₦airaland Forum

uchezzz:
Just saw this thread now. Can i join plssssssss OP

With your fine face guys here will welcome you but if you are a year short of 30.... no vex,try agaiin latter.

erad:
Hi guys, how are y'all doing?

This is a great thread with the right intentions and hopefully will yield the desired results even though I'm in no way eligible to participate with you guys (I'm in my mid twenties).

My reason for this comment is to get clarity and hopefully better knowledge a on couple of things.

Firstly, is it everyone here that is single due to past/present relationship misfortunes or some are single by choice? Personally, I have a problem with the Nigerian interpretation of marriage, the pressure they exert on single people at particular ages and the fact that they think it is an achievement in life. I strongly feel Nigerians need a reorientation on the whole idea of marriage and need to understand that it isn't a 'do or die' affair.
Over time, I've noticed that most marriages in Nigeria fail because most participants of the concerned union were not ready but pressurized into making the ultimate decision. Most of them don't even spend enough time to know their partners before tying the knot due to said parental and community pressure and stigmatization.

Secondly, I really understand where you are coming from with the age restriction but I still strongly believe a lot of semi-indomie kids (e.g. Myself) might also have a thing or two to contribute. Some of us are actually way ahead of our ages.
I also suggest you guys find a way to contact Seun and pitch the idea of him giving OPs reasonable control over their threads, such as hiding comments. That way nobody will need to start making reports to MODs and waiting till eternity for them to take action. Every OP will have the responsibility of keeping his/her thread tidy and relevant. With such a system, Miss Siamia won't need to bother herself launching and relaunching warnings, she can always get rid of irrelevant and immature comments herself.

Thirdly, I don't think anybody that is desperate to either find love or get married should be here. He/She will only end up worsening their case. Desperation is a destructive disease, it makes everyone see your vulnerability and play on it. Nobody wants to be stuck to a desperate partner. So if you are at that stage, take time to rediscover yourself. Find your values and reasons you are worth it. Believe in yourself because if you don't, nobody else will.

That said, I'll like to make friends here if you guys won't mind the age difference.

I wish everyone the very best, happy mingling and remember that honesty is key. Nothing built on a foundation of lie(s) can ever stand, let alone last.

CIAO!

How i wish you are 30 or more cos you write like king solomon.

Good one

siamia:
@toks2008
Gdmrn and how was ur nite?

Good morning my sister.

I must confess you have such a beautiful soul that even you do not know.

If you check this thread from inception you will observe that i literarily hijacked it from you and the reason is because it was just mnutes away to my creating smilar thread and trust me,this thread if not closed at 100pages will run endlessly cos its an haven for mature mnds to come together and socialize.

As i wrote,you have an awesome personality and you have an endearing virtue that many can attest to.

though i have not seen you one on one but even now,im so happy to come across a wonderful personality like yours.

Gd morning

damiloladuke:
if you are really 40 as you claim to be, your family should be your priority as of this moment, not being in a thread of singles.. being single at 40 is not a good thing to be proud of irrespective of the reason behind the singleness, It's the spiritual matter that's even worse, yoy know what the social media has mafe you peeps feel u are living the life at that age, so if yoy wanna marry now, u marry a 35 year old woman, that has had a serious past tale to tell and after 5 years you both get sick of each other and go back to Where u start from.... you are in a serious SITUATION, and What makes it more serious is that you don't know yoy are in a serious situation.

Awon Agba Oshi, Elo wa bi kan joko si

Won ti ba eyin je, won wa waju to da

loooooooooooool oh my kai nothing wey we no go read for nairaland.

Aburo abeg no vex you hear. The truth is that at certain age you have outgrown some habits lke painting words but rather you talk straght and bold.

Ma binu dear,im a very frank and blunt person.Yes m single at 40 but not proud of that and i pray you will not have any reason to be sngle at my age maybe then you just might undderstand the uncertainties of life.

So sorry for scolding you as i did and i implore you to tender an unreserved apology for those lines you wrote in yoruba so that a ma yo inu s e iif you know what that means.

