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Jobs/VacanciesRe: Which Of These Jobs Will You Choose And Why? by Toks2008(m): 9:22am On Oct 05, 2015
peleson:
Custom officer
Naval officer
Army officer
Immigration officer
Gtbank staff
Zenith bank staff
Work in the ministry
Sahara oil
Oando
Zenon oil
Dangote group
Saipen
Pls state the starting salary of each and why you choose the one you think is better
Why not add ENTERPRENEUR?

GOD save our youths from redundant JOB mentaility. smh
CelebritiesRe: Davido's Babymama Sophie Momodu Steps Out For Family Event Looking Chic by Toks2008(m): 9:07am On Oct 05, 2015
hensben:
put a ring on this old lady finger? As young as Davido? The way una take dey find this ring nor be here. When she isn't a singer, stripper yet fell cheap to a young dude. She should be ashame of herself.
Shame is not in the dictionary of many naija ladies when it comes to materialism.

If Davido was not a celebrity or from a wealthy family would she have opened her leg foolishly for Davido? can we call that love?

If not for the few naija girls wey get sense i would have passed a vote of no confidence on all naija ladies home and away.
CelebritiesRe: Davido's Babymama Sophie Momodu Steps Out For Family Event Looking Chic by Toks2008(m): 9:04am On Oct 05, 2015
Godfullsam:
This lady is way older than davido na
Shameelessness is when a lady has a baby outside wedlock and still galivant about with the euphoria of being a baby mama of a man who only sees you good enough to be his baby mama.
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 11:11pm On Oct 04, 2015
gratefulme40:
Oh well...your response made me feel you were offended and to be honest, that was not in anyway my intention.

Not so new.....created this handle for this thread. Been around here for a while, though not very active
Do you know that these days i hardly visit the frontage of nairaland? In-fact if not for passion in freelance writing, i no longer see it necessary to create more threads simply because i feel so relaxed and safe on this thread and many people are bound to join soon.

The reason is simply because of the level of maturity displayed.Yes we are adults and we wil sometimes disagree but please lets always try to calm down and reconcile our differences.

I love your calm response.Kudos.
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 10:48pm On Oct 04, 2015
fairlyisabel:
Lolllll tough guy. Yes I am on bbm but I might still not open up to you on that. We might end up discussing another thing. Let's digress a little. Have you ever being wooed by a woman before?
Been wooed is an understatement in my case.I have been molested by many ladies at different ages of my life. At 17 i was made a man by one akwa ibom lady and latter i never did that thing again until i was 25 and molested again by a long time friend and i will never forget how she laughed at me when i prayed for forgiveness after the act and i was like "e be like say this girl na devil proper" I cant remember how many times i will enter my room in school to see a naked girl in my bed just to send her out like mumu and many times ladies will pas the night in my place yet i go dey look them like bolo.

If not for Christ i have no business with marriage and this is exactly how so many guys out there think. Sex is so cheap and a man must be really responsible to settle with one lady a midst billions who are willing to be with a man.
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 9:41pm On Oct 04, 2015
JustCalMeDBoss:
What if marriage is not for everyone what if some of us are 2 flawed to be with anyone.
Very true..many ladies have a repulsive character.

I met a lady early this year,a single mum and we became friends..

She talked about the spiritual hinderance and how she got delivered and i was like cool but trust me by my humble standard,she is so arroganr and i had to tell her that she has no spiritual problem but she only need to work on herself.

The problems of some guys and ladies lie with them.

We are all looking for an ideal partner while we are not even ideal for anyone.
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 9:30pm On Oct 04, 2015
MaGenT77:
@siamia says i should just chat. re u kidding mehuh did i make a mistake? i thought this thread is for adults. adults dont just talk/chat when there is no reason/cause to. with utmost respect ma, i beg to differ on this.
Please read her comments again and try to understand the message.

That is why this thread remains credible because honestly no one is freaking over getting hooked both male and female and the first priority is to socialize,get to mingle and be at home and feel at home then along the way you just might find that connection or bonding.


Shey you get?
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 9:26pm On Oct 04, 2015
MaGenT77:
i'm not as sharp as you think, but i have taste and quite blunt- if i cant respect a lady, its just going to last a moment and i think i have had enough of that. respect comes with personal, social and financial security. guys like me prefer assets bruv
See its an imperfect world and we just have to narrow down our demands from these complex beings.

in any list of virtues expected from any man or woman there is always the one ones that top the list.

