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[color=#cc0066]I miss mine because; 'it's complicated' and because I am a very sentimental person anyways, and it was the first relationship I gave my all to.[/color]

[color=#cc0066]2 years and she is still calling? Since this is an old topic, it's almost 3 years, I wonder if she's still calling, [/color]

[color=#cc0066]I actually have no idea what you're talking about [/color]

nuggard:
topup, after reading some of your comments I would have sworn that you are my ex, except that she's never surfing the net.
But then, I would love to think that I was more than the idea of having someone to do romantic things with, gist with and care for. I still keep asking myself if I am willing to "settle" for someone else.

[color=#cc0066]Settle as in? Compromise? Do you want your ex back? Anyways, it gets easier everyday , I did something very nauthy today and so I'm going to have to reset my 'ignoring my ex' count to zero again![/color]

[color=#cc0066]This has confused me more, I thought I was hourglass, but now I might be a vase, [/color]

[color=#cc0066]I think if your partner truly loves you, he would want the best for you, suck up his pride and insecurities. If she truly loves him, who knows, they could be together forever, I mean I can imagine doing something like that if I felt that I found the love of my life and didn't want anything to jeopardise that, however, things change all the time, they may grow together they may grow distant. Until they are fully bound together (by marriage) do I think she should really make such a rash decision. I mean if he leaves her she would most likely regret losing her contract. It's also silly for a woman this day and age (with so many doors open for us now) to completely rely on her man to provide everything for her.[/color]

[color=#cc0066]If you can't marry the person you love, why marry at all?[/color]

[color=#cc0066]Yes I agree with most of what has been written above, however, I meant the innercircle. Not just friends, I make friends with everybody, I try not to judge people, however if his two closest friends are player 1 and player 2, then I can almost guarantee that he is player 3 (that rhymes ),

That's what happened to me, I bought all the 'I'm not like my friends crap' but when it came down to it, they either influenced him so much that it affected our relationship, or he was very much like them, that that affected our relationship. Eitherway, having jerks as your best friends says a lot about a person.[/color]

forbidden5:
Topu up,

I think you need to be as flexible as water and air. I never want to get beaten. I go ahead to predict the end from the beginning.

In as much as there are chances that a guy may not be the group he hangs out with? Why in the world would you want to bend whom you are for something lower. Principles should be altered to be improved upwards and not turned down.

You Know who you are,
What you are made of
Dont Push It

Once a girl does not meet up what it is, then it is no use.

Bad company will always corrupt good manners either in a minute or for a millenium. In the end the good manner would have been contaminated, beware.

I think you are not a beauty queen-one that men dream of. If you are, then you would not worry

[color=#cc0066]I'm quite confused by this post, as I never said that I 'bend whom I am for something lower'. Yes, you are right it is good to know who you are. You see the direct story, is I went out with someone who claimed, they only smoked socially, and with their friends. He had these two guys who had girlfriends but cheated on them all the time, can you see where I'm going with this. I guess he couldn't fathom the idea so he left me, but he knew he could easily be influenced. I mean they we're the 'big' boys and to be honest, all his friends were players, and I think they all fed on each other's insecurities, they weren't the best looking guys on campus, just an ordinary bunch who loved to seek for 'preys' (urgh! that word again!).

I have been through the whole peer pressure thing in highschool, been there, done that, it does nothing for your character.

Still confused about this: "I think you are not a beauty queen-one that men dream of. If you are, then you would not worry" - you're saying that if I was good looking men would treat me right? If that's what you mean, let's take a look at Halle Berry, she's considered beautiful but her husband cheated on her, there are many cases, Please explain further, [/color]

[color=#cc0066]The body can be achieved through other means, whilst the face, you're born with that.[/color]

[color=#cc0066]There are some interesting concepts.[/color]

[color=#cc0066]I already have respect for you, if you hadn't felt it yet then don't force it, no doubt it'll come. It's easy to get sex anywhere, anyplace, anytime these days! Being a non-virgin says nothing about the person, much like being a virgin says nothing, though people will joke.

I completely understand how you feel, though I would multiply that by 10 because guys are harsher on each other than girls are. I know you didn't ask for advice, but I would sincerely try and not venture into the world of sex for the sake of it, if you haven't been inclined to have sex with any of the past girlfriends or female friends you liked in the past, then to me that changes nothing about you.

Being a virgin is not a crime, being an ignorant virgin is what people tease people for, if you know how your body works and the basics of sex, then you're really like everyone else.

I know a lot of guys who wish they were virgins, seriously, of course they brag about not being one, they often wish they could go back to the time when they saw sex as something meaningful and something special. A lot of them also can't be in a relationship without being too tempted.[/color]

omoniarami:
It ended terribly because i still loved him so much but he unfortunately stopped loving me ever before it ended.To crown it all, he broke up with me over the phone. I'm trying to get over it by making more friends but never to go into any relationship until i have totally gotten over him.

[color=#cc0066]I completely respect that! That's what I'm doing right now! I truly respect anybody who instead of inflicting pain on unsuspecting people (by entering into a rebound relationship) they're dealing with the pain themselves, and when they are over the person, do they then enter a relationship. That's what I'm doing, it's hard though because one guy who witnessed how my relationship went, is really upset that a guy would do that to me, and he is trying his best to make me see how he can make the pain go away and how he is the one for me. But whilst I genuinely love the attention, I need to have a free mind to decide whether I like him, there's no point going into yet another relationship, where it's based on how the guy makes me feel and not who the guy is. I don't want to hurt his feelings, but at the same time my excuse is starting to get lame, almost 3 months after the relationship and still saying 'I'm trying to get over my ex first', Good luck to you, to us![/color]

[color=#cc0066]About malice, I have found that malice is most effective when you're in a relationship with a guy who isn't mature. As for the mature guys, you are able to open up and discuss openly, your truest of feelings.[/color]

[color=#cc0066]I actually understand what you mean and feel. Sometimes when you're going through unbareable pain, everything else seems miniscule in comparison. Please still try and keep your boyfriend's emotions in mind for the future, as for now I think the 'not caring' aspect helped because you have told him major information (finally!!) and better now than later.[/color]

[color=#cc0066]At first I was going to comment on the fact that after 2 months, I don't think I'd be thinking about going to the altar just yet. But I know that's a big lie!! If the guy seemed to be ticking all the right boxes then I seriously might believe my future is sorted, though it's not smart to think this way.

2 months? Hmmm, well if I felt that I wanted to marry the guy then I wouldn't leave him for ANYBODY, I've been tried and tested, the guy I had a major crush before I went out with my ex starting hinting heavily how attractive I was, how beautiful I was, basically he suddenly was into me, and at that time I found him more attractive than my guy, but I knew what my guy was giving me in terms of his love, trust and the whole package was not worth losing.

My advice is don't rush anything, let time do the work. Of course I am not with the ex anymore now, and the guy I was interested in is still coming onto me, but if I hadn't stayed in that relationship and tried my best to make it work, then I would have immense guilt, especially if he truly loved me. Also this guy now who's sending all the signals could be fake, we could end up disliking everything about each other in the first week.

Who knows.

All I know is that I would never jeopardise what I have with someone at that moment for a fantasy, a thought, something that is mere fiction. NEVER.

Emphasis on the 'I think the relationship might lead to the altar' lol why would I want to jeopardise that?

(Though a lorra lorra people do!)[/color]