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FluxEmpire:
find someone better in what perspective... Do you go into dating loving someone for what she is or who she is? Was the girl in question blind on their first date and subsequent ones; didn't they go through the stages of friendship before actually becoming boyfriend and girlfriend and as such, was the friendship stage not enough for her to know he wasn't her dream man? We should ask her how she'd feel if places were exchanged rather than siding some baby mentality.

Well, maybe she wanted to just manage but just couldn't do it anymore.
She prolly hadn't chosen finally. Once anyone makes a final choice, they stick to it

FluxEmpire:
I've dated other ladies before and our reasons for the breakup weren't because there was somebody else around the corner... It was purely DISTANCE!!! A breakup shouldn't be at the expense of replacing one person for another all because you saw some physical features; it clearly means you never saw the worth of that person and decided to use the person to pass time till you get to your comfort zone...

That's shallow and a total lack of respect. There are certain circumstances that forces a breakup which is clearly understandable and not one party pushing for the breakup all because of selfish reasons. So, if a girl breaks up with you because your friend is richer, it sounds normal to you...sheesh!!!

Do you know if the guy would've been the richest man today if he never met her as his time, focus and resources would probably have been spent on doing something positive than give to a girl who has nothing to offer?

You're speaking of your own personal experiences.
But the truth remains that one shouldn't manage a partner, there won't be joy. Better to pull out and remain single. But there's a period of observation which can be called dating. If within this period you find someone better, will you rather choose to stay with the former person??

FluxEmpire:
did they force her to date the first guy....when has dating become trial and error or experiment. Let's take it for example that every woman on earth uses your analogy to date and test you. You spend lots on 5 women who dated you but left coz they saw another better guy like hers only for you to end up being bankrupt, would you date another woman who comes your way again?

Hope the only person you will ever date will be your spouse. How many instances does this happen among humans? So they are all doing trial and error because they didn't end up marrying. It's even better to be true to yourself and say the truth than give flimsy excuses in order to exit a relationship, which is what many people do.

Sorry I don't spend on women. Neither do I take ladies monies even though I've had offers where I could've taken advantage of their maybe generosity or desperation. I don't like being encumbered.

FluxEmpire:
I'd put things clear as apt as it is... If you say you love the second guy, then you never loved the first... You can't love two people at the same time; it's impossible.

If you wanna go for the second guy, then do so and stop using the first as leverage or collateral to keep whenever the new guy is unavailable.

Furthermore, you'd be doing more good than harm in leaving your first boyfriend because as it is, you clearly don't love him because love goes beyond what you just see physically. It's accepting one's shit and excesses and loving them for who they are.

Give your first boyfriend the respect he deserves by leaving him and stop loving him out of pity. You're only making him a lovelorn. If you actually knew that the new guy had all you needed in a man, courtesy states that you remain single till you get to meet such guy even if it takes 100 years but outta being lonely, you opted to date your first and now the man of your dreams appeared, the first seems to fade in your eyes...

YOU CLEARLY DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU WANT

Give the first boyfriend the honor he deserves and let a woman who is worthy of him be with him. You can't eat your cake and have it. Next time, carry a TO-DO-LIST about your expectations with you henceforth because it seems if another guy should sweep you outta your feet better than the second, you might as well put the second in the corners.

I might have been rude but pardon my unfriendliness; the TRUTH hurts.

How are you people trying to force someone against their wish?
Nobody is under any obligation to stay with anybody! Na by force?
Everyone should have freedom of choice but the only problem being that she alluded to having assessed the first guy before commencing dating, so what happened?Still, one cannot but go where the heart is, but if it doesn't work out then that's her problem

Foolish question. Lolzz

MTN tariff is strangulating majority of subscribers of the network meanwhile the CEO and management are making a killing. Such extravagant profit margin for services provided from dormant infrastructure should not be allowed.