I will fall in a flash for a lady who is a magician iin the kitchen,sexually decent,appealing to my eyes and humble with no age retrictions and i dont even mind a single mum.

Now you will say fair enough but then narrowing down those virtues,i just want a sexually decent lady who cooks well and fairly cool physically.

So your long list might look quite innocuous but you just miight realize after a long while that its hard to come by.
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 8:55pm On Oct 04, 2015
MaGenT77:
i desire a lady btw 30 to 33 years of age, gainfully employed, if with kid (only one if possible a boy with no legal handbag) and would desire one or two more, tall, chubby, speaks fluent english, openminded, non-fanatic but God fearing, publicly presentable (admirable) and yet humble but not gullible.
I need all these features cos of my high taste and cos of features i want to see in my children.
thank you @op for starting this thread.
Sharp guy lol but dont you think you are too specific to a fault? It was as if i was reading fela lyrics..hands up,hands down,stand up,sit down,forward march,attention lol...

Abeg o wayo wayo
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 8:43pm On Oct 04, 2015
Can a man stay with one lady all his marital life?


Philandering is an act that is predominant among men and women alike.To some men this act seem normal due to the erroneous belief that men can be polygamous, but some women experience philandering due to narcissistic or even sociopathic mindset.

But as they say,it is a cruel world of men and often times the women are at the receiving end of this reckless act so this write up is directed to men and women alike but with more focus on the men and this write up will list 5ways you can prevent philandering or reduce the act to the barest minimum.

1.Accept that it is a reckless and destructive act to you mentally,physically,Financially and spiritually
: Yes as sweet as philandering may seem to be, it is a very destructive act because it can lead you to eternal destruction of your soul as the Quran and Bible suggested and i believe your soul is worth more than the flimsy passion of exploring many death traps in the name of women. Asides this you can readily contract deadly infections and many men have had sexual encounters with different spiritual beings in the name of women and not forgetting the fact that in most cases,the act of philandering tend to make you spend excessively as you will need to spend on the side chicks from time to time just to satisfy your lustful desire.


2.Understand that Philandering is more than a regular bad habit but a demonically influenced act
: I have always counseled many ladies that they can not nag a man out of philandering but can only pray him out of it because most times,the men who indulge in it are influenced by demonic spirits so if you are a man who wants to stop or prevent this then you must be willing to pray to GOD to prevent the spirit from possessing you and to help you cast it out of you because this is one act you can not stop on your own.


3.Go for a lady that turns you on physically
:I always have a slogan that i will rather remain single for life than marry a woman that does not appeal to me physically. Yes they say choosing a wife is more than the physical attributes but nevertheless i believe you can always get a lady who has a good attribute as well as a good physical appeal.

Why should a man who loves a bootilicious lady settle for a flat ass? and if you love a big body lady why settle for a slim one?I remember having an affair with a lady while i was in the university and at a point i began to pray that GOD should make this lady develop some sexual features..
"can you imagine?"

If you love a busty lady and you settle for a small cup size then you just might fantasize about huge bust-line whenever you make out with a wife with a small cup size and to me,this is perpetual self inflicted bondage because there are billions of ladies out there single and ready to mingle so why pick the one that does not turn you on just by her physical appearance.


4.Accept the fact that no lady has the monopoly of beauty
:No matter how sexy or outwardly beautiful your woman may be,there will always be a lady sexier and more attractive than her out there and you are bound to meet many of such so if you are the type who can't take his eyes away from every sexy damsel then you just might be on a fast track to your grave because you can never outdo these daughters of eve who are always willing to show you the fastest way to hell. Just make that choice and do your best to maintain your choice by helping her retain her sexy figure in anyway you can.Learn to appreciate and be content with what you have because in actual fact,its the same hole and same pleasure,just that it is the skills that differs so teach her the skills rather than seek for a facade in the name of varieties.


5.It takes the fear of GOD and great discipline to do away with philandering
: It is practically almost impossible for a man who does not fear GOD to desist from this pleasurable but deadly act so as a lady you must pray and try to lead your man closer to GOD because if a man fears GOD then apparently he will make you happy and for the man please understand that you must practically go closer to GOD so that your love and fear for him will keep you away from this act.

Yes the act of philandering is a strong one that tends to enslave any susceptible person and it is not want anyone can just wish away but with GOD i believe that it can be prevented.

