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@ poster
person dey read finger 4 naija, abi na only me dey c am ,girly dem don arrange u. d coincidences don dey 2 much oo, shine ya eye.

well d way wey i c am ur x boyfriend don lose. it means say una relationship no get action, 4 1 suave handsome guy with sleek car n smooth voice in a small space in time dey make leg shake, tears drop, pant wet _cough
n already u want troway all ur investment 4 ur guy. All da time wey una spend 2gether for just dis small sinful pleasure. hmmmmmmmmmmm if dem being ask u say whether u belive in _{lust cough again} like at first sight u 4 dey deny. My girl love is not blind u see well it is easy 2 fall in love with bling bling. my sister u no dey dig gold na diamond wey u wan bury na him dey push u

@ Seun
I agree with totally,
In every relationship there are rules if we agree to be committed to each other then double dating is wrong cos we agreed. But in cases we agree to "let da relationship grow" it invariably means dat we checking each other out with an underlying tone dat we r both free to check other pple out. In dat case double dating cannot be wrong.

I hv met girls who tell me i just want to date u, i dont want 2 end up with u, should i then be commited to such person i ask?

The wrong thing here is to give d person d impression dat he/she is ur all in all n decieved dem by double dating otherwise until we hold hands i say "i do" dat option is always open.

@mosiate

Isnt it typical 4 u to blame d guys for unfaithfulness
do u know dat da power to say no was given to d women.
And that a consensual relationship can only exist only if da parties involved agreed.
Hv u eva stop to ponder on da fact dat if all single women will say no to married men, and married women will will say no to infidelity dat all men will be faithful _{even da single guys}

to marry virgin hmmmmmmmmmmm wat a good idea!
but wait ooooooo i go spend beta part of my marriage dey teach am how to dance 4 dancefloor.
em dat means our first children go ugly well well cos we no smile during d dancing cos of lack of pleasure.
e b like say i go change my mind go 4 de wan wey sabi dance alreadyooo

If u know u r not old enough 2 bear d consequences of playing adult games then do not play, PLAYAH

@ poster
heres da best advice.
she must not get pregnant abi
na small thing, just send her 2 me make i test, i get sex therapy wey i go administer wen go cure any intending pregnancy quick quick. On e trial will concieve _{let me clear my throat} convince her.

I cant understand y we called it a break if d option of seeing somebody else is not there.
what is a break in d first place, is it not to re-evaluate ur feelings, check if it is worth sticking around after all that u invested in the relationship? 4 d fact dat we agreed 2 go on a break means somthing is defintely goin wrong in d relationship.
Besides while on a break anoda relationship will definitely show u d depth of ur feelings for the one u r on a break from.
so 4 me it ALRIGHT to explore while on a break.

4 those of u clamouring dat u will definetely go 4 good, just know dat it wont make much difference cos while on break ur spouse will definetely get used to not seeing u n if d nu person is hmmmmmmmmmmm then inflation don hit ur "i'll go 4 good" cos d value don depreciate.

Never trust anybody in ur life is a usual advice
Many said i trust God 100% , do u really?
If u cannot trust man whom u have seen how can u claim to trust GOD whom u have not seen
God is Love and God trust man _{despite man's failures}
Just as many claim I love my spouse, yet u cant trust him/her a 100%.
True to type many will disappoint u dat should not stop u frm trusting. Those who do not trust r merely echoing what they r, not trust worthy _{"man wey dey kill person with cutlass no dey want make person take pen knife pass im back"}
If u truly love somebody u can trust them a 100% just as ur kids love u n dey look up to u as there hero with wide trusting eyes. they trust u 100% but as they grow up they come to discover dat u dont even trust urself then how can they trust u.
again pple dont stop falling in love cos somebody they love broke their heart just as pple dont stop goin 2 da hospital cos somebody died there, u trust dat wen ur sick n u go there they will put in their best 2 get u beta.
So 4 all those who have been disappointed by those they trust try trusting again maybe we can change the trust no body to trust everybody untill then just be true 2 urself r u trustworthy?

me myself i like an averagely built girl, average boobs, slim waist, average ass no big tummies please.

