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Hybrid01:
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Seriously dude which are you against-PREMARITAL SEX OR LONG TIME COURTSHIP- because am starting to get it wrong and most people are and that is why you can see contrasting comments

Long courtship ofcourse

Whats my business preaching no sex before marriage as if that will stop it.

My point is if every lady wants to know if that guy is really interested in just knowing her in the so called long courtship let her deny him sex and see if he will maintain a status quo.

Most Guys who are against my write up are either players or unserious because any serious minded guy will understand that long courtship are for players while men who know what they want dont waste time.

adanny01:
I and my wife went through a 13yr courtship that started some months before i wrote WAEC and she the next year. We were both virgins. She is some months older than me, she Aug and me Jan of following year.

I have been with several girls in the 13yr period and even few months to the wedding but i was just having fun and nothing serious. Every other girl knew i had another relationship, you can say i cheated but it doesnt change the fact that i kept her.

When it was time, my so many influences from family and my fathers political clique came to confuse me with offers especially from my tribe. Agaisnt all the odds we got married.

Op, is there an exception?

lol is there any assertion that has no exception?

Acidosis:
What happens when the constraint is FINANCE? Are you suggesting that men without adequate finance should stay away from dating/courtship?

He woos you as a struggling guy and you say
yes to him. You visit him in his one room
apartment and you allow him screw you
front,back and center and you have even lost
counts.

You spend nights with a struggling
guy,sometimes you cook for him, do his
laundry and there is no single part of your
body he can not describe yet you can't say
yes to him if he proposes marriage to you
because by your foolish definition,he is still
struggling and living in a room apartment but
i keep asking;are you not a wife to him
already?

I have seen where many ladies left a guy
they love so much and also loves them not
because he is not ready for a marital union
but because he has no money yet for a big
time wedding just for them to marry another
man who may not even have any real thing
for them simply because the guy is loaded
enough to conduct a glamorous wedding
ceremony.

This is why many Nigeria ladies remain
single till they become old and frustrated.

To a typical Naija girl,if a man is not
ready for a flamboyant wedding ceremony
then he is not ready for marriage and
many ladies now focus more on the
glamour of wedding ceremony rather than
the main marriage so the guy simply
keeps mum and continues to bleep da hell
outta you and when he is indeed ready
for the wedding ceremony,he dumps your
overused ass for a new younger babe and
then you begin to cry that someone in
your village is after you.

Mintayo:
Exactly, op problem is sex not long courtship! This thread to me is misleading!

Its a mazing how people decieve themselves.


I remember the last time i had a sexless affair for 4long years i kept asking if it was really sexless

enough m action and infacr we did virtually everthng xcpt actual pnetration.

My brother please stop fooling yourself,if you date a lady these days for even one year without sex then you must be extrenely decent.

i wll state again and again,a man needs not waste ur years before taking you to the alter.

jpphilips:
@OP

I wonder where you guys roll out these JS3 opinions and toss it around as emperical observancies.

First, you are very immature and no where close to taking a wife so hush!! will be more appropriate on issues that you have no idea how it plays out.

In the interest of the ignorant few who may likely take you seriously this is what reality keeps on the table.

You hinged your idea of courtship on sex alone, that is very naive and to believe a man sees a lady on the road and decide to marry her only plays out in nollywood.

courtship is a fact finding mission, what you will find depends on where you are looking. Like you erroneously said that it is no guarantee for marriage with your Angel and demon illustration, well, what I can tell you for a fact is that most men & women dont know what to look for let alone where to look for it, when they fail, they tell people like you that they thought the individual wasn't what he or she thought, when in reality the signs were everywhere but he simply chose to ignore it or too dumb to realize it as a red flag.

Another area you fumbled big time was when you likened our society with that of our parents, my advise for you is this; " He who refuses to change with changing circumstances end up a social pariah"

How many ladies flount their sugar daddies in the social media during the days of our fathers?
How many ladies abort pregnancies monthly in the days of our fathers?
How many ladies have acquintances for every need of theirs in the days of our fathers ?
How many ladies push their careers with bottom power during the era of our fathers?
How many ladies sleep with married men unconscionable during the days of our fathers? .
My people say that a prostitute hardly knows that Adultery is an abomination, once it is registered in an individual's sub conscious, the red flag is always there.

