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Starz825:
It's not even about being a good man
Confession and Repentance is key here...that's if they are christians...
Everything is not violence
The same reason why Jesus did not allow them to stone that adulterous woman in the Bible...

What if it was the man that an affair, impregnated some other lady and not the woman....
Everybody will say it's normal..sort yourselves

Now...the dude still like his wife ....the mother of his children, the psychological effect on his kids staying away from their mother at this early stage...
Those are the things bothering him...

He is weighing his options....

It's so easy for you all to sit and tell him to scatter the marriage....

take your wife back when she get some dck outside and gets pregnant, and let us inconsiderate folks rest. Cheers

Justbehave:
And so? Why did the op pregnant another woman? Is he not also a human being? You simps will always look for ways to worship women and I have come to realise that is because most of you simps are being fed by women so they must do everything for pussy. Men like us take charge and even there's no woman our kids live and are happy. I have 3 kids and no wife and they are looking handsome and healthy.
Be a man.

guy no dey explain to that guy abeg. Na more questions he go dey take reply your explanation, I sabi am here well. Not all men are the same jare. Na as he know, he talk.

baralatie:
One as a person you don't bail on your woman who has 3 kids for you in the name of divorce to feed herself,pay house rent and fend the kids .....what are you trying to prove

Two as a father will a father bail on his kids


Three let us vaguely assume that the husband before reconciliation had knowledge that she was already pregnant what would he do ?

to you. Do you.

Justbehave:
You are the deluded one here. Assuming you lost your wife during childbirth. What happens to the baby? How will you protect him or her from harm?

he has a lot of wildly unpopular opinions. It's allowed. Lol

baralatie:
You are not even in the position to even do jack as long as you dey grind for outside sef?

alas you didn't read. Read again.

baralatie:

I find this funny that y'all shouting repercussion,no forgiveness,she can poison,and all that do not have a solution on how to protect the 3 kids that belong to the op from harm!

yea, I like how you have unpopular opinions,which you are entitled to. You can handle it your way if such happens to you, however, some of us have redlines, that absolutely must not be crossed, kids or no kids. I am first a person, before a father. the wife did this, not him..The kids will understand. Cheers.

baralatie:
What is the serious repercussion?

read the post I made after this one you quoted.

Elsueno:
Da hell is wrong with u, U want him to find out after sacrificing years of his life to care 4 a child only to be abandoned at end?....I do not cheat on any woman....but d moment she cheats on me, dats d end of d relationship, No amount of apology or pleading go save it even if she comes together with Jesus himself!

co-sign! Back in the day na me be textbook definition of playa. I get excess supply of babes, but never did I have anything to do with a married woman, cos I truly believe marriage is sacred. I don marry now 7 years, I no step out on my wife. Na conscious decision and effort I dey make everyday to keep my vows. E no fit happen to me, but if my wife did this (lai lai e no even fit happen) that is the end. Not just strafing o, strafing sotey belle form, even if the angel wey convince Joseph to accept Mary show for dream or real life, e go collect!

Starz825:
I just went back to read all of your topics...
Very interesting...
You don't even write like one who didn't see the four walls of uni....
I appreciate your writings...

I understood your story and here is my advice...

You mentioned that you don't want divorce..
You are a good man like somebody said up there....
Now....sit your wife down..... explain everything to her....
The father of the child should come and have his daughter.
Now if the father is no where to be found...adopt the girl....

Infact...... Adopt the baby...that's my advice...
Everything will be settled in the future...
Treat the baby as your own...

