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selfmadeOLX:
Are you okay..?
What happened to one man one wife

Some people tho..!

Ask yourself firrst if you are sound.

Where is one man one woman n the bible or quran? todler.

I have written many times..polygamy is not advisable,iit should not be encouraged becaause of its complexities but we must draw a line between facts and personal ideologies.

Adultery and philandering are sins before GOD but taking another wife is a different ball game.

Polygamy is not a sin and nowhere in the bible or quran was it called a sin. Yes the Bible advised general overseers to be man of one wife but i repeat polygamy is a complex situation that should be avoided but its not a taboo or a grievious act so let the man open up to the first wife and be at peace.

Elbisco:
Help me please, I have a friend, we are a group of best friends, five (5) in numbers, we all got married years ago and we were all there for ourselves, we still are. The sad thing is that there is this one of us (John) who went ahead and put another woman in the family way. At first we thought it was a “mistake”. It happened again, and then up to the fourth time. For about 15 years now, he’s being keeping these secrets from his wife. See what he does to the names of the kids, he calls the children of wife 2 the same name he calls the children of wife 1. So when people call him by the name of the children in front of his wife, it won’t reveal anything. This woman (the house wife) has been very good to us, she takes care of us when we visit and these hurt us his friends because she’s a good woman. Whenever I see her suddenly, my heart jerks. What should we do? We know this secret, should we inform her or we should just walk away.

source: http://www.inspiredfully.com/2015/09/infidelity-to-wife.html

Polygamy is not advisable but not a sin before GOD so let him confess to the wife as well as marry the second one.

wrongnumber:
Nice one Ehbon.

But for those willing to change o. Some men are just hopelessly lost in the act.

Its a strong act that keeps one in bondage and only GOD can deliver.

bany88:
i hate it when black ladies becomes white its a sign of inferiority complex i spit on the ground

Im black and proud

Houseofglam7:
Bleached out is the new beautiful huh?
I'm not hating o, but the rate at which black women are going extinct is alarming

Walahi you just expressed my notion.

By the way i dont want to say u look sweet make your head no go swell..lol

Kayelyon:
the 3 wisemen that brought gifts to Jesus were astrologers and thats why they read the stars. I have no problem with that.
Yes, women hav various temperaments.
But anyone who is close to this family or has been in blw for many years will understand that this woman was subjected to emotional frustration.
She tried severally to get elders to intervene including Pst Chris' father(who has passed on).
She was stopped from coming back home.
SHE WAS PRACTICALLY MADE A STRANGER IN HER OWN HOME. THOSE WHO KNOW, KNOW THIS CLEARLY.
All She wanted & cried out for years was a chance to be his wife and nt just a senior pastor.
The union died a longed time ago. Her husband obviously doesnt love her but needed her to maintain a good public image.
SINCE IT HAS DAWNED ON HER THAT SHE REALLY IS NT WANTED, LET HER BE FREE BIKO & live the rest of her life wit family and friends who care.
Listen! There are pple who are quiet. Yet know wats rili goin on

Sorry zodiac is far from star gazing but its simply about understanding the nature of pple in relation to their birth period.

I know thesse stories and i still maintain she acted unreasonably.

my opinion

Funny enough i have decided to dump my car at home and make do with public transport.

God bless the former IG Abdulahi if im right because in his time he practically ordered police out of the habit of indiscriminate stopping of vehicles to ask for particulars.

Police are authorized to do stop and search and not the foolish act of asking for baseless documents except there is a special task of recovery an announced stolen vehicle.

Abeg im very ok for now leaving my car at home cos no matter how complete your papers are,they will always delay you with one thing or the order.Wat a shame

Omotayor123:
Thread already trending
https://www.nairaland.com/2625763/see-what-bride-wore-wedding#38397009

Thanks for the observation.

Some nairaland mods are so funny.

And by the way i guess if that lady is as fresh as you wahala go dey o..lol shey you get?

TheSuperNerd:
Well said Sir Toks. Loving the "One Idea" Quote.......*smiles*

You are welcome bro.

Success beginss when you discover what you are passionate about and focus all your essence on getting the best out of it.

No camera iin the world can focus on two objects apart and get a quality image of the two so the power of focus is very vital in attaining success in life.

Richiy:
No. But I did notice that once he has a project at hand, I.e get busy, he is usually a lot less focused on the ladies.

LOL! and when he is less busy he goes back to it i presume.

Success means different thing to different people.Please appreciate that.

This is why i tell jealous lovers never ever to conclude until they are very very certain and this is why i don't keep any assumption to myself...i go ask you and be sure.

