because guys love flat tummies even after you have given birth toi children.http://www.findhomeremedy.com/12-wonderful-home-remedies-for-getting-flat-tummy-after-delivery/

3.Be selective: This might sound strange but if you have your way,look away from single never married guys. Yes this does not apply in all cases but i will be frank with you on this. You will be more appreciated by male divorcees,widower as well as the married men while single never married guys may just want to cool off with you. While you may ignore the married men,widowers,divorcees,or a never married single dad will make a better pair.

4.Don't discuss your child excessively: I have heard many single mothers say stuffs like..a man who will want me must want my child..

Well no man will ask you to forget your child but most guys are not interested in hearing you sing about the child,remember its not his child so in as much as a mother's love towards her child is strong,please try to avoid making it a subject matter even if the man also has his own children. Discussing your child excessively will take the shine off the affair.

5.Don't take up the responsibility: This is one big mistake single mothers do. Except the man absconds or his family bluntly refuses to accept the child,DON'T EVER TAKE UP THE RESPONSIBILITY OF TAKING CARE OF THE CHILD.

In most cases,the baby daddy and his family are interested in the baby but not interested in the mother so many times these ladies usually hold on to the child because to them "if you don't want me,you can't have my child"

No matter the stress you go through in bringing the child up,you can never erase the paternity of the child and a day will likely come when the child will look for the dad or visavis and when the day comes,just one prostration and im sorry from the dad will melt the pains of neglect of many years so why insist on taking care of a child of a man who may come back to claim his biological child.

Please give the child to the father's family,after-all nobody in this world can contest the maternity of the child.Abeg free yourself because its a turn off for guys when they want to woo a cutie and discover that the baby you are with is actually yours...its better to know latter.

Or better still give the child to a family member of yours and be free to rediscover yourself.

6. Be financially independent: Please understand that many men these days are struggling and it will be very unrealistic for you to expect another man to automatically take up another man's responsibility.

Yes some men will not mind to take care of you and your child or children but try to be financially independent in the little way you can so that while you expect some form of financial succor from any man that comes into your life,you will not stress him too much by wanting him to provide for a child who is not his.

7.Don't be a dumping ground: Many ladies have been enmeshed with self pity and condemnation that they just rush into any affair with guys who they will ordinarily never date all because they see themselves as after one as they call it.

There is a saying for single mothers in my dialect "omo bibi ki n se arun" meaning having a child out of wedlock is not a disease.

8. Be bold,be confident never allow any man love you out of pity or take advantage of you.

Hope this helps.

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Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 8:04pm On Oct 07, 2015

uchezzz:
Congrats op. I like ur personality
I seem not to be able to keep up with this thread. I close my eyes and open and its already in page 36

Hi dearie, long time.

Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 8:02pm On Oct 07, 2015

halexito:
Hmm....... Thumbs up Toks2008! You're the best!!

Jobs/Vacancies › Re: 5 Smart Things Unemployed Graduates Can Do To Survive In Nigeria by Toks2008(m): 8:01pm On Oct 07, 2015

Number 1 and 5 so on point and infact a very formidable way of making good money.

Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 9:25am On Oct 07, 2015

Artistree:
Toks, I commented much earlier on this thread and stated clearly that I am married but cos of the meek nature of Siamia, and the motive behind this thread, I had to comment even though I have been silently following.
Yes, I am more than 30 but I can't participate fully because I am married and I respect Siamia's SINGLES ONLY instruction. Keep up the good work and may you find comfort in whatever you do.

Ok i see.

God morning everyone and hows the week going?

The blessings of Yahweh will be upon every one of us in Jesus name.AMEN

Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 11:09pm On Oct 06, 2015

udysweet:
Hmmm,lol! Guess u don't knw me then! At dis stage wen most of my mates hav hung their boots or carrying their last preg,i go dey find noisy wedding? I've never been d loud type(trust me I hav a degree in shyness) so I doubt I'll be a party to all dos loud and flamboyant type. Infact jus com see Mr Thomas AKA my father and he'll giv u list,u buy give am,carry me dey go,lol! But seriosly I can,and as for d wedding gwon,one can stil wear a nice wedding gown to a court wedding abi and not make too much noise afterwards?and so to ur question,my answer is YES I can!
Good morning! Have a great day today

Good to know.

