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ghostboy:
So guys what are the things or signs that can make you quit a relationship without looking back?

There are some signs we see in our partners that are easily ignored or overlooked, maybe because these signs don't affect your relationship with your partner or maybe you think with time your partner will change.
But then there are the signs that can't be ignored or overlooked, so I'd like for you guys to share so people who exhibit some certain habit that's considered a redflag can readjust and learn to change some undesirable things about themselves.

A cheat and a lady with entitlement mentality

ShopSkincareWit:
If you're the one on your profile, you're so fine.

Tanku. Upon sey I hide my face lol!

50pseamer:
I would like to share my current situation on this platform , and I will very much appreciate your mature advice on the issue.

I have been having issues with my wife after our first born, we married about 3 years ago, our first born is now about 2 years old, we have been having series of issues In the marriage, my wife argues with me a lot on flimsy issues at times, we do not have constant sex, although I started helping more in the house,I cook and and I do the laundry , and asked her to give me my share of the work, when she complained about work load,I am the only one really working now, and paying 98 percent of the bills.

I told my wife that I will like us to be eating together on the same plate to improve closeness, she refused, she sees arguement as normal discussion, sometimes we have sex once or twice in a month, I have told her I will like us all to attend the same church and pray together, but she still attends her Nigerian church online , where they are always seeing vision , and I do not like her attending that church.she also attends online services of my church with me, but I would like us to be attending one church even if it is not my church.
I asked her recently that we need to be praying together for our marriage even if it is 10 minutes every day, after weeks of no response from her,I approached her yesterday and scolded her about it, she cried and I comforted her, I later asked her at night to come for the prayer,and she said she is not coming.
We live abroad and my mum wants to pay us a visit,
She told me the kitchen is her's and my mum should not enter the kitchen, and I told her that it will be difficult, we can pre cook all our food, But she might need to make tea and I will like her to be able to do that by her self , but my wife refused.
In her church she is attending they already branded. My mother a witch. Even if my mother is a witch, we only need to pray against it, should we humiliate her when she visits us? I cannot make my wife my mother, she does not show me much love and does not show that she cares, neither does she respect me. My mum shows me love that I can feel.

Now we are living like neighbours in the same house.
Do you think she is interested in the marriage or has another plan?

Please what exactly is the problem here cos I honestly can't find one.

Bro Marriage is all about tolerance and making compromises.

I think you are the problem here cis you are seeing issues where there is none.

Relax, love more, complain less and be tolerant. Laslas your marriage go dey alright.

It is OK to tear gas if situation is getting out of hands.

Let them just be careful not to fire live ammunition cos e no dey hard them.

luizpippo:
3some with two married women while they are on video call with their husbands.



Nobody should qoute me

No matter how the thing do you. DON'T EVER DO MARRIED WOMAN.

BigBashiru:
Are you suggesting that it's okay to born even if not married?

YES if menopause is knocking. Simple logic.

Interesting thread.

Many people may want to start sounding distant or hypocritical about this but the truth is that every human has a sexual fetish and that is what makes sex very enjoyable if your spouse keys in. Until you satisfy your spouse's sexual fetish, you are only wasting his or her time in bed so learn and practise your spouse fetish and he or she is hooked.

For me, just dominate me in an aggressive manner with special focus on the act of face-sitting and i am all yours. No matter what you do, please don't ever have the habit of waiting for me to initiate sex..it is an absolute turn off for me.

dre11:
When You Raised My Leg To The Ceiling, You Forgot? - Lady Fights Client For Refusing Pay After Action

This life no balance.

No be the same sex wey some Ladies dey beg for? Nah im some men dey pay for.

Iyaebe:
Please is it compulsory that a lady must know how to cook before marriage? What if her fiance accepts her like that, should she still entertain any fears or she should go learn before the marriage.

Nigerians and funny requirement.

As far as i am concerned, i care less if my wife can cook or not. I love cooking and i will continue to cook till i am old. Her ability to cook will only be a plus.

