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[color=#cc0066]In the romantic jokes section?[/color]

[color=#cc0066]HE HE HAR HAR! I can't believe I read this, though the initial poem killed me to read, I just quickly looked at it, some of the points in the extract below the poem I felt were slightly random, but you have point and the poem you have claimed to have written yourself, I believe is FAR more beautiful (if you can truly call a poem that) than the one you posted by the 'pro'.

I didn't know you were going to lead to making a point about the sowing of wild oats and lust, but somehow you have managed to make it.

Though, I felt distracted by the facts about war and at one point I wasn't sure if this topic was more dedicated to confusing lust for love or humans over time becoming more and more violent and greedy. I guess in a way, the two are intertwined, we are greedy with lust and maybe if we loved more, we could find what is true and what is ours and become like the pretty flowers you have describe.

Good effort!

Have a beautiful day![/color]

[color=#cc0066]I want the texts to come to me! [/color]

[color=#cc0066]Lol Deept!

Great match, I'm not a footie fan, but maybe because I'm biased, I stayed up to watch it. Loved every minute!

Please whoever made the 'Vanchicken' comment, be fair, the man defended us several times when the defenders left the box wide open. It was more the error of the defenders who shouldn't have left that area vulnerable. The goal keeper is the last resort! Anyways, I personally think they played amazingly, I was so proud in the first 40 minutes, though I spotted a few moments of complaceny afterwards. However, they seemed not to give up, even until the very end.

Was it only me who was shocked by the amount of grabbing, tugging, pushing and tripping in this match. You could feel the tension between the players, and MESSI just messed me up. He refused to be touched, big baby. Argentina deserved to win, because whether they played better or not, they managed to do something we didn't which was that they seized a crucial opportunity and coupled it with precision with the kick that ended as a goal, we had SO many more opportunities to score but our aim was off, probably from the pressure, it seems only until Argentinia scored did we start really trying for goals, before then, I believe more effort was spent on making the Argentinians look silly with 'show off' tackles and such (or maybe they were just silly in the first half). After watching the first half I was scared with the sudden realisation that as always, having the upper hand in the first half can come to bite that same team later on, maybe we got tired too early who knows. Man I'm Nigeria's biggest fan tonight. They rocked and I am so proud of them, more than you can ever imagine, they have brought football to my attention and have done Africa (if Africa wants to be represented by us that is) very well.

Safe journey back home to all the guys, Nigerian OR Argentinian!![/color]

[color=#cc0066]I want to cry! - Oh we played amazing, we just needed to have had better aim AND seized the numerous chances we had to score. I could go over and over it, but I think I'll just go over to bed

Obinna's cute,
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tRoOE:
Love concurs all

[color=#cc0066]There's a pun in that! Love Conquers all![/color]

bigboyslim:
Don't tell me you really believe that

[color=#cc0066]You know what, I do. Black men are currently the hot stuff of todays! I mean a few years back with Beyonce's - Crazy in love single, Black women climbed up a bit too, but then you know she went and bleached so 'em we've sunken back down. Much like even before then J-LO was making Latinos the in-thing,

Don't you agree, sex appeal of races comes in seasons. Though it doesn't affect me![/color]

Quote from Swiftycool

"Generally i realise Black guys are more romantic and attentive to white chicks than black ones
Most of my guys dating white chicks tolerate a lot of shit and really treat em like ladies with respect and all
They are mostly dedicated to pleasing the chicks in bed and other ways rather than themselves, thats why these girls die hard 4 them
u can immagine!All these things they take 4 granted with the African queens,
u might see it as inferiority complex and slavery mentality, methinks its real romance, they bring out the romeo in u!"

[color=#cc0066]I have seen this and it is slavery mentality, I do not believe it is real romance because how does being a 'white woman' bring out the romeo in you. The truth is there is an underlying feeling on being with 'someone better than you' for the black man, built from years and years of being told your own skin colour is disgusting, so when you've found what you think is a gem, you will cherish it, but when you consider you're black women as something to look down to or below yourself, of course you're not going to be 'dying hard for them'. The 'white' woman is seen as someone gentle, fragile to be protected and romanced, whilst the 'black' woman is seen as someone to be kept in line, someone to bare kids and stay at home and cook and wait on their husbands. We are seen as emotionless and tough *sighs*.