My philosophy is "what the eyes do not see can't hurt me"

iliyande:
Several prominent Nigerians including the immediate past National Chairman of the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP),Mallam Adamu Mu’Azu,former Special Advise on National Assembly,Alhaji Kashim Imam and former National Chairman of the defunct CPC,Senator Rufai Hanga, narrowly escaped death in the Thursday tragedy in Mecca,The Nation can now report.

Multiple eyewitnesses at the scene said Mu’Azu,Imam and Hanga had joined millions of other pilgrims in stoning the devil when the stampede started.

Other prominent Nigerians close to the scene were the PDP Youth Leader Abdullahi Maibarisa, Deputy Comptroller General (Operations) of the Nigerian Immigration Service Mr.Muhammad Babandede, and a former member of the House of Representatives.

The hajj rituals continued yesterday although with security beefed up across the various points in Mecca.

Alhaji Umar Farouk a Nigerian pilgrim from Zaria, Kaduna state said by SMS that “in spite of the tragedy, pilgrims are determined to perform their hajj duties.”

Another Nigerian pilgrim,Alhaji Abdullahi from Kano asked Saudi Arabia to stop what he called long-existing discriminatory practices during hajj.

“ The designation of pilgrims into categories of Non Arabs, Africans and others ensures discriminatory treatments and arrangements,” he said.

According to him pilgrims from US, UK, Canada and European countries are always treated with courtesy whereas every Muslim,irrespective of his colour,should enjoy equal treatment.

King Salman has ordered a comprehensive review of arrangements for the annual hajj pilgrimage that sometimes involve some three million pilgrims.

The Saudi authorities are in the process of reaching being expected to reach the Nigerian and other countries’ officials anytime from now, with the list of the victims according to nationalities.

http://thenationonlineng.net/former-pdp-chair-muazu-kashim-imam-others-escape-death/

This stoning the devil rtual though...

I just pray that the people who lost their lives make it to paradise else satan will definitely welcome them to hell with hot sulphuric stones.

Barka de sallah to the Muslim faithfuls.*Munchng delicious sallah meat*

Hunnydropps:
Ok. Was it not your own fingers that typed this response to my post..."And i bet if for any reason he fails to provide for you every other quality is non and void[b] i presume[/b] because that is typical of many Naija babes."?

Is this not YOU basically calling me a liar and when I reply you back you come back on some I "CLAIM" bulls**t? Look, I keep it 100...all day, everyday AND me and my man hold 'EACH OTHER' DOWN 24/7/365, we're not rich. Why do I gotta lie or pretend I'm something I'm not? I treat everyone here with respect EVEN when I suspect they are talking smack on here. After all WHO AM I to tell someone they're forming if I'm not there to prove it?

I didn't ASK YOU to comment or make assumptions on MY CHARACTER. WHO ARE YOU? THE CHARACTER POLICE? Since you think all women are in it for $, I coulda started assuming about you also...saying that You probably responded to my post the way you did because YOU SIR are probably one of those broke & busted dudes without any other redeeming, valuable, or loving qualities that would outweigh a woman being with you unless you have a fat bankroll.
BUT I DONT KNOW YOU.....and Im wise enough to know that your probably not as jaded as you came off as. SO I WONT GET GRIMEY WITH YOU LIKE THAT. I also see you said you can't "contend" with me on what I said....CORRECT, YOU GET A GOLD STAR FOR RECOGNIZING THAT CUZ YOU SURELY DONT KNOW ME TO TRY AND "CONTEND".

Im a good, honest, loyal woman whose very nice to others but DONT GET IT TWISTED THOUGH BC IM NOT A PUNK. So if you say I'm trying to be deceptive as to MY OWN character, which I know better than anyone else does, I'm going to address it to you straight up. Now, whether you believe me or not isn't of any consequence to me or my life cuz I'm going to keep it moving, regardless.

***I will say though that I hope you find women that can change your view on the relationship motives of women. Judge each of us individually because there are good woman out here that value other qualities above money and don't enslave ourselves to it.
That was the only opinion I was expressing to begin with, PERIOD.

DAMN, did you really have to hate on me for saying something POSITIVE about 'Good Guys'...really man? Don't come at me like that...I'm not the one. PEACE.

I guess you really need to mellow down cos my intellectual capacity is too high for all these unwarranted assumptions.

I presume is not an attack and infact many naija babes remains what it is.

Please let this rest ok.Good night

Richiy:
Trust me I know. I have dated one.

So he tells you once he gets busy he stops philandering?