Ovamboland:
You're obviously ret.arded and this is a pointless thread. So even if it was siren that made some protesters jump in the river and drown or they fell while fleeing on Okada on sighting soldiers then we should hold the Army responsible.
Kindergarten kids have risen above your level of thinking.

Now look at this comment from one of the assumed ''learned colleagues' is the embolden even worth responding to? Who asks such a lame question?

If this ''Learned' comrade took time to read my post he would have come across the definition of the word KILL which can be defined as an action that directly causes death or that indirectly leads to death of a living thing.

And there wont be any need for him to write that very lame post equating shooting to sighting of soldiers. This goes to show how closed minded people can be so much that they will write just anything no matter how lame it sounds to justify their position.

Oceemo:
I have been reading comments and I see you are the one who is the the foolish one here and you have resort to only insults which peeps like you knows how to do to drive home your lies I have seen so many diplomatic questions they asked & u dodging it with foul words and insult, my conclusion is that u should be the one to hide your head in between your smelling thighs instead of insulting learned peeps here


And for my learned comrades here it's enough u can't force a pig out of mud so let the myopic op be please.

Guy se i am an intellectually sound mind and check everyone i lashed out at and go back to read their initial post that elicited my response. I have zero tolerance for people who just attack a writer and not the subject and that you have also done so i don't see you as well as your ''learned'' colleagues as reasonable.

When you lot learn how to discuss issues like ''learned'' people then i will be more than willing to have a logical discussion.

If you are as learned as you claim to be, you would have taken time out to read the post i created, comprehend and then give your submission but just like your ''learned'' colleagues, you are closed minded and a closed minded person is the worst type of person to have an objective discussion with.

II think you should go back and study the meaning of the word ''LEARNED'' cos the only thing you have showcased with your lame post is Foolishness of epic proportion.

If your so-called learned colleagues are indeed learned, they wont be asking me any ''diplomatic'' questions cos the answer is in the write up which they have chosen not to read and comprehend.

Iyaebe:
They are,I think they had supernatural powers too because I once had a preacher said about a prophet who has the energy to satisfy over 30 women at night. You know they lived a healthy lifestyle and they were strong, like giants or so.

Hmmmm!

chigoziri2403:
Is this guy truly this wealthy

He is not.

If you see anyone trying so hard to prove a thing then they are living a lie.

I'm not saying he is poor but he is not as rich as he portrays himself to be.

The real wealthy people don't show off or even try to prove anything.

Ovamboland:
You're obviously ret.arded and this is a pointless thread. So even if it was siren that made some protesters jump in the river and drown or they fell while fleeing
on Okada on sighting soldiers then we should hold the Army responsible.

Kindergarten kids have risen above your level of thinking.

I will make the same prayer for you.

It truly at least 5 people died as a result of the shooting either of live or blank bullets... The same fate will befall you and your entire household.

If you can not say AMEN to this then your case is settled.

Skyview01:
On point! Do not have kids if you have no resources to train. It is nobody's responsibility to train your child for you, not your brother, sister, or an unfortunate boyfriend.

The comments I read here shows that many of you guys have a very shallow understanding about life.

Life happens to people and the fact that you have money today to train 3 kids does not mean the same person with a little tilt of fate will not find him or herself not able to even fend for a child.

You guys should pray to God for wisdom.

Skyview01:
No, I disagree. The parents should take care of their daughters. It's hard to make money and I would not advise any man to do that for a lady except in marriage. Girlfriend? No way.!

I repeat, pray for GOD'S blessings and a giving heart.

Some parents are sooo poor that they can't even feed their children.

Is this hard to understand?

WibusJaga:


She looks much better. Can we see her bikini pics for better judgement.
But it's one thing to lose weight, but it takes greater discipline to maintain the weight.

Honestly especially if it is in the gene.

yinkaOdutuyo:
But she's in her parent house now, why will be feeding her when she's with me and be feeding her again in her father's house.

You got it all wrong and twisted. You wrote by yourself that they are poor to the point that they cant fend for themselves so to them you are the answer to their prayer.

You ought to even send some money to her parents to feed.