How many men involve themselves in occultism to make money in the days of our fathers?
How many men earn their living in irresponsible mannerism during the days of our fathers? kidnapping? drugs etc

The life and history of every individual you dont know is a Pandoras box, your duty in courtship is to design workable startegies to decipher whether or not it meets your moral standard.

I attended a marriage occasion sometime and the guy has lost several members of his family mysteriously, I asked the gal who happen to be an associate at the time, if she has any idea what is killing them, she was shocked that I knew the guy had such a problem. She had no idea why they were dying like that and as usual committed the situation in the hands of Oluwa

Honestly nobody told me, looking carefully at the entrance of the compound lay several visible marks of removed obituary posters, it still looked fresh, meanwhile the guy lied to her (or she lied to me) that the last death was several years ago.

November 12th will mark her 2nd yr as a widow after just 1yr in marriage, isn't that red flag enough for a sane person to take a decision?

What was she told about the situation and how much did she do to find out what was going on?

It is only an extremely dumb person will think that courtship is about sex alone.

I do not ecpect guys to like this write up and would have taken this as your personal opinion but the derogatory remarks you made has turned it to a rethorical,historical,and ecclesiastical mombo jumbo.

Now sit ur ass down and tagg everyone who seconded your opinion to come learn.

First n foremost it is apparent that you are oblivious of the fact that indeed im a mature man both in age and life experience and i stand to be challenged that long courtship is a facade.

Any one who comprehended the write up will agree that i stated clearly that LONG courtship is the bone of contention n i nver wrote NO COURTSHIP.

Be as it may,have you ever come across the word due deligence? infct it was due deligence that made you observe the recuring death cases in that guy family which the lady refuse to see.

It is the same due deligence that gave the mArriage of old a better precept because they diig real hard into details of that person before going ahead into marriage.

today guys no longer cares afterall all they want is free sex so who cares to do any due diligence but if you really want to know a lady for even a month its as easy as going to people close to her,the area she lives her friends family members school mates and so on.

A year of sexless courtship is enough to really get to know the rudimentary facts about anyone if you really want to.

This writeup is not for a lady who also wants a sex rump or a teenage girl living out her sexual fantacies but its for a lady of substance,a lady who places value on herself and a lady with focus to understand that a man truly interested in marrying you will nver waste more than a year before proposing marriage to you.

i will stop here

deavicky:
I wish my girl could read this. She said we date for at least a year before we marry.

Ofcourse a year of quality courtship is cool.

See in those days our parents do the courting of 8 years in less than a month.

they ask questions about the person,his or her past,allergies,fears,addictions,hereditory anomallies and so on before ever conceeding to give a daughter or allow a son to go ahead in marriage but these days we depend on flimsy long courtship yet all comes in packaging.

MzNelly:
I was expecting to see concrete points

All I saw was "He will sleep with you and get tired" "He will sleep with you and get tired"
Can't she sleep with him and get tired too?

He even called a woman who engages in such a "slut."

Smh.

Im sorry to point this out but with due respect,this your comment is one hell of a slutty one.

damton:
ok. what if the guy is financially handicapped to consummate the relationship. what then

Financially handcaped but not sexually handicaped.

Marriage and marriage celebrations are two different thing.

Even if you dont have money you can go for introduction and registry as long as you have a roof over ur head even if its one room.

If money rolls in then you can go ahead and do big time wedding.

But if the lady is ok getting screwd yet not ready to marry u as suggested then its her call.

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NICOGRAVITY:
I don't believe in dating, because it can outdate you.

EPIC

otunsman:
Toks,you are making it seems as if it's only the male folks that sexually benefit in a relationship.Infact,the female folks benefits more.it's not only guyz that enjoy sex,ladies does too,couple with the monetary and other benefits guyz render.So if a guy dates and end a relationship with a girl,that doesn't mean other guy won't wife her.