That's all..
Thanks

Op do not follow this advice! The world is turned upside down due to this 'everything goes, no repercussions' mentality. Fact is something horrible was done to you and the family by your wife and there should be serious repercussions. If you like be forming 'good man' when the next shoe drops you go know say no trophies dey for 'goodman-ism'...that is if you are not deleted like someone has already rightly hinted you here

Ajala101:
Have been thinking aloud lately... I don't know if it's possible or the right approach to take. Is it possible to start a logistics business in Canada. Don't know if $10,000-$20,000 will start a mini logistics business. I'm thinking of going into business while my wife pursue her nursing dreams. I'll appreciate your opinion
Ednut1,1stGenAmerican,Lanresz,Treadway

Ednut1 may be able to help with that. I am not in Canada. Cheers!

1stGenAmerican:
According to other Nigerians, they aren’t but op insists that they are however he hasn’t provided anything to back his word up.
In Canada, they earn between $15-$35 per hour and a benefits package. They’re covered by Government Occupational and Safety Hazard Regulations among other things and the Canadian government guarantees that they’ll be paid on time each pay period.
https://www.jobbank.gc.ca/marketreport/wages-occupation/23334/ON

some certainly do make up to that amount, majority of them just don't know how to manage or handle money, so they don't have a full grasp of what comes in and what it could accrue to. Transporters (drivers and conductors) actually make ok money, they just don't know how to properly handle said money.

CountVersailles:
There is a lot of problems with your points. Before stating them, let me tell you a story.
You see, there was once a boy in Nigeria who loved to program. That’s all he wanted to do. He started doing this a little early and was trying every step of the way to be better. On the other side, he was trying to get admission into university, but couldn’t make the JAMB cut-off for some of his desired institutions. This was turning out to be a problem for him, as his parents continued to pile pressure on the young boy. He kept failing JAMB and was nearly at the point of giving up. Soon, he started tell his parents that he wanted to leave the country to try education options abroad. Since his parents did not have a lot of money, this was turning out nearly impossible. After several trials and basically using a rogue agent that managed to work things out for him using a jumble of documents here and there, he managed to get a visit visa to the US. The boy took off and started hustling in the US. His visa expired, but he continued staying on illegally until someone he managed to regularize his stay after several years. Remember, he still hadn’t gone to school. But fortunately for him, he kept on with his programming efforts and after a while managed to secure his first programming job in the US after several years of working in restaurants. Nobody asked for university qualification from him. He could do the job and so they gave it to him. He started working his heart out, coding everyday and became even better. His programming skills improved a lot because he was working in a fast-paced company. Today, this boy is working with Google and earning a fat cat salary. Please note that this boy still hasn’t gone to school even today.
Why do I know this story? It’s simple. The boy is my brother.
I ask myself everyday if he would have been able to achieve this if he had stayed back in Nigeria. And the answer is a very big NO. First, they would have asked for his education, which he didn’t have. And he was already at a point of complete demoralization in NIgeria from failing JAMB that I don’t think he would have survived one more year.
Why am I telling this story? Because in all this analysis that you put up there, you are removing the critical component of available opportunities. Even if it is possible to make this money you are quoting in Nigeria (which I don’t even think it is, and that’s why I’m not arguing from that perspective), I want you to tell me how many such opportunities truly exist. Or in fact how many people will get those opportunities. You are talking about a country where nobody even gets that dollar at the official rate you have quoted. Somebody who has absolutely nothing is likely to continue to have absolutely nothing. If no one has somebody to buy a car for them to do Uber, where do you thnk they will find the money? They are more likely to go and steal to get the money that they are to go to a bank. Which bank will even give it to them?
If you go to America today and you want to become a truck driver, it is TOTALLY UP TO YOU to do it. The resources will be presented to you and if you don’t do it, it’s your decision. You are hardly hampered by any societal construct that makes it impossible for you. You are literally walk into any bank (if you are legally staying) and get the resources you need to start out. You can take a loan and go to driving school and then figure your life out from there.
I can’t emphasize even more how important this is. Forget all these naira you are quoting. It is meaningless when there is no opportunity. Absolutely meaningless. If you are looking for a reason why many people are corrupt in Nigeria (of which many are), this is your reason. The absolute lack of opportunity. It pushes people into becoming the monsters they have become.
I rest my case here.