Shukusheka:
It is not even a blackman thing, it is a reflection of races still battling with poverty. White people can afford to shift their interest into wildlife because they have attained a certain level of self actualization, they have lesser fundamental things to worry about.

And blacks keep trying to claim equality with their superiors

adecz:



Like many other lawyers & SANs,
these are the lawyers that corrupt
the legal system by bribing judges.

Imagine him claiming to buy goods
of N5m from the company that belongs
to a judge handling his case!!

You can never win against them
because they wine & dine with all the
judges of the major court establishments
in Nigeria.

They are the ones that negotiate
"Plea Bargains", when a public servant
steals N1bn & they will ask him to plead
guilty & pay N50m to government & go free.


Why didn't he make all these allegations
when he was under fire by Magu.


Magu is no angel, but this SAN is
just a disgrace trying to save his bad
name.

Is a judge allowed to be selling construction materials?

yrex01:
No this is why Nigeria can never b a better place with people like u . Obey the law of d land u shouting u need to be free.if u can’t smoke in a petrol station or make a call in bank bcoz but comes here to call some people names for punishing who violate the law you r nothing but biggest HYPOCRITES of all time.

And you will say you have sense. How does the way a lady dress pose danger to anyone's lives?
Retrogressive laws differ from sensible laws. Get that into your dead brain

yrex01:
because it doesn't promote nudity n immorality? even if you're a xtain, is that how mother of Jesus use to behave or does the Bible support nudity n immorality?

Let people be free. Ye hypocrites

SAMBARRY:


See fury

Only if the rage can penetrate the screen of my computer

Any woman that can do such to your mother is not worth your respect. Please get that clear and plain

gasparpisciotta:
Mr Governor, what excitement are you talking about? Maybe in the government house sha!

Or maybe in the homes of those that shared the palliatives meant for everyone.

You are trying to pretend to be connected to the masses when majority of Lagosians are groaning under the pains of bad roads and lawlessness perpetrated by the street urchins in the name of agbero.

You are not doing well sir!!!!

You're raising very important issues here
But excitement never featured anywhere in the governor's statement

SAMBARRY:
All these mummy's boys sef wey their brain still dey under their mummy's armpit

No maturity from the boy at all.cant he respectfully Tell his Mom to move back for peace to reign?

Awon my mummy said men.... tufiaaaaaa

See them all over the thread spewing rubbish

No common sense, they cannot make independent decisions without asking what mummy thinks about it.soon they still ask their mummy what part of the v@gyn@ they should put their preek inside

You're a disgrace to manhood
Which fúcking peace of shit!!!

socialmediaman:
Media want to defeat Obaseki even before the election.

Is there any reason why they don't want to defeat ize iyamu

Don't take that shit no matter what!

This idiot is lucky.
He still stood there when he could've been torn with broken bottle

IvarTheBoneless:




I am very open-minded and neutral.

Wouldn't rush to conclude he was innocent / guilty like some have done.

I WAS NOT THERE!

Being open-minded doesn't preclude having common sense. It means one's objective in one's judgement from fact presented

YES

Why is nairaland always the last to carry stale news when it has finished circulating.
Seun you better wake up lalasticlala minds44 etc

Shut the Bleep up
She wasn't raped.
Sperm didn't jump on her
She did have sex without penetration.
How she's still a virgin with pregnancy is her cup of tea

sodiqapril:
The real gist is the girl withdrew her case against dbanj but Kiki Modi and fellow devils parading as feminists wanted her to continue. Now the problem is when sega asked them (Kiki Modi , MissDSF and co to return the 1.6 million they illegally raised. They don't want to return the money and now they've resorted to send threats to sega and the girl. Last week there was a story of guy that commited suicide due to false rape accusation and I see a lot of nairalanders blaming the dead guy. The true story has confirmed by the girl is the guy had sex with her and broke up but the girl wanted a relationship, she then submitted her name to another devil that specialises in putting out names of rapists. The guys face and name was everywhere for a crime he didn't commit, the guy then begged girl to bring down his pictures but the girl told him blatantly that she was enjoying the attention. Which led the guy to suicide..you see most of these girls parading as feminists are demons and if nothing is done to curb their menace. a lot of irredeemable havoc will be wreked

