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He was there as a Military ruler and the served 8years as a democratic president yet he wasted all these years so why does he think he is relevant at this point?

Even a fool knows there is something wrong with the present structure so why can't he lay emphasis on the need to restructure as a viable way of keeping Nigeria one?

Only a fool will believe in one Nigeria without restructuring.

Biglittlelois:
A thread in what light?

How is it a mission impossible when this thread is exactly what i talked about in my previous comment? Or don't you understand the scripture verses you quoted?

Asking men to go back to pay a bride price on ay girl they deflowered in the past is a wild goose chase.

Biglittlelois:
Toks why is your topic misleading when your thread is about going back to the status quo approved by God? Why not change your topic to "men, go and pay the bride price of any Lady you disvirgined so that the wrath of God will not fall on you"

Your advise according to the scriptures you quoted should be to men not women, cos if all men married women they disvirgined, there will be no promiscuity, everyone, male and female, will marry as virgins.

Nice one.

You may consider creating a thread in that light.

Just that it will be a wild goose chase cos it will be a mission impossible.

Do you know that most unmarried ladies in their early 20s have slept with an average number of 5 guys and even more appalling is how they openly talk about how they enjoyed the sex, the styles they give the guys even comparing how good the guys are in bed when they ought to hide the shame of sexual recklessness. This makes me wonder if sexual imorality has become a thing of pride... More worrisome is that this set of ladies will get married someday with so much fun fare and demands from the husband to be when in actual fact, they ought to be given out in marriage Free of charge and even thank the to be husband for accepting to cover their shame.

This is not a thread to judge anyone or bring down any gender but it is an eye opener for the world to understand the importance of sexual chastity and perhaps we will start to train the girl child to understand the value of her sexuality, to make them understand that they own the key to a sexually chaste world, to learn how to say NO to guys who are ever willing to snatch their innocence and to teach them that GOD places a very high premium on their sexuality and sex before marriage is nothing to be proud of, to look away from the Satanic norm of having many husbands in the name of boy friends before actually settling down and to teach them how to guide their sexuality tenaciously until their wedding night.

Before i go on, let us take a look at the definition of a bride price and take a journey down into history of how bride price started and the importance of bride price both from the scriptures and from human tradition .

Bride Price :This is basically the money paid to the father of a female for taking her virginity.....By extension, it means if you are not the man who took her virginity, you have no business paying any bride price on her.

Exodus chapter 22 verse 16-17
“If a man seduces a virgin who is not betrothed and lies with her, he shall give the bride-price for her and make her his wife. If her father utterly refuses to give her to him, he shall pay money equal to the bride-price for virgins.”
Deuteronomy 22:28–29
“If a man meets a virgin who is not betrothed, and seizes her and lies with her, and they are found, then the man who lay with her shall give to the father of the young woman fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife, because he has violated her. He may not divorce her all his days.

As we all can clearly see in these scriptures, you are either a virgin or married and when a man have sex with a woman that is still a virgin, he has violated her and this is dishonest to her virginity and therefore he must pay the virgin price because the man has damaged the future of the lady.

An example about paying bride price from the scriptures was when Abraham bought gifts for Rebecca who happens to be a virgin
Genesis 24:16
The woman was very beautiful, a virgin; no man had ever slept with her. She went down to the spring, filled her jar and came up again. Then the servant brought out gold and silver jewelry and articles of clothing and gave them to Rebekah; he also gave costly gifts to her brother and to her mother. Genesis 24:53

Even The Quran sees it as Haram for a lady to have any sexual relation outside marriage.


FROM AFRICAN CULTURE AND TRADITION

Paying bride price is an age long practise in many African countries and beyond but it usually goes with what is called “Blood or sheet ceremonies or also called virginity testing,

This is designed to generate proof that a bride's sexual encounter with her new husband is her first sexual experience: blood on the sheets is, apparently, demonstration, that her hymen was ‘broken’ on her wedding night,” and once a lady fails this test. the man must take her back to her family and in some instances, accompany her with drummers singing songs of shame and the bride price he paid is returned to him.

CONCLUSION

As i wrote earlier, i am not judging anyone and virginity does not define any lady but this write up has clearly shown that Bride price or dowry as it is called in some places is only for virgin brides but this does not mean that a man can not still pay whatever he is asked just to show how deeply he desires the lady for a wife but be it as it may, it is imperative for any lady who wants to get married as a non virgin to calm down and not ask for too much because in the first instance, she does not deserve any bride price but ought to be given to the man totally free just to cover her shame.