I may not agree with you on many things, but the points you raised in this write-up, I certainly can't fault. Cheers

From way back when I was an undergrad, any babe wey come my side, if she go pee and I no hear sound of water say she dey clean up, I dey usu chide and educate them afterwards. Aside from a UTI or STI, any woman dat does not wash up after peeing is very unsanitary and will have a pussy that stinks. I be Christian, but even I clean up after peeing. It makes women more relaxed to give you head anyday anytime when they know you are sanitary..lol. All my girlfriend's in Uni were Muslims,,dem no even get choice but be neat down there.

iykofias:
This was how they all hyped Invictus Obi, we all know how that story end

you took the words right out of my mouth. Lol

naijaboy99:
Thank you. You mean this America?

https://finance.yahoo.com/news/58-americans-less-1-000-090000503.html

my guy, I dey tell you say for Nigerians it is possible. See that article, it is accurate, but won't be the reality of MOST Nigerians or other Africans who grew up with a diff culture, including financially. Tru tru most of the white are shit poor cos their countries actively shackle them with a credit culture. They simply don't know how to save! But most Nigerians and Africans come from a saving culture, not a credit culture. We save, and buy what we want and typically pay in full, and assume full ownership. They don't...and yes some Nigerians are getting sucked in as some have admitted here, one year and already jumping into debt, loans, mortgage and all that. That will be the new trend, just watch. 9ja people and follow-follow mentality na 5&6! Lol..Gbese ro won lorun. The verse in the Bible is my guide. The borrower is a slave to the lender! In Business, the key word here being business, using OPM (other people's money) makes sense at some point. It is called financial leverage in business. Having a levered business helps with some savings tax wise and in other ways too,. But for now I relish the fact that all I have is mine 100% including my business. Maybe when it grows to a very large level, I can add financial leverage. Oyinbo and some 9ja now, don't do that.. it is debt debt debt, not even for business, but for luxury. The mortgage could have a business angle (rental income) but it will take decades to make sense when you do the math, that is if your wife no use separation/divorce collect am from you before jungle mature sef..lol. So, again I say for Nigerians with their head screwed on properly, it is possible.

naijaboy99:
I am not discouraging anyone. I just know it is impossible to save 30CAD daily because that is 11,000 CAD annually which over 60% of Canadians don't have. Thanks

this man sef. Hehehe. Why you no just wan gree say e dey possible na??

Brexxit:
So what is your point exactly that Nigerians should not travel overseas again and continue to endure nepa power outages, ASUU strike, kidnappings, unemployment,bad roads, human rights abuses,Fulani herdsmen crises?

We all can't be 2 by 2 shop businessmen.

read na. Ok maybe cos I wrote some things in Yoruba, let me clarify. I say make everybody wey wan cut out quick cut out, so that the Forex palaver will start resolving. I say hopefully e no go be idiot like Emefoole go take over. I com say I dey find like 15 million pere wey I wan use dey buy japa people things, so that I can hammer and build up my asset base, as a way to deal with the same inflation and Forex palaver wey we dey feel for Naija at the moment. Hope all is clear now. T for thanks!

Lol at 2*2. The world is online now, you don't even need a shop. Lol

Sweetvie:
You're very right
Infact my savings in Nigeria is much more than abroad but I never for once want to stay in Nigeria... If you're looking for where to become a millionaire Nigeria is the right place but if you're looking for where to live a cool life without comparison then travel out.
I alws say I want to give my future kids the best life a child can ever want which I don't think I can achieve it in Nigeria. Infact sef i didn't travel out for any kid, i did it for myself... I want a better life for myself.

I don't know why some people are trying to discourage others from traveling

i'm on the other side of the coin. The kids na one of the major reasons why I won't even consider it at this time, till they are much older. Can't risk raising my kids in the west, way too crazy. After I have built them up soundly the African way, then they can go there if they want or if the situation calls for it. For now, we dey here..lol

Brexxit:
If not for the Japa crew by now I am sure most Nigerians won't be able to sleep with two eyes closed kidnapping,arm robbery would have been worse.