This issue really upsets me. A guy I know dumped his nice girlfriend for a 'white' girl who happened to have slept around, here there and with every other black guy, who was not serious in her faith, despite telling him she wanted to be. He looked SO inlove, like he had found a gem, though she flirted with other guys infront of him, though she had backup guys and she couldn't care less about faithfulness let alone his feelings, despite this she brought out the romantic in him, but it confused everybody because she treated him like crap, she didn't appreciate what he had to offer, and not long after him, she brought some other black guy into her life and crushed this guy. Now, I wonder if any black guy would tolerate, a cheating, disloyal, promiscuous black girlfriend?!?! I don't think so, white women have always been valued more, and this upsets me, you don't realise how hard I try not to hate myself and not to question God, why I was GIVEN the short straw.

It really does upset me, when I feel like a piece of coal in comparison to all these 'white' women. It really does, I hate to hear men saying that these women they go to extents for, just because of their skin colours? Man, I'm tired of it all, the fascination with the 'paler' species is getting me down. As a black woman, always feeling like I've got a longer way to travel than everybody else. Black men have it a lot easier in this sense.

What does make me smile though, is finding those white men who cannot resist. It shows me that sometimes you can't hide a gem no matter what packaging you put over it. I truly believe I am a gem, and if my skin colour means that you'll treat me as an inferior them I feel sorry for you.

Peace and Love x[/color]

[color=#cc0066]Because it's in fashion.[/color]

[color=#cc0066]Perform?!?! What is this perform thing? What do you mean by perform? If his ***** is perfectly functioning then what's the problem? I'm not asking for a world athelete or a pro who's obtained 'medals' from all his past conquests? I'm asking for someone who can just focus on the here and now and pleasing his wife. Really, who cares if he's a pro or not, it's the moment that counts, if you're more bothered about marking his performance skills instead of enjoying the moment, then obviously you will find errors.

Medical Problems are a different thing, totally. However, if it is something that can be treated, why not work through it, though if it can't be treated, I would have hoped that you both married each other for love first and so unless the love changes you still couldn't imagine being with someone else. Why has sex become such a big thing on everybody's agenda?? My answer; because everybody has been brainwashed into thinking that its one of the vital things for a successful relationship.[/color]

[color=#cc0066]THERE IS NOTHING WRONG! Sheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeesh![/color]

vivaladiva:
rather go to hell than remain a virgin

[color=#cc0066]Wow, this statement just scares me. Words are powerful and I really can't help but feel sorry for you.[/color]

[color=#cc0066]Just some more to add onto the long chain of excuses people make![/color]

[color=#cc0066]SLAP THEM IN THE FACE!

For a long time, we have accepted this lame ass excuse from men and women.

But you know what's the worst thing? It gets you feeling sorry for the person, as if they truly have a problem and then that's when you're introduced to the new girlfriend/boyfriend or even worse to his spouse who he has been happily married to for the past year whilst you kept the 'could have been a wonderful husband/wife if not for his/her deep issues' image of your ex in your heart!!!

Now, there are very few people in the world who have genuine commitment problems stemming from psychological problems. There are VERY few people who can not physically stay with one person, as for 99.9% of the rest of the people, they just use this as an excuse.

Most of the people in the world get married at some point in their lives, whether they divorce later is a separate matter. The truth is not that your guy/girl is afraid to say I do to anybody, he/she is just afraid to say it to [size=20pt]YOU[/size][size=18pt]YOU[/size][size=14pt]YOU[/size]YOUIt echoes!!

I hate to say it dear, but you just haven't captivated their hearts, they may tell you sweet nothings and say, all the 'if onlys' in the world, but the truth lies that you are with someone who just doesn't see themselves having a future with you. I know it sucks to hear, but I am SO glad I heard it.

Yes, back to the ex, My ex. He said he didn't think he could commit, after asking him what the reason was for him becoming distant and dragging this breakup out, he finally said it and I was ready to attack anything that came out of his mouth, but as soon as he said it, I felt nothing but pity. He added a sullen look to his face, drooping down and staring at his lap. Maybe he had even convinced himself that that was the case. HA!