I hope this makes sense.

BadRadio:
Just find a lady that's goal oriented, a supportive woman, a visionary, an independent woman with good manners and culinary skills... a graduate perhaps and get married. Stop checking for virginity and body counts.... just get married !!!

It is fair to say that you may have defiled and abused your countless ex's, but they are now married, If the guys who married them were scouting for virgins or were checking body counts like you are doing now then all the ladies in the world will grow old without getting married.


Goan marry joor !!!

As long as the family won't collect huge bride price or not even collect at all cos only virgins deserve a bride price.

NovesaTillie:
Good morning and merry Christmas everyone.

Please I'm in dilemma and really need some good advice.
This guy and I have been on this relationship thing for 5 months now with occasional misunderstandings here and there. The first one was because he visited me and refused to go after the time he said he would leave, when he finally left I got back home from work only for the security to call me that I have a visitor at the main gate and behold it was him.
I allowed him stay the night because he's a nice guy, really good in bed and also helps in the house to do stuff like wash the dishes and cooking.

This life has turned upside-down...Guy wey never marry you dey fvk you anyhow and you even have the audacity to come on a smedia to start writing this.

Anyways my advice is that you just go and pay his groom price since you don marry a new wife cos obviously he is good in the things women believe is their role.

Sexual immorality has become a pride and what is carelessly talked about.

Nah man wey dey put too much expectation on a lady dey get wahala.

I have learnt long ago that no woman under the sky can be trusted. Just do the best you can and expect the worst from them.

phranco:
I am in a relationship with a girl I'm planning to get married to. I love her and we vibe together and play most times. From my own assessment, she is good, down to earth, knows how to cook, humble, respectful, and she is also very beautiful naturally, infact she passed 70% quality of the kind of woman I want in my life.

The problem is that I'm not attracted to her sexually. She has a small body, and doesn't have nyash or should I say small nyash (sorry for the offensive word). I'm not aroused if I'm with her. I can manage to have sex with her just once, even if she will stay five days with me, and I know this gives her concern.

I like ladies with backside, height and chubby. but the ones I have come across doesn't even measure up to this my girl in character.

Does sex Matter so much in marriage? Cos I'm afraid I may cheat on her or get sexual satisfaction outside our marriage. I'm just confused right now.

I have said before and I will say it again... Guys don't marry good ladies, they marry ladies they are sexually attracted to and ladies don't marry good man but they only marry a man that gives them the chills and this is why heartbreak and divorce will continue to be on the rise.

Bro you are on your own o. For me I can't marry a lady I'm not sexually attracted to cos it will be a serious problem but then pray you don't marry a monster that is the sex symbol you want cos you will pray to God to give yo any good woman with a flat yansh.

Rtk5:
Men you need to hussle and if possible avoid marriage. The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is going broke.

Please I am not trying to poison anybody's heart. It is good to fall in love and marry the right partner. I tell you most solemnly, until things get bad, you will never know the real attitude of your partner.

I remember when I lost my job and things became so bad that I planned to kill my self on a certain day, what stopped me from committing suicide was I fell into a deep sleep that I didn't wake up till the next day at around 8am. On waking up i relaized that God did something to me that i couldn't explain till today and the thought of suicide vanished.

Back to my topic, there was a day during my times of trial and hardship that my wife told me she wanted to go and visit her male friend in his house, I stopped her by saying why will a married woman do that and you even have the guts to tell me. It ended in a fight, anytime we have any slight quarrel, she will pack her things and leave to her mum's place and the family always support her actions without knowing from me what happened.

There was a time when our child was just barely few months old, i left the house for an interview, i trecked about 3km to the venue, she left him at home and went to only God knows where, only for her to call me that she has left the house and my son for me, that i should get home before he wakes up from sleep, i couldn't wait for the interview to get to my turn, i begged a random person on the road and he gave me #1,000 that was after i begged more than ten different people with other refusing to answer me not to talk of helping. I ran home and thank God i met him just waking up. I took him back to the interview and a kind lady helped me with him until it got to my turn and i finished and went back home.

In the night at about 7pm while i was preparing to bath him, she entered the house and carried him to bath him, i didn't utter a word and i forgave her.