Why i asked is this.

Many ladies single at ripe age have no business being single.Please note that i wrote "many" not all and this is because ladies subconsciously seek for a made dude.

If you ask ladies these days to state their desire mate they wil be fast to say GOD fearing and visionary but there remains one more silent desire which is "gainfully employed" or "rich"

Yes it is understandable that a man going into marriage must at least have a regular source of income but how many guys in their 30s today have a job or a business that guarantees regular income?

This is why many ladies are still single,the guys who seem to be rich with regular income play about with many ladies as these ladies scrabble to be with them and unfortunately this set of guys are not many.

So hypothetically speaking,out of a 100 ladies,80 want a rich guy or one with good regular paid job and out of 100 guys, 20 have good jobs or are rich so this 80 ladies scrabble for the 20guys leaving the remaining 80 and then this 20guys realize how ladies flock around them and tend to use these 80 ladies as they like feeling like kings so the never ending crazy circle continues.

If ladies can love a man whether he is still struggling or without a regular paid job and they help him in prayers,trust me, we will have lesser number of over aged unmarried ladies.

My humble submission.

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Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 10:55pm On Oct 06, 2015

kaboninc:
Breaking the rule...

It appears you come here to 'advertise' Dominion City....

But also, it appears you hate to respect people, most especially, those who are older than you. You also like to step into boundaries. There's what they call PRI-VA-CY! You need to learn how to respect people's privacy.

Why don't you stay off from their thread and be on the sidelines? Or don't you think they know all these things you write here?

I bet you have never been in a 'serious' relationship.

*Drags her to the fence*

I am not so good with painting words and i really don't want to use some funny words on this Melish girl. She has turned herself to nuisance here.

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Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 10:46pm On Oct 06, 2015

Artistree:
Babe, why don't you take his word for it? I mean it's not fair judging him by the information he volunteered

Honestly many ladies on this thread are just in ghost mode and this is not helping matters.

Yes the primary aim of the thread is for us to interact(Talk) but shall we say it makes sense to talk to people we don't even know how they look?

We have trained monkeys making posts online now o lol! so abeg lets see your pics.

Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 9:40pm On Oct 06, 2015*

Melish:
And remember no matter how soothing calm and gentle anybody appears here they might turn out to be a Wolf in sheep's clothing...

I'll advice that you should keep all info about your personal life to yourself even if he has proposed to you over the Internet until you have met and established a stable physical relationship ... Don't let desperation or vulnerability get the better of you...

Apparently you can never make a good wife with your stubborn nature.

The fact the this is online interaction is even a pointer to the fact that you lack a great virtue every good woman should have which is respect so continue to show how disrespectful you are.

If i have a child 20 years ago that child will be your age today so if at 40 i cant give you an instruction then i wonder how you will regard any man.

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Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 9:33pm On Oct 06, 2015

Pinopinoguy:
I will be 38 soon, will like to get a marture lady who should be either working or self employed. Age shouldnt be above 33. interested lady should send me a p.m and lets start from there.

You try bro,super dude..in this part of the world you do the searching and wooing.

Ladies on this thread are not deesperate so with due respect pleease rephrase your post.

Thanks

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Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 11:28pm On Oct 05, 2015

Truckpusher:
Women cheat more and closer to home but the problem is that some folks wouldn't even want to imagine it when the tell-tale signs begins to show up.
Unlike veterans like us that will only take one look at you and call you out.

Why some women will never be happy in marriage.

I am writing this no holds Barr article for every reasonable lady to read and meditate upon and for those who will shove this aside after reading this,it is quite apparent that the truth will always stare at your face even when you don't want to acknowledge it.

We all know that there are different factors that contribute to marital unhappiness for a woman but in most cases,infidelity on the part of the man tops the list.

If you are the type of lady who hinge your marital happiness or your happiness in any affair on your man's faithfulness towards you then please start having rehearsals on how to cry.