GOD HELP US. and I hope this helps
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 7:22pm On Oct 04, 2015
myztikal:
you could teach her if you can cook...alternatively, a 3 months training in a catering school can work wonders
Yeah and she must try to learn o.

Some ladies have this appalling way of thinking they are good and the "'na so i dey cook am syndrome" wont allow her calm down to learn properly.

No matter your expertise,always ask your man how she loves that delicacy best a might surprise you that the way he wants it might be a far cry from what you are used to.
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 7:09pm On Oct 04, 2015
MzCorleone:
Its a good thing we have someone like you clamoring for the age limit to be reduced.

OP has put her foot down on the limit and we can't help but respect her wishes. We will be @ are designated location tho.smiley
Yeah the op is someone i love in personality and much more so let her have her stand but for me i love making friends so xheck my contact on page 3 or 4 and lets be friends.

cheers.
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 6:55pm On Oct 04, 2015
Sparkles003:
[email][/email]
Call me old school but i cannot woo a give.
I can give him the necessary signals and attention,but to outrightly woo him laye kojo.
I dont even advice you do that considering the guy codes.

btw nice dp though not too conspicous lol
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 6:52pm On Oct 04, 2015
MzCorleone:
Will be 26 by Dec smiley
Apparently you are mature for marriage agewise and thiis was why i clamored for the inclusion of younger ladies above 25 and except you are morally deficient,you wont be among those ladies who still want to play around and ofcourse guys in their 30s are ideal candidate for you and they are here on this thread.

But unfortunately the OP wants it as it is.
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 6:44pm On Oct 04, 2015
tbaby123:
Ghost mode ke? Ghost mode deactivated

House please welcome me grin

I'm 34, lepa grin grin and single, ready to meet good people

My eyes is already on some beautiful faceless tongue tongue guys here..na shame crippled my first life..but I have put that behind me
Shame kwpa

If im a lady and i really want a duse walahi i will give him vivid signs and if he makes the move on me and thinks i will be a zombie for him then he is on a long thing.

Many ladies fail to realize that you could prove difficult to get yet be easy prey for guys who are dogged and dangerous.

i always tell single mature ladies,come out of your shell and be expressive. Prove your worth to that guy even if you showed interest first.

Yes you can woo a guy and still have him crave for you..its all about how you comport urself.
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 6:34pm On Oct 04, 2015
Melish:
Please i'm confused.. How do I start a topic in the diary section of nairaland
lwkmd honestly relish i just cant stop laughing at your nauthy nature oh my.

You really love this thread o..kai

oya make una answer our baby o if anyone knows...kai
PoliticsRe: Jonathan Breaks Silence - El-Rufai Lied On Independence Expenditure by Toks2008(m): 6:29pm On Oct 04, 2015
Greyworld:
Can APC and PDP spoke persons (although el rufai isn't a spoke man) corroborate any story?


I can't believe that 64 billion story, watin dem buy?
Elrufai should either tell another lie or simply tell the truth.
I always warn people to be slow to judge whenever there is a press release or news concerning any event or person.

Most times wat we read can be totally falsified.
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 6:21pm On Oct 04, 2015
MzCorleone:
Still 30 and above for everyone eh?sad
It is well *walks back to the sidelines*
How old are you if i may ask?
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 6:15pm On Oct 04, 2015
siamia:
@everyone
it was not easy, but i am now up to date. as usual, there were some hilarious posts. like the one where pascal asks for uduak's contact, and she wants to know whether he's buying hair! Lol
And toks2008, who has been hinting at ladies in their 20s joining this thread.
Well, without fear or favour, I exercise my full authority to categorically state that this thread is for 30plus and single.
If ur 30th birthday is 2mro, God will preserve us till then, to welcome u in. Until then, don't let me catch u here ooo.
Toks, if u like the 20plus ladies...if u want to widen ur net to catch as many fishes as possible, just post ur number, and they will whatsapp u in camera. smiley
To all the ladies and gents under 30, if u really like this thread, then I can set up something similar for u, and moderate it in such a way that the older ones will be begging to join!
This matter has been laid to rest. This thread is for 30plus and single.
Thanks.

OP
My recommendation stemed from the fact that a 28yr old lady will likely want to socialize with people in their 30s.