Richiy:
I am not saying that keeping busy totally erases your chances of falling. If you have meetings, targets to beat and all that busy stuff, you only have limited time for yourself and you can only go so far in the philandering business.

I understand you but if you have met some philanderers you will be so surprised at the way they plan out the act as if their lives depend on it.

Dozzmani:
Hello friends

I have been a reader in this forum for a while now,usually see the help through advise being given to people,which made me to bring this issue here because at this point,I don't know what exactly to tell this my guy becuase this issue is beyond me.

My friend has been dating his girlfriend for two years now,the babe is know to us(his friends) and his family as the only woman for him. It was a no sex relationship as the girl said her virginity is her pride. My guy accepted to wait till when they get married as he truly love this babe. Last year ending, one guy moved into the compound of this girl, that was when stories entered their beautiful relationship.

To cut the long story short, recently my guy's girlfriend that never wanted sex started disturbing him of sex, he was surprised about it, later agreed as she made him promise her to indulge in it with her. Alarm blew on the supposed day they were meant to have the sex as he wanted to cover his white sheets because of possible blood stains, she told him blood won't come out. He went in and blood never came out. Since then, she had been lying and swearing she was a virgin which my guy persisted she was not.

She opened up to him of recent that she lost it to the new guy in their compound who as of then almost made them to break up but was pleaded with him not to break the relationship by her aunt and some good friends of hers'.

She doesn't have anything to do with that guy she lost it to because the issue went out of proportion then in their compound, which made my guy to start growing faith in her again upon knowing she slept with that guy in her compound few times when she cheated with him.

She recently confessed to him she knew blood won't come out as she slept with the compound guy once before the day they had sex. The twist now is that who he met a virgin could not hold on to it for him but gave it away to another guy.he is questioning the girl's love on how she could have done such.he still loves her but can't say if he can trust her not to try such if eventually he marries her.she begged for forgiveness.but to be honest,I don't know what to say to this guy.

Please, friends, your candid advise will go a long way in shaping someone's future here as of life partner as he plans on getting married by next year ending..

We all deserve a second chance so the guy should let it pass and be with the lady.

Of what use is leaving a girl who just got disvirgined by another man regardless of the promise she made and then going for another lady that have probably slept with many other guys.

Please tell your friend to let it pass and continue because just as i wrote, we all deserve a second chance.

Richiy:
Keep busy. Joblessness only increases your chances of philandering.

LWKMD!

You are so so freaking wrong my dear. I dont know if your assertion holds true for ladies but male Philanderers always have time for that act.It does not take you a whole day to do and weekends are always there lol! abeg no be so dear.

Philandering is an act that is predominant among men and women alike.To some men this act seem normal due to the erroneous belief that men can be polygamous, but some women experience philandering due to narcissistic or even sociopathic mindset.

But as they say,it is a cruel world of men and often times the women are at the receiving end of this reckless act so this write up is directed to men and women alike but with more focus on the men and this write up will list 5ways you can prevent philandering or reduce the act to the barest minimum

1.Accept that it is a reckless and destructive act to you mentally,physically,Financially and spiritually: Yes as sweet as philandering may seem to be, it is a very destructive act because it can lead you to eternal destruction of your soul as the Quran and Bible suggested and i believe your soul is worth more than the flimsy passion of exploring many death traps in the name of women. Asides this you can readily contract deadly infections and many men have had sexual encounters with different spiritual beings in the name of women and not forgetting the fact that in most cases,the act of philandering tend to make you spend excessively as you will need to spend on the side chicks from time to time just to satisfy your lustful desire.


2.Understand that Philandering is more than a regular bad habit but a demonically influenced act: I have always counseled many ladies that they can not nag a man out of philandering but can only pray him out of it because most times,the men who indulge in it are influenced by demonic spirits so if you are a man who wants to stop or prevent this then you must be willing to pray to GOD to prevent the spirit from possessing you and to help you cast it out of you because this is one act you can not stop on your own.


3.Go for a lady that turns you on physically:I always have a slogan that i will rather remain single for life than marry a woman that does not appeal to me physically. Yes they say choosing a wife is more than the physical attributes but nevertheless i believe you can always get a lady who has a good attribute as well as a good physical appeal.

Why should a man who loves a bootilicious lady settle for a flat ass? and if you love a big body lady why settle for a slim one?I remember having an affair with a lady while i was in the university and at a point i began to pray that GOD should make this lady develop some sexual features..
"can you imagine?"

If you love a busty lady and you settle for a small cup size then you just might fantasize about huge bust-line whenever you make out with a wife with a small cup size and to me,this is perpetual self inflicted bondage because there are billions of ladies out there single and ready to mingle so why pick the one that does not turn you on just by her physical appearance.