Now looking back I realise that that was far from it, I am sure his 'phobia' was far from his mind, when he was telling me he'D like to be married with children by his thirties, or when he told me that he felt like he's known me forever or that he wanted to be with me forever. Obviously that was when he was very much in-like with me.

Now, that he's over the whole relationship, he suddenly realised this HUGE phobia standing in his way. Of course his first girlfriend cheated on him, but still, that didn't stop him sayind he wanted a future together. Surely, the hurt from his first attempt at love scarred him for life? Psft! I repeat most people will get married at some point in their lives, you just need to be the one who wins them over to the idea!!

Guys and girls, don't fall for it. Move on, there are a million people out there who would love to live with you for the rest of their lives, you are a blessing to at least one other person's life! Have hope, this person keeping you in limbo is not the best you can do, I don't know you and I believe it and so should you!

I laugh when I look back because one of my male friends told me his girlfriend wasn't ready to take it to the next level, and he mentioned that she couldn't give a clear reason. Now, first of all I thought, she's probably scared. But then I got to thinking, and I thought scared of what!? If I thought I had found my dream guy no matter what ever stage I was in my life, I would be ready to start my future with him. I felt my friend was being made to wait whilst she kept one eye looking for a 'better' option. Now, he deserves better than that, a woman who has both her eyes on him and only him. I told him too to give her the same ultimatum despite how he felt for her, because like I will always say, always better to start off with someone who is 100% confident in you being 'the one' than someone who goes into anything unsure or with doubts.

I know that we are human and we have doubts, but I also know that humans are quite fickle, we all want to believe in the truest of love, and so when the signs of it appear, we can't help ourselves but to surrender, if you're ever left wondering if you can be with someone for the rest of your life, you're either not mature enough or you've got one eye out looking for something better, it is very unlikely that you actually have a genuine problem (committment phobia), because I am sure that as soon as that hot stuff walks in and captures your attention, the sound of wedding bells will enter your ear and it'll be a story of 'what fear'?

It's sad that I had to work out for myself that the guy wasn't all that into me, I am glad I did, but it is better than live in denial and wait until he was ready and sure about me, by that time I am sure he would have been 'sure' about a lot of other girls.

Lastly, don't wait for anyone, if anybody truly loves you they won't use that sorry excuse for something serious and they will tell you from the get go any problems or fears, because they wouldn't want to jeopardise what you guys might have, by telling you at such a late stage where you may go to break off the relationship. If anybody makes you wait for them, then they better be worth it, and must have come to an agreement with you what is to happen in the in between stage because the last thing you want to do is to be waiting for someone who now seizes his new freedom and jets off with his new wife to be.

I apologize for the length of the post, but I hope it helped. *It took 25 minutes to write*[/color]

[quote author=a.A.K link=topic=161715.msg2689602#msg2689602 date=1219359175]I discoverd that even if men cheat it' because of bad experience thay've had with women.[/quote][color=#cc0066]I agree with this part, that is ONE reason, another is just plain encouragement from friends that the guy shouldn't be tied down to one girl. Another reason why men (I know, I know, women cheat tooo!!!) is that men don't like confrontation, instead of starting 'the talk' of why they gotta let you go, they would rather do anything than bring tears to your eyes, not realising that cheating brings far more pain than just tears.

My ex said his first ever girlfriend cheated on him with his best friend, and then he said ever since he's cheated on every girlfriend he's had, as soon as I heard that stupid break up excuse I didn't need to ask anymore 'why are you leaving me questions', the last thing I saw was a trail of dust behind me as I sped off in the opposite direction.

CHEATING IS A CRIME!![/color]

[color=#cc0066]It's what gets my blood boiling. You know, just how some people have a passion for sport, or food, I have a passion for passion

I like knowing that I'm not the only one with these stinkin' issues with 'love'.[/color]

[color=#cc0066]Oh no! I can't get in on the action because she editted the OP :S[/color]

[quote author=j-girl link=topic=162294.msg2689957#msg2689957 date=1219369770]I'm still waiting for someone to tell me what's so special about a virgin jare.
If someone can prove to me that the possession of a hymen is a supernatural ability. I'll be happy to hear it.
However, your friend shouldn't go and make the biggest mistake of his life marrying a virgin who will make life absolutely miserable for him.
I think he should focus more on character.[/quote][color=#cc0066]It isn't a supernatural ability but it can say a bit about the person. I have a few reasons if you want some:

- They haven't had sex with anyone else but you, so the connection is independent of anyone else, it isn't even on a scale, you're not the best she/he's known, you're the only (which makes someone feel special and less insecure).