[table]Finally, a person in love, male OR female is a very weak and vulnerable creature. This seems to be ok for women, but our crazy society expects men to be PILLARS OF STRENGTH AND FORTITUDE, which is at odds with this. Sometimes the woman herself may despise the man for being such a pathetic weakling and lose respect for him. Men are terrified of this (being percieved as weak)[/table]

I feel u men.

when i started dating i had little trust 4 women, i see dem as distraction to goals in life at dat time, so i neva had serious relationships. I used to tell my friends then who go thro emotional turmoil from d hassles of relationships they keep to take the "heart break insurance"_{never put ur heart in any relationship} dat way they can come and go as they please. Then i felt like a king cos i neva fall and i think straight

when i got older, after attaining some kind of stability and was ready for "serious" relationship i found out i was alone. My friends who were coming 2 me all had long term relationships and were settling down and now am abt 2 begin.

I eventually met this girl and decided not 2 hold back anything and give the relationship my all. It was glorious at first until she found out i was madly in love with her dats when our problem started. B4 when we have an argument she wants 2 talk abt it after she found out she wants 2 leave. I became weak where this girl was concerned, i tried anything 2 make her happy, i changed anything in order to accomodate her. i was dreaming this was it until she burst my bubbles. After one particular argument we had she told me she would not want 2 end up with me dat we should just date, dat she does not love me as much as she used to, i was heartbroken then, everything in my head is saying let her go but my heart is telling me this is the end of ur life. I hung on for while trying to convince her 2 change her mind but it only got worse, at a point i had no choice but 2 let go. Men was i heart broken. Till now 2yrs after dat i still could not get over her. Every other girl i meet now pales compare to her.

After every thing i realised dat I'd like the feeling when I took da heart break insurance better than falling in love. Though every thing was more significant when i was in love but still I dont hope 2 go thro dat kinda emotion again. NEVA EVA_{* retires*}

I call her Sunshine[color=#990000][/color][code][/code] cos she lights up my world

4 me i think it would be wrong for a lady 2 accept a gift 4rm a guy she knows she will not date cos by accepting it n saying i wont date u, she's just saying emm let me think abt it _{una sabi women n shakara now}

A guy comes n chat u up, telling u he wants 2 date u n all dat n u know u dont like him enough 2 date him, yet wen he come with a gift to thaw da ice 2 ur heart u accepted it knowing u wont date him , then u dont hv a conscience cos the simple truth is dat u r leading him on.4 d guy he is saying _{he who fights n run away must live 2 fight anoda day}
God gave the woman da rite 2 say no, if u exercise dat rite every daft man will understand.
and they say ask a woman twice just in case da first one na shakara
no be dat soft no, no wey men dey think say na yes da definte NO go do da trick make we c if after dat one e go still dey carry gift come

@ Post
We all love our parents n our last wish is to c them break up. If Children had their way their would be no broken homes.

But my dear u need to wake up n c things the way they really r? Ur mother has stayed for 24yrs, during that time did she need u or ur siblings to work out the differences she had with ur dad?

Most pple say their parents her happy 2gether d fact that they smile at each other wen pple r around does not make them happy. Most marriages r endured for the usual reason _{for the sake of the children, cos the bible does not support divorce} Do u know if she has been unhappy all d while n stay 4 u n ur siblings?^{come to think of it} ur dad does not seem upset by her decision to leave, u neva said his being trying to convince her to stay, which means its cool.
wouldnt u rather be happy dat they r happy apart than be unhappy 2gether. u shoould help ur mum get past this cos trust me she didnt wake 2day 2 take dat decision n its also difficult 4 her.

tryooooo but if e no work just stand by her ok

U can not really blame parents with wats goin on these days. Every parent wants to do what is rite by their child. In this parts u dont c children goin 2 the library or smthing like dat. Most times they go out its for parties, clubs etc n wen alcohol and drugs mix disaster is the out come. So parent tend to protect their female children from goin out with guys without supervision. But if the girl can gain the confidence of the parents by conducting herself properly without supervision, good grades n all that with time d parents might let her.