4.Accept the fact that no lady has the monopoly of beauty:No matter how sexy or outwardly beautiful your woman may be,there will always be a lady sexier and more attractive than her out there and you are bound to meet many of such so if you are the type who can't take his eyes away from every sexy damsel then you just might be on a fast track to your grave because you can never outdo these daughters of eve who are always willing to show you the fastest way to hell. Just make that choice and do your best to maintain your choice by helping her retain her sexy figure in anyway you can.Learn to appreciate and be content with what you have because in actual fact,its the same hole and same pleasure,just that it is the skills that differs so teach her the skills rather than seek for a facade in the name of varieties.


5.It takes the fear of GOD and great discipline to do away with philandering: It is practically almost impossible for a man who does not fear GOD to desist from this pleasurable but deadly act so as a lady you must pray and try to lead your man closer to GOD because if a man fears GOD then apparently he will make you happy and for the man please understand that you must practically go closer to GOD so that your love and fear for him will keep you away from this act.

Yes the act of philandering is a strong one that tends to enslave any susceptible person and it is not want anyone can just wish away but with GOD i believe that it can be prevented.

GOD HELP US. and I hope this helps

Mr Lalasticlala...how you dey?

Kayelyon:
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This is the first time this woman is speaking about this issue publicly. So that nonsense of She first said this, then said that is an expression of how gullible and unreasonable some pple are. The truth came out thru details gotten from her divorce papers and asking questions to close family sources. But She was silent. While her husband kept reducing her publicly to save his image. SHE HAS BEEN QUIET. Even now She's talking, She's not even going into details. lolz! which kind of woman does that? some persons dont just like admitting the truth. Anita handled this matter with great respect for the man of God even though She was completely humiliated publicly by him after 15 years of an emotionally abusive marriage. Any reasonable fellow will salute her courage. YOU DONT KNOW THIS WOMAN, SO SHUT UP!

Apparently you seem to be missing my point.

Please who do we blame for her flowing with the tide?

Was it not their decision that she takes charge of the UK branch?

Was it not obvious that what she is complaining about have always been there for years?

Did anyone stop her from coming to Nigeria from time to time to be with her hubby and all she is complaining about now was actually tolerated by her for too long and please whose fault is that?

See you know no jack and i advice you to go read the story very well.

For your information, this may sound weird to you but i have observed the personalities of some ladies who were born within some period and i know 5 ladies who exhibited same behavior. YES they are Pisces women and before you start ranting about how zodiac is condemned in the bible please go read again, astrology,star gazing or fortune telling is not the same as zodiac characteristics.

Pisces women are very mysterious people and they are so complicated because they have a funny way of flowing with "things" they latter complain of.

I repeat, i know 5 ladies who just decide to leave their hubby complaining of stuffs that they claimed they tolerated for so long and then you begin to wonder why they tolerated that long? In-fact they can break up their marriage over issues that can easily be resolved.

They are very very ideal as a woman but that crazy nature is their problem as they tend to complicate their relationships with their own hands and they become so melodramatic that you begin to wonder. Let me stop here.

Hunnydropps:
Nope. LOL, So happy to tell you that you've got it all wrong...sad for you since maybe thats been your experience. I was just saying that being nice and responsible isnt a bad thing. And for your info Im not the money type, the struggle is real and me and mine are in it together in good/bad times. So why you try to offend me when all I did was give GOOD GUYS their props is just the usual blah blah blah some people start talking when they aint got crap else to say. Im not what you accused me of so unless I'm offending you or being mean or an a$$ to others here be a man and have a grown up discussion/ask my opinion. Lets be adults and discuss civilly issues like this instead of this same old insulting posts people always do cuz it is lame, weak and presumptive of you...LOL, good luck with that, brah. Good day to you.

Offend you for what? Can you quote any offensive words i wrote?

The fact is that many ladies will always brag about how non materialistic they are and so on but when faced with an option between a rich bad guy and a "broke" decent and responsible guy they will readily jump on the former so who is fooling who.

You may CLAIM to be different and i cant contend that with you because there are always exceptions to every assertion.

Hunnydropps:
Good guys are the best. Since when did being able to reliably and accurately predict good, caring, respectful actions/responses/ect of your man become a bad thing If a man is really good I wont mind knowing he will not fail to open doors, [size=15pt]provide for me[/size] and our household needs...etc. Any woman that thinks a good guy is boring can keep all the other "unpredictable" men...no problem.
Salute to all the GOOD GUYS of the world.