Guys, you need to see how thin i became during those trials, no single food to eat. I became a shadow of myself, i became so shy of walking in public because of how frustrated i became. I have many experiences but i rest my case here.

The sad reality right now is that we are still married, while the good is that things have improved 10times better than it has ever been but i've placed her where she belongs. The only thing stopping me from divorce is what people will say and my image. Do you know that honestly she hasn't learnt her lessons as she is still a problem to me, always nagging and i don't have peace in my own house.

Right now i'm on the process of divorce and i'm building resistance to whatever people will say.

Why divorce her?

Forgive her but if you can't find yourself trusting her again just get another wife and let her decide if she is staying or leaving.

We have only heard your side of the story but if all you wrote is what it is then she is not suitable to depend on.

JaneYave:
RIP. Drug kills. Stay away from drugs. I still have not gotten over the death of my favorite Whitney Houston. Drugs destroys silently and ravagely.

Do you read at all?

The legends

Swiftlee:
The pictures would not be too clear because it has been rainy and wet since yesterday. The weather also looks too moist. How did your Christmas celebration go?
r231, Freiburger

There are more beautiful places you for visit.

Nyceguy92:
Redundant posts like this keep appearing on this forum. It is so annoying.

So the ladies will choose to marry a man after they must have ascertained his income.

Most middle level civil servants earn in the region of 50K monthly yet they have families and children in schools.

What happened to building together with your spouse? If a man is honest and hard-working, there will be ladies falling over each other to marry him.

So redundant and lame

UyaiIncomparabl:
Make una dey calm down with una motivational talks.

A guy earning 40k today will only earn better tomorrow if he has prospects(skills, and/or certificates), has long legs or follows the fast lane.

A man who also earns 2M yesterday cannot just suddenly go broke to earning scraps as you opined. That's fallacious.

You are so naive. Life can so happen to you that you won't know what hit you.

I was a millionaire in 2001 earning at least 1.5M a month. It was the internet boom Era, I was into computer sales and networking as well as setting up cyber cafes with money making referral program attached but in Nov 2001 I had an auto crash that sent me to the land of poverty... I could not walk for months and because the business was a young one it crashed so hard and I was as poor as you can ever imagine.

Today I thank GOD for his grace so the point I'm making is that only a foolish lady judges a man by his present financial state...as long as a guy is hardworking and the lady is not a hopeless parasite, they are good to go.

With a very good insurance company I guess the loss will be taken care of

steveneche:
Am just curious. With the current state of economy, as a lady, can you marry a guy whose salary is not up to 50k monthly?

Candid opinion please!

They can date and fvk a guy who earns less in all styles, they can cook for him and even help him tidy up his room but will frown. At getting married to same guy.

Some ladies baffle me.

Wealth is progressive and life has a way of changing pictures so a guy who earns 40k today may be earning 1M tomorrow and a guy earning 2M a month today may be so jobless and broke tomorrow...

The bottom line is for every lady to be as financially independent as possible so she won't put all her hope on the guy.

Joysticks:
No child yet.

Lame

tutudesz:
This direct primary of a thing doesn't make sense at all Lagos is a prefect example, were Ambode was rigged out through direct primaries and Government shouldn't decide how parties pick their candidates.
Indirect or direct primaries will not stop God fatherism

You have no idea what direct primaries mean. Go and get your facts right.

adamsmith914:
The electorate Act is about Bola Tinubu? Some children no just gree get common sense.

Slaves to their own misconstrued way of reasoning, Shame on you everlasting Wailer.

Naah! Not about Tinubu but it is about his likes that litter the political terrain...

It is about clipping politicians who do not believe in equity and sovereignty of the people above thier selfish gains.

If you don't Gerrit, go jump into the lagoon.

All I know is that if the NASS does not pass that new electoral bill, Tinubu will fster himself on APC and Nigeria with indirect primaries.

Only direct primaries can stop Tinubu from representing APC.

phemmyfour:
How many church goers are Christian?
The joke is on you

Every church goer practices Christianity as a religion but not as a way of life

GetMeRight:
We don stigmatise polygamy in Nigeria, now most of our ladies have become side chicks.

You too get sense. And this is why I laugh at any lady who thinks she is in a monogamous marriage.

Women just love to fool themselves believing what they want even when they know deep inside of them that they are unrealistic.

God1000:
Who can relate here? does this picture remind you of anything in the past?

Once again, happy Christmas

This must be one very archaic polygamous home.