See Guy, i am a giver and i thank GOD for that and guess what...GIVERS NEVER LACK. Leave all these nairaland small boys who have no clue of what it means to be a man.. they think it is just by forming fake redpillers and sleeping with as many ladies as they can that constitute a real Man.

Honestly my only fear is the type of lady she is talking about her love for stuffs beyond her pay roll. Every other thing is ok.

Let me tell you a funny story.

About 26 years ago when i was in year 3 in the university i was dating one very beautiful lady. Anytime i go visit her in her hostel, she always serve me one tasteless concoction and one day i just got so frustrated and asked her ''Don't you have something better to cook than this concoction all time?

She started crying and that was the day i found out how poor her parents are. Infact i went home that evening and i cried like a baby. The truth is that this lady brings to school for the week just one derica of rice, some little maggi star and palm oil with N80.

I can't continue to tell you stories of how a lady shares 2ok upkeep money that her boyfriend gives to her every month between her parents and siblings. PEOPLE ARE POOR OUT THERE BRO.

The problem with giving is that only those who have a giving heart will do so without expecting the lady or whoever to maintain a status quo cos ladies do misbehave but you must grow above that level where you expect a lady to love you or to never leave you because you give her money.

No matter how kind you are to a woman or anyone, the person can still misbehave and treat you like shit but that must never stop you from giving cos the reward far outweighs what you get in response from the beneficiaries of your goodness.

I hope i made sense.

KiNg0G:
Oh lord , any sîmp in my bloodline like this op that will cause me future grievance, let it miscarriage.

You are either stingy or broke.

There is nothing wrong in helping a lady you love as long as she does not feel entitled. And the man must be prepared for any unpleasant surprises.

Even the wife you marry and spend on can still misbehave.

yinkaOdutuyo:
Pls I need your advice on this.

Since have being dating my fiancee going to 3 years now, I have being doing almost all her parent responsibilities.

I was the one that sent her to school -ND1 and ND2, I paid all the semesters school fees.

I also paid her 2 years rent, when she was in the school. All her handouts and school bills were paid by me. Even till feeding.

Her parent are just to poor, that they can't even provide what they'll eat for themselves.

I did almost everything within my power to provide for her and help her parent atimes with some little I can afford.

Now she's done with her ND programme, am planing to enrol her for a professional Catering Job, which is amount to almost 250k.

At times she come to my place and spent like 2weeks, 3 weeks or even 1 week with me.

So of a recent her mom asked her to come home and spend some days with them.

She now called and ask me for feeding money, but I was angry and I asked her, Can't your parent provide basic needs? Like feeding, clothes etc.[/b] You'll be in my house I'll provide what you'll eat and when you're in your parent too, I'll still be the one to provide what you'll eat. Didn't your dad go out every morning to go and work?

I just told her, that if her parent can't provide basic needs, I don't think is proper.

And again she's the type that want to wear what other ladies are wearing and want to up to standard.

And I didn't send any money to her.

I just want to know if am wrong for asking her that. because her dad is alive and mom is healthy, but they're always broke and no money, that they hardly feed 3 square meals.

OP i honestly do not see anything wrong in all you have been doing if you are convinced it is the right thing to do but the problem i have is with the embolden.

It is total insanity for a lady to have high taste if she expects her man to foot the bill of the high taste. That should have been a red flag for you.

Iyaebe:
Useless men everywhere, I pity ladies that give you people free sex all in the name of expression of feelings, even Adam couldn't touch Eve till God asked him to do something which serves as the bride price before he was allowed to touch her but some ladies wey nack head for ground will begin parting their legs over nonsense expression of feelings. Its unbibilical to have free sex,go and find out.So Oga Op if you can't feed her then leave her for her parents and go your way,you did not complain when you were winning your pelenge waist on top of her.

JESU!

Word fail me. So you actually attach monetary value to your body...This is gross.

Do you know that it is better for a lady to give a guy free sex than to put a price tag on it? You are precious dearie, no money is big enough to pay for sex from a woman cos her sexuality is priceless. Only a lady of easy virtue will ever expect a man to give her money cos they have sex.