And i bet if for any reason he fails to provide for you every other quality is non and void i presume because that is typical of many Naija babes.

Story fore the gods. Many naija babes prefers a rich bad guy to a supersonic broke nice guy.

soonest:
Lol Oga clueful. Custodian of what marriage is all about. I'm happy you admitted to learning how to philander. Your conscience need not trouble you since the ladies you roll with love lies and are very gullible, so you can perfect your act and keep taking them for a ride. You need not come to nairaland to ease your conscience. This is what happens when one tries to learn a new trick in old age. Wish you the best in your lessons.

Oga o

Kotokoto wo ni obinrin yi n so?

psucc:
We the youths are the ones selling off our future. When it was obvious that we elect someone with contemporary ideas or better still settled for a much younger one, we decided to go following with our great grand father.

Whatever it may become of this country, we all will bear.

And how does this correlate with the subject matter?

Na wa o

soonest:
I swear i pity the woman. This guy is a philanderer and has come here to ease his troubled conscience.

I laugh at your ignorance because you just responded to a comment from a lady who is yet to understand a dint of what marriage is all about.

This thread was nver for the unmarried and the best they would have done was to view and learn.

FYI im just trying to learn the act of philandering because up til now i dont even know how it feels dating different ladies cos for the past 20yrs of my life i hve really been with just two ladies and i was married to the latter and stayed faithful but the problem is that ladies love liies,they are so gullible and that is why smart guys take you all for a ride.

I wont bother explaining anything to people who have no clue about marriage.When they get married they will understand better.

soonest:
You topic is to married ladies and i'm here commenting so isn't your question funny?

There have been comments from teenagers and unmarried so my question is on point.

If you are married then i will throw more lights on your assertion nd if not i need not waste my time because only the married ladies can relate well with this thread.

soonest:
You asked for people's opinion but it seems you want a particular answer.
To answer your question, my answer is Num 1. I may never forgive a philanderer

married or single?

wisdomiskey:
yuh expect freecocoa to be
intellectual?

Then let her limit her comments to the hair salon or pepper soup joint. We are not touts here. We must learn to respect everybody's opinion without making derogatory or vulgar comments.

The way some ladies make comments on nairaland i usually pity the type of men that will marry them.

akins56:
saraki won on the floor of the senate, but he lost on the street out there, he's future presidential ambition has just been succesfully cut short by jagaban and sons, he's now officially another 'atiku'(famous but never acceptable), he needs to lie low for now, and invest massively in the media to wash his clean, i suggest he creates a 'savvanah reporters' and a 'unique times', lol.

The guy has very bad advisers.

His over ambitious nature is also responsible for this. If he has allowed smooth due process to prevail in the election that produced him as the senate president, he would not have faced this colossal disgrace.

HungerBAD:
Sleep with a Minor for ritual?

Truth is, and just like a friend told me, Nigerian's are the only one's you really can't point to the source of their wealth. We only hear of this ones, because they got caught. The one's who engage themselves, in this ritual thing, and have never being caught still roam freely.

And to think this man is educated with an Engineering Degree, leaves me baffled.

At the rate, that minors are getting raped in Nigeria, the United Nations might soon classify our minors as an endangered species. I read somewhere, that there are drugs that can be used to castrate rapist, and their stuff will never work again,The Nigeria Government should order two trailer load of those.

The sad thing is, even minors are not safe from their parents too, like the case we read last week of a father, inserting his stuff always into his 7 yr old daughters mouth.

I am the last person on earth that will ever get carried away by wealth or fret over anybody's wealth because in my short years on earthy i don see meme.

I know many guys enjoying great wealth through cyber crimes, many politicians make money through embezzling our money not to mention ritualistic men and cultists and almost all our entertainers don turn to homosexuals finish all in the name of making money and many musicians you see making waves have sold their souls to the devil.

Yes we have legitimate millionaires but Trust me, if every Nigerian millionaire is striped naked and their source of wealth made known to all,i doubt if 5% of them will be qualified to be called millionaires.

If you are a lady reading this please be careful, money is good but money without peace is worse than poverty, i have seen many girls whose lives have been destroyed by these rich dudes using them for rituals so note that not all that glitters is gold and a guy can give you 1million naira for one night and will use you to make billions.

I knew it that the recent trend of raping toddlers is connected to ritual and has nada to do with pedophilia.

GOD HELP US.

When i wrote here month back that 90% of juvenile rape is for ritual purpose,some people were against my notion and using one funny grammar,pedophile abi na wettin.

You think it is for pleasure that old men will start sleeping with 5,4,3 year old girls when we have short time for as low as N500