How many Nigerians are even gainfully employed with unemployment more than 40%,most families in the south south and southwest depends on their relatives in Europe.

Most skilled workers like bricklayers, carpenters,welders, plumbers get huge patronage from building projects funded from Nigerians in diaspora.

Even most businesses in Nigeria gets huge patronages as a result of inflows of monies from those in diaspora.

Where will a university graduate that is unemployed have over 20m to fund a building project.

lol. Do the math. Don't just make assumptions. Check GDP of naija, check diaspora remittance of 9ja. Do the the %, and see if your statement supports it. Na majorly diasporans dey build houses for Naija now abi. Very funny

Anyway, I just hope the next CBN gov has an actual brain. Can't wait to get back to the 'balling times'. 2010 to 2014 was awesome! Abi diasporan fe je egba back then ni. Lol. Dem no rish, but naira don penkelemesi bayi. Eyin japarians, e Tete japa finish o, Ka le Tete settle. One good tin, about this time, is you can buy houses, cars for cheap. That I love, about this time..lol

Ps you don't need 20m to fund building project o, no be by force to build mansion na. Right now, houses are being sold for pittance. Patience and 5-6m you'll get a 3-bed that may not be more than 5years it was built.

franchasofficia:
In fact Nigerians should encourage more Nigerians to migrate out of Nigeria because Diaspora remittances are one of the things keeping Nigeria affloat.


We need more Nigerians to migrate legally abroad to boost Nigeria's economy.


The only thing I know is, if you have big dream of becoming a dollar millionaire or billionaire, it is easier to achieve it living in Nigeria with the right business ideas, capital and cycle of friends than it is abroad as a Nigerian migrant.



But for those wanting to break the yoke of family and generational poverty, and position their kids for better future, it is easier for a Nigerian born as a nobody or a commoner to succeed abroad than in Nigeria.


Succeeding abroad through legitimate work is easier for young people and those born into average families than it is for them in Nigeria

lol. You are one very funny person. How is diaspora remittance boosting economy or keeping the country afloat? Na wa o. This your own economics na ghenghen. It ain't a major part of GDP so it ain't boosting any economy. If not for how the elite class has pauperised Nigeria, which slightly sensible nation will bank on diaspora remittance as fundamental to GDP, boosting economy etc. Nigerians are complaining about high Forex, but we are fuelling it big time. The demand is tooooo much because of Japa. Now this is backed by economics. I want this wave of Japa to subside ASAP, hopefully by end of 2023 make everybody wey wan cut out don cut out, so that naira can start recovering. Hopefully we won't have a more morose and inept CBN gov like Emefoole

Below is GDP of India 2021 - 3 trillion
Diasporans - 87billion
That is about 2.5% if I'm not mistaken. Do this same calc for Naija and see the percentage. Maybe if all 200millionof us leave sha, until then your theory no click. C for cheers

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naijaboy99:
Nobody is envy of anyone. I am just stating the obvious fact. We also spend billions migrating there and putting more billions in their economy working there. We also spend billions here buying their imported goods. Thanks

you are a smart dude. I really love intelligent argument..and you have stayed the course, arguing with intellect and not emotions kudos. While japa is everyone's right, most don't understand that the japa craze is another major thing fuelling the decline of the naira. The demand for dollars which is what emigrants use throughout the process is overwhelming high when you consider the mammoth crowd scrambling for the dollar on a per minute basis. That is a fact! Another one which you rightly pointed out is immigrants, Nigeria inclusive are sharply strengthen their economy big time eg the UK and their UK study schooling scam. I just shudder at how much the schools and the UK gov are raking in on a daily basis. How many of their own citizens can shell out 15-23k pounds to go to those schools, even despite that they get subsidy for the courses, dem no too dey go. Immigrants naija inclusive dey shell out that 20k pounds like it is nothing, and we all wanna pretend that overwhelming demand isn't part of why naira is dancing skentele skontolo. But no, people will rather get emotional than simply have intellectual discourse, I wonder how these ones go write MSc or PhD dissertation with this one-way kind of thinking.

ihatebuhari:
I might not have all the money in the world but I'm comfortable having the best a country can offer.