Remember as my sister wrote,that 20something lady might just visiit this thread and you will be a big No to her if she reads your harsh comments to your egbons.

And Yes its a faceless forum but bliv it or not in real life i have 4 younger sibblings older than 30 so i see you as my kid brother hence the need to pamper you after scolding you.

*hugs*

kaboninc:
This guy is the real deal.

They say wetin no fit kill you makes you stronger.

Some of us have very high tolerance level. To me, peace of mind and a happy state is what matters most.

Thanks bro

I wll be hitting the bed now but i would like every lady on this thread to read these thoughts provoking threads i created.You will all love it.

www.nairaland.com/2609185/5-realistic-questions-every-nigerian

www.nairaland.com/2552501/10-reasons-why-long-courtship

www.nairaland.com/2586023/no-woman-snatch-man-these

www.nairaland.com/2532999/8-words-advice-unmarried-single

www.nairaland.com/2440267/costly-mistake-many-ladies-make

G night.

kaboninc:
Lol. Am sure she has seen your #list

How about working?

You're ready to accommodate a lady with a child or children?

I really dont want to put the work thing cos that is very relative and comparative. As long as she has the zeal to either work or be self reliant she will certainly fit in even if she has nothing doing at the moment.

Walahi i can marry a hot after one.Amd i implore any single mum to read my thread on 8words of advice for single mums.

kaboninc:
Well for me, I think the one for you is here.

I pray she knows she's for you too.

Let me be frank with you.This is not about shakara or anything lke that but the one for me must

1.Be an excellent cook or be willing to learn.
2. Appealing to my eyes sexually
3. Sexually decent irrespective of whether she is single mum or not.
4.humble

Thats all and anything short of these nah hogwaash.

kaboninc:
Toks2008
I thought you've been hooked up

Lol..
Matters of relationship is more intricate than that.
Extreme caution is vital.

siamia:
@everyone
U are all wonderful nairalanders and only the best is good enough for u.
I want to appreciate everyone who has written something on this thread. U all set the ball roling, its gathered momentum and is now headed in the right direction. If u notice, our thread is top on the list in this section, and visitors love it.
To all the chairmen and chairwomen in the house, may u reign forever.
To all those ayonges who popped in and took a seat on the bleachers, to learn from the elders, stay tuned. Our wisdom was not paid for with garri.
To all those who gatecrashed and started insulting people, well...the breeze that brought u here, swept u out.
To all nairalanders in the house...may ur phone's inbox be jammed with excess bank alerts in credit, not debit ooo.
Its time for me to go to bed.
Sweet dreams and don't forget to pray.
Muahhhh!

I dont know you but my sixth sense tells me you definiitely have a calm aura and a beautiful soul

Odaroo

me i am a sucker for reading and i can readd from now reach 5am

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]Some guys will still come here thinking it's an avenue to find a sex mate.

SMH.... [/color]

That is the point and its so apppallng.

Thats why i advived ladies to do due diligence before even taking up abstract friendship wiith any guy.

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]Sir,you can make use of the moderators if you people are having intruders trying to spoil the success of this beautiful thread.

I've been observing from afar and i'm quite impressed with the way people are coming to contribute. You people are my egbons here o! [/color]

Fine guy you get sense.More admirers for you.lol

kaboninc:
That's zall!

That was why I said you'd be a great lover....more romantic too that our renowned Casanova. One step at a time.

Am sure siamia will appreciate that too.

You've gone through a lot and patience is now an important virtue in you. So take it slow sir.....

Thanks ore

siamia:
Na who dey market me sef? So una dey collect my bride price behind my back abi? Chai!
I wan sleep ooo. Today no fit be like ystdy ooo. I no gree.

lol

na so my sister.

Please it is apprent that some people just wont maintain a status quo so its best to ignore such to avoid baseless arguements.

imagine a 29yr old guy who saw the thread title yet came in here wanting to date a 20something lady on this thread.

Can you beat that? and he even has the audacty to lash back. The guy most be high on gegemu.

damiloladuke:
You are a useless adult, no wonder you will forever remain single. So if am 30, I have to go for a 30 year old lady... So adults of nowadays no more have sense

If we check very well we will realze that you are not even 29 and even if you suddenly turm 30 there is still a sold 10yr gap between us.