NewSoul:
But jerking every cold night

Me I don't even know how to do the jerking thing.

I detest big backside with a strong passion.

Onion moderate booty is Bae.

Parizz:
you are missing. I fùck everyday

You have a problem.

If you are truly a progressive man you can never have sex everyday and I mean penetrative sex.

Dreadshy:
How is thos news? I stayed 7 years no kpanshing till i realized all the girls that came my way thought i was okobo.
Then i unleashed the ....

This is why I believe that sex is overrated... I have stayed 6 years without sex when I was in Uni.

Nobody has an excuse to be wayward.

FamilyAdviser:
Hello Nairalanders, I want to share with you my experience in marriage so far without any iota of lies. Everything I shared here is non-fictional. Family and life itself is like a drama, everyday with a new chapter.


In life, we do make some costly mistakes and then repeated it before learning in a hardway.

One day, I traveled to my village for a building construction, I ran across an old friend who is an engineer. After exchanging pleasantries, he promised to assist me with the project for a little token compared to what I was charged. That evening he took me out to a classic hotel and bar with beautiful runz girls.

At first I never thought of doing any silly things there, my intent was to drink and drive home with my friend.

I was on my second green bottle when a beautiful fair lady approached me and demand I give her some attention, her beauty was charming though, my friend whispered to me to give her some minutes and he excused us.

How may I help you? I replied softly, the lady became intensed by my question. I smiled at her and asked her to seat down, she sat we engaged in some sort of discussions and I asked her what prompted her into doing what she is doing (ASHAWO), she said condition.

That evening we exchanged contact, I was so tipsy and my friend not knowledgeable about driving, I decided to lodge in the hotel.

Around 10pm I called the lady and she came to my room, by this time I already developed some sensational feelings let's say "Lust".

I asked her to massage me, and she demaned for 10k I paid her. On the process of massaging I became so Hot and asked her to give me a Mouth Gig well she declined that with reasons best known to her. We now decided to engage in s.ex. This was the beginning of my sorrow.


I was on active duty with the lady when my condom burst open and entered her private part. What I have I done? A moment of pleasure became a thing of sorrow. How do I face my wife? What if the lady is infected? I cursed that day I met my friend..................

I became inquisitive about the Lady 's HIV status it was at this point she told me she is legally married that she is not infected. Oh my goodness? Did I just committed a double sin? Bleeping married woman? Immediately I became a shadow of my own self, I was literally like a walking corpse.

That night I gave her extra money to take care of her Heath, then the next day I wasn't convince about her telling me she is HIV negative. I called her she refused picking up my calls. I sent her text that I will pay her 50k for her to follow me to test her status. She declined, then I concluded she is POSITIVE.

I rushed down to a top hospital and explained what transpired, the doctor instruct me to rush to Federal medical center because they are more knowledgeable when it comes to HIV issues because of WHO and intergovernmental support.....

TO BE CONTINUED LATER THIS EVENING.

Please don't Judge me, we all are products of sin and mistakes........ Thank you!

This is why I choose to be sexually decent cos me I no fit use Condom and I mean I HATE CONDOM.

How do I even explain it that me that can't do without eating the snail down there will now use condom on my dck to penetrate the same place I have used my mouth to scatter... It just doesn't make sense.

Even ladies who give BJ will insist that the same man wears a condom... No be juju be dat?

tillaman:

You just have to give it to Naija artists when it comes to music our head dey there
This dude is freaking consistent always dishing it out back to back
He is living up to his name fireboy always on fire!!!
Ed Sheeran � one of my favs

Naija Don colonize the world with our music.

Rugaria:
But why are they all divorcing him Inspite of his riches and privileged position in the society?nis he that terrible a character? He laughs and talk kindly but it seems he's a terrible human being. I mean how many wives have gone now? 3 or 4? And he's still young! Haba na

This is one sign that reassures me that I'm doing something right cos no woman has ever left me and the one that threatened to leave sef came back begging.

I strongly believe that a woman will hardly leave a sweet guy EVEN IF HE IS RANDY.

Something is certainly not right somewhere.

Oh ooni is married to another lady...

This might be the main reason.

inioluwa03:
Osinbajo is the most qualified person

With direct primaries, he will most likely emerge as the flag bearer but with indirect primaries, Tinubu will most likely foster himself on APC.

This is why the NASS must override Buhari refusal to sign the bill.