I put it to you the day you ever set your eyes on the beautiful city of Los Angeles you'll regret ever being born a Nigerian.


I don't blame you, I blame poverty in your life, be there calculating nonsense.

We have cars as family, good job, great vacations, wonderful family, what else in life? In about 4yrs my family will complete our home (mansion) payment, here in the city of LA, something your generation can't do

lol. I have seen your posts. Bile, bile, and more bile all for someone supposedly doing well in life. You don't reflect it at all. Find happiness real quick, even in that your fake life. Cheers!

ednut1:
try charge your phone, immigrants are buying houses is the koko here. i live here and i know whatsup . You are required to come to the country also with a certain amount of money before they give you permanent residency too, Go read it up

sorry. I have no plans to have an emotional tirade with you or anyone else. I have said what I wanted to say, that publication you shared didn't strengthen your argument in the context of what is being said here ie Nigerian immigrant typically, unless you are still insisting that Nigerians wey land there in even less than a year are snatching up houses like it's Christmas candy, in which case well eni ti debt/risk ba ro lorun who am I to complain...but say onto that link? Nah. Shikena

naijaboy99:
This your lie can raise the dead. Two years after they come? Maybe you made a mistake and wanted to type 12yrs after. Please don't derail this trend with laughable lies. Bring evidence that most people can save 11,000 CAD annually

as in. Even natives dey shout ontop home ownership in Canada and how it is becoming more and more out of reach. But hey,he said it's 5% down payment. Eventually dem go pay am finish in a couple decades.

ednut1:
first time down payment in Canada is 5%. Why will anyone want to engage you. this is the second post i am writing that you are saying is a lie. Mr man your ignorance level is out of this world, keep hating while some are already on their second homes using the equity of the first home as down Payment. Abeg rest https://www.theglobeandmail.com/real-estate/toronto/article-survey-shows-new-immigrants-in-a-rush-to-buy-first-home/

ednut, your own link is putting holes in your story o. It states clearly the profile of these buyers and that is that these are people that have serious money, even prior to immigrating. and even stated a country of the immigrant as an example (The USA). How is this the reality of even 0.01% that are 9ja immigrants. The immigrants used in that publication doesn't mean Nigerians o. Also, there is also the talk of the highest being those who have being there for 20+ years(50%) . You are strengthening OPs argument albeit inadvertently. This data does not support your argument. Sorry

My phone is available to my wife all day everyday and vice versa. E no even get password sef.. only sim lock which is only required when the phone powers on in the morning

hope4nigeria:
we know Tinubu is mad but cigarettes doesn't make person bad. Obama dey smoke cigarettes

Obama ATI Michelle ma n fa igbo...dem dey smoke weed. Even one of their daughters, Malia I think, dey smoke weed.

Amalekki:
Yes. This is what happens when you childishly latch on irrelevant things even when the constitutional requirements are clear. You latch on Buhari’s document, you latch on Tinubu’s, you create your own personal academic requirements for political office. Now your preferred candidate is the subject you are blowing grammar trying to sound learned.

I'm a PO supporter, but him/his media aide were really stupid for that pathetic attempt at puerile sensationalism. He met the requirements as far as INEC is concerned, submit your docs and face front. So what, he has a thirdie or pass, the current President had F9 parallel in waec and still did his two terms. He has done well as a governor, and as a businessman, why still be insecure about a degree grade? I was and still am quite disappointed