No matter how super sexy you may think you are and no matter how extremely beautiful you may look,there is still a very great probability that your husband will cheat on you.

I am not here to preach chastity or marital fidelity.Yes we all know that adultery is a sin and everyone who indulges in it risks an eternal loss of his or her soul but nevertheless this does not remove the reality on ground.MOST MEN CHEAT AND WILL CHEAT ON THEIR WIVES OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN.

Oh yes there are men who will never cheat on their spouse no doubt and that is why i use the word most and not all but the truth is 8 out o 10 guys will cheat on you and some may do that just few days after your wedding and some might wait for months while some strong willed guys might just honor you by waiting for just few years.

If you are a lady who believes in me and my husband please continue with your belief but just have it somewhere in your mind that there is another lady out there who will not mind to be a side dish for your man and may not really love to snatch your man but just be a share holder while some vulnerable ones will not mind to be a second or even third wife.

Most times no woman is really interested in snatching your man but just want to share him and most men are never interested in leaving their beloved wife for any other woman but are mostly interested in just tasting her goody-bag and discard her but if the wife starts making problems over a frustrated and desperate side dish,,that is when the trouble starts and the man now starts misbehaving until the issue escalates and divorce comes up and foolishly you will now leave your marriage for a side chic to take over and trust me,she will take over your home and your man real good that your hubby will forget you ever existed.

In a single day, a man can see more than enough ladies who will be enticing to him sexually not because he does not love you but there is this crazy desire in men that seeks for sexual adventure and varieties while the typical woman looks for familiarity and will be ok with just one man. This is why some men will sleep with a woman today and after some time may wonder if he has ever met same lady.

If you are married please and please don't ever tie your happiness to your hubby's fidelity but expect him to misbehave after saying i do so that if he eventually comes up with the expected,you are ready emotionally,psychologically and mentally and if he never does that,it will be a good one for you anyway.

Please focus on your life and child(ren) if any and just take your hubby as a sex partner while according him all the rights and privileges of a husband. Don't stalk him,believe whatever he tells you even when you know he is lying,care less about whether he is sleeping with a million side dishes(Desperate Ladies) and only then can you be happy in your marriage

You don't nag a man out of philandering but you pray him out of it neither does it make any logical or moral sense to pay back a philandering husband with same act. Divorcing a promiscuous man is not an end to your marital problem but might just be the beginning of your troubles except you remain single for life because there is no guaranty that the next 10men you will meet will also be faithful to you that is if you do not end up having an affair with a married man after your divorce thereby making you a culprit of the same crime that led to your divorce.

As for the wife,you just try to be financially independent,GOD fearing,humble,a good cook and be a reckless LovePeddler to him in the bedroom and leave the rest to GOD.

For that man who has decided to be adulterous and will not mind damning his soul for sinful pleasures,please and please for the sake of marital respect for your wife,do it far far away from her because what the eyes do not see does not hurt and use a protection and for the man who is faithful to your wife alone i say GOD BLESS YOU and the works of your hand.

My candid take.

An article written by me a months ago for every lady to read.

G night friends.

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Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 11:21pm On Oct 05, 2015

EggovinMma:
But should a woman also go far away too?

You don come o..

No be me go advice woman to cheat but those wey no care go soon care when the near 50 and are alone not because of anything but because many men don sample them dump them and they also have the reputation of an adultress.

Trust me,a never married 50yr old woman has more value than a 30yr old adultress divorcee.

Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 11:10pm On Oct 05, 2015

EggovinMma:
Lmao!
Wacko ke? .I mo get wahala oooooooo, na person wey no understand me go get problem. Everybody has got his/her own weaknesses. But trust me, I dint tolerate bullshiite for long.I snapp easily!

Ok, communication is good even in all relationships.

As for a philanderer, I may have issues depending on the extent to which he is philandering. I can't condone a man that will bring a woman into my home.I can't even condone someone who comes home late at night, except of course I give him the permission to stay that late with friends. Sometimes even for men it's needed. I also want to have alone time hanging out around home with good female married friends. Na that kind life I like.If hubby call, he sure will know where the wife dey dey "KOLO PROPER".