Please i beseech you to wipe off this mind-set biko...

Iyaebe:
Shebi you've been having sex with her so stop complaining and do your responsibilities in peace or didn't you know she has parents before you start parting her legs endlessly and asking her to come spend weeks, months with you?there's nothing like free sex,even the married one's are directly and Indirectly paying for the sex,let's all stop deceiving ourselves

Babe you fall my hand o. You can do better than this habba! You really scared me with this comment.

Ovamboland:
What killed those 2 the governor confirmed dead? You're avoiding to address this deliberately. The governor said it was blunt force trauma, do military bullets cause blunt force? What did the autopsy report on these 2 say? Do care what it says?

I asked you not to force me to call you olodo but now I can see you are worse than that.

Your problem is your closed mindedness else you would have comprehended that what ever death occurred directly or indirectly as a result of shooting of balnk or live ammunition is attributed to the primary action.

So whether people died as a result of stampede, blunt trauma or even those who died at the carnal while fleeing from the shooting were all attributed to the shooting

I have chosen not to respond to any satanic stance made by anyone as regards the fact that at least 5 people died.

One thing I only feel like doing is laying a curse on them that if indeed nit less than 5 people died, that the fate of these people will visit their families so that they will realize that the dead one one child to a parent is worse than a massacre to them.

I rest my case

Nyascobar1414:
Wtf..
Nature has really smiled on her

That is the Ghanaian sauce for you. They hardly go old.

As they say in Yoruba... Ko si arugbo ni Ghana (No old woman in Ghana)

NwekeUG:
Popular Ghanaian actress, Jackie Apia took to her Instagram handle to celebrate her 38th birthday today, IgbereTV reports.

She shared new photos of herself. Her posts read;


https://www.instagram.com/p/CXGA4Kboe6R/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link


https://www.instagram.com/p/CXGCXSfI2OM/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

Jackie was born in Toronto Canada on December 5, 1983 by Ghanaian parents and moved to Ghana at the age of 10 with her mother.

I just have a soft spot for Ghana ladies.

Lol

Kobicove:
All those stories are not realistic

I honestly don't understand how on earth he will be able to satisfy all of them.

Even if he tries 3 a day it may take about a year to touch a lady twice.

Toks2008:
How on earth did one man cope with a thousand women as wives as well as concubines..? Just imagine one man with a thousand of these wonderful creations of GOD in different colours and curves.

I have tried to fathom how he satisfied all of them sexually...


Anyone with an idea?

Lalasticlala how far?

HappyPagan:
May the family of the deceased reward and bless you for the amazing work you have done on this thread. There is no doubt now in my mind that a massacre happened. God bless you.

If this is sarcasm or real I care less.

I have made it clear, I defined what a massacre is and I went further to explain the word "many" and killing.

I further made it clear with links to back up the stories that proved beyond doubt that not less than 5 died directly or indirectly as a result of the shooting by security operatives..

What else is there to prove? That because people were not killed in their hundreds so it is not a massacre but just minor deaths.. Come of it.

Have a great day.

HappyPagan:
Thanks for knowing my problem. Please answer my questions.

What stupid and lame questions?

Did you even read the write up before making your lame comments.

Go back and read again, comprehend then ask reasonable questions in line with what I wrote and I will respond accordingly.

You are so closed minded and I don't waste my time with closed minded people. They are toxic to themselves because they will never be objective and open minded to see the truth even if they are faced with undisputed evidences..

Lalasticlala let's have people's input nah abi una dey fear lol?

Happy Sunday.

HappyPagan:
Who are these five people? Can you name them?

The governor confirmed one death and if was as a result of a 'blow to the head's, not a bullet wound.


Who is this mom of three? Do you know her, or the children she lost? Did they live in isolation, far away from humans such that no one else speaks on their behalf?

Your narrow mindedness is your problem.

If you are too closed minded to read what I wrote you will kno wthe governor confirmed 2 not one and the other story corroborates the fact that over 5 people died