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[color=#cc0066]Hahahaha! We're all the same aren't we!![/color]

Kliplemet:
Nigerian girls DONT kiss

[color=#cc0066]I love, love, love kissing (and I know I'm great)!![/color]

[color=#cc0066]Also, something about virgin guys is very desirable, the ones who have pure will power and determination, coupled with an awesome libido. They DO exist, but as time continues peer pressure attacks them [/color]

[color=#cc0066]My only advice is to just be yourself. I know, I know it seems annoying to hear it again, but what is worse is a guy trying to speed up things, by acting like a gangsta or baller or hard dude when to be honest, he's a caring and loving guy.

I really appreciate honesty and nobody likes to be deceived. I don't think all virgins are shy, I know a lot of virgin guys (through church) and some of them are extremely flirty and are very very up to date, with the know hows of sex.

I don't think I can tolerate someone who is ignorant, however, inexperienced means nothing to me, because that's how everybody started, even with something as simple as kissing.

I believe if you want to start talking to girls, maybe start online, then gradually expand to girls you work with or see.

Getting a job has been proven to improve confidence, it's that whole '10 seconds to make an impression thing' and you don't have to necessary see that customer again, so you can be yourself. A job in retail is good for confidence, one in a electronics shop as an assisstant is good. One where you are allowed to actually have conversation with the customer.[/color]

[color=#cc0066]Aaaah I have been conned![/color]

[color=#cc0066]Firstly, who broke up with who, secondly, are you on speaking terms, thirdly is she seeing someone else, fourthly make an honest list of the things you admire in her, fifthly if returning to someone you should go with a mindframe that you are NOT gonna leave unless the other is being exceptionally terrible, because you'll just hurt them again, sixthly does she seem to want you back. Answer these and get back to us.

OR You could just tell us how it went since you posted this more than a month ago![/color]

[color=#cc0066]Am I the only one who got freaked out by the pic

At OP, I am assuming you are asking for her hand in marriage and not just her 5 digits?[/color]

[color=#cc0066]I never thought about this actually. Hmmm. I have seen people to place regular ads in the major news papers and also, why don't you ask your ex? (Is he depriving you of the number)?[/color]

[color=#cc0066]Gabrywyl ! Oh no she didn't!!![/color]

[color=#cc0066]I agree in the sense that sometimes advice can be damaging and we should be careful, but I believe it's good to get a wide range of advice, all types of people and their mentalities. I don't believe it should be filtered unless the person is talking about dire situations such as divorce, marriages, abuse in relationships and rape. Who knows who may be posting the original topic and if it's a 15 year old, they may want to know what other 15 year olds would do. We can't judge on age because some people are mature for their age whilst others aren't. I have seen thirty-something year old men writing 'You should leave your girlfriend, because a relationship with no sex is just friendship.' and at the same time read 18 year olds say 'I wouldn't leave your husband yet, first try and have a mature talk with him, and then tell someone who is a mutual friend to you both.' So you see it works both ways. I think we have to hope that the person who needs the advice, though is in a frustrated situation should still be able to apply common sense and logic to the advice given to them.[/color]

[color=#cc0066]Erm,  ok

I'll take any compliment I can get, direct or indirect. Yes, we women are a fantastic bunch I say!

Yes, everybody's different, and yeah depending on the environment you grow up in, you can turn out a lot different to your fellow man.

Same for women too, some women are shy-er than others, I mean city girls always have a reputation for being loud and fast-talking, whilst girls from small villages are shy and will never discuss certain topics.

YES YES! I know I am generalizing (sometimes it makes it easier to make a point!)[/color]

[color=#cc0066]I actually don't care, I was into my Dark Chocolate until my ex stole my heart, he's milk chocolate, but I really don't think I care, however, I haven't been that attracted to men who's colouring looks very 'mixed race' (light),  but I know there are some hot ones.

But love matters more, honestly![/color]

[color=#cc0066]PLEASE READ THIS My mother was in the same situation. She has been married to my dad for over 20 years. Basically, my father's side, were truly nasty to her, they'd have family meetings and ask her to leave the room with us (her kids with my dad). Also, they'd tell my dad to beat my mum (in order to keep her in line). Also, it was only about 3 years ago that my dad's side apologised to my mother. His sisters and his mother got on their knees and apologised to her and begged her to forgive them. I know my mum stayed with my dad because she too did not believe in divorce. I remember there were times when I used to pray my mum would leave my dad, but she's become so independent because of it, and stronger. I admire my mum's strength and I struggle sometimes to fathom how she coped before us kids were old enough to understand and console her.