Every recommendation i give iis to broaden the thread responsibly in order to keep it alive and you can imagine how monotonous it would have been if only 40 plus people are on the thread but the traffic it gained and still gaining is as a result of adding the 30plus.

I also believe that many guys in their 40s would gladly join but judging from inception,i could observe that many single ladiies in their 30s are too timid to express themselves but by narrowing down the age bracket for ladies,more females will get on board which ofcourse will keep the thread more vibrant and this does not take away the fact that a man will always be iinterested in who he fancies regardless of the age.

The title may be if you are 26plus lady or 30plus guy and single lets talk,trust me,you will be proud of this thread.

Trust me this recommendaton is in the best interest of everyone and not about personal interest but as i wrote,its your thread and you have the final say.
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 5:44pm On Oct 04, 2015
siamia:
Hi everyone
Kitchen business is serious business ooo
I just came up for air.
Am going back to read back posts.
Hope everyone is fine?
Welcome sis.hope you had a great service.

Talking about kitchen business..do you know that im a sucker for GOOD FOOD? i really dont know how ii will cope with a bad cook as a wife?
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 5:12pm On Oct 04, 2015
Pinopinoguy:
Let me register my presence; am Henry 38 by dec, i reside in lag and am happy to be part of this mature mind's thread.
Welcome on board bro.
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 4:41pm On Oct 04, 2015
udysweet:
But men its difficult kkeeping up in this thread o hahaha. I don't know the people here,save for the people who hav quoted me(toks2008 and and siamia,with two oda persons) and the list keeps increasing! Ok lemme introduce mysel formaly. My name is Udaku(or Regina for dos who find it hard to pronounce),am in my mid 30s. Graduate of mass communications(HND) I currently make beaded jewelry and also work part time as venue staff(exams invigilator) for British counci(hoping to get something better tho wit flexible working hours dat can giv me time to do other things. I am from Akwa Ibom state(uyo precisely)christian. Profile pix is der(not to gather likes o,lol! I use it to advertise my handiwork)
Good.

Its expedient that ladies have handwork or added skills these days.

I pity ladies with what they encounter in the bid to get a sustainable job.
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 4:30pm On Oct 04, 2015
Toks2008:
Its really amazing how ladies fear the possibility of remaining unmarried for a long time stretching into their late twenties and thirties.
I have seen countless number of naija spinsters visit many prayer houses to seek spiritual guide and advice just to be a mrs and while so many will quickly come out to say they are unperturbed,the truth is that deep inside of them they hope that they just find the "right man" fast enough and start raising a family before reaching their menopause age.
Many ladies do not need prayer and fasting and in most cases,there is no spiritual attack from anywhere but these ladies are their own pitfalls and the simple truth is that 90% of unmarried ladies in their late 20s and 30s have no business still remaining single.
Considering the present global socio economy siituations expecially in a country like ours,here are 5 very vital questions to ask yourself as a lady and the more you give a NO to each of these 5 questions the harder it may be for you to get a man to marry you.
1.Can you start a life with a man in one room a.k.a FACE ME I FACE YOU?
: Many ladies have boyfriends who live in this type of apartment and infact they have spent some nights with him in that same one room apartment and the guy has lost count of how many times he has scr*wd you in any imaginable ways but when it comes to marriage you will foolishly say you can't marry into one room apartment.
Sorry is your second name and i strongly pity you.Most men who own mansions today started their lives in one room so if you are ok being scr*wd in one room but you can not marry same man living in one room then you are not only clueless but foolish and be ready to be dumped after he has really had you to his fullness.

2.Can you marry a struggling man who has no regular job?
:Oh i can imagine some ladies answering LAI! LAI!,MBA NUNU! GOD FORBID and so on to this particular question but please let me ask you"why date a struggling guy or allow him srw you at will yet cant marry him?" strange and foolish i must say.
It is important to know that as long as that man is not lazy,his break through will come and must come.How many ladies have given up an affair because they feel the guy has no job just to realize a year latter that he is gainfully employed or he has started a profitable business and they start feeling bad for not being patient enough.
Ok what is even the guaranty that the ones who have good jobs or business can not experience a crazy turn around? many ladies have lost their chance with a vibrant vision driven man just because they are waiting to say yes to a man who has a job rather than for them to also find something doing that will make them financially independent while the guy has enough space to pursue his dreams.Believe it or not 95% of the rich or successful guys you see today have passed through a struggling phase.