If that be the case Sega is being economical with the truth

So transistor radios are still being produced. Phones sold for three thousand naira only have radios. Hope we won't claim to purchase each one for twenty thousand naira each

Openbusiness4:
first time am actually watching this woman speak. Never knew she was this eloquent, outspoken and intelligent. As funny as it sounds, this is some serious sheeeet. Every thing she said is true. We don't have a president. We really don't. People massacred in Kaduna, Buhari didn't visit; people massacred even in his backyard Katsina, he is not moved one bit, soldiers are dying every day like chicken, in fact I don't think there is any government in the history of this country that has had soldier casualties like this current Buhari regime. Yet, Buhari just doesn't care. But he jumps on the first chance he gets to Mali, because of protests in a country that we don't even have strong economic or political ties and gain from. Our first female fighter pilot died under the most tragic circumstances. If not for anything, but as little as having a conscience, a real president would have paid a condolence visit to her family even if for 5 minutes, and if he couldn't do a condolence visit, he would have taken it as a personal responsibility to attend her funeral, I mean, as a father that has a child too, there will be that inner sympathy. But NO, he's unbothered about anything, nothing moves him, no matter how demanding, nothing captures his attention EXCEPT COWS and his inordinate desire to have the Fulani Herdsmen from all across the world make Nigeria their homeland, even if it means their militias have to slaughter everybody else. We just have to tell ourselves the truth. That Buhari is a national calamity to the entity called Nigeria, the biggest leadership mistake a country could have. And it is now glaring for all to see that IBB was 100% justified to have done what he did. He saved Nigeria from an absolute calamity back then. Unfortunately, he came back and found his way to the seat of power through the most heartbreaking political SCAM in human history, the scam called "Change". That's why history is very important. If people knew the history of this man as a military dictator, they would never have considered such a man to even be a street vigilante leader, and not make the unfortunate mistake to elect such a man a Commander in Chief. Let him enjoy it while it lasts. 2023 is not far again. May God in his infinite mercies see us through the suffering of having a disaster regime in power. A man that takes responsibility for nothing whatsoever, always passing the buck to others. And for the record, I stand with this woman and agree with her totally. This man didn't run for office to help fix this country. This man just ran for office to enjoy the perks and pleasures of being a President in Nigeria and to further his agenda for his preferential ethnic group. I weep for Nigeria. In our history as a nation, we have never had leadership as bad as this. A complete leadership vacuum

Wow. She speaks conscientiously even on TV always. It is a most disheartening situation this country is in

This lady's thoughts were my first thoughts when I heard of the travel. This man doesn't care about a good name he just wants to enjoy to the fullest before dying

WandaMaximoff:
Looks like the selection process into the RRS team is more intentional than the general police force.

I've never heard anything negative about the RRS.

Any policemen can be deployed to and fro RRS

luminouz:
Your feelings dont build safe bridges

Let the experts do their work.

Even fresh bridges are done in weeks in developed countries. Those are the experts not these impostors we have here

This life is a mystery
There are many a pastor who do everything spiritually, seriously, focusly, piously name it but they no blow beyond their street
Here is indabosky having fun in da lord and blowing, living the life of a celebrity. This life no balanz well

What's unlucky about that??
People and their holier than thou pharisee character
You and her might jam in hell or she could even be in heaven while you in hell.
May her soul RIP

All these explanations as if they were there. I smell lies

Where are the bbnaija haters
I personally think they're lowkey trying to promote the show by feigning hatred for it.

The man is at fault. He doesn't want to stand up for his younger brother and he doesn't want to offend his wife. The idiot de even fear to confront the spoilt brats

Forget oo
Law is a fulltime profession. It entails a whole lot. It can't be done part time