Im totally at sea regarding this your comment because the outlook of the write-up is very very different from your stand view.

damton:
interesting. what about love

The longer a lady courts a man or visavis the lesser the enthusiasm and passion. This is the fact in most cases so its better you seal it of when the enthusiasm and passion is still very high.

bqlekan:
yes sir, I read before commenting

ok let me dissect your assertions.

bqlekan:
you might be right in some instances, what happened to 'getting to know each other, understanding one's differences, building trust, etc'
how do you build a long lasting marriage when you don't court for long?
so ladies should jump from one man to the other until they get married? or remain single till their marriage age and get married to a man they hardly know..
I don't agree with you sir
the problem you have is 'SEX' and not long courtship.. don't confuse people

What exactly are you courting for when in the real sense its nothing but a facade and i will give you a good breeak down.

You see a girl say 10hours a day if that is ever possible and in that 10hours she is at her best and i believe you are too and lets say this happens on the average 3 times a week that will stil not give both of you a first hand picture of each other.

Now lets say both of you are in school and you are live in lovers,this is even a dangerous one as intimacy would have clouded your senses and all that matters wil be sex but the truth is even if you date a lady for donkey years,until both of you start living together as man and wife you will never ever get to really know that person.

I think the first step for a man is to go for only a lady that is pleasing to his eyes and be ready to observe her keenly only on the periphery and just makes up his mind to marry her and face the consequence of his decision.

No matter how many years you court a man or woman,marriage is always likened to a black market where there is always some levels of uncertainty waiting to be revealed so stop fooling yourself but as a man its quite convenient for us so i don't expect you to flow but any reasonable lady wil catch my drift.

nortcentrallord:
Nice one bro.

Glad this is coming from a guy i presume.

bqlekan:
you might be right in some instances, what happened to 'getting to know each other, understanding one's differences, building trust, etc'
how do you build a long lasting marriage when you don't court for long?


so ladies should jump from one man to the other until they get married? or remain single till their marriage age and get married to a man they hardly know..

I don't agree with you sir

the problem you have is 'SEX' and not long courtship.. don't confuse people

In-fact you are the one confusing yourself because if you read that write up very well, you wont write these comments so go read again.

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adeyemi97:
Fela and wole soyinka are related??

MAKAVELI OFFSPRING IN THIS MOTHERF*CKER

Honestly im surprised too.

Firefire:
Babalola olomi iye re ooooooooooooooo

Omi iye... Iye re ooo, omi Iye.


God continue to bless the greatest Apostle in Africa.

Lord, let your Grace be sufficient for me also.

Shalom!

Joseph Ayo Babalola (25 April 1904 – 26 July 1959) was the founder of the Christ Apostolic Church, popularly called Aladura in Nigeria.

He was credited with healing powers.

Ministry and healing.

The revival of his mission began with the raising of a dead child in September 1930. What followed this in 3 weeks was the healing of about 100 lepers, 60 blind people and 50 lame persons. This also resulted in the desolation of Churches in Ilesa because their members transferred their allegiance to the revivalist and that all the patients in Wesley Hospital, Ilesa, abandoned their beds to seek healing from Babalola. This divinely kicked off The Great Revival of 1930, which saw people coming from most parts of Africa and diaspora without posters and TV adverts. On June 25, 1931 he slew the sinister Abugabu dragon of the jungles of Yogumbo, wielding a holy sword imbued with the fire of the Lord. From then on, with bell and Yoruba Bible in hand, he toured Yorubaland and eastern Nigeria, preaching about repentance, and renunciation of idolatry, the importance of prayer and fasting, and the power of God to heal sickness


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God is great.

broxymall:
i m just imagining how Hot hell fire will be
feelin d pain

That is one place no human should end up in.Unfortunate miillions are dropping there daily.

Ler her go and rest in paradise abeg.

She is presently enjoying jerself in the amuzement park in heaven...YES THERE IS ONE IN HEAVEN.

Its unfortunate that GOD does not seee death as humans see it because to God its home coming while to us its a loss of loved ones.

If not that i have great assignment to fufll in this world trust me i wont mind just leaving this crazy sinful world this minute to just go and have everlasting bliss because this world and all the gragra of men are meaningless and a chase after the wind.

MsBliss:
OK I understand .
You wore the shoe and know where it pinch so suit yourself.

Definitely sis.
Thanks

INTROVERT:
oh my, oh my ... touching story



Proper Christian courtship, no sex but prayers and proper social networking and interaction.
I proposed to her in church and against all odds, she accepted.