3.Can you have a very low budget wedding?
: Now i want every reasonable lady reading this to understand that marital union and marriage ceremony are 2 different things.
Most times when you hear words like "my guy is not ready yet for marriage" what this simply implies is that the guy is NOT READY FOR A BIG MARRIAGE CEREMONY and not that he is not mentally,psychologically and emotionally ready but because our young ladies are overwhelmed with that one day celebration,they will never ever plan any wedding with a man who does not have the money to give them a flamboyant wedding and this is one major reasons why many ladies remain single for a very long time.
Have you looked around to see many graduates still struggling in their 30s with no assurance that a job or business will come up tomorrow? Are you among the myopic ladies who get carried away by a flamboyant wedding ceremony rich parents organize for their children?
Who says you can't have a marriage ceremony with N50,000 budget where a man pays the bride price and proceed to the registry with you and when the money starts coming in you two can do another big time wedding ceremony so why put yourself in bondage of having a compulsory big time wedding before you can be a mrs? Why are you giving that guy a good reason to continue using you,saying he is not ready for marriage ceremony but doing all the imaginable things a man will do to a wife on you.
For my igbo sisters i will advice you to appeal to the elders at home to understand that the fact that few of you are lucky to have a guy pay so much or spend so much on a marriage ceremony against all odds does not erase the fact that countless number of Igbo girls are been courted but not married in a timely manner due to the high expenses involved.

4.Can you marry a man who loves you but is not your preferred spec?
:Yes there is nothing absolutely wrong in having a picture of who you want and while some ladies are very fortunate to find such,many have lived in a fantasy world hoping to meet that man who has those qualities they dream of just to wait and wait until they become old waiting for an "ideal man"
In marriage there is nothing like a bad or good choice neither do we have an ideal or non ideal man but its about your choice.Many ladies want a tall,cute,rich.GOD fearing,romantic guy and its so amazing how some ladies will never shift ground and when that short caring and loving guy comes their way they hush him and start running after a prince charming that feels nada for them,what a shame.
Stop having this myopic belief that there is an ideal man out there,no man has it all and all you need to look out for is a man who truly desires and deserves you. If you like keep waiting and screening until you become the object of screening yourself. Be wise.

5.Can you marry a man with a wide age gap to you
:This is one of the most dangerous mistakes many ladies make. For crying out loud, except a lady just wants to play around,i do not see why a teenage girl will be dating a fellow teenager or a lady in her early twenties will be dating a guy of just a year or two older than her because when she eventually becomes ripe for marriage, in most cases this guy is still jumping around and fulfilling his sexual fantasies.
Yes age is nothing but a number but in most cases, ladies who date or court guys with wide age gaps like 8years or more tend to end up as a wife to the guy while most ladies who at their young ages started an affair with guys of close age proximity are usually left heart broken latter in life because most guys in the 20s are probably still playing around and not even psychologically ready for marital union.
So when i hear a 23 year old lady telling a guy in his 30s that he is too old for her i just laugh at her ignorance. If you are a teenager reading this or a lady in your early twenties,i will advice that except you just want to play around,you should date or court guys with wide age gap to avoid had i known.YES THERE ARE EXCEPTIONS to this but most times my assertion holds true.
I hope these write up makes sense to those who want to see sense in it.
If you are a lady of marriageable age and you can not answer yes to at least 4 out of those 5 questions then im sorry to tell you that you are not yet ready for a timely marriage.

Harsh but true.
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 4:25pm On Oct 04, 2015
Its really amazing how ladies fear the possibility of remaining unmarried for a long time stretching into their late twenties and thirties.

I have seen countless number of naija spinsters visit many prayer houses to seek spiritual guide and advice just to be a mrs and while so many will quickly come out to say they are unperturbed,the truth is that deep inside of them they hope that they just find the "right man" fast enough and start raising a family before reaching their menopause age.

Many ladies do not need prayer and fasting and in most cases,there is no spiritual attack from anywhere but these ladies are their own pitfalls and the simple truth is that 90% of unmarried ladies in their late 20s and 30s have no business still remaining single.

Considering the present global socio economy siituations expecially in a country like ours,here are 5 very vital questions to ask yourself as a lady and the more you give a NO to each of these 5 questions the harder it may be for you to get a man to marry you.