I tot this thread will give some respite to mature people in age but here is a 29 yr old guy bargiing into a thread for 30plus and stating his interest in ladies in the 20s category.

Young man are you sure you are ok?

I implore you to hush it right away and take that exit now. Abi iru iranu ati iwa palapala wo leyi?

kaboninc:
Wow!

But one thing is certain....you'll be a great lover, your experiences in life will help navigate difficult storms. I see a balanced life in you.

So I'm recommending siamia to you.

I honestly respect her personality but im the type of man that loves to take my time.

I cherish friendship more than the facade called love and i dont lke starting wat i cant finish hence the need to be very cautious to avoid initial gragra syndrome.

PascalJ:
Inbox me ur no or let guys see a pix of urs, as in market urself well.

Nah i think ladies are generally reserved andd may not want to display their pics so lets understaand that aspect of theiir nature. Yes datiing sites hve pics dsplayed but this is nland.

I really love her open-mindedness

joebeckz:
I think pple will appreciate to see your image, most pple are here to bond. If you wanna mingle, put up a pix at least since we really are not physically present. I agree that it's not just about the image but it is still very true that beaut lies in the eyes of the beholder and there are faces that are cute yet a particular person don't like that face and can't be with such person. The 1st attraction for men is what they see then they move on to what you have inside. For women, it could be what they perceive about the male, hear or witness and sometimes what they see. If you are interested in someone, ask to put a dp, self confidence might also be what a man wanna see in you so why hide who u are?

You are right

damiloladuke:
For what reason, am I a kid.... do your own men and leave me and stop responding to thread like teenagers.

You see exactly why your age group is not allowed here?

Just imagine. You saw vividly that the thread is for 30plus but you came here stating u wll be 30 and even iif that can be overlooked,you also wrote that you are looking for a 20something lady on a thread for 30plus people and see your comments now.

Apparently something s fundamentally wrong with your psyche and i will stop here.

When you are done vehementng you will take that bow out and look elsewhere for your 20something lady

i rest my case.

siamia:
I am officially fully recommending toks and dosunmu to any lady who is ready for a real man. This is bcs I've followed their insightful posts from the beginning. They are balanced, emotionally stable and grounded as men.
I know there are other eligible men here, and I request other guys here post thought
s that can allow the ladies in the house to properly assess how wonderful u are. Ladies may date guys, but they secretly want a man. In every sense of the word.

lol

ok o

siamia:
@cokeranne
Uwc
Tell the house abt urself, and they will respond.

@toks
Who is ur number for specifically? The house

For the house o.

pls always wriite our id in full so that we will see the mentions n respond to you else we may not know you mentioned us.

If there iis one thing that bores me to the skin its the nairaland email proxess.

Please here is my watsup number so lets be friends...08023146046

agarawu23:
you even dey doubt your sef

Lol... na so my broda

That moment when you call a 30 yr ol guy and he answers sir..and it feels so shameful when a 25 year old lady calls me uncle.

hmmm it is well

damiloladuke:
well am 29, will be 30 next year..guess am qualified to join in


Anyways am single and ready to mingle

I work and base in Abeokuta, I also blog on a part-time basis. I own www.wenogetjob.com despite having a job and i make some tangible income with the blog as well.

I will like to Mingle with a graduate. I have an Msc and planning to take further Courses in NOUN due to my work

She must be beautiful, humble, God-fearing and not older than 24, yes 24...lolzzzz I cant marry my age group mate!!!!

Call or Whatsapp 08038606260

---

Johnny miss road.

Please take a bow out.

Thanks

agarawu23:
say God

Lol..
i find it hard to believe too but thats just the truth.

fairlyisabel:
you must be a very harsh person. I maybe wrong with this assumption but issorite. Thanks for answering my question.

