₦airaland Forum

Omotayor123:
I get your point. We are all entitled to our opinion.

prettysassygirl:
well lemme say,its in d offing

QatarPlayboy:
Serious bro i tink u re one of d few better hv seen when it comes to relationship advice. and i must admit u rock da boat. i actually had it in mind to open such tread bt had to jettison it after seen hw majority of nairalanders behave. if u tink u wish for my opinion in advicing anyone dat seek relationship advice here pls just let me knw. toks2008

prettysassygirl:
Buhahahhahahahahahahahahahahahahah,jes love the lady in question and give her more attention,there is definitely no way of escape but love,heyaaa pele

bisifoundation:
I lived a very religious life in campus, and was not in any relationship at all. After school , I met this young handsome guy in 2006. Sincerely, I felt I didn’t not merit him because he is very handsome, while I am on the average beauty wise. The only thing that attracted me to him was the look. He was an hustler and lived a low income life. Throughout our courtship of 18months, He never gave me a dime. I came from a financially buoyant famiy, I therefore saw no need in asking him for anything, rather I was feeding him with three square meal. We got wedded in the year 2007, and I gave him the flower of my womanhood (virginity) but I was not really excited for just no reason.

My husband is a caring man, but nags a lot. He nags about the way I handle bathing soap, the way you arrange plates in kitchen, virtually everything. I most often skip for fear each time he wants to talk because I believe he wants to complain again.

I got a job before he did, but one thing I discover is that my husband spends his money without thinking about tomorrow and always depend on my salary to survive the family. In 2008, I gave birth to a set of triplet, and had to quit work to nurse my angels. He was very supportive then. He provided for all our needs and life was good. In 2012, my husband lost his job, I had to take over the family expenses again. I was running a masters degree program, doing many businesses, and still raising kids. I travelled every week in a bid to keep the family running. Each time, I complain about the stress I was passing through, he tells me I am lazy, that many women do more to sustain their families.

This is 2015, my husband prefers to allow me or my dad to pay the children tuition fee than for him to hustle. I am 100% responsible for the family upkeep. Every biz you introduce to my husband is downgrading to him. I am currently on my PHd degree, I am nursing a set of triplet, and still work hard to survive my family.

It is now that I realize that I married my husband because of his handsomeness, and that he is mentally very shallow. My husband thinks like a child and has virtually no plan for his family.

My simple advice for intending wives is this, looks (handsomeness or beauty) alone is not enough to choose a husband, marry a man that has great vision for his life, not the one that you will keep on dragging up.

Secondly, I believe my husband puts all the family responsibility on me because I was the one feeding him when we were dating. Please, let your guy know from day one that you need to be adored and taken care of like a beautiful flower.

To married men and women there, did you make some mistakes when choosing? Pls share with intending husbands and wives to help them make informed decision.

bisifoundation:
I lived a very religious life in campus, and was not in any relationship at all. After school , I met this young handsome guy in 2006. Sincerely, I felt I didn’t not merit him because he is very handsome, while I am on the average beauty wise. The only thing that attracted me to him was the look. He was an hustler and lived a low income life. Throughout our courtship of 18months, He never gave me a dime. I came from a financially buoyant famiy, I therefore saw no need in asking him for anything, rather I was feeding him with three square meal. We got wedded in the year 2007, and I gave him the flower of my womanhood (virginity) but I was not really excited for just no reason.

My husband is a caring man, but nags a lot. He nags about the way I handle bathing soap, the way you arrange plates in kitchen, virtually everything. I most often skip for fear each time he wants to talk because I believe he wants to complain again.

I got a job before he did, but one thing I discover is that my husband spends his money without thinking about tomorrow and always depend on my salary to survive the family. In 2008, I gave birth to a set of triplet, and had to quit work to nurse my angels. He was very supportive then. He provided for all our needs and life was good. In 2012, my husband lost his job, I had to take over the family expenses again. I was running a masters degree program, doing many businesses, and still raising kids. I travelled every week in a bid to keep the family running. Each time, I complain about the stress I was passing through, he tells me I am lazy, that many women do more to sustain their families.

This is 2015, my husband prefers to allow me or my dad to pay the children tuition fee than for him to hustle. I am 100% responsible for the family upkeep. Every biz you introduce to my husband is downgrading to him. I am currently on my PHd degree, I am nursing a set of triplet, and still work hard to survive my family.