- In terms of personality, they have been able to resist the temptation of sex, which is really difficult, believe me, anybody can get sex these days, anytime, anywhere, if you're above the age of 20 it is probably not from lack of opportunity I believe.

- In the religious sense, they appear to have strong faith, well at least they are adhering to that rule (if not the others), because in this modern day they could choose to accept that unwanted pregnancy is much more possible and that 'rule' is old fashioned, therefore adopting sex into their relationships. Lets also remember that a lot of 'modern' Christians now think sex in relationship is okay (as long as you looooove the person you're with).

- They can appear to be very strong-willed people, who don't mind doing it their way even if everyone says they are being old-fashioned or odd. This can be viewed as a personality trait.[/color]

[color=#cc0066]This advice is useful to both women and men, just take out the obvious male references [/color]

[color=#cc0066]Acid this, acid that! Sounds fun! Is it like a water fight sorta thing?

Then we have someone else talking about 'the in between your legs', what is the world coming to!? Live and let live![/color]

drrionelli:
@topup:
Delightful poem! And a clever way to address the issue, as well!

[color=#cc0066]I try! Hehe![/color]

[color=#cc0066]I believe we do reap what we sow, but in different ways, maybe he will get a virgin (for what, I don't know, you never clarified), however, he may find other areas in his life lacking of suffer as consequence. If you don't believe in God at least believe in Karma, is what I say.[/color]

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[color=#cc0066] I misread this topic, and expected it to be about the things you miss not being a virgin,

$Rhino - if you're gonna use the word sin, at least use it correctly. Now how is being a virgin a 'wrong' doing? It is the way you were born, now were you born wrong? [/color]

[color=#cc0066]Lovely.


Hate to be really self-centred (well, not really hehe ), BUT!! Aren't you always talking about no sex until marriage? Have I confused you with someone else? If you're just being honest though. I respect that.

I wish the best for you two, and even though there is no guarantee in the future, you are willing to say these things about another human being. You truly are a romantic and I hope you let her know these things, it's not enough just saying them, it is good to be a man of your words also.

All the Best.
God Bless.[/color]

[color=#cc0066]The whole thing about 'the male brain', girls lets be realistic, if a guy is really into you, he'll pay attention to you, into you as in he is head over heels with you. However, over time guys will get complacent, because they are used to you, it doesn't mean they don't care, but they will get used to you and the tiny details about you become less of a priority in their brains.

I remember with my ex, he remembered my shoe size from the first time we spoke, he remembered the name of my village/hometown though it's name's really random and I don't even talk about it, he remembered a lot of thing, in fact he asked a lot of questions in a desperate attempt to know me and get closer to me, but then as the relationship went on, he couldn't remember me telling him I'd come over to see him, and then funnily enough, he couldn't even remember telling me he loved me LOL! Yeah, that just shows you a little peek into the mind of guys.

If they truly love you and value you, the little details matter to them, but as soon as you become permanent/casual in their lives, they get comfortable, and don't listen as hard, because these little details won't determine whether you'll stay with them or not, because you would have already been with them for months and so they are more relaxed. It's not just guys who do this, this is the norm! It is human nature, in the first moment of meeting someone you try and listen hard, but then over time you become more relaxed around them, if you miss something they say, you're not begging them to repeat it. It's not only guys who do this girls do it too, however women just seem to think it's a bigger deal if their guy doesn't hear something they've said. Whilst I think guys just let it slide, it doesn't bother them much. They are probably honest and realistic enough to accept that not everything they're saying is keeping you at the edge of your seat [/color]

savanaha:
On her behalf she's just a mad black woman. Tyler Perry touched on it in his movie with Madea so watch it

[color=#cc0066]Man I hate that term, mad or angry!![/color]

[color=#cc0066]This is probably going to be one of those topics which the OP opens a can of worms and then is never to be seen again![/color]