Im not harsh but blunt.Sorry if that hurts

DrMuzoic:
I really wish people can get to know the hurt they cause others by cheating especially if you happen to be the first. For me, it made to unconsciously enter into relationships (most times with people I know that are wrong for me) with the expectation that it won't last and this makes me not to really put in any effort. When it finally ends I will be like 'it was expected'. Thank God I finally realized the pattern and seriously working on myself not only to make the decision to enter relationship with the right person but also to try to make it work.
I believe it will end with testimony

I gave my life to Christ at a very tender age of 13 and since then i have had a zero tolerance to fornication.

My growing up was filled with serious temptations from ladies and i was molested at the age of 17. At 20 i got into a sexless affair for 6years and it ended when the lady thought i was cheating on her without verifying having sworn that if i ever cheat on her she would leave.

Then i got into what i call "one chance affair" with a lady i thought was the best in the world and for 12years i thought i had found my resting place but how very wrong i was.

Honestly i have come to realize that no matter how cool,romantic,caring a guy is,most ladies who have not seen life and real disappointment can never value what they have and they will always feel there is something better out there or how do i explain the fact that a lady i made a woman started saying funny stuffs like "she feels caged and cheated that she has been with only me all her life"

Thank GOD i have moved on emotionally and here i am at over-ripe age,trying to start all over again.

fairlyisabel:
let me see if I can put it in a more comprehensible form. Can another person save my pix if I upload it on my profile just like whatsapp?

YES and what is the big deal? As long as it is not an explicit pics so wat? Abi you be ghost ni?

sihom:
At Toks,

Good points about the offline investigation of potential suitors. But that whole online/ social media background search won't work with me.

I am a very private woman and I do not like to be easily found on the internet via a Google search as such I don't have a Facebook, twitter or LinkedIn account.

I actually gave different options of doing due diligence and i just did one on you and i can deduce your type of person and this is a post you made far back in 2013.

Family / Re: How Do You Manage The Home In Time Of Scarcity? by sihom(f): 6:13pm On Sep 17, 2013
Chilisauce

You just made my day by causing me to LOL thanks. The part about the wig reminded me of a female friend's ordeal when she was getting her groove on one time with her guy and then the part about registering at a church for help (no be only tithes dem sabi collect was just hilarious).

@ OP

Cheap is the way I go to adjust to scarcity and hard times, I buy the cheapest products on sale which in some cases means compromising on quality. For instance rather than buy the big pack of omo detergent I do the small satchet packs of N20 so five of that would be N100. What that does is that it frees up more money for me to spread out in covering other expenses.

And like someone said cut out unnecessary expenses, do without the things that are not a necessity and then learn to wait out your problems don't start borrowing money or items left, right and centre to survive you'll only be digging a grave for yourself oooo.

Finally talk things out with God, you know he really is interested in every part of your life, he isn't unaware of your issues and he does know the end from the beginning. Talking to God is good therapy for your soul you may not see or get immediate results but you'll leave his presence 10 times lighter than when you first got there.

Shey you see what i mean?

fairlyisabel:
Hahahahahah 30mins is even much. Is that you? Lol. I reserve my comments. Mine is coming but not until I charge my phone. I assume you to be a yoruba guy. You look like them. Sorry dear, I have a question. Maybe stupid one. Can one's DP be assessed by another person by saving the pix?

I am 100% Yoruba and your question is not clear at all.

Omotayor123:
I have saweth it

Outer thread..

You are so naughty you this gal.

Just chill you go soon reach 30 but i hope you will be married by then.

This is one lady in her early 20s who thinks so maturely but no vex tayo,just chill or go create a thread for 20plus lol!

fairlyisabel:
I can upload my pix although I will not leave it there for long cos am a shy person and likes hiding. But are you the one on that DP? You look like a nigga. Mba nu!

I want to see your pics and i just uploaded a funny one of mine and i will remove it in 30mins

fairlyisabel:
jeez! Where did you see my pix? Lol I have never uploaded my pix on NL for the first time or is that a tricky way of trying to get me to upload my pix? "Still laughing"

Honestly im so so sorry i taught you were another person who commented on one of my my threads so i switched to this thread thinking you were the one. so so sorry dear.