Mtshew

I tot it was a story of a proper danfo driver and not a temporary unfortunate graduate.

And who says danfo drivers are so low to date bankers? Aneg danfo drivers get levels.

afolag:
The answer to the question depends on many factors.
1. previous dating experience
2. where and how you met your girl.
3. How long av u guys been together
4. the type of lady she is, a case study of EBINA, AJEBO or Mix
and lastly take home to mama or roller caoster.
5. Over to the big boys to do the final analysis.

Only my wiife or a lady im seriously considering as my wife is qualiiified to ask that question and we must have developed a level of closeness.

A lady im just meeting should not even think about it let alone voicing it except she has a real cogent reason for asking.

tonychristopher:
Toto

Chai you are so raw.

MsBliss:
How can you date someone for eleven years??
if you wanted to marry her,you should have done so long ago instead of caging her with love.

lol

my dear we got lgally married 6yrs into the courtship so it was actually 6yrs of courtship n anthr 5yrs of marriage but that non the less did not deter her from breakng out.

Its like a ritual most ladies must prform before they calm down.

If you like be the cutest man on earrth or the most caring,if you are dating a lady who have never bn heart broken or has no experience of another man,she will always bliv there is something berrer out there.

This is why i dont even mind an ex slut this time around as long as she is willing to calm down.

Upon all their hotness na another woman run away husband dem dey end up with. So shameful

All these ladies wey cream don give their body another odor.

You need to go near all these oyoyo ladies and you will be surprised how they have used cream(not necessarily bleaching) to change their skin natural fragrance and what you will be perceiving is awful cream odor. Na wah

lol

nice

Tunagee:
This ia one of the best piece i have read in years on nairaland. very factual! God bless u for posting this. i lnow so many beautiful, curvy and goodlooking babes who in their old age i mean likw 35, 40, 45 still looking for husbands, even despite their beauty. Stupid and senseless beautiful girls and ladies, una be use and dump for responsible guys and una go continue to be if una no change una character.The not so good looking ladies would keep getting the best guys because no responsible man would in his right senses want to spend the rest of hia life with arrogant, beautiful and curvy fools!

Thanks bro but honestly im in big trouble because nah curvy chic me i wan marry so make GOD help me o.And for the first time on nairaland i must confess that na wettin put me for wahala be that with my ex. This babe hot no be small but arrogance is her problem and still is that even presently at 32 she still feels she is too hot to mellow.

For over 11years that we have been together i have always observed that thing in her that just wont let here mellow down and at 30 she could not hold it any longer and started saying stufs like "she feels cheated having spent all her life from the age of 19 with just one man(me)" and i was like mogbe! when has that become a crime? and she got so hysterical that i began to tell myself that if i dont allow this lady to go and ufill her fantasy she might just poison me in the bid to see the outside world and today we are history so trust me,arrogance is one great characteristic of hot chics and it only takes one who has seen the world and have learned some hard lessons to really relax and be with one man.

aleem50:
I was like WTF! I heard the guy saying it on radio as I was reading it on Nairaland. The thing come sweet for him mouth like say nah him write am#lol

otunsman:
You know whether na op steal that topic?

LOL! in your dreams otuns.

I created this about 7days ago so its apparent he lifted it from here but as i wrote,all well and good. If only better copyright action dey i believe people will simply ask for permission or at worst state the source of any intellectual material they re enact.

If i start to paste the number of blogs that waits for a front page material on nairaland to be pasted on theirs you will marvel and this topic is presently on over 7 different blogs yet they will never write the source but when i look at the fact that even nairaland is guilty as many linda ikeji material come up here briefly after linda posts them and even linda sef is guilty of doing same to foreign blogs so i just let it pass.

So bro me i no sabi lift material at all and if i begin write 10 different threads a day here on nairaland it will amaze you that in 10years i will not repeat one article and all wll be originally written by me.

Freelance writing is a passion i have and while other guys derive pleasure from smoking,buzzing,clubbing,watching football,philandering or doing other funny stuffs,this is what turns my swagg on.Its a passion.

tonychristopher:
How

The repetitive t*t* word lol!