It is now that I realize that I married my husband because of his handsomeness, and that he is mentally very shallow. My husband thinks like a child and has virtually no plan for his family.

My simple advice for intending wives is this, looks (handsomeness or beauty) alone is not enough to choose a husband, marry a man that has great vision for his life, not the one that you will keep on dragging up.

Secondly, I believe my husband puts all the family responsibility on me because I was the one feeding him when we were dating. Please, let your guy know from day one that you need to be adored and taken care of like a beautiful flower.

To married men and women there, did you make some mistakes when choosing? Pls share with intending husbands and wives to help them make informed decision.

Mbkite:
Lalasticlala, this write up is far better than Saraki, APC, PDP, EFCC wahala. Read it and do what u are very good at. Oga na joke ooo!

samzie:
is that her purpose in life....so many married nobodies in this life.
dont be a liability please

tonynickson:
I hate howw saraki is being witchhunted

sentaljohn:
Politics! Politics!! Politics!!!

Saraki is not a learner. I believe he'll survive diz and become stronger..

He's taught by the best

pedel:
Why speakest thou in KJV?
Why art thou deceiving thine Senate President? Knowest not thou that thine nation abhoreth corruption?
Tell thine Senate President to resign.
This is what that Lord saith to the Senate President: MENE, MENE, TEKEL, and PARSIN.
This is the word of the Lord concerning thee, oh Nigeria, Thou shall be free from the hands of thine oppressors that has held thee down since 1999.
Thus siath the Lord; all thine leaders, that has plunder thee shall all be childless and their houses shall be desolate.
I the Lord shall restore thy glory and thou shall no more be an outcast among the nations.

I have given thee my servant, Muhamadu Buhari, who shall lead thee in the way or restoration and thine reproach shall be taken away before the end of 2019.

rusher14:
What maketh thou man to scurry, to seek refuge in a bunker?

Thou art the third most powerful man in thine country.

Show thine face to those that accuse thou of iniquity.

Behold thine self to officers of the law and makest thine people proud.

Is not thou a man of lawful repute?

Has thou compromised thine inheritance or that of thine servants?

Needest thou to worry.

For I am with thee.

dapsonlou:
Odale He's Ambition super seed the Needs of Nigerians. He's definitely going to Be 2019 pdp Candidate. Let Him chase himself from the party now

TonyeBarcanista:
APC fighting APC

Ololanla:
Hmmmmm

zangiff:
blogging is real

Omotayor123:
You are not getting my point... My emphasis is on the fact that guys these days no longer enjoy their wealth with ladies that struggle with them. This is not a matter of if he makes it or not. The ones I'm hitting on are those that have already make it but refuse to reciprocate.

Note : A woman will only suffer with a man she truly loves.

proserfina:
The problem is that we ladies at times tends to be myopic... As a woman, stupidity is when you sit back
cross-legged and search for an already made man. In
case you don't know, every already made man
out there has a woman who has been with him
from when he had only a pair of shorts and a
single shirt. That's why majority of well to do
men, usually make you nothing but a sex- toy,
for you mean absolutely nothing to them.
He might cheat on her with you, but truth is,
he'll never leave her for you… If you are guilty
of hunting for an already made man, then i tell
you, my dear you are such a cow, you actually
need horns. When a good healthy brain settles,
yours floats!
He may not own a car.
He may not earn a lot of money.
He may not live in a posh estate.
He may not be able to shower you with gifts all
the time.
He may not have a great job.
But it’s enough to know you are the only one he
craves for and loves unconditionally
As such we should learn to live with the hardworking man and pray that God will bless the work of his hands.

Vyolet:
No,you should rather open your eyes and stop being myopic


Unless you meant all girls to be prostitutes then you should know that it is not all girls that allow every Tom,Dick and Harry screw her no matter his background,moreover allowing a man in a facemeiface you screw you is not a guarantee you could settle for him,every sexual relationship must not lead to marriage.

At a point in your life,you have met a woman that truly fits your spec same with a woman,at ever y point,she must have met a man that fits her spec,physicalwise,their being together and dating is absolutely dependant on her.


All your write up is subject to choice,there is no rule on how to live or not live,what works for miss A might not work for Miss B.
Allow women live their lives as it comes and some day,the right man would be with her.
1.An ugly looking woman gets married to a deseired man,this is just to tell you that beauty is not a criteria for marriage.
2. A prostitute gets married to a desired man,this is to tell you that decency is not the criteria for marriage.
3. A broke woman gets married to a desired man,this is to tell you that richness is not the criteria for marriage.
I can go on and on. What works for you might not just work for another person.