So i believe u shld tell ur parents n if they dont let u, just keep being a good girl let reports of u outside wen there eyes are not watching be favourable n u will soon gain their confidence.

Abomination! una say she dey craze na im she no naked waka 4 road?
What complete nonsense. Infact 4 my area this kind messup go warrant community guys organize u for proper
treatment ^{d beating of ur life} if she see doll baby next time she go prostrate.

@ stillwater

u aint seen nuthin yet.

I can understand ur sympathy for the pregnant one but wat confuses me is how a good person can date u knowing u had a girlf _{abi u been lie 2 her}

The most important thing rite now is to do what is best 4 d unborn child. It would be wrong to bring up d child in a hostile environment. So if u dont feel dat way towards her then just make provision for her and the baby and marry who ur heart goes with.

BUT MAKE SURE SAY E END FOR HERE OOO B4 U BECOME DA FADA OF MORE SYMPATHY BABIES

@ post
i agree with u, most guys / gals do have protruding tummy, though i can say dat the trend is changing since it is no longer in vogue as in d case b4. Here is smthing 2 support my observation:
Sometime back in da days say abt 2 to three yrs back there was a volley ball competition that took place in PH civic centre involving african volley ball teams. All the representative of the African Contingent _{talking abt the ladies} were looking trimmed and sexy _{flat tummies good figure} but come and see the Nigeria representative, they were phat with big tummies and big asses. All the spectators were routing 4 d other african girls _{especially the south african girls} the Nigerian girl couldnt attract much attention. Of course the Naije girls won da competition, _{they were blocking shots with tummies and asses n no team could contend with their spikes.}

u r damn rite i would even older, if every other thing is as it should be or suppose to be.

when evry other person dims beside him/her
u feel an emptiness when he or she is not around.
when u cant explain exactly how u feel cos what u feel is alien and u neva felt like that b4
when u always smile 4 no reason all d time he/she is around.
when u hv an argument and he or she is not around, u lost interest in d world.
when u can 4give him/her even wen they didnt say they r sorry.
when the thot of him/her always brings a smile, inspiration, hope and dreams

I thot i was incapable of love _{never belive in it} until I felt all that above

if all of the above is not love, pls pple tell me what it is.

I'm very disappointed by the fake comments all you men on this site are making. Are you all actually praising this girl for doing wrong? i mean i know no one is perfect but for God sakes, if you were in her fiancee's shoes would you be praising her for comming forward with the confession when it shouldn't have happened to begin with.


shaking my head in disappointment

How would u like to find out. NOW or AFTER U R MARRIED?
If u find out now and still married her then u can sleep well knowing there's no secret btw 2 of u. _{u have been able to deal with her past}
But if u found out later by any means U would have felt dat she tricked u into marrying her n d marriage would be doomed cos trust is gone.

Dont think like a guy, yes what she did was wrong, but she was WOMAN enough to confess it. my bro is confession not saying am sorry n it would not happen again? and yes it hurts but like they say he that is without sin let him cast the first stone. Ur guy no confess oooo

na who talk say the person wey him wan go meet na virgin or no go cheat on am, invariable u r saying she for keep quite then marry am. d crime wey u say she commit na confession no be say she cheat on am cos if she no confess dem 4 marry. Come to think of it hmmmmmmm this guy no b born again, he just don get reason to go test anoda one. na me tulk am

Some story, though incredulous and 2 good to be true, i beleive u. Thats sometimes d case.

My inference
There's no activity in ur relationship with this guy, dats the reason for d suspicion and u looking elsewhere to harmlessly pep it up. Maybe u lik exchanging nasty sms. best advice do it with ur boo. Doing things 2 gether cements d bridges of relationship. its like u dont have anything in common cos if u pple share similar interest u will really get 2 busy 4 this kind of mistake.

