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[color=#cc0066]Post the advice on the forums plz!!!!!

Well, I'll put my 3 signs:

- Them showing an interest in your well being after the break up. When it's been a long while since (not a few days).
- When they ask your friends/family questions about any partners or anybody you may be dating currently.
- When they remember the little things, that you should forget, like your favorite things, your habits, your perfume, and these details slip into the conversation. 'Yeah, you always had two ts of sugar and no milk in your hot chocolate.' [/color]

[color=#cc0066]A shout to all the virgins out there, ain't nothing to be ashamed about. I got love for all y'all [/color]

[color=#cc0066]Hehe, poster getting her own back! Go girl! If it's virgins you want, go get 'em!! [/color]

[color=#cc0066]This reminds me of something my ex told me, about keeping a t shirt of his I wore whilst at his place, saying he slept with it every night and never washed it since ,  well maybe he has now, but when we were together I thought that was sweet, and it still is.

And I remember his collogne, the worst thing is knowing the name of his collogne, I remember when I was in the 'needy' phase, I went into a perfume shop and sprayed 'his' fragrance all over my wrists and jacket. How I would smell after he cuddled me. But man that collogne is sexy , it's Unforgivable (for him) by Sean John, anyone else like it?

I understand too much what poster is saying [/color]

[color=#cc0066]When you don't doubt what you feel.[/color]

[color=#cc0066]Just when I thought finding the right guy was hard enough, now I gotta think about connection too?!?

Does anyone ever wish we could rewind back to the past when people were content with satisfactory relationships and marriages? We all think that what we see in the movies and big screen is now the rule, when in fact it is the exception. Being in a relationship isn't always going to be fireworks and love, it's hard work, probably boring at times, can be a drain, but it also has its high points too.

Now I gotta think of interests we have in common, physical attraction, education and life goals, but then if all of those meet, something such as 'connection' can throw that all away,

*sighs*[/color]

[color=#cc0066]Since this person is only advertising,

I thought this topic would be about giving out the wrong image, refering to the way women dress.

I was SO willing to comment [/color]

[color=#cc0066]Possible. I mean a skinny girl, it's not as i she's vulumptuous and the 'image' of a woman with her vulumptuous curves and generous proportions

Probably a teenage boy who started taking hormones (oestrogen) early. I watched the Tyra show and there was something about it on there.[/color]

[color=#cc0066]If my husband (I don't have one) cheated on me on a drunken night out with a prostitute, I might be able to forgive him, it meant nothing and he made a HUGE mistake but it meant nothing to him. However, if he actually fell inlove with someone, did nothing sexual with them, but always called the other woman, bought presents, jeopardised our relationship so that he can cater to her needs, then I don't think I can overlook that. Emotional infidelity is far worse, because in this case you are in love with someone who is in love with someone else, it's far deeper than just physical attraction, because hwilst maybe you can say 'if I lose weight' or 'get plastic surgery' he'd find me more attractive but you can't say 'if I adapt the other woman's mentality' or 'if I become her clone' you know?

I know this is someone else's topic, but I doubt there is going to be much discussed anyways from the OP.

What are everybody's else's opinions?
Do you believe emotional infidelity is worse than the 'one night stand/random sexual urge' type?[/color]

[color=#cc0066]There are other more dignified ways of proving a point![/color]

[color=#cc0066]cbase, man I wish all men could be as committed to their girlfriends as you 'were'. I think if you go and screw around ,you will regret it because you compromised your standards because of your feelings. Cheating is bad full stop, you didn't like it when it happened to you. If you must, maybe leave her so she will realise what she has lost but my prefered advice is to have an honest chat with her, telling her ALL your feelings and desires. I knew for a fact when my guy had gone that I might get tempted, but I knew I would never do anything to compromise myself. There WILL be temptations but to compromise yourself is a terrible thing to do to ones self and the other person in the relationship. I have to mention though, I would NOT have felt the temptation as much if at the stage we were at, my guy (at the time) was treating me right. It sounds like you treated your girlfriend with nothing but respect and love --- she took that for granted (it happens a lot in couples - as they say, you don't realise what you have until it's gone). Honestly, if my guy had been loving and caring instead of the uncaring, distant and awkward guy he slowly began to be, I would have been loyal to him. My ideal situation is to have one man and one man only, I don't care about attention, the only attention I want is from my guy.

Sometimes, it annoys me, how unfair love is, how people talk about girls being unfaithful yet you know you gave your all to your guy and he still disrespected you, or guys being unloving when cbase gave his all to his girlfriend yet she confused him and wasn't being completely honest to him.[/color]

[color=#cc0066]This is one of the very few things in life I feel that no advice can change. You honestly have to look independently at the relationship at hand. Would you two do anything for each other? It's not about HOW long you've been with or the things you've done, it is about the QUALITY of the bond between you. I believe you should have some doubts, but if you start to worry too much that can indicate lack of faith or trust in the relationship. You need both to hack the LD relationship out. You need to trust each other A LOT, not just like each other LOVE each other, and BOTH of you should truly believe that there is no one better. This will make it a lot easier on both of you if you already feel that the relationship is validated. If you don't feel this way, little things have an opportunity of getting in the way. You can also choose to ease off the relationship a bit during the LD part, so that you both have time to breath and decide what you want in future, otherwise, I don't see why LD wouldn't work, if the two are committed and love each other and most importantly mature enough to handle the ups and downs.[/color]

[color=#cc0066]Anything that is worth it, is worth the wait. Hopefully she is worth the wait, by rushing anything or saying anything obscene is going to diminish any chances with her, sorry, you just gotta take it at her pace. There are so many players out there, a girl has to be smart in the way she conducts herself. But because she is the one insisting on you being friends, unless you are sure SHE IS THE ONE, always keep your options open. During this 'friendship' period spend time trying to to get to know her for who she really so that you can make your own decisions too, so that after the friendship, you can decide if you really like her (after getting to know who she really is).[/color]

[color=#cc0066]Yeah we won! I was routing for Nigeria, it's just we have , had a rep for letting ourselves down in the past. But well done to DREAM TEAM IV!! Goalissimo!! 2- 0[/color]

[color=#cc0066]I feel sorry for your guy (assuming he too is being faithful to you). But I'm not here to condemn you, only to tell you to treat him the way you would want to be treated. Yes there is a high chance he might leave you, but it shows he was very interested in your virginity, but the bigger point is that you have broken his trust. If I was you, just to ease your conscience I would seek to tell him the truth as soon as possible. How can you go into such a serious thing such as marriage with lies or deceit. Think about it. It's not fair on the guy. (But did he say he'd only marry you on the condition you were a virgin?)[/color]