1.Can you start a life with a man in one room a.k.a FACE ME I FACE YOU?
: Many ladies have boyfriends who live in this type of apartment and infact they have spent some nights with him in that same one room apartment and the guy has lost count of how many times he has scr*wd you in any imaginable ways but when it comes to marriage you will foolishly say you can't marry into one room apartment.

Sorry is your second name and i strongly pity you.Most men who own mansions today started their lives in one room so if you are ok being scr*wd in one room but you can not marry same man living in one room then you are not only clueless but foolish and be ready to be dumped after he has really had you to his fullness.


2.Can you marry a struggling man who has no regular job?
:Oh i can imagine some ladies answering LAI! LAI!,MBA NUNU! GOD FORBID and so on to this particular question but please let me ask you"why date a struggling guy or allow him srw you at will yet cant marry him?" strange and foolish i must say.

It is important to know that as long as that man is not lazy,his break through will come and must come.How many ladies have given up an affair because they feel the guy has no job just to realize a year latter that he is gainfully employed or he has started a profitable business and they start feeling bad for not being patient enough.

Ok what is even the guaranty that the ones who have good jobs or business can not experience a crazy turn around? many ladies have lost their chance with a vibrant vision driven man just because they are waiting to say yes to a man who has a job rather than for them to also find something doing that will make them financially independent while the guy has enough space to pursue his dreams.Believe it or not 95% of the rich or successful guys you see today have passed through a struggling phase.


3.Can you have a very low budget wedding?
: Now i want every reasonable lady reading this to understand that marital union and marriage ceremony are 2 different things.

Most times when you hear words like "my guy is not ready yet for marriage" what this simply implies is that the guy is NOT READY FOR A BIG MARRIAGE CEREMONY and not that he is not mentally,psychologically and emotionally ready but because our young ladies are overwhelmed with that one day celebration,they will never ever plan any wedding with a man who does not have the money to give them a flamboyant wedding and this is one major reasons why many ladies remain single for a very long time.

Have you looked around to see many graduates still struggling in their 30s with no assurance that a job or business will come up tomorrow? Are you among the myopic ladies who get carried away by a flamboyant wedding ceremony rich parents organize for their children?

Who says you can't have a marriage ceremony with N50,000 budget where a man pays the bride price and proceed to the registry with you and when the money starts coming in you two can do another big time wedding ceremony so why put yourself in bondage of having a compulsory big time wedding before you can be a mrs? Why are you giving that guy a good reason to continue using you,saying he is not ready for marriage ceremony but doing all the imaginable things a man will do to a wife on you.

For my igbo sisters i will advice you to appeal to the elders at home to understand that the fact that few of you are lucky to have a guy pay so much or spend so much on a marriage ceremony against all odds does not erase the fact that countless number of Igbo girls are been courted but not married in a timely manner due to the high expenses involved.


4.Can you marry a man who loves you but is not your preferred spec?
:Yes there is nothing absolutely wrong in having a picture of who you want and while some ladies are very fortunate to find such,many have lived in a fantasy world hoping to meet that man who has those qualities they dream of just to wait and wait until they become old waiting for an "ideal man"

In marriage there is nothing like a bad or good choice neither do we have an ideal or non ideal man but its about your choice.Many ladies want a tall,cute,rich.GOD fearing,romantic guy and its so amazing how some ladies will never shift ground and when that short caring and loving guy comes their way they hush him and start running after a prince charming that feels nada for them,what a shame.

Stop having this myopic belief that there is an ideal man out there,no man has it all and all you need to look out for is a man who truly desires and deserves you. If you like keep waiting and screening until you become the object of screening yourself. Be wise.


5.Can you marry a man with a wide age gap to you
:This is one of the most dangerous mistakes many ladies make. For crying out loud, except a lady just wants to play around,i do not see why a teenage girl will be dating a fellow teenager or a lady in her early twenties will be dating a guy of just a year or two older than her because when she eventually becomes ripe for marriage, in most cases this guy is still jumping around and fulfilling his sexual fantasies.

Yes age is nothing but a number but in most cases, ladies who date or court guys with wide age gaps like 8years or more tend to end up as a wife to the guy while most ladies who at their young ages started an affair with guys of close age proximity are usually left heart broken latter in life because most guys in the 20s are probably still playing around and not even psychologically ready for marital union.