Solution: If u cannot erase the doubt just know dat the relationship is doomed. My girl try but if e no work
send anoda nasty sms by mistake to , u sabi now

make I look well evrybody just dey walk away, 4 naija na lie, truth no dey here.
Unless we don kolonise , or our pally dem be oyinbo all of us no fit walk away.

For me i no be gentleman go reach dat level, though i neva slap woman b4 _{seriously against} and believe say wen d thing wey dey sweet us come begin bitter like this it is time to move on so,

I go make sure say she prefer say trailer jam am for the beating wey she go recieve so dat wen she meet small boy sef she go think twice be she attempt not to talk of slap. ^{no nonsense.}

In addition to all dat have been said
i dislike

scheming women, _{sex = commitment, come n c my parents}
nagging women, _{where were u? instead of welcome}
tit for tat women _{if u dont kul me i wont kul u,}
d u r suppose to kind of women, _{those dat share roles}
pretenders, _{i love u anytime they need a favour}
cant express feeling, _{me i no go fit tell man say i want am}
cant maintain figure, _{lack exercise habit, i wan drink iodine,izal, compulsory fasting to slim down}
minus the rest= my dream gal

U cannot hate whom u once loved cos wen u love it has no end like the love of a mother for her child or the love of God for man. So pple who say they fell in and out of love were merely saying they fell in n out of like.

U can choose whom to like but u cannot choose who u fell in love with.

If u no d reason y u say u love somebody it means u like dat person cos wen u love sombody u dont know d reason y.

U can tell dat u like somebody but wen u love somebody u dont tell u feel. U feel me

@ TOPIC
I can understand the reason for this thread.
cos most pple( male/female) tend to take advantage of pple who say this word to them. it gives them the feeling of power _{i am the one whos in the driving seat of this relationship n u cant live without me kind of power}

Secondly the word " I LOVE U" has been so abused that it sounds more like a phrase than a feeling. eg. _{u tell me u love me anything u need a favour from me and after dat not again until anoda favour is in the pipeline}

But despite all this a REAL[flash=200,200][/flash][color=#000099][/color]man would love to hear this words from a woman he loves and respect her more 4 it. ^{4 real}

@Kajad
So na u b guy wey dey come around come dey form like say u 2 much.
Well PH babes like una type cos u go spend to maintain in order to sustain.

PH babes will take u d way u present urself. If u wan catch fun u go pay to get fun. if u wan fall mugu wise girl wey go chop u day 4 ur side. but if u serious good PH babe wey go take u serious dey.

Remember evrything dey for wholesale no b retail.

SO RE-EVALUATE URSELF AND START ALL OVER. _{i don tulk finish} ^{come give us d nu gist}

My first kiss hmmmmmmmmm, cant remember
My most memorable hmmmmmmmmmmmmm, Oh! yes now i remember

Here d gist.
i went for a masqurade festival somwhere in Rivers State and i met this girl. We got talking n later went to my friends place, one thing led to another , u know d complete story
Anyway the kiss was hooooooot, burning, all my sensations were reeling and wen she finally stopped i was deflated.
i have neva had a kiss like dat b4 to date .

"u know the complete story" e no end for there o, na for the kiss e end. I left the next day and wen i saw her again she was pregnant._{but not for me}

@ post
with the condition giving would u wonder y they are still single? i hv a feeling they r high maintenance.
Mayb they were busy being choosy wen suitors that were not dat endowed to their liking came and b4 thery knew it they are 34 and 39 respectively.

Otherwise how can PRETTY women with GOOD virtues still be in the SINGLES market at their age

The underlined word here is POSSIBLE
Theoritically No, u cant cheat on somebody u love. because nobody is like the person u love n it would not be worth the trouble.

Practically, yes people do cheat on the person they love and regret it later.

So Yes it is[b] POSSIBLE[/b]

Ladies take note dont say it is a man's nature to cheat
remember it is not the men that bring tidings of cheating women in love.
u can say it is HUMAN NATURE to CHEat