I know you have prayed, but please continue praying.

About a year ago, they were arguing a lot, and an intervention was required, mutual friends tried to cause peace between both of them, they are OK now, but the distance between them has worked wonders. I cannot say whether my dad has cheated on my mum during this distance, but we have no evidence so it would be futile to worry. My mum does a lot of things she wants to do, and she doesn't need my dad's money or anything.

Because I have never been through this, all I can say is please keep praying. I don't believe my Dad was truly a God fearing man, he barely liked church, but keep praying for wisdom on how to deal with this situation. Please tell your friends too and don't try to handle it by yourself.

God Bless you, don't forget him. He HASN'T forgotten you. Everybody has their trials in their lives.[/color]

[color=#cc0066]I won't be suspicious as long as you're not showing any suspicious behaviour.[/color]

[color=#cc0066]WOW, bigboyslim, that is a direct insult!!!![/color]

[color=#cc0066]At the OP, all I can say, is ALL I EVER ASK IS FOR YOU TO LOVE ME!!! (and be faithful to me) lol Seriously, you can't judge someone by their looks, that's where most of us go wrong.[/color]

[color=#cc0066]If you kiss me,
you are affectionate
If you don't,
your mind is occupied

If you praise me,
I accept it but remain humble
If you don't,
I'm probably complimenting you

If you agree to all my likes,
I offer to help you out too
If you don't,
we've probably shared it 50:50
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[color=#cc0066]We need a virginity board!!! [/color]

[color=#cc0066]Go for the one you love, that's the easiest way. Because some stunning chicks get bad rep, and guys won't believe you if you say you've never had a b/f or never been that sexually intimate with several guys before. Whilst average chicks, some 'average' are aware of this fact and are even worse because they don't value themselves, and so they might actively search for more sexual encounters in order to boost their self esteem. You really can't judge using looks.[/color]

[color=#cc0066]Be upfront, tell her that it hurt your feelings, she'll probably try and make it up to you if she truly cares.[/color]

[color=#cc0066]My advice is to try not to think about all the years you two have been together, because in all honesty, those years could have mattered more to you than to him, and it sounds as if these are four fully committed years you dedicated whilst he still keeps returning to his ex or this girl.

I believe you should try and look at this situation independently, ask yourself if you are willing to continue a future with this guy, he isn't going to improve anytime soon. Men don't often change in the middle of a relationship, let alone four years into one, and you always being there with him despite this disgusting behaviour has proven to him he doesn't need to change to keep you.

I think some ultimatums are in call, though I don't want to seem as if I am running your life for you, all I will say is that he is taking you for granted, and you shouldn't have to put up with a cheater (that is what he is!) Not once, nto twice, three times, three strikes out, in fact maybe one strike's out in my book. By doting on the fact that you've been together for so long, you are further postponing a decision that needs action soon.

He doesn't appreciate you, any man who appreciates his girlfriend wouldn't treat her like this, and who does the other woman matter to Seriously, if you want him to stop seeing and talking to her (let alone giving her lifts to and from work) he should stop, if he cares about you, he won't argue back, he'll take on your concerns because he should have a genuine want to want to please you. He doesn't sound like he does. You're too good for this guy, seriously![/color]

[color=#cc0066]So, we're moving towards the ultimate gadget, it's a phone, mp3 player, digital camera, contact's book and pda all in one. Nevermind the brand, but this seems to be the pattern in which technology is moving.

Now I congratulate all these manufacturers for being able to create the 'ultimate device' but what do you consumers think.

Most of you will praise the fact that you now have only one device to carry or worry about or that it improves the convinience and there's less fuss, you may even say it's cheaper in the long term.

However, what happens when you lose this 'ultimate gadget' most of us have lost mp3 players, phones, pdas, digital camers or had them stolen before, but imagine if you lost the 'ultimate gadget', you could pretty much lose EVERYTHING in one go.

Your phone numbers and contacts,
Your word documents, cvs, memos, poetry, essays,
Your pictures, the memories of the birth of your first child, your 1st born's 1st birthday, your great grandmother's 100th birthday party,
Your collection of over 1000 music files,

So do you still they're such a good idea?


I realised this when I realised how much I value my ipod, and this isn't even the latest version with the internet options, camera, wireless and phone options. I thought how painful it would be to lose this one gadget of mine,

Discuss [/color]