So when i hear a 23 year old lady telling a guy in his 30s that he is too old for her i just laugh at her ignorance. If you are a teenager reading this or a lady in your early twenties,i will advice that except you just want to play around,you should date or court guys with wide age gap to avoid had i known.YES THERE ARE EXCEPTIONS to this but most times my assertion holds true.

I hope these write up makes sense to those who want to see sense in it.
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 4:23pm On Oct 04, 2015
victor54:
Dear uncle, kindly go through what u ve written and make some adjustments. It is unfair to leave it like this. All over the world 30yr old man is more mature than 26yr old woman.
Dude im talking about readiness to settle down. That is the contest of that word maturity as used in that post.
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 4:10pm On Oct 04, 2015
Owliver:
i have been reading this thread cos am not eligible but i dont like this bolded part thats why i had to post. this is gender inequality mr man and a hasty conclusion. dont push it too far. as for mel*sh, pls leave this people alone biko. angry
As i wrote,it is my opinion which could be accepted or rejected by the OP.

Lets be true to ourselves bro,ask 10 guys within ages 25 to 30 if they are ready for marriage then do same for ladies.

So a 26 yr old lady coming to register her presence here is not out of place but we cant say same for a guy in the same age bracket.

how many guys say i do at 25 compared to ladies?

however i o not expect you to be in the same boat with me on this and maybe as you advance more in maturity you will understand beter.
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 4:03pm On Oct 04, 2015
IceDude:
Bros u are sounding too strict for my liking, with the way u guyz are going abt it its as if anybody under 30 is still a baby......Dont u know there are some matured ladies here that are ready to get married to younger guyz? Make una sori for us na!
loooool chai i laugh in pidgin laguage. Thank God there is a thread for 30plus because i can only imagine how people now realize the beauty of serenity in communicating and socializing.

My brother i will leave the OP who is even my egbon to respond to your assertion.

Honestly this thread is a big haven for me as i can now comment on nairaland without the fear of getting insulted.

So bro please relax and let the thread creator respond.

Btw im not a harsh guy at all just that im too blunt for my liking so no vex.
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 3:56pm On Oct 04, 2015
Sparkles003:
Onyinye.F.Lagos.
Beautiful onyinye you are welcome but how old is this elegant lady?
BusinessRe: Throwback Photo Of Dangote (from Grace To More Grace) by Toks2008(m): 3:48pm On Oct 04, 2015
OZAOEKPE:
"the day God decides to remember you, your enemies go shock". Quote me anywhere
Gbam..

E go be like film trick.

When God remembered david,he took him from the fields tendering to livestock to be king

When God remembered Joseph,he went from being a prisoner to Prime minister

When God remembered Obasanjo,he went from prison to Aso rock.

I dont know how hard things may seem to be in your life but i believe its never late for God to remember you and as long as you believe in him,he will remember you and your life will never remain the same.

This i decree in Jesus name.AMEN
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 3:32pm On Oct 04, 2015
Zi:
Lol. I'm an old member on NL. Have a lot of posts here too, so insincerity will be my greatest undoing.

I'm Zi. I'm ada Anambra and single kiss
I've learnt a thing or two already from this thread, so I decided to register my presence. Nice to meet you all smiley
If nah job interview walahi the next thing i will tell you is "you may leave now,we will get back to you"

Please mr or mrs ada can we meet you? this time pls tell us your gender and age as well as what you do to make whatever amount you make to feed?

No effizy here o..if you are a job seeker spill am out.
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 3:22pm On Oct 04, 2015
Zi:
Hello everyone smiley

Mr Toks2008 I greet you specially smiley

Lovely thread. I'm in!
I greet you too so please lets meet you..please for your own integrity,be sibcere..thanks
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 3:20pm On Oct 04, 2015
queencalipso:
This is serious. What if someone is less than 30 and really want to bea part of this house? For me I think the age shouldn't matter aslong as the person is matured in mind and ready to meet matured people. I would have ask siamia to add me to the whatsapp group chat but since the age is 30 I just ve to keep my cool and follow up here.
Though i dont know the OPs take on this but a lady above 25 can partake BY REGISTERING HER PRESENCE by introducing herself and the reason is because in my opinion,a 26yr old lady is matured enough to be a mrs but even 29yr old guy is not even welcomed cos in most cases,even a guy at 30 these days is not even sure he is old enough for marriage.

So as i opined,any lady below 25 is a big No but i still wait for the OP to have a final say on this.

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