Omotayor123:
Thank you my sister... You are on point. No mind OP

misspicy:
Like seriously? If i didnt love him will i stay and struggle with him in d first place....
So it is okay for the guy to move on to another woman after he has finally made it because the one who struggled with him wants a pay check? Why did she struggle with him in d first place wen she had oda better off suitors,so it is okay she lose both ways

i keep saying,this is a risk i for one will not undertake,imagine if d guy i struggle with af dis kind of mindset

Vyolet:
Why shouldn't you marry a man that is your preferred spec?
If you love a tall,short dark,fair,six packs,pinklipped,slim,fat,huge guy,go for him and don't rush to any man undesirable to you.

If you never lived in a face-me-i face,why should you settle with a man that lives such life all because you want to be a Mrs?

kennyman2000:
If only i can have the exact address of that IDP camp and can get someone to teach me hausa within a week.. I wouldnt mind going there as well.. Nairaland girls are also full of themselves..

mschubby:
I went to visit one of my Aunty at Abuja, just recently I discovered that she has been cheating on her husband, she has more than 6 different guyz that she's sleeping with and my annoyance is that she senior all of them and now she has started bringing them to the house when the husband is off to work.

Yesterday one visited and she removed the soup I suffered myself to cook and gave to the guy to take home (can you imagine, with her husband's hard earned money) I was angry and I talked to her as her niece even though she paid a deaf ear to what I said. Later in the night, the husband returned home and she was busy talking to one of her numerous boyfriends on phone without even noticing the presence of her husband, the husband was very mad at her to the extent of him smashing her phone. I felt bad that I have decided to take my leave because I can't stand seeing my own aunty become so cheap and people especially those in our neighborhoods have started calling her a cheap prostitute.

The husband is a good man and for the past few weeks have stayed with them I know he is a good man, he always tries his best to make her happy but she isn't seeing all that.

As it is now, she used my phone to call her numerous boyfriends this morning telling them what the husband did last night.

Please my fellow friends, I want to send text messages to all her boyfriends asking them to leave my aunt alone and also let them know that 'Law of KARMA' will surely find them one day, let her concentrate with her kids and her husband, I really don't want her marriage to crash.

please what should I do?

no1madman:
Give me her number. . . . . ..

daintyprincess:
Ur questions tho........I knw of someone dat cn say yes to all questions but nt no 2 nt cos she can't help or so but cos of wat she has been thru n if a gal says no to all there's a reason

Lizylaw:
Yes, there are some really dumb girls out there just like we have some really daft men. the surprising thing is despite all these talk of not liking empty headed girls, na dem boys dey pursue pass. Even the guys that ask smart ladies out, very few of them are interested in her intellect. At least bimbos have their beauty, what wud u now say of a dumb and ugly lady or man?

Adaeze003:
How about you try this experiment.

When you have a child, anytime he does something bad, tell him he's stupid... see if he'll not end up stupid.

You do not change or influence people positively by cursing/insulting them, it just doesn't work! You want girls to wise up? You start from those around you, make them friends and inspire them. Or if you can't, you create an Educative thread and not this.

I repeat, this is childish.

Oahray:
I'd ignore the snide remarks.
You noticed that I used 'with no source of income' instead of 'hustling/struggling' and presumed I thought them synonymous. I don't.
Struggling/hustling only explains the effort a person puts forth against the odds. It's always relative to your goal.
If Student A badly wants to make a first class and works very hard at it but cannot seem to break out of the 2.1 zone year after year, he's struggling.
If student B has his sights on a 2.1 cgpa but lags behind no matter how hard he tries, he's struggling.
Now if student C is in the 2.2 zone but isn't perturbed enough to put in more effort, he isn't struggling.
My point is, struggling is a big umbrella that covers many situations. It's the goal that matters. A man may be struggling to become very rich, while another man is struggling to feed himself up to twice daily. My post applies to the latter.
It doesn't make any sense for such a guy to think of feeding another extra mouth when he cannot feed his own comfortably. Marriage is serious business with real responsibilities.
No need talking about hustling cos it has nothing to do with financial status. Even billionaires hustle.
What has the life of the richest men got to do with refusing to marry a man struggling to feed himself? Aren't there hardworking persons who started out very poor and still ended up very poor? Some of them made the unfortunate choice of swimming with baggage when they could barely keep themselves afloat.