More reason I dey take my time choose man wey fit me and man wey I fit. I've got so much love stored up to give that he may drown

I tell guys to avoid cheating on their wives but if they must,let them do it farrraway from her.

Its one thing to cheat on your wife with great caution and another to xheat with impunity.

Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 10:52pm On Oct 05, 2015

Sparkles003:
Please i am not quoting any one.I'm here to learn and open to corrections.
A lot of guys when asked what qualities do you desire in your lady always include God fearing.
Now a God fearing woman i belive takes to heart the word of God in the bible dear as such tries not to do the things the word of God condems like would not indulge in sex before marriage ,rarely or never does outings like clubs,night outings.never or rarely sleeps over at her man place so as to avoid stories that touch.
Most men aviod such women in the excuse that they are boring,can't be with a woman that they cannot shine her congo.
So my question is do men truly want God fearing women or it is just a word of mouth they love listing.

But you just quoted me..lol

Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 10:49pm On Oct 05, 2015

QatarPlayboy:
Ahhh,.. so dis fine girl is abv 30? @onomeglo

Fine lady you mean?

Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 10:42pm On Oct 05, 2015

Sparkles003:
Please i am not quoting any one.I'm here to learn and open to corrections.
A lot of guys when asked what qualities do you desire in your lady always include God fearing.
Now a God fearing woman i belive takes to heart the word of God in the bible dear as such tries not to do the things the word of God condems like would not indulge in sex before marriage ,rarely or never does outings like clubs,night outings.never or rarely sleeps over at her man place so as to avoid stories that touch.
Most men aviod such women in the excuse that they are boring,can't be with a woman that they cannot shine her congo.
So my question is do men truly want God fearing women or it is just a word of mouth they love listing.

I dont know about others but im good with all you wrote except that i must eat her food to know whether she should enroll in a cathering school before i put a ring on it.

Sexual decency is a by product of fearing God.

The problem is that many retired oloshos usually push it too far..they start forming as if they have nver visited a man at home before so many guys are like abeg no be my head you go wan dey form packaging...

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Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 10:38pm On Oct 05, 2015

EggovinMma:
Hmmmmm, I don't need to start dishing out true life stories here.cheating is absolutely bad especially when the knot us tied but, whereas it has landed a lot in trouble, some families are still living fine. There are men who cheat maybe very few times in their life time, some cheat like kilode while some cheat serially without any form of protection.

If my husband cheats on me, definitely I will feel bad if i get to know of course. On the same vein, I would communicate with him on why he did that, not because vi want to listen to his bullshiite, but because I just want to satisfy the idea of a wife who cares that MUCH . DEFINITELY IT WILL REPEAT IT SELF but these time around he will hide it better.

My life experiences with people I ve dated have shown me that when it comes relationships, I should never expect the best . Unfortunately, I have always been the cheat.Msybr they are smart enough to hide it, well, good to know, I may care!

Have you ever been with a partner without emotions? He doesn't cheat, he comes home early, argue when his underwears are not well kept , nags about the food being salty, sleeps, fuccks you and sleep while at it, goes to work, and this repeats itself like every day?

Or a husband that tends to put all the frustration if his daily activities into punches and slaps

Or husband that doesn't cheat but will be brought home drunk every weekend by his friends , colleagues or neighbours down to your doorstep?

There are even very religious husbands that sees moderate bedroom pervasion as a terrible sin!

Seriously I can't spend a minute with that kind of husband without nursing the need to blow his head off!

If there is one thing i like about you,its the fact that you are real though i also have my reservations cos i also believe you are wacko as in you no send...but with your standview on a philanderer i guesss you will have no issue in your marriage.

Those other stuffs you mentioned can be adjusted with good communication.

Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 10:22pm On Oct 05, 2015

siamia:
I am glad everyone has calmed down. The torrent of strange posts that appeared before, has abated. Pls remember, 9000plus people are viewing ur posts. Write responsibly, write intelligently, write respectfully, write with basic common sense.
Nairalanders are wonderful people.
God bless u and remain on top.
As I said before, may u move from counting Azikiwe (naira), to counting Mama Charles (pounds sterling)....

Good..

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